Daddyhood: How Society Would Act If Men Bore Children

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With all of the hullabaloo these days about the accessibility and availability of birth control to women in the United States, I sometimes wonder what would happen if men happened to be the childbearing gender in society.

I certainly think that sexual liberty and sexual rights would not only be something of importance but also something that helped distinguish childbearing rights as something that is optional not mandatory.

But really, what would life be like if men had babies? Would really be like that crazy Arnold Schwarzenegger movie? Or would it really be something of importance. And what about menstruation? Well, I hope to explore that in a humorous and honest way.

No More Menses Madness

When I officially came into adolescence, there was one part about it I knew I would have to face that was not like anything else. Menstruation was something that I had only learned about through my growth and development class in fifth grade but by sixth grade it became a reality.

And unlike a masculine rite of passage, I was confused. I was somewhat happy to know I was normal in this way but also anxious for the years to come of having to avoid wearing light colors, fending off cramps, and trying not to act as I'm "on the rag."

However, I think if this happened to young males I think that the stigma would not only be erased but it would be explained as something that makes you a man. For instance, guys never lament the use and function of their private parts or the transitioning stages of adolescence. In fact, guys having their first pubescent experiences are often lampooned by teen movies such as "Fast Times at Ridgemont High."

But periods are seen as something as regrettably uncomfortable and something that has to happen. Yet looking from another viewpoint, they help the gauge the health and well-being of women, bring signs of trouble, or cleanse the system. I think if men had periods, this is how they would be seen.

Not only that but pads and tampons would be marketed more like condoms are. Until recently, tampon and pad commercials were about function and protection but fortunately U by Kotex finally took shot at it by making fun of the older guard of commercials.

On the flip side condoms are seen as multi-functional and comfortable while helping protect them from STDs and pregnancies.



Birth Control Wouldn't Be a Debate

I understand both sides of the birth control argument. But I still believe that people will be people. Nobody's going to stop having sex simply because they don't have the right birth control available and people are not going to think about every decision they make sexually before it happens. Birth Control essentially exists to help prevent unwanted pregnancy as well as regulate other issues women face because of hormonal fluctuations such as acne and irregular periods.

However, the key argument of birth control both for and against is for women to have sex without worrying about getting pregnant. Last time I checked women don't need birth control to have sex. However, for one reason or another men are never given the burden of helping to plan and purchase birth control beyond the simple purchase of condoms and other simple prophylactics such as spermicide.

But if women happened to the partner in charge of buying the condoms and men needing the birth control, it would probably be easier. My mom likes to joke they wouldn't need anything inserted, they just would look at a computer screen and it would magically prevent them from getting pregnant.

Either way, I think birth control would be considered as medically viable and important as male enhancement drugs are. Not only that but the government probably would not intervene as much as insurance would readily take on the challenge of footing the bill regardless if employers felt morally or ethically compelled to do so.

Daddy's Work Rights

As things currently stand, working women only get the medically necessary six weeks to recuperate from the ordeal and stress of childbirth. Immediately after they are expected to return to work in order to be paid and to find an alternative way of childcare or otherwise quit the workforce. One would think things would change after women becoming equal with men in terms of populating the workplace, but no there is still the constant struggle for work life balance in many areas.

If men bore children, not only would a policy be implemented sensitive the needs of the parent giving birth there would also be a way for the other paternal party to have much needed bonding time with their child.

What would be interesting to see would be how readily workplaces would adapt to working parents by providing on site nurseries and feeding stations which brings me to another theory, breastfeeding would not be shamed.

Seeing as other animals do this to feed their young, it would be seen as a way that fathers lovingly bond and provide for the nutritional needs of their children.

However, all of this is just speculation. We cannot reverse reality, only improve upon it. But it is obvious that no matter how you think of reproductive issues in the United States, there is something that fundamentally could change so everyone is involved on the same level.

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Mark Pitts 4 years ago from United States

The things you believe would be different are a possibility...maybe also men would have a voice they could use without it being questioned if they should have an opinion at all about their own "rights" when it comes to our role in procreation, and the men AND women who are right to lifers would be a stronger force by virtue of a united voice that proaborts couldn't dismiss without consideraton..


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL

Junior was a funny movie. I enjoyed your twist on men having babies, but it never happened for one reason. Men could never, ever, ever handle a "cycle." Never. Ever. I've had this discussion many times and all the men agreed. Omg I could never imagine them in labor. They flinch with a cold. I could go on, but you get my point.

Excellent hub!!!


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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Hi Mark,

I think that if men had childbearing rights, it would make the difference in the voices against abortion but for as well. I left that aspect out simply because it's too intimate and I don't want to create a min debate within a hub but thanks for coming by and sharing your thoughts!


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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Hi Sunshine,

You are completely right. Men baby up the minute they get a sniffle. If the family gets sick, the dirty work falls to mom. I don't see that changing anytime soon. Thanks for coming by and commenting!


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jonmcclusk 4 years ago from Cinnaminson, New Jersey

Interesting hub, I wonder how society would act if we gave couples a way to make it so men could have the baby. Great job.


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Levertis Steele 4 years ago from Southern Clime

After the first baby is born, men would never let women touch them again. They would be too tired and have constant headaches.


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Jools99 4 years ago from North-East UK

Alecia, interesting hub! Ben Elton UK writer and comedian used to do a really funny stand up sketch about what men would be like if they menstruated - they boasted in the pub about how much blood they lost like it was a sort of bragging rite. It is very funny. I'm sure you're right about changes to work arrangements etc; I think suddenly things would be made more of a priority if a guy had to have the baby. Thankfully, I'm glad only girls get pregnant, I can't imagine looking at a pregnant bloke without wanting to wince!


datingforguys 4 years ago

Hi, thanks for a very interesting and creative hub. I do think that the patriarchal dominance of the male-run society leaves a lot to be desired. Certainly this is a great thought experiment that more men should have to consider. Personally, I agree with Christopher Hitchens (not on everything but on this) that the most powerful social revolution would commence if women all over the world were given control of their own fertility.


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billybuc 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

Alecia, love the hub and your points are excellent ones, ones I can find no argument with. As for an earlier comment by one of your other followers, I can handle a cold or the flu quite nicely without a word of whining. In fact, I don't even have medical benefits and "tough it out" whenever I have discomforts that would force some to rush to the doctor. Blanket statements about men are no more necessary than blanket statements about women. Great job Alecia and thumbs up!


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alocsin 4 years ago from Orange County, CA

One hopes that we'd made some progress regarding men and childbirth, but you point out that we still have a ways to go. Voting this Up and Interesting.


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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Hi Jon,

It's a very interesting idea but who knows what could happen if things were on an equal playing field. Thanks for commenting!


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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

HI Levetris,

I think you're definitely right about men being too fatigued to handle having more children. Thanks for coming by and commenting!


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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Hi Jools,

Yeah I think guys would brag about their menstruation habits which is definitely odd. And I think seeing Arnold Schwarzenegger pregnant is more than enough of a visual for me. Thanks for coming by and commenting!


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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Hi Datingforguys,

I didn't hear this from Christopher Hitchens before but I think it is definitely power for women to be in control of their own fertility. Thanks for coming by and commenting!


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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Thanks Billybuc,

I think you're right that blanket statements don't do much for either side which is why dialogues about birth control rights are essential for everyone to be involved in. Thanks for coming by and commenting!


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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Hi Alocsin,

I think we have a ways to go but I think it'll definitely be a while until this reaches a final solution. Thanks as always!


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tundexman 4 years ago from lagos

no n no no no no no no never we don2t like that,if men could also have babies,i will hate this world forever


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Victoria Lynn 4 years ago from Arkansas, USA

Oh, if we could only reverse roles for a short time, at least 9 months--LOL! Very well-written hub. Voted up and many more!


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Au fait 4 years ago from North Texas

Interesting hub. Food for thought. With sex change operations becoming more common, who knows what might be next?

Voting you UP!


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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Tundexman,

I don't think things will change too much. So you don't have much to fear. Thanks for commenting!


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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Thanks VictoriaLynn!


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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

You're right Au fait, who knows what could be next? Thanks!


onlooker 4 years ago

Alecia, pretty interesting points you've stated here. Men always have the need to prove their chauvinism which is quite sad really. Times are changing and with articles such as these we will get somewhere soon. Thank you.


KDuBarry03 4 years ago

Excellent points! I Agree with Sunshine, I would never, EVER, be able to bare children even if I had the chance to. I really give women a lot of credit for what they deal with day by day. Cheers for an excellent hub!

-KD


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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Thanks Keith!


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tundexman 4 years ago from lagos

im very scared

already men at work


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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Thanks Tundexman!


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Cogerson 4 years ago from Virginia

You make very solid points in your hub. Another thing would be each family would only have one kid....having seen multiple live births in my life.....there is noway a guy would have a second child.....lol. Voted up and interesting.


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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

I agree Cogerson there would be a lot more only children if men could have them and I would even argue more adoption/surrogacy going on as well. Thanks again!


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sholland10 4 years ago from Southwest Missouri

It would definitely change society if men were having babies and periods and going through all the hormone changes women have to go through with these things.

It would be interesting to see a role change for just one day (or maybe a week). I am sure we women would have a complaint or two if we were in the man's place.

Great hub! Votes and shared! :-)


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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Hi Susan,

I agree that the thought of men going through hormone changes is quite funny. But imagining myself as a man is just as funny. Thanks for coming by and sharing!


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LadyFiddler 4 years ago from Somewhere in the West

Hi this hub is very interesting and funny. I often wonder if men could have made children their ideas of having a baby or demanding how many kids they want would be very different. You know if they had the slightest idea of how much pain a woman goes through at menstruation , much more for child birth. They'll be more kind, considerate and LOVING. Perhaps some of them will stop running off and leaving their responsibilities behind :)


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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

HI Ladyfiddler,

I don't think men truly understand what really goes on during pregnancy/menstruation or even menopause. But I agree if they did- the responsibilities would weigh more heavily on them. Thanks for coming by and commenting!


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Jennifer Essary 4 years ago from Idaho

Oh, how I wish men could endure the things we go through as women. I think you are absolutely correct by saying that their P.O.V. on "the rag" and childbirth would definitely provide us with better benefits. Hmmm, we just need to find a way to get them to walk a mile in our shoes : )


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Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Hi Jennifer,

I know sometimes I feel like if men understood a woman's perspective instead of trying to assume it, then the world would be different. They wouldn't want to be accused of being on the rag :) Thank you!


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rajan jolly 3 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

Very entertaining read Alecia, and that would make those realize what women go through and treat them with more respect, kindness and respect.

Voted up/funny.


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Alecia Murphy 3 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Hi rajan,

I think it is funny to think about men having kids but not funny what women go through. Thanks for stopping by and commenting!


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MSGolden51 3 years ago

Hi, alecia that so funny, I think all women at some point of their life have thought about that, Boy! that would be nice if they did have babies.


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Alecia Murphy 3 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Hi MsGolden51,

It would be nice :). Thank you for coming by and commenting!


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mary615 3 years ago from Florida

If men had babies, the world population would come to a halt! They just are not as strong as we women. Interesting Hub, though.

Voted UP and shared.


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Alecia Murphy 3 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina Author

Hi Mary,

I agree. We would probably not have as many children. Thanks for coming by and commenting!

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