Date Rape Protection 101

A situation similar to what happened in Florida.
A situation similar to what happened in Florida.
Florida Spring Break 2015- Where the gang rape happened!
Florida Spring Break 2015- Where the gang rape happened!

Imagine a sea of people partying on the beach. There is a lot of skin exposure with skimpy swimsuits. With the drugs and booze flowing like waterfalls and the police nowhere to be seen, one can see how things can turn into Sodom and Gomorrah. That is exactly what happened in Florida as students took to the beach by thousands during Spring Break. Now, imagine that not all guys have morals (not too hard) and target an attractive woman for rape. They approach and chit chat, ask her if she wants a beer. Laughter and music fill the air and she nods, "yes". The guy hands her an opened beer or drink.

To all women, the first lesson is to say: "No, I'll get my own, thanks". The woman who was gang raped on that Florida beach by three men in public and was videoed failed to do this. The beer she took contained a date rape drug that knocked her unconscious. With no resistance, the woman fell to the ground and the men spread her legs open and held her down as each took his turn screwing her in the midst of nonchalant people. These people saw what was happening, yet, did nothing to stop it. They saw nothing wrong with it, thinking she must want it, even though it was clear she was incapacitated. No one called 911. No one intervened maybe out of fear. What is wrong with these people???

When the woman awoke, she did not recall anything after she consumed the drink. It was just all blank, until she saw herself in the video and what was being done. The simple failure for the woman to refuse any opened drink got her raped. Granted, many men are predators with rape on their mind and will take advantage if it occurs, even some real cool, good looking dudes. So, like a defensive driver in traffic, all women should party in defensive mode with this possibility in the back of their mind. It happens. Women must minimize the risk.

What Should You Do?

Women should trust their instincts about the situation they are in at parties or bars. Never leave the area and leave your opened beer or drink exposed to where a fast dissolving date rape drug can be dropped into it. If you have, when you return, do not drink from it but get a fresh one yourself. If you are suddenly joined or with a group of guys that invite you to go somewhere more secluded- like a beach, a smaller party, trust your instinct that is telling you, this is not a good idea, even if you have friends with you. Date rape happens more with those you know.

Even if no date rape drug is used, drinking or taking drugs excessively weakens your ability to assess your dangers and resistance. So, use caution about how much you consume with a group of guys and refuse more when you feel it is unwise. Saying no is difficult. Especially when you are in a group and you are being encouraged to do more or teased because you are not doing more. Do not walk around in a party, mingling, with an open drink. You could be distracted and a "roofie" could be added without you knowing it. If you feel strange after drinking (within 20 minutes), drowsy,dizzy, impaired, you have been drugged. Immediately try to get out of the situation. Just leave while you can. Call a friend or taxi. Do something! Tell someone!

Date rape occurs in gradual increments. It starts with kissing and can quickly escalate.If you are impaired, resistance is hard. When you go out to party, go with friends and before you do, have a game plan about date rape and dangers of it. No matter what, stay together, never separate and have each other's backs.

If you are resisting an attempted rape, start yelling or screaming, RAPE! Do anything to get attention and to scare of the attacker. Just saying no to the guy will do nothing since his plan was to do this all along.

Date rapes can occur even with a guy you have been seeing. They are not just with strangers you just met.

The Drug of Choice

Rophynol, or roofies, is the rapist drug of choice. It is not illegal but a prescription drug that is a sedative. These drugs are virtually undetectable. They come in pill form and are small, white and generic looking. Being tasteless, colorless and odorless, considering the fact that they dissolve easily in liquid. The dissolve fast and cripple within 20 minutes. If mixed with non-alcohol, lasts up to 12 hrs., with alcohol, 36 hours! The person impacted generally allows anything to happen to them because they incapacitated.


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dashingscorpio 19 months ago

Voted up and useful!

"Women must minimize the risk." I completely agree with you.

However more often than not people will accuse you of "blaming the victim." They'll say; "Even if a woman walks down the street butt naked no one has the right to rape her!" I agree with them and then I ask the following question:

Is that the "smart thing" to do?

Pedestrians have the right of way and yet we teach children to (look both ways) before crossing the street!You have the right to go to bed and leave your front door wide open or count your money while walking down a dark alley and so forth. At some point all of us have to take some responsibility in removing a target off of our backs. We have be aware of our surroundings at all times as well as consider the possible consequences of our actions.

Acknowledging an obligation to look out for oneself is not blaming the victim. I hope women take heed of the advice you have provided in this hub.


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perrya 19 months ago Author

I agree, I have been telling this to my own teen daughter for years.


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realtalk247 19 months ago

The story you shared was horrible. It was horrible because no one did anything to help this woman that clearly was being raped in public. What is wrong with our society now a days?

My father taught me how to reduce risk of being harmed.

1. NEVER allow a man to bring you a drink.

2. NEVER walk away from your drink and come back to it later.

3. If someone invites you over to their home/social gathering and there are 5 guys and you. LEAVE IMMEDIATELY. If there are 3-4 guys and just 1 girl, LEAVE. Men do things while in "group think" and adding alcohol or substance abuse makes the probability of violation greater.

4.Do not go over to a man's house or have him in yours until you know his character. Date rape is real. It is not always a stranger walking down the street that is in a position to harm you.

5.Avoid secluded places and/or dangerous areas when alone.

6.Trust your gut. If you feel uncomfortable, don't ignore that feeling.

7. Meet men at locations when dating. Do not get into a vehicle with a man. He who rides in the passenger seat looses power and control.

More men should teach their daughters things to protect them so they can "if possible" avoid such horrors as rape/hurt/harm.


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perrya 19 months ago Author

Thanks, I do whenever the situation presents itself.

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