Dating 101 for Women

Author: W. K. Hayes

Dating 101 for Women


            The advice given for the men, as you may have read, is for a man to make you feel comfortable and respected. With that said, now it is your turn to learn some truths about men and a completely new way to look at them.

            Men are solar opposites of woman and although I am a man, there is no shame in admitting that this is very true. Men are intellectual by nature while woman have very remarkable intuition. Therefore, so that no one is offended, I will elaborate on that statement. Men serve the purpose of what they can see, hear, touch, taste and smell while woman go beyond that with an eerily ESP type, ability. Still, this unique gift to women does not serve you very well when it comes to men in some cases. Especially, when you are trying to get a man to notice you and you are not sure how to go about it.

            Granted, many of you think that the best way to have him notice you are to be either, provocative, flirtatious or even, blunt. However, all three may prove effective…virtually; they are useless and send the wrong signals. Being provocative can make a man think you are too easy and then he will only see you as a one-night stand. Being flirtatious is often over-looked by a man since most men do not realize they are even being, flirted with. Being blunt can cause a man to feel threatened; especially if he has been in a bad relationship with a bossy woman and would like to spend the rest of his life avoiding that type of woman.

            Instead, approach a man with a general conversation and, do not ask him where he works. Those are the first words that indicate a woman is after money in a man’s mind. Instead, ask him to help you with something like reaching a can from a top shelf. Granted, you probably think that will make you seem vulnerable but men do not see it that way. All men want to be helpful, feel useful and wanted, just as much as any woman. Truthfully, this is all you have to do. If the man likes you, he will take it from there and ask for your number. If he does not ask you but you think he is interested, offer your number to him so you will get a clear answer on whether or not he likes you.

            Never be afraid to reach out and make a connection, first. Men do not mind a woman that is willing to show some forwardness. Fact is, most men prefer a woman that had the ability to say what she wants, without sounding selfish. Be yourself and be brave. Just remember, there is a difference between speaking your mind and pushing you opinion on others. Find a balance between the two and never be afraid to ask a man for his number.

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jwood00 5 years ago from the other side of morning

Sexist and full of generalizations.

Also, it's polar opposites, not solar opposites.

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W. K. Hayes 5 years ago from Bryson City, North Carolina Author

Thanks Jword00...expressions are as they are. Where you are from is how they are said. Also, the article is sexist...It's from a guy's point of view. LOL...Now, get someone who is both sexes in one person and then there will be balance in an article on dating LOL

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W. K. Hayes 5 years ago from Bryson City, North Carolina Author

Okay Jwood00...I've reread the article twice and I still don't see how anything in here is sexest. Praising a woman for her gifted intuition while helping young ladies find ways to strike up a conversation with a man shows my firm belief in equality among sexes...Oh well, can't make everyone happy but thanks for reading the article.

kimberlyslyrics 5 years ago

um, WK can you help me with something? I'll mail you, can't get my car battery to work :) And worse don't know where it is!

btw, where do you work? lmfao sorry had to, don't want to know plus already know, do you think its proper to ask a women her profession? I always loved that, but I also took pride in my career, any challenge interesting.

Sexist? Hell ya, how sad it would be if it wasn't

thanks K


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W. K. Hayes 5 years ago from Bryson City, North Carolina Author

Thanks LL, Does the term, 'Metaphor,' ring a bell...Her asking for help is just way of getting his attention without being too obvious...sheesh..the flak I'm catching on this one...That's okay though...bring it on! LOL.

Of course women can do anything a man can some cases, even better...that wasn't the the way, the battery is usually that little square box looking thingy under the hood LOL...just, don't stick your tongue to it, though. LMBO...

Seriously though, its a great, cheap excuse to get a guy's attention and what I said was true, men like to feel needed. So, ham it up and play damsel in distress, as long as you walk away with his number...who cares?

Thanks for reading the article...that was fun.

kimberlyslyrics 5 years ago

I was jokin buddy, but I am polish and am always asking for men help, and am so grateful I can. I need heroes in my life, always have and actually wish I grew up how my grandma says she did. The roles seemed much more to my liking, but I'd bomb not only can I not cook, but have no idea where the kitchen is-true!

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W. K. Hayes 5 years ago from Bryson City, North Carolina Author

I know LL, that's why I was laughing the whole time throughout my reply...for the record, I do love to cook and I'm not afraid of housework. I think jwood00 totally misunderstood me though...I can still feel the flames off that comment. LOL...

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Rhonda Waits 5 years ago from The Emerald Coast

Wow. I loved your article. Thought it was good. Sexist who cares, it gets their attention.

Sweet wishes Rhonda

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W. K. Hayes 5 years ago from Bryson City, North Carolina Author

Thank you Ronda...and what you said is very true...its not about being sexist...its about finding a way to get a guys attention without being blunt. As the old saying goes,"Do what works".

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acaetnna 5 years ago from Guildford

Well I couldn't agree with you more and I am a woman! You speak a lot of sense here and what a great hub.

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W. K. Hayes 5 years ago from Bryson City, North Carolina Author

Thank you Acaetnna...I really do love helping others find ways of attracting the right kind of attention and the advice is always meant with the best of intentions. Now, to read some more of your work. :-)

Sandra 4 years ago

Hello WK--- good article with the exception being that women aren't just intuitive, they're also intellectual by nature. Couldn't agree more that men like to help, and it's a great way for two people to meet. Thanks.

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