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Dating Women Facts
Older women do not date just for fun anymore
Older women do not date just for fun anymore. Most of the older women who date with younger men are in for long term relationship or sincere companionship. Even if, they are older and have more experience than you do, they still need you. Hence, try to be caring towards her. Serve her and treat her with love. Be strong for her when she needs you.
Don't hit on her This is what she expects from the typical guy, so just make like you're ignoring her. This is a great technique to use if you run into very attractive women on a routine basis at work, a coffee shop or a health club. If you don't give her any attention — while openly paying attention to other women — she won't be able to stand it because you'll be the only guy within a hundred miles who isn't drooling over her. With luck, she'll be intrigued. Avoid pickup lines at all costs. Whether you don't know how to make plans or you just don't know how to stick to them, a woman hates having to make an excuse for her partner. If you're constantly nixing dinner plans at the last minute or showing up late for date night, she's not going to be into you. Think about it the next time you're hours overdue with no good reason at all. Chances are, she rushed home from work, rifled through her closet to find the perfect outfit, and stressed that she wouldn't be finished blow-drying her hair in time for your knock on the door. So when you show up two-hours late, with no preemptive phone call, she's going to be mad. But when you do it consistently, she's going to move on.
When dating women
When dating women, it's important to let them know that you appreciate them, and the effort that they put into your fledgling relationship. So take the time to let her know that she looks beautiful, or to make a phone call to ask how she's doing. All of these little things can mean a lot to a woman, who may need reassurance that you appreciate her for who she is. Another thing to think about when dating women is to take their needs into account. Make sure you listen to her when she tells you what she's interested in, or even more importantly, what she's not. Ensure that you don't arrange any dates or even a whole relationship around your own personal needs. Whether you're new to the dating scene, or get back to it after a break, the idea of dating women can be daunting for some. While the male psyche seems to be quite straight forward and simple, and what you see is what you get, women can be a different story altogether.
A woman wants a relationship where she is an equal—and feels like one. The best relationships embrace each partner's strengths, and each person complements the other. It's clear to see: she just won't be that into you if you're constantly trying to one up her.
Dating a woman who makes more money than you can be a bit of a blow to your self esteem. You may sometimes get the sense that you are not enough for her and that you have to do more. Maybe there are things you wish you could buy her but cannot afford. The thing to remember is that at the end of the day our paycheck is not what defines us. We are worth much more than any amount of money we could earn. The problem is that society as a whole puts so much emphasis on money and social standing that it is hard to feel like someone?s equal if you make less money than them. This is especially true if the woman in the relationship makes more money than the man. Dating a woman who is older than you can be real challenging. Accepting the fact that she may be always ahead with you psychologically and financially can be a blow to your ego. For instance, you may be earning less than your partner, and she has to cover up all the expenses.
If you approach a woman and she’s not interested, don’t take it personally . It’s not a reflection of your self-worth. It’s not a rejection from all women or from certain “leagues”. It’s simply a declaration that you aren’t compatible with this one person. Genuinely approach a woman asking her advice about the best sites to see in the area or good places to eat. If she seems interested, you can always ask for her number to get more recommendations later, or even ask her out for a drink right then. If she doesn't seem responsive, you can easily move on.
Even if you feel like you can never buy your woman anything close to what you think she deserves, there is no reason you cannot still buy her gifts. A woman who cares about you will not frown upon a small or inexpensive gift. She will be happy that you took the time to think of her. Women, by nature, love to be appreciated and shown how important they are. If you can only afford to buy her a single rose and a small box of chocolates then by all means do not be ashamed of it. Never hold back giving a woman a gift because you think it will not be enough. As long as it comes from your heart it will be.
People choose who they're going to be with based on how they feel around that person
People choose who they're going to be with based on how they feel around that person. For us men, it's often quite simple. A beautiful woman makes us feel aroused, so we pursue sex with her. If we feel cared for, respected and admired by her, we pursue a relationship with her.
Single moms got themselves into the mess. They picked the rotten guy. They picked to have children with him. Often, they may have had an "oopsy" first kiddo with their ex, but if he was so bad, why do single moms have the 2nd, 3rd, etc.? Because they use poor judgment, and that is the fault of single mommy, not me, not other childless men and women.
Single moms sure like we childless, employed guys because we don't have exes to be jealous of, and kids to overshadow their own. However, any single childless guy will generally find themselves on the short end of a relationship with a single mom.
Sexual attraction from women
Sexual attraction from women is determined by status, status is determined by behavior, and what determines whether a man has attractive behavior or not is his perception of himself relative to those around him, particularly women. I refer to this concept as neediness and believe the degree of a man's neediness around women will determine how attractive or unattractive his behavior around them will be.
Expressing sexual desire is an internal process. It's a process of removing your internal barriers to sharing your sexuality with others. Recognize that you will be rejected and turned down by a lot of women regardless of whatever you do. Accept this and appreciate it. But if you measure success with women by lack of rejection, then you will always be disappointed. If you measure success with women by the enjoyment and honesty of your interactions with them, then you can easily have a 100% success rate.
A proper and honest sexual expression
A proper and honest sexual expression is powerful, and in our society, rare. In fact, there's a LOT of societal pressure to hide and disassociate from our sexuality. Many of us grow up with a great deal of sexual shame. And not only does this keep us afraid of expressing our sexual desires openly, but it creates an unhealthy neediness and worship of sex.
When it comes to expressing sexual desire openly, if you're doing it because you think it's what a woman wants to hear, then your actions are going to come across as inauthentic and she will not trust you. If you treat telling a woman she's beautiful or sexy and want to sleep with her as a "line" or a "strategy" to be memorized or adopted, then women will smell your neediness like a rank pair of underwear and turn you down.
But women experience sexuality differently than we do
But women experience sexuality differently than we do, so it can be a bit more complicated and hard for us to decipher what makes them feel attracted to us. But the principle remains the same. Women go with men who make them feel a certain way. There are a number of ways to elicit emotion in a woman, and the way in which you go about eliciting that emotion will determine the quality and quantity (or lack thereof) of the relationships you have with women.