5 Ways To Impress Her Over Dinner

Most people don't realize how much weight a dinner date can actually hold. Think about it, for a minute. What might seem like a casual get together in your mind, is actually a mini-theater production. Whether you realize it or not, you are putting yourself on display for the person sitting opposite you. And, whether they realize it or not, they're absorbing tons of information about you.

Personally, I put a lot of stock in how a man behaves over dinner. And I'm not even referring to anything I mentioned in this article here. No, this is a completely separate function altogether. One I am not likely to forget, even if I don't remember it in my conscious mind. Today I'm going to make it easy for you. We'll address the subconscious stuff later. For now, let's go over the 5 basic behaviors that will make you look good in her eyes.

  • Treat the Waitstaff Well

You don't need to give them a hug, but you should at least present a congenial demeanor. Don't rush through your order, give them a chance to write it down. Thank them when they bring your order, and thank them when they remove your plate. Unless the waiter is a surly beast of a person, I expect you to treat them kindly. No one wants to feel like they are on a date with a prat.

  • Don't Treat the Waitstaff Too Well

In other words, if you're being served by a busty redhead you'd love to shag, I'd advise you do everything in your power to keep that to yourself. Your date will not be oblivious to the redhead's charms, and she will be hawking you to see whom you are more interested in. You will get *very* big points if you manage to keep your date feeling like she's the only woman in the room.

  • Don't Ogle Your Date's Cleavage

This doesn't mean you can't look. And, if your date is wearing a plunging neckline, you can be relatively confident that she wants you to look. Dilemma, eh? Not really. The trick is looking while she's doing something else, and then letting yourself get caught averting your eyes. That lets her know you're attracted to her, but aren't tacky enough to openly stare.

  • Don't Speak So Loudly the People at the Next Table Can Hear Your Conversation

I hate when people do this. I also hate having to ask someone to lower their voice. So what do you do? Do you suffer through an intolerably embarrassing meal with an entire restaurant giving you evil looks - or do you tell Mr. Mouth to shut it, and then suffer an uncomfortable silence for the rest of the night. If you're aware of your volume, it should come to neither.

  • Tip

Unless the waitstaff did something heinous, you damned sure best be leaving them a tip. And it better be at least 15%. A Scrooge is not sexy. If you can't afford the 15% tip, you have no business being in that restaurant to begin with. Take your date somewhere you'll be able to afford the tip, lest you look like a stingy b*stard. There are other behaviors one should abide, but these are the basics. Unfortunately, many men care little or less about them. If they're already second nature to you, good man, you're well ahead of the game.

xx Isabella

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JJ 6 years ago

i, the guy, feel that sometimes i can be loud at dinner and the girl likes it. the girl, generally thinks i'm funny though. if you arent funny or your story is lame, just stick to asking question and letting the girl talk. either way, let the girl talk more than the guy. especially to start off the dinner.


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WRKennedy 7 years ago from Canada

Great hub, but I thought you would start your ways of impressing her with two words: "Cook it."

ANYONE can buy a meal . . .


HornyDevilDating 7 years ago

Some more good advice there.


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Kenny Wordsmith 9 years ago from Chennai

I try to be one, and I'll learn to be a better one, thanks to your hubs!


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Isabella Snow 9 years ago Author

You're a charmer, Kenny!


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Kenny Wordsmith 9 years ago from Chennai

I do all that, naturally, except speak in a low voice. But after reading your 'sexy voice' hub, I see hope!


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Isabella Snow 9 years ago Author

I'll see what I can do!


Fretbuzz 9 years ago

"10 things you shouldn't worry about"

I think that's the one.


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Isabella Snow 9 years ago Author

Fretbuzz - Which sex tips have a listed?? I think the only ones I've done so far are the 10 things you shouldn't worry about. Is that what you mean???

Scott - Ooh! You are too sweet!!! :) You're perfect! Do you come in a straight version? I would love to hear that kind of thing in bed. ;)


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somelikeitscott 9 years ago from Las Vegas

Isabella, Sound advice once again. Honestly...do I see a "Dear Isabella" column in your future? Great hubs, great gal - who could ask for anything more?


Fretbuzz 9 years ago

Unfortunately, she's a "homemaker" so it's still my pocket.

Hey, how 'bout some sex tips for men kind of like you had for the women? That's one area where I could stand to learn something. -so to speak. :~)


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Isabella Snow 9 years ago Author

Maybe you should let your wife pay from now on. ;-p


Fretbuzz 9 years ago

Once again, Isa, you have convinced me I would be a great date! The things you list are just the things I do naturally. Only a fool would piss off the people that handle his food and I hate people staring at me so I'm always discreet.

As far as tips go, my wife gets ticked off at me for leaving too big of a tip, usually 17-20%. If it's a female she thinks I'm flirting, if it's a male she says I'm wasting money. I say I may be helping that youngster get an education (or oldster make ends meet).

My biggest problem would be that I'm not a great conversation starter. If whoever I'm with starts the conversation, I can converse intelligently with no problem, though -go figure.

Great info, Isa, thanks -even though I'm off the dating market permanently (and most unfortunately).

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