Dealing With Your Husbands Ex-wife - The Saga Continues
"Always is MY way!"
Educate Don't Discriminate
This is the book that my daughter is currently reading.
"The Queen of Black Hearts”
I call this one, ‘The Queen of Black Hearts’ because this woman’s motto may as well be, “Always is my way!”
So, I guess I should start with where this all started. If you have read my first hub, Dealing with your husbands ex-wife, then you already pretty much know the roots and I don’t really have to go THAT far back. So, I’m just going to start from where this particular situation has started.
I’ve always been interested in Wicca, it’s no secret to anyone. My 10 year old daughter also has interest in it. Let me first start off by saying (to anyone who isn’t educated in this particular area) that Wicca is NOT devil worship and it’s NOT evil. To break it down as easily and quickly as possible, Wicca is basically a Nature Religion that teaches, “An it harm none, do what ye will.” Wicca is probably one of the purest and most harmonious religions that exist. That being said, I will move on to the real issue and purpose of this hub.
My husband’s three children were over a couple of weekends ago and my 10 year old daughter and 11 year old step-daughter were playing. Now, before I move on, I need to explain a little something about my daughter. For starters, she loves to live in “La-La Land.” She has an incredible imagination and she can play alone for hours with that imagination, pretending to be a cat, a leprechaun, a dog; you name it. So, this particular day, the girls were playing in Sasha's room and my 2 year old son knocked over a bunch of papers. My daughter had "spells" written on one of the pages. My step daughter said, "Oh, a good grade spell! Can you do it for me?" So, they stood within a circle of gemstones and Sasha said a few words about getting good grades. Obviously, this was just harmless play. Everything was fine for a few days until my husband received a text message from his ex. She basically asked him to talk to my daughter and ask her not to do any spells on her children, as it’s against their religion. My husband and I got a small chuckle out of it as we knew that they were just playing around and that it had nothing to do with evil or religion or anything like that. He told her that he would let her know that she would like her to refrain from doing that stuff around the other kids.
We were supposed to have the kids again on Sunday (for Father’s Day) and my husband just informed me that she called him. She asked him if he had spoken to Sasha about the spells and so on. He told her that he had and that she won’t do it again. It could have ended there, right? Wrong!
She started to go on and on about how we shouldn't allow her to believe in stuff like that and how it's wrong. Basically it turned into a religion dispute. My husband doesn't believe in any type of religion, my daughter and I believe in Wicca and his ex and children are Catholic. Before my husband and his ex married, she knew that he had no type of religious beliefs and she asked him if he would mind if the kids were raised Catholic. He had no problems with that what so ever. He still doesn't have a problem with it. I have no problem with it. I don't judge others on what religions they believe in and I expect to have the same sort of courtesy extended towards me. I don't try to convert others or push my beliefs on others, so please don't do it to me. It's ignorant.
The last thing I want to do is have a religious dispute, as I honestly don't care. It is just really getting to me that she believes that her way and her religion is the only "right". Everyone and everything else is wrong. Why should her kids be able to come over here and talk about God and the Devil and Heaven and Hell but my daughter is supposed to hold her tongue about her beliefs, in her own home?! She's not hurting anyone and she's not worshiping Satan. In fact, she doesn't even believe in the Devil at all!
My husbands ex asked what kind of books we let her read and if we are Satan worshipers and so on. I told him to tell her to just Google Wicca if she wants to know about it. I'm not even THAT upset about the fact that she thinks that Wicca isn't a real religion or anything that she thinks for that matter. (Just a quick "fun fact" - Wicca started to officially be recognized as a religion beginning in the 1980's.) The thing that bothers me about it is that she's sitting there trying to tell us how we should raise our daughter and what we should ALLOW her the believe. The thing I really don't get though, is if she's so into her Catholic religion, then why does she send the children to a Baptist school? I don't pretend to know a lot about other types of religions out there, or even claim to know ANYTHING about the many other religions there are. What I DO know is that there are many different religions out there and I pretty sure that not a single one of them have it exactly "right".
I don't judge or criticize other people for what they believe or have faith in and I don't think that it's right for others to do so.
So, to put a conclusion to this hub - for now - I will end it by saying, we are not getting to have the kids over on Sunday for dinner as we planned. Now she is just going to be stopping by with them so that they can give my husband his Father's Day gifts. Until next time.... Blessed Be!
It's your choice.
Like I stated above. I don't try to convert or push religion on anyone. I have added these links in case anyone would like to learn more and educate themselves. That's the beauty of CHOICE.
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