Desire For Closeness

Every relationships desire some level of closeness. How ever we all have our comfort zones and that's why we should balance everything in our relationship, too much closeness or too little could make us uncomfortable.

There's no right or wrong level of closeness in love, it's all about what's right for you and your partner. Closeness comes in all varieties, could be physical, sexual, emotional, intellectual or spiritual.

Physical closeness involves holding hands, watching TV together on a love seat or just snuggling together for whatever its worth.

Sexual closeness involves hot passionate sex for hours, occasional sex and nothing too intense or sharing lots of sexual strokings and foreplay.

Emotional closeness is about sharing deep emotional feelings, those deep feelings that you crave to divulge to someone special. Do note that being in a relationship does not necessarily make your partner your confidant but, idealy, it should be.

Intellectual closeness deals with sharing knowledge and ideas in a relationship.

Spiritual closeness on the other hand involves you begining and ending the day with prayer, at the table sometimes before making love (no exageration intended, some couples do).

Essentially, some of us experience a little bit of each, don't you think. The ability to blend the depth, frequency and duration of our bondness gives it the desired value.So how deep is your closeness with your loved ones. Are you getting the desired level of closeness or you simply imagine it happening? We tend to overlook this reality in the course of courtship. If you don't share any of this bond with your partner, then you really do not have any business being in that relationship. And, in my opinion, a little of everything is required, too much closeness is choking and lack of it is depressing.