Are Divorce Ceremonies really Necessary?

I was about to start an ESOL lesson (English for Speakers of Other Languages) on writing Informal Party Invitations and asked learners what types of parties people celebrate. There were so many responses but one stood out. “Divorce Party!” someone shouted.

That really got everyones attention and I asked the student to describe what it was to her peers, as some had puzzled looks. She did. We discussed it a bit more and I said that it would be a happy/sad time for couples. From the little I know, it seems Divorce Parties are most common in the West.

"I said I do, but now I don't."

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Why do people have Divorce Parties?

If it was an abusive relationship, I can understand why people would want to celebrate their freedom. However, what if there are kids involved or it was an infidelity issue? There really isn’t much to be happy about or celebrate because in such situations, the person could still love their other half deep down. I also notice that it’s women who tend to have these celebrations. They use it to reclaim their single status and thank the people who have supported them through married life and now back to single life.

Could it be that Divorce Ceremonies give couples a happy closure?

Divorce Ceremonies

These are also growing in popularity, with officiated ceremonies that include both parites and even a “divorce-moon” (instead of a honeymoon), where parties go on holiday with their kids but ofcourse sleep in different rooms. Sometimes, it’s just one parent that travels. Below is an example of what is said in a Divorce Ceremony.

A couple: Zach and Rachel's Divorce Ceremony

My Opinion

In my opinion, it's not a happy time and a Divorce is like a time of mourning or reflection. Infact, for some cultures it's a shameful thing, which is why Divorce ceremonies are popular in the Western side of the world.

I don’t know what your situation is in life right now, but I hope you find Happiness and True Love.

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RonElFran 17 months ago from Mechanicsburg, PA

I believe that marriage should be a lifetime commitment, and that a divorce ceremony sends exactly the wrong message. We have ceremonies to celebrate something we think is good. There is nothing good about divorce. Yes, there are valid reasons for divorce, but none, IMO, that should be celebrated. Holding a ceremony says that the divorce is a good thing. Even if it's necessary, divorce is never good.


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Benny01 17 months ago from Lagos, Nigeria

What is there to celebrate about divorce? Absolutely nothing. My perspective about marriage is that it is an institution where two imperfect people come together in love to learn and teach each other with patience and tolerant til death do them apart. But if for any reason(s) there should be a divorce, there shouldn't be any form of celebration, its totally absurd.


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Lady_E 17 months ago from London, UK Author

@RonElFran

@Benny01

I totally agree with you both and it's a pity that people celebrate it. The world has changed a lot and this is another new side (change). Decades ago, there were no same sex Marriages, now it's legal. I am not stating an opinion on this but I am just indicating how the world has changed.

I am a Christian and believe Marriage should be a lifetime commitment. Thank you for stopping by and have a great week.


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Matt Easterbrook5 17 months ago from Oregon

I am never in favor of divorce, but sometimes in extenuating circumstances it is necessary. I truly believe that having a divorce party is a wrong message and can cause a lot of hurt to those involved. The hub was informative, useful, interesting, and well written thanks for writing it Lady E.


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manatita44 17 months ago from london

First that I've heard of this, but not surprised. Life throws up all sorts of variations, which can be a way, or ways of dealing with, or indeed shelving the pain. We cannot be truly happy without God, and somewhere in the relationship, as things begin to unfold in a dark alley, we then sense this.

Interesting article and Hub, Lady_E. I believe that I have written a Hub for you. have you seen it? In Love and Light.


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MsDora 17 months ago from The Caribbean

Elena, I still believe that marriage should last forever although mine didn't. If it ends, the closure ceremony can be a positive event--gratitude for whatever good there was, forgiveness for offenses, sanction for both to move on.

The bad taste comes with the thought of celebration. There is nothing in heartbreak and disappointment to celebrate. We need to get a grip on what we're doing, how we're doing it and the message we're sending to the children.

The word you used "reflection" is appropriate. Thanks for dealing with this topic.


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 17 months ago

Elena, It is unfortunate that life has gotten to the place where divorce is celebrated. Many enter into marriage without getting to know one another. They conceal personal information and often have hidden agendas and numerous unresolved issues. They have unrealistic expectations in regards to what marriage is really about and do not embrace the beauty of forever growing together and becoming better people together!

A Great Marriage is about committing to a lifetime relationship where love, respect, integrity, intimacy and transparency continues to flourish... "For better or for worse." Marriage is an honorable commitment that is sanctioned by almighty GOD!

I do not think the idea of celebrating divorce is good, especially when the commitment to the marriage itself was not honored and upheld. It is just another ceremony of mere words...

In HIS Love,

Lord Bless & Keep You Always


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Ericdierker 17 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

Extremely interesting. I stand judgment free of such a matter of a celebration. But closure seems like an important thing to get. I will have to give this some thought.


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Lady_E 16 months ago from London, UK Author

@Matt EasterBrooks Thanks for sharing your opinion. Glad you stopped by.

@Manatita - So true. Life is unpredictable. I will stop by your profile to check out the Hub you have written for me. Thank you.


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Lady_E 16 months ago from London, UK Author

@MsDora Thank you. I like the thought of gratitude too. No matter how bad a relationship has turned, there must have been some good times for which couples should be grateful for.

Best Wishes. :-)


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Lady_E 16 months ago from London, UK Author

@Deborrah K Ogans. So true. People should get to know each other before they commit to marry....and not just 2 or 3 months.

~I appreciate you stopping by.


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Lady_E 16 months ago from London, UK Author

@EricDierker

Thanks so much for stopping to share your experience. You just never know what the world will come up with next


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Monis Mas 16 months ago

I had no idea people actually do these... I guess if you like to party, EVERY occasion works :-)


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Lady_E 16 months ago from London, UK Author

@MonisMas Thanks Monis. Anything calls for a party these days. Thanks for stopping by.

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