Divorce at the Age of Sixty
Marraige and divorce
Are you planning, to divorce at the age of sixty?
Lynette's divorce was not caused by infidelity, or by the constant fights they had. After Lynette re-invented herself, her husband's resentment caused a big gap between them.
She was confident in her marriage and in herself. Challenges led her to better prospects. The husband's life was different, and he grew less confident when he saw the change in his wife.
The couple saw life from their own perspectives and that destroyed their marriage. It is not that a couple shouldn't have their own perspectives in a marriage, just the way one becomes affected by that perspective.
He was threatened by his wife's role the way she flourished made him see her in a different way than that homemaker. If a woman earns more money than her husband, it feels wrong.
If a man earns more money than a woman, it is fine. When women meet new people in their chosen careers men become less confident in their jobs. Sometimes he will undermine her confidence.
He did not see how unhappy she was in their marriage. Sometimes he just didn't see it her way.
No marriage is perfect, but divorce at sixty is a greater challenge.
When you lead parallel lives in a marriage what is left of that marriage?
The problem with most marriages couples get too comfortable with each other and forget how to appreciate one another.
Their comfort zone is taking their partners for granted and expecting everything to be the same.
It must be the same as when you have married and that is it! You got to go through the same old routine no matter what happens in your daily life.
The moment one partner, seeks a different path the other feels left out and unloved, or lonely.
Everything is nice when you first meet what happens after a year or two in the marriage?
Ellen and her husband were married for many years and finally, she wants out of their marriage.
After all those years, why won't they try and work it out?
Too many high expectations lead to such cases!
These men feel their wives should stay that way for the rest of their lives. If they married a typist, she must be that typist. She wasn't supposed to change, no matter how she felt about herself.
Unfortunately, for these men, people do change and nothing can be as they have wished it.
It is never too late to change your hairstyle, or your habits is it?
When men realize the change in their wives, they are stunned!
How and why has she changed?
It feels inappropriate for women to change anything about themselves. Divorce from Ellen's husband was shocking and not real. The feeling of divorce shattered the old guy.
Generations ago most women tolerated mediocre marriages. An ordinary marriage is where the wife is the homemaker and the husband is the breadwinner. Higher expectations have changed the order of a mediocre marriage.
The couple did not communicate instead, kept silent about their problems.
It is easy to get away from the conversation when you watch television for hours each day. When two people fail to speak out, they become mute by watching television.
In this case, they had nothing to say to each other even on a dinner out for the evening they were silent.
They had reached the breaking point!
Another couple in the divorce rate. Sheena is seventy-five and was married for thirty years to her husband aged sixty. She feels much happier on her own and never thought of marriage in the beginning of her relationship.
After the divorce, she has chosen her own destiny. Sheena wanted her life back and enjoying life is key to her chosen lifestyle. It takes courage to leave your partner at sixty or over the age of sixty.
You spent many years together and one day chooses to leave for your reasons. While the other partner is blinded by the reasons for your divorce, it was sad to face such a stressful moment at that time in your life.
Most women stay unhappy in their marriages and grow old and grey with one man. She worked in the mornings as her husband did every morning but when she came home each day to see him sitting on the couch watching television that hurt her a lot.
This woman wanted out of their marriage one partner couldn't take that anymore. He didn't see it the way she did that is a problem in many marriages.
He doesn’t see it as she sees it!
Most women want lives that you don't find in mediocre marriages.
Years fly by, and when you look at yourself in the mirror what do you see?
You forgot how to live life and how to enjoy life.
It has been too long taking on all the responsibilities while he just sat there and looked forward to you waiting on him. One partner is often up for challenges and the other doesn't care to take part in these challenges.
No two people will see their marriage in the same ways. A marriage to most men is to have a family with a wife who will be that stay-home-mom.
They don't realize that, doesn't happen anymore. After she has his children, she is forgotten and just got to follow what he says in their marriage.
Especially when men don't seek adventure after retirement their marriages become unhappy and lonely. It is understandable if men spend too many long hours working their day jobs and family life gets lost in that time.
Divorce at sixty and over the age of sixty is complicated. At that age, most couples have children and grandchildren.
A divorce disrupts any family life, but at sixty you must sell your four-five bed-roomed family home and search again for another home.
Overall, women take on more responsibility in the home than their husbands do in a marriage. Women tend to lose sight of the man they once married. Two people grew a part of the many years together.
She noticed the man he had become, and he didn't notice the woman she had become over the years.
Does he love her?
Has he taken her for granted?
A phase of adventure for many women who turn sixty and want more for their lifestyles. It is not just about sitting at home every day and twiddling thumbs.
There is more to life than sitting at home and watching television. You need a social life. The sedentary lifestyle is no longer for sixty-year-old women.
Being single at sixty has improved the lives of many women. A man is not an option and is not needed. Women who have financial independence don't need to marry.
When you feel great at sixty you know you have more to live for than being married to someone who doesn't care for you.
The upsetting moment in asking your husband for a divorce when in your sixties is a breakdown for a couple.
You would love to ''turn back the clock'' that is how some couples feel when asked for a divorce. Friends feel pity for you go through a divorce and the situation is humiliating.
After forty years of marriage, he felt everything was good, but she didn't feel that way. A divorce is a loss and leaves you alone. Single and you don't where to start again.
A couple met in their teens and were inseparable for more than fifty years, but she had to get that divorce.
Everything got destroyed, but there was no turning back. Children and grandchildren are affected by divorce.
The painful moments to cope with at that age cause mental problems for many couples.
An example:
She divorced her husband in the sixties and is happier without a man in her life. The endless work she did for him didn't pay off in their marriage.
He is living with his mother. She took care of him as his mother did and living back with his mother, he can have that same care.
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