Do you Apologize to your Partner? Types of men Who Apologize!

 

As many people already know, there are many kinds of men here and there. There is the mean one, the jealous, the tender, the stupid and the proud…etc

All humans are prone to committing mistakes and sometimes blunders so we are all sinners in one way or another. But the question is: are we ready to forgive and be forgiven? I know that we all make mistakes but I also know that those who repent and acknowledge their faults are fully excused. In this topic, I’m going to discuss the proud type of men whose pride and ego prevent them from apologizing specially to their partner!

Type one:

There are types of men who think that apologizing to women is demeaning in way and will hurt their pride to do so. This “man” doesn’t yield nor admit his fault despite that deep down he knows he is mistaken. On the other hand, he resorts to other ways to express his “sorry” like talking to her in a smooth tone or bringing her something she likes. By doing this, his partner may understand his endeavors of reconciliation and tries to “accommodate” with these indirect apologies so life can go on. He made an effort and she understood but this is not enough! This man has to understand that to apologize is as brave as any other manly behaviors because it doesn’t humiliate him in anyway. On the contrary, this healthy act will make him even stronger and will let him have inner peace.

Type two:

 

There is another kind of men who don’t admit their mistakes to their partner or to themselves. Fact is, this kind is sick and need immediate attention. The man here thinks that he is inerrable, and above mistakes. Actually, according to him, he is always right and always correct in everything he does and he is infallible beyond doubts.  His dignity prevents him from apologizing to anyone specially to women! This man might have a patient woman to care for and friends to be around but not for so long as he will find himself alone eventually.  In my opinion, he needs counseling and professional assistance. For this man if you happen to read this, know that no one is perfect and YES, you make mistakes because you’re a human being so it wouldn’t kill you to see faults in you. It wouldn’t kill you to start apologizing and in time, you’ll harvest the benefits of this. Don’t think that people will underestimate you because you’re apologizing or will think that you’re not a man enough. Actually, it’s NOT manly to not apologize!

Type three:

 

There is also another type of men but a fun type in a sense that they don’t acknowledge their mistakes in the beginning. They keep procrastinating until they’re pushed to apologize at the end. This “man” apologizes coyly and throws the “sorry” word from the tip of his tongue, with a wrinkle on his forehead and a small pout. Dignity again is behind this modest apology but this is also not enough. It’s true that this man might be considered childish but still his apology is not complete because he doesn’t mean it. The partner may accept it reluctantly but she won’t be fully content.  He has to say it and to mean it and to show that he really made a mistake otherwise; this is going to be a half apology.

Type four:

The last type of men is the best! He is the sensitive and tender man. He courageously admits his faults with no fear whatsoever. He derives his manhood, his strength from the strength of his mutual relation with his partner. He apologizes from the core of his heart and he says sorry with all the love there is wishing that she can find it in her heart to forgive him. This man actually is so adorable and his partner loves him and understands him well and let go of his little mistakes. She can not help but forgive him because he showed true remorse provided that he is honest regarding his apology.

Finally...

 

To those who find it hard to apologize regardless of the reasons, there are alternative means of saying sorry. It’s so important not to ignore this aspect if you want a healthy relationship. If you get angry and can’t apologize due to your PRIDE, offer her a flower later since flowers have magical effect. Pick the right flower and the right color and give it to your partner. Another way is when you leave the house while angry, don’t come back empty handed. Pick up a simple gift and offer her a romantic dinner somewhere. Listen to all her criticism and don’t complain because you started it. Be flexible when it comes to criticism not only from your partner but from your friends or colleagues. This is how we learn about our hidden faults in ourselves which can be seen by others only and good luck!   

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Mark 3 years ago

If I am right and she is wrong, I will not apologize. I have seen too many men apologize --even though they were right-- just to avoid a fight and gain back access to her sex organs. Not me. It's not pride. It's called doing what's right. Once my ex tried to "ban" me from sex because I didn't apologize for being right. The joke was on her. I am not the type of man that needs sex. In the end, she started another fight because I didn't come to her groveling for sex. She had a higher sex drive than me, so it worked out well.

Men: If you are right, do not demean yourself to avoid conflict, or to regain loss of sexual privileges.


Georgia 4 years ago

Spot on especially type 2 I was married to this type for 14 years and then I realized he was narcissistic which actually can never be cured as it is a personality trait and you can't change someone's personality. Not even with professional help.


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Royalmark 6 years ago from Lagos, Nigeria

Shame, Dunno where I stand though but I think and I feel that sometimes, I can be proud and see the apology as demeaning to my ego when I'm right but other times, I do it because it's necessary and makes me more responsible...


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izettl 6 years ago from The Great Northwest

Great hub- I think I've met every type, but my husband is a different type. He blurts out things or does things then apologizes like it's out of habit and thinks because he apologized, he should be automatically forgiven. I got some useful advice one time- if someone is sorry , they wouldn't have done it or said it in the first place. I don't like apologies because it's an excuse for people to do and say as they wish before thinking about the consequences. Very nice hub though.


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oscillationatend 6 years ago from a recovering narcissist.

Nice little list. K@ri would probably say I'm type four.


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Ms Chievous 6 years ago from Wv

Cute Hub Shame. Are you type one two three or four? :)


Baltazar 6 years ago

I found myself somewhere between type 1 and 2. yeah, really sad)) but I got some questions in my head, old questions...

I don't consider "saying Sorry" and sincere apology to be humiliating, making me seem weak, hurting my pride and self-esteem; but I still find my Ego, my emotions driving me in such ways. I really hate this feeling when Im so stubborn (being not able to apologize) with our beloved ones, closest ones.... what is it? Ego? unconsciousness? Im trying to improve, but don't see remarkable changes. Am I following my Ego, my emotional side, my Pride? I love my partner, and I'm mad at myself...


Deep Lamp 6 years ago

so are band-aids!!!!!!! (and shallow lamps)


The Shallow Lamp That Tells Destiny 6 years ago

Bathing is for WIMPS!!!!


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Pamela99 6 years ago from United States

Great hub and I think accurate, although my husband is a one of the good guys. He wasn't in that category a few years ago but he's mellowed with age, like fine wine!


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Sunga 6 years ago from Lilongwe, Malawi

So bottom line is that men are expected to apologise to women in relationships. And the women?


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shamelabboush 6 years ago Author

You are Cleanclover, that's for sure :)


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Cleanclover 6 years ago from Piece of land!

Yes i am very courteous with every human being.


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shamelabboush 6 years ago Author

Glad you have him :)


 6 years ago

Nicely-written! My husband belongs to Type 4, and I'm lucky to have such kind of a husband... hehehe...


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shamelabboush 6 years ago Author

Right darren, thanks for the output.


darren 6 years ago

I must admit in a situation of being used by a woman; it feels completely wrong to apologise if she begins to act rude towards you or treats the man like he is a disposabal toy without any status. these types of women give other women a bad name (gold diggers)


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shamelabboush 6 years ago Author

Thanks suzanne.


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Suzanne Alicie 6 years ago

Wonderful hub, and a great list of types.


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shamelabboush 6 years ago Author

I knew it GH, I knew your type is good and forgiving! Do you think I fanned you without a reason? :) Thanks buddy.


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GeneralHowitzer 6 years ago from Land of Salt, Philippines

Great Article, yeah you are right the last type is the best and Im one of those, I apologize when necessary and wI will not let a day pass without resolving conflict(s). A way to go buddy...


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shamelabboush 6 years ago Author

Thank you dear divacratus.


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divacratus 6 years ago from India

Well said! Enjoyed this a lot :)


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shamelabboush 6 years ago Author

Thanks a lot James. As long as you apologize and you admit that you have a sharp tongue, there is no issue! Appreciate your comment.


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shamelabboush 6 years ago Author

Correct SweeitiePie, this kind has someone to care for and to be happy with no doubt.. Thanks for the sweet comment.


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James A Watkins 6 years ago from Chicago

This is a very fine piece. I enjoyed reading it. I apologize every day, usually for my sharp tongue that I forget to keep the reigns on.


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SweetiePie 6 years ago from Southern California, USA

Some how I always ended up knowing the proud types who felt apologizing was beneath them, or would someone detract from their persona. That is alright because I would not want them to do anything that is against their will. I am sure many of them are happy finding other people that are willing to put up with their bs.


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shamelabboush 6 years ago Author

hehehe Goldistring, this is awkward, but i think three & four :) Probably... Thank you dear.


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GoldiString 6 years ago

Very well discussed Shame. I like this hub. Every girl would fall for a type 4 guy. I did.

Just a question- what type are you?


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shamelabboush 6 years ago Author

Thanks JJ, I'm glad I offered something to the good wives :)


JJ 6 years ago

This is a good hub and I just want to say thank you for posting this and giving some constructive advice to other men who may not even realize they are this way!Which I am sure their wives will appreciate. =)


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shamelabboush 6 years ago Author

Appreciate it ShyneIV, thank you.


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ShyneIV 6 years ago from Montreal

Great hub dude.....Real enjoyable to read.


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shamelabboush 6 years ago Author

Thank you Randy Behavior.


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Randy Behavior 6 years ago from Near the Ocean

Great hub Shamel, gotta love those type 4s!


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shamelabboush 6 years ago Author

I am a type four and three i guess:). Thank you lyla.


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lyla 6 years ago from India

Shamel..bang on target hub! :)So very very true! Hmmm..Are you type 4& 5 combo? :)


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shamelabboush 6 years ago Author

You are also my great friend HT, without you, I don't think I'll have the courage to keep writing.... You've been a great friend, thanks. Great weekend to you too.


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shamelabboush 6 years ago Author

Thanks keira.


HealthTip 6 years ago

Great hub my friend, without a doubt Shamel in all my time on Hubs you have been my greatest friend from day 1, I thank you for that, have a great weekend and take care !


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keira7 6 years ago

Good truthful hub:) Thanks Shamel.


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shamelabboush 6 years ago Author

True poetlorraine, I can believe that :)


poetlorraine 6 years ago

always apologising for something i am always upsetting him


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shamelabboush 6 years ago Author

I guess you've done bad medon but it's fine to admit that :) Thanks and good luck.


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shamelabboush 6 years ago Author

Sharing Insight, don't forget that you inspired me to write this.... Thank you for your comment.


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Medon 6 years ago from Antarctica

Will try to improve myself...Thanks.


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Bunchee 6 years ago from Dubai, UAE

huh?? did i just read what you wrote in the first sentence?? sounds weird.. hihi! i will keep him of course... never let him go :-)


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Sharing Insight 6 years ago

Cute Read Shamel...


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shamelabboush 6 years ago Author

Wow, give me that man's address!!! Seems cute and nice :) Try to keep him bunchee, life is cruel out there and you're so lucky :)


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Bunchee 6 years ago from Dubai, UAE

oh, i found the man... he is very much type 4... so sweet.. but i am working on combining type 4 and 5 in his personality.. didn't know it would be hard! LOL

P.S. after re-reading your hub, i'm now type 3 and type 5.. hihi..


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shamelabboush 6 years ago Author

I hope you can find that MAN bunchee ;) Being a woman, you think you're infallible ha!!! Glad to know that...


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shamelabboush 6 years ago Author

Ah dohn, that's so nice of you... I actually didn't mention type 5 because as I said, we are not pefect. I myself combine type three and four, depending on the circumstances :) Thanks bro.


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Bunchee 6 years ago from Dubai, UAE

i think i just proved today that I am a type 5 (if ever there is a female counterpart to this hub)... now, if only I can find a man who is type 5 as well, life would be swell ;-)


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shamelabboush 6 years ago Author

This is very funny bunchee. Diamonds ha????? ;) When the man apologized, that's bigger than any diamond.... And that type which you added is another one... Thanks for the contribution...


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dohn121 6 years ago from Hudson Valley, New York

I absolutely enjoyed this hub, Shamel! It's informative, educative, and should be read time and again, when we start to "slip" just to remind us what we are doing wrong when we begin to regress.

I really do think that I'm a Type-5 and if you don't believe me, ask my girlfriend! It's important to note that if you don't do ANYTHING wrong, you won't ever have a need to apologize ;)


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Bunchee 6 years ago from Dubai, UAE

well said, shamel. Apologize AND give flowers or presents or not so simple gift that a woman likes... words are not enough.. diamonds do the trick.. hihi! :-p

and there is another type of man as well: one who apologizes while reasoning out or complimenting the person's assets like "you're very cute; cute people should forgive" or "i know you have a big heart and you can forgive easily" while trying to pout... :-D

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