Does your husband like your inner beauty or your outer beauty?

Outer beauty attracts, but inner beauty captivates.” – Kate Angell

You attract your husband by your physical beauty during your love days and he also felt that he was lucky to have married a beauty. You feel proud of your striking looks and maintain your gorgeous appearance with ardent passion. You feel that your beauty will continue to attract your husband throughout your married life.

But you are in for a surprise after marriage. Your husband is indeed proud to have married a very beautiful girl, but you sense a visible change in his attitude towards you after marriage. He is not that concentrated about your beauty as before and seeks something else from you.

What does he actually want from you?

Physical beauty acts like a bait to attract each other, but when you begin your married life together, your husband needs your care more than your beauty.

There are times when you feel you can bring your husband to his knees just by looking ravishing and stunning. You are very wrong! When you do not show your care, your beauty has a reversal effect in him.

You might go to high end beauty parlors and polish your looks, but if you do not concentrate on the inner needs of your husband, he gets repulsed by your outer beauty. It is indeed sad that modern women are more focused on their looks than on the emotional needs of their husbands. Are you one among them?

You should understand that though your husband is very practical in his outlook towards his family, he has child-like qualities in him. He crumbles within himself in disappointment when you do not take care of him.

He needs all these qualities from you!

  • He wants you to take care of him
  • He wants respect
  • He wants your emotional support
  • He wants you to be feminine

He wants you to take care of him like a mother so that he can feel emotionally secure. He hates nagging and when you raise your voice his male ego rears back in resentment and frustrated anger. ‘She is a shrew’ he decides about you.

Are you dressed for the kill? But is your home looking like a pigsty? Your good looks do not even get a cursory glance from him when you do not take care of your home and family. In fact your very concentration on your beauty makes him feel repulsed and disgusted.

He wants respect instead of your attractive looks. He wants his home to be his unwinding domain so that he can relieve his work related stress and tension. When you preen before the mirror while his stomach rumbles in hunger, he mentally shies away from you.

Instead of your good looks, he wants you to be caring and loving. He likes you when you realize his emotional needs and support him spontaneously when he needs a morale booster. You might not be a great beauty, but when you take care of him like a mother, advice him in a reasonable manner and understand his moods perfectly, he thinks you are the most beautiful woman in the world.

© 2013 mathira

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C.V.Rajan 2 years ago from Kerala, India

As usual, your are practical and wise. I don't know whether the present day girls can ever understand this wisdom!


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mathira 2 years ago from chennai Author

Thank you Rajan for your visit.


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MsDora 2 years ago from The Caribbean

Good question in your title, Mathi. And thank you for these great reminders for us women.


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Eiddwen 2 years ago from Wales

A wonderful read mathira. I wish you a wonderful new year.

Eddy.


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mathira 2 years ago from chennai Author

Thank you MsDora for the good comments. I appreciate it.

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