"Don't Settle For Anything Less, Than What You Want In A Relationship"

Don't Settle For Anything Less, Than What You Want In A Relationship"

Wanting to have a good relationship with your mate takes a lot of hard work form both people in the relationship.
Wanting to have a good relationship with your mate takes a lot of hard work form both people in the relationship.
Relationships don't work when there is only person trying.
Relationships don't work when there is only person trying.

"Don't settle for Anything Less than, What You Want In A Relationship"

In my experiences with relationships, we often just settle for what ever we can get, in a man and I sure some men do the same thing with women. This is a wrong philosophy on our part. If we're good and honest women, we deserve the same in a man; so why should we settle for anything less, when we can have the best of it all. We shouldn't be so needy that we except anything wearing a pair of pants, and call it a man.

When we ponder the idea of getting a man, we want a man that's worthy of us and our love. We all derserve the best, that God has to offer us, men too. Never be so needy that you forget, what you really want in man and just except the first thing that comes along. we all want good and honest men with integirty. I don't want you to put your priorities so high, that you want be able to find that man of your dream. We have to be logical about the man, that we're chosing to spend the rest of our lives with.

Let's face it, we all have our flaws and imperfections, but there is good in all of us. We just have to find the person that completes us. Honesty is a very good quality that we should look for in a man. We should weigh all of our options and pray about it, and ask God to send us the man of your dreams. Okay, we know what kind of person that we are and we know what kind of man we need to make up sit down and be happy.

What we should do is make a list of good qualities, that we're looking for in a good man and stick by our list. Women, please make sure you're being honest and for real by not asking for the sky. Make a reasonable list of qualifications for the man of your dreams, and don't settle for anything less, until you get exactly what you're looking for in a man.

Here's just a few pointers to help you out with your good man search:

1. A man that's honest and has integrity.

2.A man that's warm hearted, loving and caring.

3.A man that loves and respects his mother and sister. ( So you"ll know he will do the same for you).

4.A man that tells the truth, no matter what

5.A man that's unselfish, that will always put your needs first, (except for the needs of God).

6.A man That's always there, when you need him.

7.A man that makes you feel likes his queen, no matter how big or small you are.

8. A man that will genuinely love you for the person that you are.

Now ladies, I want you to understand something about this man, that's going to make all your dreams come true. You also have to be willing to give back everything that your man is giving you, or it's not going to be a good relationship. We must all remember, that being in a good relationship is a two way deal, one person can't make it work alone; so if you want all the trimmings, you have to give your man the same admirations. If you're a selfish person; that's only in it for you; and what you want; then a good relationship for you is impossible and improbable.

Make up your mind today, that you will love and cherish the man of your dreams, and try to do everything in your power to keep him happy and content. With this attitude, there shouldn't be any problem crop up that you and he can't handle together.

Benny Faye Douglass

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creativeone59 4 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you so true, for your visit and your comment. Sometimes, we try so hard to be the best fot the man and forget that we count too.This is the reason why we have to put ourselves first on the list instead of on the back burner of life.Godspeed with finding the new you and what makes You happy instead of the other way around. Much love. creativeone59


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so true 4 years ago

You are so right, I am in this rut of a relationship were I don't get complimented on anything as far as the way I look ever. No intimacy and constant fights. Your words have helped me so much. I have to think of myself as better than that. Settling myself for a man is not an option. I just need to get it together.


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creativeone59 4 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you quester.ltd, for your visit and comment, I agree with you. May God bless you and your family through out the year. creativeone59


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quester.ltd 4 years ago

Life is too short to stay in an unhappy, unsatisfying relationship -

When you find the right partner, life is wonderful - even the bad days are bearable because you are supported with love.

I would much rather be alone than with the wrong one -

Great Hub

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creativeone59 5 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Desire, for your visit and comment, I'm glad I could help you. Godspeed. creativeone59


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UndisclosedDesire 5 years ago from Toronto

wow this is so true you written a great hub.And to me this is great advice and helpful for me Thank you! I will for sure read some of your other hubs of course when I find the time.


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creativeone59 5 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Anamika, sorry it took so long,but I totally agree with you. Godspeed./ creativeone59


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creativeone59 5 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

sonya dear heart, you're asking me for advice, when you already know what the answer is. you're not happy and the relationship seem to had been dead a long time ago, so what are you hanging on too, none of us want our children to cry or hurt over the lost of father or a mother, but you must understand that one day he will relaize that this man that he love so much; isn't giving you the same love in return. Your son will survive and be alright. You have to be happy even if it's by yourself to have peace of mind is the most important thing to have in ones life. You can tell your husband all that you feel and the fact that you haven't had a real marriage in a long time, so what's left to save but a marriage in name only. It's not fair to you to be treated like his sister, instead of his wife.Make sure you pray and ask God for guidance and when you get you answer, make your move. I pray that God Bless you to make the right decision, because we know you aren't really living, you're only existing. Keep me updated on your progress. Much love and happiness. creativeone59


sonya 5 years ago

Im a mother of 3 in which my oldest 2 are in college and i have a 10 year old at home with my husband and myself. None of the kid belong to my husband but my husband raised my 10 year since he was 4 months old. The older two are from my first love in which we was together since high school which we depart after a 10 year relationship. We havent been together for over 12 years and i still think about this man seems like everyday since we been apart. He was so much different from my husband. My husband dont show no type of compassion or tell me he love me. We live in the same house and sometimes want even speak to each other for days at a time. We hardly have a sexual relationship due to im tired of being the one who is tring to make this work. He prefer to be with his guy friends instead of spending time with me. Everytime i would ask him to do something special, he turn me down without hesitating but if his friends come around and ask one time, he would volunteer with a smile on his face. I cant even hold a civil conversation with this man without him tring to start a argument. I feel he is seeing and sleeping with someone else and when i ask the question, he get offended and upset and want speak to me for several days. There is someone at his job i suspect he is dealing with and i did ask the questions if he is with her he will get offended again and so upset he want talk to me. On several occasions, i would tell him im coming to his job to get money to pay for bills he would think of a excuse to keep me from coming on his job. I'm so tired of this man until when i ask him to leave so i can get my mind together, he will come back. Im so content when he is gone and i have know for some years now that this marriage is going no where. I deserve better but i dont want my 10 year old son to hurt or cry after this man. Please help me and i really need some advice on this issue.


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Olyenka 6 years ago from London

Ha ha! Excellent! xx


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Anamika S 6 years ago from Mumbai - Maharashtra, India

Excellent Advice. It is better to be Single than settle for someone who you don't think is perfect for you.


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creativeone59 7 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you so much Tim Tim for your comment and feedback. have a blessed day. creativeone59


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tim-tim 7 years ago from Normal, Illinois

YOu go girl! I agree with BkCreative. Nice hub. I am going to read the reat of your hubs later. Just having my coffee and strt my day. Thanks for sharing:)


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creativeone59 7 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

You got it girl, and thanks for your comment. have a blessed day BK. creativeone59


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BkCreative 7 years ago from Brooklyn, New York City

We have settled for so much junk in this culture! It's time to start demanding only the best. The best men, food, politicians, friendship, everything.

Time to stop settling!

Thanks for this reminder!


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creativeone59 7 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Great thruth and observation ,Veronica, thnaks again. have a blessed day. creativeone59


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loveofnight 7 years ago from Baltimore, Maryland

good advice, unfortunately a lot of people don't listen to good advice.


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Veronica Allen 7 years ago from Georgia

Tell it sister! Too often we women(men as well) sell ourselves too short when we are looking for that significant other. We tend to let the thought that "our expectations are too high" influence us and we began to feed into the hype that there's no one out there that measures up to our standards. We'd rather settle than be patient and wait.

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