"Don't love anyone to the point of losing yourself"

Don't love anyone to the point of losing yourself"

Don't ever love anyone to the point of losing your identity, it's not worth it, You will be miserable.
Don't ever love anyone to the point of losing your identity, it's not worth it, You will be miserable.

"Don't love anyone to the point of losing yourself"

Sometimes in a relationship, we love so hard that we lose our Identity. I for one, have been there, done that; when I was younger. When we're young you want to be a perfect person to the one you love. We often go out of our way to please and satisfy our mate, to show them how much we love them. We"re never suppose to love anyone to our destruction, love is good but not that good.

In any relationship we have to always love ourselves just a little more. When we were young and in love, we didn't know any better,but once we have been through the wringer and gained some experience and knowledge; we know better ;I believe in love and in loving my mate, but not to my detriment. I'm just as important as my mate, never let your mate be your God, because if you do; you will be taken advantaged of and misused and abused.

We all know that God has our best interest at heart and would never do anything to hurt or harm us. The power of our love is in the hand of our lover or mate, but we're giving power they don't they desreve. All I'm saying is to love someone , but love thorugh sane actions not insane actions. If you want to be happy in love , then aways put your self and what you want and need first.

I'm not saying not to give your 50% in the relationship, all I'm saying is never give anyone total control of your life to anyone but God. If we give total control to man, our lives will be very unhappy and in constant turmoil. We should love , yes, control no. Try to make the right choices, in who we pick as our mate. If he's loving , respectable and know God , I think we have a great chance of a great future in loveland.

Benny Faye Douglass (C) Copywrite 2009

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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

You're welcome, thank you you for your comments and feedback. Godspeed. creatvieone59


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BkCreative 6 years ago from Brooklyn, New York City

I'm glad you posted this creativone59! We do need constant reminders - just so it will get in our brain and be part of our thought process!

Thanks again!


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Princessa, for your comment and your feedback it is appreciated. have a blessed day. creativoen59


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Princessa 6 years ago from France

Very good advice, very wise words. I firmly believe that in order to love someone else you must love yourself first and always.


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you sweet lady and may God bless you with something special in your life. Thanks for your wonderful comment and feedback. creativeone59


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Tamarii2 6 years ago from NEW YORK

I agree. For me it was after 34 years.(death...) I am finally getting my life back that I had before we met.I was faithful the entire relationship.I am doing and cooking things I like.Wow you do not realize these things happen until...Enjoy your journey of life experiences..>peace 2 U


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thanks bellawritter I'm indeed proud for you and you should be proud of your self as well. Thank you for your comment and very honest feedback . I don't know hat the problem is with the posting, because I have had the problem more than once myself. i hope they fix, because it's very unnerving. you have a blessed day. creativeone59


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bellawritter23 6 years ago from California

sorry for some odd reason it posted 3 times sorry


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bellawritter23 6 years ago from California

Creativeone59 this was my biggest yet my biggest lesson. I learned so much and I have prospered into a wonderful woman and it has made me who I am today, my analogy on my own life is live and learn, my mom always told me learn from my mistakes but if in fact I learned from her mistakes then I wouldn’t grow and learn on my own. The lord gave us individuality for the same reason it is all a test of faith. but all in all this is very true we do get lost in the midst of our significant other's spotlight.


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

You're very welcome and thanks for your commment and feedback. Godspeed. creativeone59


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tim-tim 6 years ago from Normal, Illinois

The title says it all! Thanks for sharing.


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wendi_w 6 years ago from Midwest

This is exactly what I did. It took me 15 years to leave my abusive husband and 5 years to put my life together. Now I watch my daughter doing the same thing .


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you so much Dominionmaster2, for your much need comment and feedback. Blessings to you. creatvieone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you TrudyVan,for your comment and feedback. Godspeed. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank emievil, for your comment and feedback. Godspeed. creativeone59


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Dominionmaster2 6 years ago

I agree, with this hubpage very much, and trudyvan it's not just women that do this it happens to men as well. What's worse is when you both do it, and become someone that neither one of you wanted to be. It effectively makes you strangers in the end.


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TrudyVan 6 years ago from South Africa

Hello there TrudyVan here. You are so right. Women tend to love too much and forget about themselves.


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emievil 6 years ago from Philippines

Short but very very true!


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Veronica for your comment and feedback. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Barbara, for your comment. creativeone59


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Veronica Allen 6 years ago from Georgia

You are so right creativeone59.


Barbara Hart 6 years ago

Very true.


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

You're welcome,I'm sure we've all given our all at one time or another, but we can't do that and feel good about yourself thank you for your comment. creativeone59


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Hello, hello, 6 years ago from London, UK

Thank you creativeone59. That was exactly my mistake because I gave it all. Take care.


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

I know but we have to try and think of ourselves too in the relationship, it's a two way thing. Thank you Zampano for your support and you comment and feedback. creativeon59


zampano 6 years ago

My dear... It's easyer to say than to do.

That can happen at any age.

Pure crazyness.

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