Double Standard: Fat Women and Thin Women

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In my opinion there seems to be a double standard when it comes to fat women and thin women. I've noticed that lately, and it's been bothering me quite a bit. Just think about, a fat woman can make fun of a thin woman can make fun of a thin woman all she wants, saying how bigger is better and how thin women need to eat more, but when it comes to a thin woman making fun or even talking about fat women, all hell breaks loose, and it pisses me off. I feel that people feel sorry for fat women nowadays, like it's not their fault that their fat, it probably isn't for some but that doesn't give bigger women to talk mess and make bad jokes about thinner women.

This sort of thing is very frustrating to me, I'm thin, I like my size, and I feel that all women should like and embrace their size. However, I'm not about to let some fat woman talk mess to me or about me behind my back just because shes fat and or insecure about her weight, that's just stupid to me. I don't have a problem with fat women, I don't make fun of anybody, but there is a lot of this going on and it's very irritating. If you're fat, then you're fat, plain and simple, don't mad at me because you're fat and I'm thin telling you that you're fat, because it's the truth. If anything you should accept who you are and be happy with yourself.

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MPG Narratives 5 years ago from Sydney, Australia

Welcome to Hubpages kenyawinehouse and you are right, women should be happy with who they are. If you do need any more info about hubbing visit the learning center and enjoy being a part of this great writing community. Cheers Marie, member of hubgreeters team.


XY 4 years ago

I'm sorry, but i don't really share your opinion. I think it's unfair to make jokes about the size of another person,i don't care if a woman is thin or "fat". But in fact, it totally ISN'T okay to say "Oh,well you're fat, your fault. But don't bother me with it." People, especially girls with a little more weight are often bullied by thinner girls. In my opinion, it should be like "think what you want to, but never ever tell it" because it's impolite to tell someone that he or she is fat. Maybe this is a reply to your question why girls/women with a little overweight make jokes about thinner girls: it's just self-defense.


Lee 4 years ago

When I was younger (up until grade 10) I was overweight. Let me tell you that thin girls do PLENTY of bullying: practical jokes, snickers, rude comments, talking behind my back, cow/pig noises. I did my best to ignore it, and thankfully (and surprisingly), most of the males were not as condescending/rude about my weight, so I was able to build friendships with them instead, which got me really interested in sports, which helped me to lose the weight. Personally, I have witnessed similar behaviour in adult men and women as well...go figure.

I agree with XY, no one should judge based on weight/size, whether the person is overweight, thin, or somewhere in the middle. However, I do not think there is a double-standard. People judge when they should not, regardless of size, race, etc.


4 years ago

I'm interested as to why you used the pic you did. Is the girl on the right supposed to be "The fat one?"


4 years ago

What was the purpose of this post? It's rude to make fun of anyone no matter the issue. Just because you are thin, it doesn't mean you have the right to make judgements. I agree with the comments above, weight management is a personal problem for said person to take control of but they are responding back to what people and the media say about them.

The woman on the right of that photo is beautiful, maybe you're the insecure one because you don't have the pleasure of having a womanly figure.

I wouldn't take any advice from a person who can't use proper grammar or form a complete sentence either. You ought to go back and make some corrections in your writing.


alice 4 years ago

I do understand where you're coming from despite the other comments. I'm quite a curvy girl (size 14 uk) because I like to eat! I exercise about 5 times a week and I'm relatively healthy, but I don't like my body, and that's my fault, no one else's. no one is making me eat all the cheese and steak, i just like to. there is definitely a double standard when it comes to this topic though. I was watching an episode of supersize vs. superskinny the other day, and a 30stone woman told a 7 stone woman that she was unhealthy, needed to put on weight and couldn't understand how anyone could get like that. I'm sorry, but if the thin girl had said this to the large girl, it would have been deemed offensive.

I would just like to clarify that I do not think it acceptable to make fun of anybody because of their appearance, but it seems like people can freely, and without consequence, tell a slim/underweight person to put on weight, but cannot tell an overweight person to lose it without some backlash.


me 4 years ago

This is very poorly written.


no name 4 years ago

to be honest children are just mean, its the way of the world. whether they bully you about your weight, colour, height, beliefs or whatever it will always happen. In regards to weight all that matters is that you are healthy. being skinny does not always mean someone is healthy. I do not agree with parent feeding there children junk food and i dont agree with fat or thin women saying skinny is better and fat is fabulous as they both are not. being over weight is a massive health risk and ignoring the problem is not ok and i don't think encouraging people to feel confident when they are to skinny or obese is helping anyone. i think people need to be realistic and look at them selves in the mirror and if they are over weight, think about the future and focus on being healthy. For those who are too skinny they need to realise the strains they are putting on their bodies especially young girls as this will effect them having children and developing properly.


Linda 3 years ago

I'm a professional in the weight loss industry.

I've been working with 65% women for over 27 years.

It is far more often that overweight women criticize others that have nice figures right to their face than the other way around. (I'm not talking about children in school.)

And the men don't have this problem of discussion or insults between them at all.

My over weight clients don't come to me and tell me about all the insults they get, they come to me because they finally are tired of being over weight and unhealthy and are ready to take care of themselves.

In conversations with them it is always how they talk about the thin girl at work that watches what she eats and exercises and how hearing the girl that looks great is worried about her 5lb gain and she needs to get back on track. The over weight women tend to put them down and tell them they are crazy and they are not over weight and they are too thin etc.. When does a slender person need to worry about 5 or 10 lbs? After she or he becomes 50 lbs over weight and then it's a large project?

When over weight women complain about their weight and talk about doing something about it, they get encouragement from others. Why not be supportive and encouraging of a smaller person wanting to keep their weight under control? In my city, Toledo, when people start a fat loss system other women/their friends and co workers tend to help sabotage them. They encourage and taunt junk food, drinking, eating out. They make the person trying to lose weight feel bad because they aren't eating the same crap they used to. Women can be mean and competitive with each other and it knowingly happens all the time at all ages. Not my opinion only. Girls talk about this all the time.

Over all these years, the ladies i work with say that it is an emotional reaction to put down a nice figured girl that is trying to lose some fat just to make themselves feel like it's wrong to keep your weight under control when it's not a large amount like mine is. They tell me that it is uncomfortable to hear others, with nicer figures, complaining about noticing they are getting fatter and need to start eating right and exercising. The ladies know it sounds strange to feel angry about that. They feel guilty for not doing the same thing. They feel like they have let it go for so long that it's just easier to not do anything about it now.

They want to make the other girl feel bad about watching her figure "because I don't watch mine and i want you to get fat like me so i feel comfortable".

" If everyone around me is over weight then i feel good about myself. Even though it's unhealthy and i don't truly/honestly enjoy being fat.

But when i am around nice figured girls i feel guilty, unattractive, frumpy, lazy, jealous. Not because of anything the ladies say but because of how i make myself feel around them. "

This is how female clients discus with me their feelings. Not my opinion.

The girl that made her personal comment about Double Standards, was only explaining how she feels when over weight women say the things they say to her.

The wrest of you replied by not listening. You all became defensive again. She also said that it doesn't bother her when others are over weight. Yet, one or two of you ladies replied as if she was saying she was criticizing over weight women. Stop responding Emotionally.

It would have been smart if a over weight woman said "That's funny, i never realized how putting down a girl that isn't over weight that wants to take care of herself is just as bad as a person that puts down a fat person for not wanting to take care of herself."

No one did that. No one stopped and heard what her point was. With your replies, she was able to prove her point again about how over weight women are so defensive on this subject when written by a Non Overweight woman.

Even questioning the choice of photo she picked for her comment.

Pay attention to the comment and how she feels and her perspective she is writing about. Not trying to find fault read into the photo she picked. Very sad to see this.

Any human being that thinks negative about people that like to exercise, eat healthy, keep their nice looking figure and health for many years, is being defensive and critical of a GOOD THING that your not doing.

Only criticize bad lifestyles and bad habits and bad behavior. Not good habits and good lifestyles and good habits. That just immature.

Now someone will write back and comment defensively and mean and condescending instead of learning and understanding.

Keep in mind, i never said all women do this. Just because you don't do this to other women doesn't mean you have to write and say it. Just try to understand the point of what she originally wrote and look inside yourself to know if you want to better yourself instead of criticize others for telling you something that happens to here.

Most women know that they have double standards in many things but especially with men.

Remember, this is coming from a woman's perspective and dealing with large amounts of women over the years. Not just one persons "Opinion" based on only your singular experience in life.

Also remember that i said this happens between women, not the men.

It's an obvious pattern.


Lacy 3 years ago

This may be the most offensively written article I've ever read.


Jennifer 3 years ago

I am not a child and very happy with my body image. Let me tell yah don't care too many isms and fabricated lies behind these people whom say guys like skinny chicks really ? where ? who ? why ? what?

how much? how many jobs ? how many laws broken? how much will a skinny woman hurt someone emotionally for her own fringe benefit? you all say lets be real well lets be real then ppl have NO right with this social prejudice crap. be it plastic surgery girls with self esteem or any other unrespectable man whom can't get his crap together just to make his flavor of the month happy. Time to stop it America there are new little girls facing puberty whom need to be taught to LOVE themselves and take advantage of their lives. enough!


Mandy 3 years ago

@XY Overweight women insulting or making fun of thin women is "self-defense"? That is the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard! If a thin woman was walking along, minding her own business and an overweight woman started trashing her, you actually have the nerve to say that's "self-defense"? That's just being an insecure bitch no matter who is spitting out the insults.

@Linda +1 for your post. You hit the nail in the head with that one. I'm not in the weight loss business like you but I have personally experienced many of the things that you mentioned and I'm glad that you mentioned them here. Sadly, I don't think many people read it or if they did, they didn't want to accept what you had to say.


Anonymous 3 years ago

I totally agree with the article. I have been thin all my life and have had other women say to me, "You make me sick because you're thin." or "I hate you be cause you're skinny." and "I don't want you hanging around us because you're skinny."

Think about it... if a thin woman were to say to a larger woman, "You make me sick because you're so fat", it would NOT go over well. The thin woman would be thought of as rude, judgmental, vain, and critical.


Porter 2 years ago

that was a bit unneeded ... How about for everybody sake to be healthy ?!nobody feels bad for fat people... Nor skinny nowadays go to middle school and you'll see fat girls don't get any attention if anything they get bullied same with skinny and medium ..

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