EMAIL FORWARDS, THE GOOD THE BAD AND THE UNTRUE

ALL VERIFIED

No need to verify, took it my self, all animals are real and were not hurt during this filming
No need to verify, took it my self, all animals are real and were not hurt during this filming
Any forward with kids or dogs are good!
Any forward with kids or dogs are good!
Beautiful pictures sooth the soul (not photo shopped, you'll just have to take my word for it)
Beautiful pictures sooth the soul (not photo shopped, you'll just have to take my word for it)
Actually appeared on the wall in front of us I need to let snopes know that it was actually caused by a CD and a skylight. LOL
Actually appeared on the wall in front of us I need to let snopes know that it was actually caused by a CD and a skylight. LOL

Email forwards, we all get them. Some of us love them, some of us hate them. Some friends like one thing, some another. Some believe everything, some believe nothing. Some just delete, some read and delete and some send them on. They are as common as flies on a dairy farm and to some people, just as pesky.

The writing of this hub was prompted by a response I received to a forward I sent to a friend. It was about a dog, serving in the war then included the most wonderful thoughts about pets at the end. I LOVED it of course. I am a huge sucker for anything animal. The story said the dog had saved 4 soldiers by ripping the throats out of the guards holding them. I personally could have done without that visual being connected to a loving creature like a dog, but was still glad the dog's loyalty and usefulness were being brought to attention. The words at the end were a “Pet's Ten Commandants” and were so wonderful they make you cry.

I happily sent it on to most of my animal lover friends then received an email back from one of them. She had gone to http://www.snopes.com/snopes.asp to verify the story and found it to be untrue and send the link back to me. This happens often enough it got me thinking about the subject. I have 3 or 4 friends who are obsessed with fact checking emails and doing their best to rid the world of fictitious forwards. I applaud their efforts, but must say I think it is an insurmountable chore so I will leave it to them. http://www.snopes.com/photos/military/brutus.asp

I personally love the funny ones and having been in construction all my life, I rarely get offended by even the most saucy of them, but many of my friends HATE that kind of thing. I also love animal ones and the friendship ones remind me people care, so I like them too. Anything that has a positive message will be forwarded by me. I have been on a “everything positive” kick for a while and really like it, so I have quit forwarding and mostly even reading the political ones.

It has started to be a bit of a challenge to remember who I can forward a particular one to and who I can't, as I have dozens of friends I email. I must remember if it is spicy don't send it to Patty, Jane or Debbie, if it needs verified don't send it to John, Bill, or Regan. If it is Christian don't send it to Diane, Sue or Chris. If it is spiritual but not religious don't send it to....... well you get the idea. I would never intentionally upset anyone but frankly don't have time to sort each and every email into it's appropriate category. This leaves me with only two choices. I can quit forwarding emails, in which case I would quit getting any and I would miss them, or I can just keep asking my friends to be tolerant if I send the wrong thing.

I used to spend extra time verifying every one before sending it on, just to avoid the scolding emails of my fact checker friends. I don't do that anymore. To me it is first, a waste of time. A good example is the “NEW VIRUS THREAT!!” You get a forward warning you of the impending doom your computer will suffer if you open an email with “XXXXXX” in the subject line. OK, I suppose I would want to check out the validity of it if I was expecting an email titled like that, but if not, am I so tempted to open emails from people I don't know that I would click on it anyway? And if the warning was wrong and I avoid clicking on a similar email will I miss winning the lottery or the letter of my million dollar inheritance by NOT clicking on it due to this false information? I think not.

Another reason I quit verifying them is, often I was happy and upbeat after reading the email, but the picking apart of it and finding untruths or bad connections only strips the joy. Why would I keep doing that intentionally? I received one email picturing about 5 piglets with tiger skin looking coats on them and they were asleep a crossed a sleeping tigers side. I thought it was precious! How cute! Well, as usual I sent it on to my friends only to get a sad and heartbreaking letter back from one of them. She had verified the info and found the tiger had raised many piglets and lived in a less than reputable zoo. She said they were using and abusing this as a photo opt to get money for their zoo, yet did not provide for the animals very well. She asked me not to forward anything else.

I was crushed. Not because she didn't want anymore forwards, not because the tiger was an old hand at raising pigs, not even because I was now aware of one more imperfect animal care provider. It was because so many of us let the world and our own actions, rob us of our joy. My heart hurt for her and all of us who are trapped in focusing on the bad things instead of the good ones. Every situation has good and bad. I encourage everyone to embrace good and DON'T GO LOOKING FOR BAD, trust me, it can find you even with out your extra efforts.

My hope is that everyone will lighten up a bit and enjoy the simple things in life. A wonderful picture of animals, a joke that makes you laugh till you cry. The knowledge that your friends all love you. That they send you email forwards to remind you they do, not to upset, anger or offend you. The world is a tough enough place, don't add to it by spending effort and time looking for something bad in everything. If you get a great animal picture smile and open the next email. If you get a virus warning don't fret over whether it is accurate or not, just be thankful for the reminder to be careful what you open, and for the friend who worried about you. If you see something you don't like, delete it!

If you get a forward that says “The world is ending in 2 weeks, help save the planet, please send all your money to sucker.com", you may want to verify that one first! Otherwise, if it isn't hurting anyone, don't look for ways to turn it ugly, just take everything with a grain of salt, learn to relax and enjoy every chance you get and don't pour your energy, emotional well being, or intention into looking for the bad.

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Elena. 7 years ago from Madrid

Hey, human! Long time no see! I'm one of those who finds the "default forward to everyone" pesky, but then again I'm not too bothered by the notion. I just delete most and get to open a few that come from "certified sources", shall we say? That is, people who check what they send and to whom, which is what I do. Then again, like I said, it's no bother to delete a forward, is it? Not really a good reason to get your knickers in a twist, so if somebody feels that way, then I'd say it's their problem more than yours. Oh well. That was my two cents :-)


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1964human 7 years ago from Smallville Kansas Author

Hi Elena, Thanks, it's good to be back. Been on vacation for a couple weeks and still haven't made it home. Having a blast! So I see you are one of my fact checker friends, WARNING: mine aren't verified, DO NOT OPEN! LOL It facinates me that we read magazines, watch TV, read books, listen to the radio, listen to our friends and NEVER verify what we hear, yet put it on the net and it is automatically suspicious and must be verified for accuracy before we can speak of it. I also always wonder who verifies snopes' verifications? Can we be sure the verifications are accurate? LOL Have you ever seen "Wag the Dog" with Dustin Hoffman? LOVE that movie. Probably truer than we would care to think.


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Elena. 7 years ago from Madrid

No no no, human, I don't care about all this verification business with the forwarded emails! Though snopes.com is way cool! Laugh! What annoys me is getting emails that don't interest me in the least, and that were sent to "all my contacts" without the least regard that some of the contacts may not be intested at ALL in "the light of god in my life" type crap. or some such! For me it's not about verification as much as respect! Did that clarify? :-)


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1964human 7 years ago from Smallville Kansas Author

Gosh Elena, I hope I haven't upset you. It really is a bit of a volital subject. Didn't mean any harm, REALLY! It can be annoying and even seem impersonal or unthinking when we receive emails that may not be in alignment with our own beliefs, religious stuff being a prime example. However I completely respect the beliefs of all my friends, and truly appreciate that they are attempting to help me, what ever their method. And it does help me. The content may sometimes not be what I needed, or believe in, but the fact they were thinking about me and wanting good things for me, certainly always is. As you said it is so WAY TOO EASY to just delete what you don't care about, that I would never hold it against my friends if they miss judge, accidentally send, or mass send something that is not tailored just for me. I guess it hurts me a little that this subject is so touchy. Probably why I wrote this in the first place. For me it is a fun, sharing, caring thing but when I face the fact that for many people it is emotionally upsetting, unpleasant, annoying and even hurtful, it takes all the fun right out of it. I suppose in the end I will probably quit forwarding things as my own pleasure is not worth the upset of my friends. I sent the same email to several people one ask me not to send similar ones, one said she laughed till she cried and thanked me for sending it. Ya just never know. Probably best to just not do it, then no one gets upset. I can find pleasure and humor in anything so I will look elsewhere for it.


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MindField 7 years ago from Portland, Oregon

Hey, Sweetie. Okay, just say it, it was I who spoiled your pleasure in the tiger and little piglets. And it utterly breaks my heart now that I did that. You are absolutely right: Stop digging up the bad and simply enjoy an adorable photo. As usual, you teach me so much. Please believe me - I do take it to heart and become a better person for having you in my life.

(Still doesn't mean I want people to start sending me a million forwards, though! ;-)


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tdarby 6 years ago

What great advice--We should all spend more time actively looking for what is good in the world, and rejoice in the good.


Bhavna 6 years ago

HI........


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Jeff May 6 years ago from St. Louis

Usually, only the health-related and political ones need to be fact-checked. I like the jokes, fuzzies, cartoons, pics and so on.


Reagent Kit 5 years ago

This morning I found an article at netmanners.com that echoes many of the ideas above. Check it out! http://www.netmanners.com/email-etiquette/5-rules-...

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