Embrace the Differences: Martians and Venusians Unite


Don’t expect things, because when you do, you set yourself up for disappointment when your expectations aren't met, and when people don’t act in a certain way.

Everyone has different opinions, beliefs, thoughts, views and feelings and they may be similar or different from yours. Be open-minded and don’t expect anything. Alternatively, if you are un-expecting and someone happens to agree with you or act in your favor – well kudos to you and this probably makes you happy.

Relating to this is how to deal with men. If you embrace that they are not from your planet, then you are golden. I’m not saying to treat them like they are an extraterrestrial but just realize that everyone has their uniqueness that makes them who they are.

Martians and Venusians brains are on different things ;)
Martians and Venusians brains are on different things ;) | Source
Learn to understand each others differences and you'll find happiness.
Learn to understand each others differences and you'll find happiness. | Source


Two women have a normal conversation between the two of them by involving both parties equally. They both ask questions and make logical replies. They oftentimes nod their heads in agreement, make eye contact, and show that they are in fact involved in the conversation.

A woman tries having this conversation with a male but the conversation doesn’t last. It’s like he didn’t hear a word she said. His hand may be dug in a bag of potato chips (just my experience) or he may be using his phone to Google a good place to eat for lunch. Then maybe he’ll look up for a second, give her that I-have-no-idea-what-you-just-said, kind of look, make an awkward noise, or say “huh?” Or maybe yours says “ya” without a second thought! I think he may’ve watched Yes, Man one too many times.


Women ask questions such as how do you feel or what do you think? The answers to these questions go deep and are generally not one line responses. In fact they can go on for minutes, hours, days, weeks…you get the picture.

Women enjoy romantic films which they can relate to. They watch the characters onscreen and the situations they are in. They ask endless questions and torture their spouses with the questions they think up from the film. They relate films to real life.

Men don’t question it, they go with it. They don’t choose films that they can relate to, but they choose films that have violence and things blowing up and an attractive female whom they can gawk at. Generally she is totally out of place but men use her as a viable reason for the Venusians to tune in! You see, the purpose of her is to attract female viewers because apparently us women go nuts over seeing Miss Johnansson dance around as Black Widow.

Like when my boyfriend says, "but Emily you’ll love Iron Man, Scarlet Johansson is in it!”

While we question things till’ no end, men watch the same movies till no end. I swear I discover nothing new, no matter how many times I see Jason Bourne run around Russia in the Bourne Series. This is just another difference between men and women.


Women enjoy sentimental, sensitive movies that make us say “awww”. Same with music, we prefer songs that have meaning. Guys may prefer the same songs as us; however, they listen to them for different reasons. I enjoy country music for the tunes but mostly for the lyrics. I listen to different music for the particular mood I’m in and the lyrics drive me to it.

The lyrics draw me in which bring me back to years gone by, places I’ve been, sights I’ve seen, food I’ve devoured, or a place I purchased a vintage shirt. One song can do all that for me. 

A cute lil Martian!
A cute lil Martian! | Source


Men and women are different for sure. Next time you are talking to the other sex and get aggravated or confused, just remember that they are not just a little different from you – they are from an entirely different planet!

Embrace this and try to discover a bit more about the earthling you love but may not know all that much about.


Remember, I’m not a dude, and I am from Venus. These are only my direct observations. Comments in my comment box will be delightfully read and replied to and if you have any observations of your own in-reply to my hub, those will be greatly appreciated too. Remember that we are all different and we all have our idiosyncrasies.


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emilybee 4 years ago Author

Marlene - Men and women are so different, huh! :) Usually thinking about completely different things. Well, that's what makes everyone unique :) Thanks for reading and commenting.

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MarleneB 4 years ago from Northern California, USA

You must have been to my house a few times, because that is exactly how the conversation goes. I love your visuals. Excellent hub!

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emilybee 4 years ago Author

Hi aethelthryth! I agree, it is ridiculous not asking for directions! You can get somewhere in half the time if you ask for help :) The differences between men and women are many, but I guess it's true...opposites do attract..sometimes :) Thank you for commenting and stopping by!!

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aethelthryth 4 years ago from American Southwest

Very much enjoyed this Hub. The Mars-Venus books were my first clue how deep the differences are between men and women. I knew a lot of my friends would never ask for directions, which I thought was ridiculous. Somehow, I had never noticed that all the friends who did that were male!

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Chatkath 5 years ago from California

How true it is Emily! It still amazes me how different men & women are but why fight it, that is just the way it is!?

Congratulations on your nomination and great hub!

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emilybee 5 years ago Author

Gee thanks Denise! =D

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Denise Handlon 5 years ago from North Carolina

Hey Emily-Congratulations on your win!(I voted for you) That's another feather in your cap!

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emilybee 5 years ago Author

Thanks cardelean!

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cardelean 5 years ago from Michigan

Very accurate observations. Great hub and congrats!

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emilybee 5 years ago Author

It is challenging but I find it makes life easier to realize everyone is different from the get-go. Thanks a lot for dropping by FOREX NINJA.

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FOREX NINJA 5 years ago

Congrats Emily,I'm glad to hear from you that you accepted other peoples difference to make life very conducive for them.This serves as a great challenge to me.

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emilybee 5 years ago Author

Hi Denise! Yes I'm still chugging along.. I have about 5 hubs in edit mode right now, I hope to make it in time! Lol thanks for all the support you've been giving me.

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Denise Handlon 5 years ago from North Carolina

Well look at you, Little-Miss-Emilybee-will-be-a-winner!

Congrats on your nomination. Your writing will pay off in the end, won't it, LOL Great job and still going with the challenge????

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emilybee 5 years ago Author

Thanks a lot Pamela for reading and stopping by to comment. Everyones differences and peculiarities make life interesting.

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Pamela99 5 years ago from United States

The differences make life interesting. Your hub is interesting. Congrats on your nomination.

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emilybee 5 years ago Author

Thank you elayne001! True, true, accepting other peoples differences is important and sometimes difficult too.

Thanks mojefballa! I'm glad you liked it.

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mojefballa 5 years ago from Nigeria

Interesting article,well articulated and informative.Thanks bravo for sharing.

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elayne001 5 years ago from Rocky Mountains

So true - we have to accept each other for who we are - not try to change each other (not going to happen!). It has taken many years of trying to figure that one out. Congrats on the nomination.

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emilybee 5 years ago Author

Haha thank you for the comment tenordj. I wrote this hub while thinking of the things that men do that irks women and vice versa and I'm glad you could relate.

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tenordj 5 years ago from Jamestown TN

Excellent Hub...My wife and I always seem to be dead on with your observations. I would almost think you observed us when you wrote this.

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emilybee 5 years ago Author

Thank you Cindy, it's so true you know and just going with the flow of things helps a lot too.

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Cindy2011 5 years ago from Canada's West Coast

Nice piece. The male and female minds are sure different. The older I've gotten in my marriage, the more I have learned to laugh at our responses to things; whereas, when we were younger, I couldn't believe my husband's take on many things.

Congratulations on your nomination.

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emilybee 5 years ago Author

Thanks ripplemaker! Embracing differences is key no matter how wacky some differences are! lol

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ripplemaker 5 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

Embracing the differences is one of the keys to successful relationships! True, true! Congratulations on your Hubnuggets nomination. You can check it all out right here:

The Hubnuggets Links:

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Participate in the Hubnuggets forum: http://hubpages.com/forum/topic/71285#post1552387

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emilybee 5 years ago Author

Thanks ladyjane for stopping by and commenting!

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ladyjane1 5 years ago from Texas

Great information, you wrote an excellent hub here that was very well written. Cheers to you!

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emilybee 5 years ago Author

haha thank you for reading it - I tried to make it so men wouldn't get mad at me for it ! lol

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tgopfrich 5 years ago from Stettler, AB

I just got sucked into that! I have to get my husband to read it hahaha

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emilybee 5 years ago Author

Danette Watt, thanks for pointing that out, it is true I know we all do not like romantic movies. Haha that cartoon is great -thanks for commenting!

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emilybee 5 years ago Author

Cogerson, Haha thanks for that male perspective and I know my boyfriend would agree with you

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Danette Watt 5 years ago from Illinois

You make some good observations here, especially about women and conversations.

My only objection is your generalization that women like romantic movies. Give me the (well written/well acted) action flick I can see on the big screen in all its glory (I like watching Jason Bourne run around Europe). The romcoms I can see on the small screen of my tv and feel I'm not missing anything.

Enjoyed the hub though.

PS - LOVE the cartoon at the top -- so very true!!

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Cogerson 5 years ago from Virginia

Great hub Emilybee, very well written.... I do have to say...if you look at the backgrounds of the Bourne movies...you can see different things each different viewing....its like Where's Waldo...lol.....voted up...keep up the great work...

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emilybee 5 years ago Author

Thanks! Yes today is day #11.

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Denise Handlon 5 years ago from North Carolina

Very nice hub. Well written. You're doing great in the challenge. Is this day #11 for you?

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