Even Normal Guys Can Date Hot Girls

Just say no to shallow girls!
Just say no to shallow girls!

Don't Worry, You Look Fine

Call it the Effect of Celebrity, but everyone these days is insecure about their looks. If you aren’t perfection, clearly you’re ugly. Don’t buy into this. It’s a world full of socialites who would rather chew off a finger before going out in public without fake tanning or consulting their stylist. What this has done though, is make it easier to spot the shallow from the genuine, and this is good news for you men.

Shallow hot girls are great if your favorite activity is staring. Other than that, they’re of no value. You’re missing nothing. But you don’t have to be George Clooney to get attractive girls! The secret to being a normal guy that gets beautiful girls? Know how to spot the ones that aren’t shallow.

Any girl who’s looking for more than just “must have 6-pack” in a man could end up with a normal guy like you. She’s looking for someone she can relate to, someone who’s smart, funny, thoughtful, loving, etc. Luckily, all these are traits that you can improve at (unlike changing the shape of your face or your height). If you have qualities like these to offer, women of quality will notice immediately.

Quality women are the ones that you’re going to end up with long term. The shallow ones may be fun, but all they want is a pretty face to tote around. And quality women aren’t going to dump you if you have back hair!

If you do get rejected from a hot girl, know that she’s probably one of the shallows. Keep trying until you get a good one. And if you still think you’re not hot enough, get your most stylish friend to take you shopping or get a new haircut. There’s always room for improvement, especially if it helps to increase your self-esteem.

The women you want to date aren’t as shallow as you think. And the shallow ones are usually too busy stalking Abercrombie models to give you the time of day. You shouldn’t be so down about your looks. If you need some minor adjustments, she’ll look past them. Nobody is perfect, and you’ll soon see that she feels insecure about certain things too. You might find you have more in common with her than you think.

Trust me, you don't want a shallow relationship.
Trust me, you don't want a shallow relationship.

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kea 7 years ago

Great hub. I agree. I drive an old car, out of choice, and it's always interesting to see what women have to say about it. It's also interesting to see how they react to when I tell them I value experiences over possessions!


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stricktlydating 7 years ago from Australia

Hi there, I'm looking to date a hot guy, and you're right, he doesn't have to look like a model! With just a little grooming Mr Average will catch my eye! If he's neat and tidy, smells nice, and seems friendly, with a little bit of confidence - He'd get me over Mr Muscles, or Mr Supermodel!


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M. Rose 7 years ago from Orange County, CA Author

Thanks for your opinion, stricktlydating! See guys, it is true :)


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rpalulis 6 years ago from NY

Great hub, I personally have always been attracted to natural beauty and I agree I much rather be with someone who is not shallow.


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M. Rose 6 years ago from Orange County, CA Author

Thank you, rpalulis! And I especially thank you for voicing your opinion to show that not all guys want something shallow. Women need to hear that!


Oussama 6 years ago

The best is if you want a boyfriend or something. Do not look at their muscles or anything. just a guy who is normal and nice.


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Sonic241928 6 years ago

Great hub. Thanks for acknowledging the fact that women don't require super-handsome looks all the time. It really gets discouraging, and I think the whole media brainwashing thing affects guys almost as much as it does girls.

And I definitely want a down-to-earth girl. In fact, I prefer an easygoing girl who is introspective and intellectual, but knows how to let loose and have fun on occasion :)


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M. Rose 6 years ago from Orange County, CA Author

Sonic- Thanks for your comment! Glad you enjoyed the article. You've got the right idea...most down to earth girls aren't seeking supermodel looks in a man because they're looking for a lot more than a pretty face. As long as you have substance, confidence and great qualities to offer, you should be good :)


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Sonic241928 6 years ago

Well those are the qualities I'm certainly trying to develop in myself, so I think I'm on the right track!


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M. Rose 6 years ago from Orange County, CA Author

I think you are too, Sonic! Best of luck to you!


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TurtleDog 6 years ago

Ha! There's hope for me yet! Now ....if I could just get out of the penitentiary first.....

...kidding... thanks for the great hub! Voted UP!


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M. Rose 6 years ago from Orange County, CA Author

LOL great comment TurtleDog! And thanks for the voting up :)


Brendon 5 years ago

Always a tough subject for me. I'm just a normal guy who has fallen for a beautiful girl, and wow...it hurts because I think she's into hotter guys.


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M. Rose 5 years ago from Orange County, CA Author

Brendon, that's the problem--what you're thinking may not be true most of the time. Go for it and ask her out! You might be surprised at the outcome. If you don't ask, you'll never know.


Chris 5 years ago

You know, I have honestly as a guy taken the route of not worring about my appearance and embracing who i am, i may be single but im having the time of my life, this hub is great encouragement for those who dont see how they are missing life because they are so worried about their looks and honestly... girls have paid more attention to me because of it : ) if shes not attracted to you, shes not right for you!!!!!!


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M. Rose 5 years ago from Orange County, CA Author

Chris, you rock! Women are most attracted to confidence. Once you stop worrying so much, the girls come around. You gave great advice, thanks for commenting!


kevin 5 years ago

Hey. I'm just a down to earth country boy.... and I'm not looking for a "barbie doll" lol but I would like to have a long term relationship with an attractive girl that loves me for who I am. I wouldn't consider myself ugly, but I'm not a supermodel either. And it seems unfortunately that the only girls that are attracted to me are girls I'm not attracted to. I don't mean to be shallow! Should I just settle for what I don't really want or what??


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M. Rose 5 years ago from Orange County, CA Author

Kevin: No I absolutely don't believe you should settle for what you don't want. It is possible that you're setting your standards too high OR you're not going after the girls you ARE attracted to. Either way, go after what you want. But also remember there's a lot more to women than just their looks. Thanks for your comment.


Paul 5 years ago

I am an average looking, slightly less than average height guy and I have asked out several very attractive women and not one responded positively. I tried your advise after reading this about a year ago and find that the attractive women are just into hotter guys. Infact I asked a couple of the women why they did not respond in kind and they all told me the same thing, they are into taller guys and I just was not their type.

What do I do?


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M. Rose 4 years ago from Orange County, CA Author

Paul, if I may be honest for a second...it's highly possible that a) your game isn't as good as you think it is or b) you're overreaching in your quest for an attractive woman. Are the women you're asking out "supermodel attractive?" Most of those women are going to want to date guys who are supermodel attractive as well. Let's be real: I can have all the self-esteem in the world, but that doesn't mean Leonardo DiCaprio is going to date me. Ya know what I'm saying? Check your standards real quick and make sure you're not shooting for women that are WAYYYY more attractive than you. If you are gonna go for women like that, you've gotta have some amazing game to back it up and make up for the fact that you're not as attractive as they are.


Paul 4 years ago

Hi Rose,

No I am not after supermodel type of women. Just women that are attractive say 6,7 to 8 range who are smart and cool. No bimbos. You seem to contradict what you wrote earlier "The women you want to date aren’t as shallow as you think." I find that the 6 to 8 range are shallow and even more shallow than I ever anticipated. My "game" if you will is not bad, not great, not el sucko , but not bad. I can tease, converse with the best of them but women just seem to want better looking me.

I understand that hot women want to date hot men and its because they can. Understand completely but again I am not going for that level so again, what do I do?


Paul 4 years ago

In addition you seem to contradict your self even more after thinking about it. Your head line is "Even normal guys can date hot girls" yet you are telling me they can not...or are you saying its normal good looking guys or normal average guys? I am a normal average guy so are you saying I cannot date a hot woman? I understand that hot women can date who they want. I am confused here...


Feli 4 years ago

With what someone said up there that girls that wanted to be with him weren't quite attractive well the guy I'm after is the picture perfect guy no he's not attractive does someone like me who actually may think I'm kinda attractive going after a nonattractive guy make me unattractive because I've always been a Personality girl I can count on one hand all my exs I'm a senior in highschool I don't think I'm shallow I've turned down a guy that wants to be with me like 3 times lately because I want to be with my best friend


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M. Rose 4 years ago from Orange County, CA Author

Paul: I had a feeling I was going to get a comment like that back because I wrote a very simplified comment back to you, so I apologize for being briefer than I should have been. What I wrote before was basically just me finding reasons why perhaps these women were saying no to you. I do believe that it's possible for normal guys to date hot girls. Especially if you can show them you have something awesome to offer (why I mentioned your "game" in the first place). But just because it's possible doesn't mean that it'll happen in every situation. Like you said, some attractive people are really shallow. Not all of them are. The more women you talk to, the more likely you are to find one that's not as shallow. I mean hey, you said you don't like bimbos, so you wouldn't want to date those shallow women anyway! Keep at it, buddy. Keep working on your game, keep working on yourself. Don't give up. There's a beautiful girl out there for you. You just gotta find her!

Fall: Thanks for sharing, I appreciate you taking the time to comment.


Rudy Mueller 4 years ago

If is a hope for me, I don't see it? I don't get it, I am a fun guy, not jealous, easy, romantic but can't get a sexy women to be my love care and partner, tell me what's wrong with me????

mueller49@aol.com


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M. Rose 4 years ago from Orange County, CA Author

Rudy Mueller- Maybe you need to work on your flirting skills and overall game. It's hard to express to a woman when you meet her that you're fun, romantic, not jealous, etc. if you don't have the skills to express this to her in a few minutes. Try reading some material about how to talk to women and work on your communication skills. Best of luck to you.

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