Everybody Hurts Sometimes

Yes, Occasionally I Do Veer Away From Politics

Sometimes it takes longer to write about some things than others. Such is the case with hurt and the scars that it leaves on your soul. REM originally cut the track that fits this Hub. But I prefer the Joe Cocker version for the depth of the man's soul.

We all have our demons and personal experiences that have cut to the quick. We have all been accused, used and spit out more than once. I know in the long run it has made me a stronger person though, during those times, the torment seemed unbearable. It wasn't the torment of another but the torment of the realization that I was as responsible as the person I was having to experience that hurt with.

I've interspersed three songs for your listening pleasure. Some may want to linger and read this more than once. Others just read slowly :)

So Lets Listen Along My Friends...

I wonder about people sometimes. We all have experienced, at one time or another, our personal version of hell on earth. If you haven't then you haven't been living. I recently had someone I cared about tell me, "You don't know the hell I have been through." Really? I thought to myself, and actually had to comment back to that, "Do you think you have a corner on the 'hell market?" I wasn't asking that cruelly but realistically. I can probably call your hell and raise you a great deal of misery. It's one of those things where a person might be better off not to feel sorry for themselves.

As the song itself says, "If you think you've had enough then hang on." You probably haven't. experienced it all yet if you think about it. The test of myself is how I recover from those things that I am dealt in life. That's the true test of a person. What did you learn and then what did you do about it and with it? This is one of those subjects that when your soul starts in on the writing there is no telling where the journey will lead.

There is another side of me and it's called "Me." I will let you see that person if I think you will be gentle with that person. No one likes to be roughed up or blamed for what happened to you in the past if they had nothing to do with it,. Most of the time we probably weren't even observers. It is what it is and is often best left alone. Is it in the here and now?

Do you care enough to let someone know when they might be about to make an error in life or place themselves or you in harms way? An even better question might be are you prepared to take the resulting flack when you tell someone you think is a friend something they don't really want to hear because it doesn't fit their model of reality? Or deflect it as if it doesn't fit them even though it does? Might it sometimes be better to say, ""I love you for who you are and not who I want you to be?"

There is fair weather love and most of us know that. It's there for your convenience when the sky is blue and everything is most copacetic. But going back to the theme song - everybody hurts. Will you be there when that occurs? It's easier to run away now, isn't it?

I Believe! Do You?

Yes my friend stepping into the unknown can be a bit unnerving.. But it can prove to also be exhilarating and rewarding if you have the faith that there are those around you to catch you if you fall. Let those who really care about you become your net. While at the same time recognizing who those people are.

Lord of mercy don't see things differently than a person who has crept up on you sideways and entered your life. Having a disagreement with such a person makes it seem like you killed the Pope on an off day. Guess what? People have disagreements everyday and how you handle them shouldn't result in a mountain appearing where there was previously a mole hill on the horizon. What makes me scratch my head is when the side slinger makes it so obvious that it is intentional. That just makes it worse.

What can be even more exasperating is when that particular person says he/she is your "friend." so they take you to the woodshed and after the raking you over the coals they think that might be possible? Really? There are people who collect "friends" and the reality of the situation is that they, in most cases, are collecting acquaintances. Your true friends don't come at you sideways because they have no need to do so. They will tell you what you need to hear and not what you want to hear. Those people are rare and you need to embrace them and not push them away.

We've All Been Here One Time Or Another?

The saying above is what Joe is singing about. No, you're not alone. When you think you've had too much of this life, please hang on. We all do cry. Some more openly than others but we all do it in our own way. At other times it is best to sit, look the other person in the eyes and tell them what they need to hear. If they listen then it just might make a difference.


I can be as hard as woodpecker lips. I know this. But at all times I try to be as fair as I can possibly be. And you? The bottom line is that at those times you know that I have your back and you are supposed to have mine. If you think this is about you then search your soul as to why.


So now I let my soul rest for a spell. Just something I needed to say to the world. Maybe to you too? Enjoy the closing song. You see, "Everybody hurts and none of us have a corner on that market."

I can only ask that you share this as there are many who might need to know this about themselves and others. Peace be with you...


Some might find it hard to comment but maybe you should.


As Always,


The Frog Prince

Let Someone Touch Your Soul and Hope They'll Be Gentle As They Do...

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Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

The Frog Prince? Frog Prince! This is beyond awesome!!! Wow, I really love this hub. This is my kind of hub. I like it when you change it up a bit.

Voted Way UP and sharing

God bless. In His Love, Faith Reaper


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The Frog Prince 3 years ago from Arlington, TX Author

Faith Reaper - Thank you and I have this other side you see. They're in my library. I've been here a while and sometimes give you a different look but still a real look.

TFP


Naomi's Banner 3 years ago

Wow! I have seen another side to you my friend. A beautiful side although a painful side. Yes, you touched me with this one. Your message is so real, so true. Loved the song by the way. Thanks so much for sharing a piece of your pain and another side of "you" like this. Very well written. You amaze me at times. God bless!


Pamela.. 3 years ago

Just know always I am a soft place for you to fall..and at the end of the tunnel I want to always be there for you, my frog prince, my friend, and many more things inbetween..Love..Me...


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The Frog Prince 3 years ago from Arlington, TX Author

Naomi - A diamond can have many facets. This isn't about my pain necessarily because I can endure a lot and have done so. I have to sometimes step back and wonder about the human condition when we deal one on one with other people. It isn't always necessarily about you or me individually. Sometimes when it comes down to the nitty gritty it should be about us collectively. When it isn't I do wonder why dear friend.

I do appreciate people commenting here because it is important to me to know how you see some of this.

Pamela - You've been a friend of mine for years and I value you. Thank you.

TFP


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poetvix 3 years ago from Gone from Texas but still in the south. Surrounded by God's country.

This is a side I have not seen. It takes courage to open up like this. I can only say for what it's worth, no one is perfect. Yet, God made his children in his own perfect image. The heart that strives to overcome that which is flesh is blessed, and if not perfect yet because what is mortal flesh can never be perfect, certainly it is to be so in the hereafter.


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The Frog Prince 3 years ago from Arlington, TX Author

poetvix - Hon, I've never been accused of being a coward :) I am far from perfect and I try to let people who care to know me have that information upfront. God did make me in his own image but I am imperfect. It's up to me to strive during the course of my life to be the best I can be. Where it will lead is an unknown but on I go.

Jim

AKA The Frog


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Angela Blair 3 years ago from Central Texas

Hey Froggy -- you and I are on the same page about friends that have your back and acquaintances -- count me in as a friend, please. Best/Sis


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The Frog Prince 3 years ago from Arlington, TX Author

Angela - I know and you are.


SAD IN MINNESOTA 3 years ago

My green eyes are once again crying, and I'm so tired of crying. "Often the test of courage is not to die, but to live." Vittorio, Conte Di Alfieri Y


Stu 3 years ago

The hurt of life can be unbearable. I spent almost my entire childhood with a schizophrenic mother, and an absentee father. He couldn't handle home life, so he worked 12 hours a day, and when home buried himself in scotch and fiction novels, so I couldn't talk to him. My mother was so crazy by the time I was about five I was scared to get near her. The only "filler" in all this was the nightly argument between the two of them, which lasted about two hours and had me cowering in my bed with my heart beating like crazy until they stopped. Since my mother was paranoid too, I was trapped at all times inside the house, as she thought I might get killed if I didn't stay inside under her watchful eye, even though she never watched me. She didn't even care that I was there. Sadly, the scars are very deep, and they'll never heal. But thanks for posting this thread. It's good to have an outlet to say these things.


Ghost32 3 years ago

Frog: You called it, Jim. One of my all time favorite (and no doubt revealing) poems is "Invictus" by William Ernest Henley:

Out of the night that covers me,

Black as the Pit from pole to pole,

I thank whatever gods may be

For my unconquerable soul.

In the fell clutch of circumstance

I have not winced nor cried aloud.

Under the bludgeoning of chance

My head is bloody, but unbowed.

Beyond this place of wrath and tears

Looms but the Horror of the shade,

And yet the menace of the years

Finds, and shall find me, unafraid.

It matters not how strait the gate,

How charged with punishments the scroll

I am the master of my fate:

I am the captain of my soul.

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Voted Up and Beyond.


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alanlsg 3 years ago from The World

Frog Prince

This is truly an awesome hub of reality and like you I love Joe Cocker, that man has soul and feeling deep down in his voice and singing.

Thanks for sharing and may the Lord go with you as you pass along this way.

Voted up, awesome, beautiful and interesting and the depths that you conney in this are fascinating.

Kindest regards

Alan


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The Frog Prince 3 years ago from Arlington, TX Author

SAD IN MINNESOTA - The true test of courage is to live. It's called get up, dust your froggy little behind off and move forward. Thanks for the verse.

Stu - It's my pleasure to be able to provide an outlet for people to maybe bare their soul and do some healing themselves. Your observation about your scars is interesting to me. I have them on my soul too. Some are old and some are relatively new but they're there I mentioned the other side of me being me. That's my soul side and I do let people in there where the scars are. That sometimes doesn't turn out well depending on the person. I've met people intent on opening those old wounds and using them for their own purposes. Those are mine and I sure don't appreciate it when that is done to me. We've known each other for quite a while now and I appreciate you.

Fred - That's a wonderfully penned poem. It should be read more than once to gain a full appreciation of the depth of which it speaks. Thanks for the inspiration.

Thanks Alan. I'm known for my love of music and dance. Hope things are well for you in England. Cheers!


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marcoujor 3 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

Whenever I have felt lowest, I have heard the gentle croaking of a frog...

OK, well sometimes, not so gentle, but always sensible! And he has 'most' excellent taste in tunes...

and the feline is most mutual. This is beautiful and so are you, Jim.


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breakfastpop 3 years ago

Thanks for letting me see this side of you. It is the friends that I have had since childhood and a few I met since that I trust and appreciate. They would and have crawled under the covers with me when I was so frightened or sad that I couldn't move. I would do the same for them. This is an awesome piece of writing that I may read over and over again.


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The Frog Prince 3 years ago from Arlington, TX Author

Maria - Sometimes I just have to put things out there in plain English. The truth isn't always pretty. Some want to sugar coat it but I'd rather not. Ribbit, ribbit, ribbit???

BPOP - Those under the covers friends are rare, as they should be. You used a key word there and it is "trust." I usually trust until I'm given a reason not to. It leaves me vulnerable at times but that's the way I deal with life and people.

The Frog


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RealHousewife 3 years ago from St. Louis, MO

Frog - you are really a prince. It's articles like this that surprise me about you - you're intelligent and politically informed but you also have a great sense of humor and heart. Gotta love that....


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KT Banks 3 years ago from Texas

Somehow, I already know this side of you. As great as this hub is, it doesn't surprise me at all. I know you to be a very caring and deep individual. I'm glad that now others can feel it as well. I love the music you included too. Really perfect for right here, right now... Thank you!

XXOO


kim sawyer 3 years ago

really enjoyed this!! Helped me alot. Hope you are well!!!


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The Frog Prince 3 years ago from Arlington, TX Author

RHW - Now don't go to getting me to blushin' LOL

KT - Thanks for your kind words. I do love my music and it helps me to deal with life in a particular way.

Hi Kim. Thanks for taking the time to read and whatever help the words can give to you I'm happy to help.

The Frog Prince


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Annie Miller 3 years ago from Wichita Falls, Texas

I am overcome. Beautiful Hub and your choice of music ... well, I'm overcome. Thank you.


David Vines 3 years ago

Thanks for such a honest post. I am so proud to call you friend. We are back to Houston tomorrow and hope to catch up with you for some BBQ and a beer soon.

David


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TexasLadyJuanita 3 years ago from Kemah, TX

When I heard Warsaw Concerto, by Richard Addinsell the first time, I cried, the music was the language telling my life’s story (up to that point in time). That was the first time I understood that music is a language. When we add the words, it can almost be overpowering at times.

Roberta Flack, ‘Killing Me Softly’ was a song my Mamma dearly loved. When I hear it, I think of her (she is with the Lord now), and cry. I understood why she loved it, and so I love it for her and for me. I do feel bad for those that are so cloaked, they no longer feel honestly – nor can they deal honestly with what others feel. When faced with heartache and life’s challenges, she and I chose different solutions. We are unique souls, and no two are alike. I can understand her choices, and perhaps because of my perspective of her choices, I was able to choose better.

For all of these things I know, and feel, I am deeply thankful. My story has been such a happy ending from being peppered with so much tragedy. I am the girl who got to live happily ever after. Reversal of fortune and opportunity due to permanent health disability has not even dented the happiness and joy. I am so blessed.

http://youtu.be/-FnuD-8m70Y Warsaw Concerto

http://youtu.be/O1eOsMc2Fgg Killing Me Softly

Gosh, I haven't piped in - in a very long time. Due to a friend turning me on to vitamin infused products that athletes use, I am coming out of the health hole I had been spiraling into over a year. The Lord is faithful. God Bless Prince man.


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Elani-Lee 3 years ago from Los Angeles

Beautiful Frog Prince, and so eloquent. Thank you for sharing this side of yourself. There is a lot or realism here that I would hope more people will understand.


Stu 3 years ago

Frog - You're probably right that letting people in where the scars are is the best solution, as long as you choose them carefully. It's just so hard to even go there myself that this wouldn't be easy for me. It's not hard talking about the facts. I think what's difficult is that the brain wants to repress the emotions associated with the scar. This is why its so hard to heal.

Sad in Minnessota - I'm obviously not the best authority on this, but another saying applies, whether you are crying over something someone did to you or your own mistake: "Failure is not the opposite of success, giving up is" (Chuck Norris). I always liked this motto.


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida

Frog, finally you have hit a chord to which I can relate and comment. I, too, recently posted a hub about some of my hurts of which most people on HP were unaware. It's about rape and my personal story.

Yes, everybody hurts and everybody gets hurt. But the magic is in your soul and how you choose to feed that soul. With anger? Regret? Meanness? Or love, strength and compassion?

I love seeing your soul and having it scream loud enough to find space on this page.

Now, I can relate to you....


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida

Frog, I'm going thru the music now and dancing on my wings. I can't believe you know Phoebe Snow! Phoebe Snow raised a mentally impaired child on her own and still managed to make a career with her voice.

Do you know Janis Ian? If not, look her up. She sings about being the ugly duckling all her life and being rejected, but she turned that into a positive through her music.


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The Frog Prince 3 years ago from Arlington, TX Author

bravewarrior - Once upon a time I was a hippie back when. As I grew up, I became a conservative when I began to have to raise a family and take on responsibility. I also spent a 23 year career in the US Army. I have never lost my love of music and yes, I know Janis Ian. I hope you enjoyed the music as much as I do.

The Frog Prince


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida

Interesting. If you get the time check out my hub "Rape - Forging Ahead".

BTW, I'm an Air Force Brat!


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The Frog Prince 3 years ago from Arlington, TX Author

bravewarrior - If look at the comments on your Hub I have previously been there. I do read and comment.

The Frog


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b. Malin 3 years ago

What a Beautiful and Heartfelt Hub, Froggy...And yes, we've all been there, and know how it feels...especially if you've lived LONG enough.

I loved Joe Cocker, and had I been able to go to Woodstock, I would have loved to hear him him sing... his deepness... went to your soul.

I'm voting across the board on this Hub, dear Friend...You're the BEST!


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sunflowerforests 3 years ago from The light in the forest of doubt.

You wrote a very inspirational message here. Thank you for that. Blessings to you.


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The Frog Prince 3 years ago from Arlington, TX Author

Thank you sunflowerforests and welcome to Hub Pages.

The Frog Prince


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CreatePerfection 3 years ago from Beautiful Colorado

Frog Prince,

This is such a great, heart-felt article. We do all hurt sometime and how we deal with those times in our lives says much about us, personally. I really appreciate what you have said here and have voted it up and awesome. Great music too!

Blessings,

Lela


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MartieCoetser 3 years ago from South Africa

Indeed: “We all have our demons and personal painful experiences. We have all been accused, used and spit out more than once.”

But only MOST of us became stronger.

We will certainly not show our real Self to any Dick, Tom and Harry. All people are vulnerable, all people hurts, but all people are not kind and empathic. Some are even downright rude and cruel, and even while hurting never able to change for the better.

Frog, this is a beautiful and most thought-provoking hub. I agree with you, those ‘blind’ people obsessed with their own hurt are a pain in the a.s. If I have a choice, I prefer any other kind of hurt.

I hope I have your back :)


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The Frog Prince 3 years ago from Arlington, TX Author

Martie - Thank you and I have used mine to strengthen myself. I look for people who have my back. Thanks.

TFP


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Kathleen Cochran 2 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

Sorry I missed this one first time around, but it is perfect for the holiday season. Merry, Prince!


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Jackie Lynnley 2 years ago from The Beautiful South

Well I actually am not surprised at this side of you, and you have always been a friend to me, maybe not under this name...but...you and Writer David, comrades. True blue. Hope he is well?


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GusTheRedneck 2 years ago from USA

Sure enough, Froggie, a little watery stuff running down the cheeks might indicate that the eyes just got a good cleaning. Your article reminded me of the guy I met up with when I worked as a bedpan commando at night in the hospital. That was when I was still fizzy-cheeked at age 17. Both his legs were amputated and he wanted to enlist in the USAF to become a tail gunner on a B-17/29. He said that they'd take him back in because they could load more ammo in there with him. Probably should have misted up a tad, but what he said made me laugh and feel happy to have met up with him, sure enough. Maybe he read your article before you wrote it.

Gus :)

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