Faces of Domestic Violence – “Precious” the Movie

Part 3

“Precious” the movie is part 3 of a series that is dedicated to the Faces of Domestic Violence. In part 1 of this series I began telling my friend Sara’s story that involved emotional and verbal abuse that began with Eli’s mother who yelled and screamed at Eli and his Dad. Eventually this domestic abuse began its vicious cycle and transitioned from Eli be abused by his Mom to Eli abusing Sara, his wife. Part 2 presented celebrity faces that everyone recognizes that have survived domestic violence and have moved forward to lead productive lives away from their abusers.

Now part 3 is being written as a cry and plea for everyone not to forget about Domestic Violence and it “real life” victims. “Precious” the movie, is a film about domestic violence that is based on the novel called “Push” which was published in 1996 and written by an author named Sapphire. Perhaps you have not heard about this movie or the book therefore, I am providing you will a clip of the movie below.

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Mo'Nique as Precious's MomMale Nurse & PreciousPrecious & Teacher
Mo'Nique as Precious's Mom
Mo'Nique as Precious's Mom
Male Nurse & Precious
Male Nurse & Precious
Precious & Teacher
Precious & Teacher

The Movie Critics, Media, and Oscars

Many movie critics are predicting that both the comedian Mo’Nique,who plays Precious’s mother (pictured above) and the lead actress Gabourey Sidibe, who plays Precious, and Paula Patton, the teacher should be nominated for Oscars for their performances.

Gabourey Sidibe a newcomer, along with many of the other stars has been interviewed by ABC, NBC, and numerous other networks and media; which is simply fantastic. However, I have been disappointed that these interviews have not taken an extra minute to refocus everyone on what this movie represents – the problems of domestic violence. Domestic Violence is a beast that must be brought out in the open and demolished.

Precious and Domestic Abuse

While watching this movie you realize that the 16 year old character named Claireece “Precious” Jones is probably in the worst fate possible within a family of domestic violence. She was impregnated twice by her father; her mother physically abuses her and calls her illiterate; while others laugh and tease her about being overweight. Precious like many others that have been abused goes through the phases of attempting to adjust and deal with her present situation.

When being abused by her father she dreams and envisions that she is being loved by her fantasized “light-skinned” boyfriend that loves her dearly. When being abused by her mother, Precious day-dreams of being a famous movie star and sometimes imagines herself as a white girl that is giddy, happy, and without a care in the world. Sadly, for real life victims I would imagine that dreaming of a better life is utilized as a means of coping with the ugly environment that is surrounding them.

Hype and Controversy

It has been written that some critics within the black community are offended because they believe this movie is exploitative, or suggests that all black women are like Precious and or her Mom. Personally, I challenge everyone not to get in the hype of what Precious is or is not representing of the black community. I’ve seen articles that have chosen to debate culture, environment, and stigmatism instead of the real issue of Domestic Abuse. Numerous friends saw the movie and the only comment was that they didn’t feel it was a movie for teenagers. Of which, I beg to differ. Statistics show that 1 out of 3 teenagers have experienced domestic violence or know someone who is experiencing it.

So the purpose of this hub is to take the light off the Stars in the movie and place the spot light back on the true problem - Domestic Violence. The mostly star casted movie will get plenty of reviews and time in the spot lights. The debates of whether or not it portrays a positive image of the black community will receive its lime-light, as well. But, what about more media coverage and taking a stance on the problem that no one really wants to discuss and that is the Domestic Violence. “When are we as the human race going to stand up and place a spot light into the eyes of this deep dark demon of a monster that no one wants to face and no one has so far addressed with sound solutions?,” asks the cry and plea of this hub.

Domestic Violence and Domestic Abuse

Domestic Violence and Domestic Abuse transcends ethnicity it does not exist because of the color of someone’s skin; moreover, it exists within all countries and all social levels of wealth. In Precious’ situation she was being abused by everyone that was supposed to love, nurture, and take care of her. While many teenagers suffer abuse via boyfriend or girlfriend relationships, many children are physically, emotionally, and sexually abused by a parent, guardian, and or other relatives. Here are some astounding statistics on domestic abuse involving young women that are 14 to 24 years of age:

  • Women ages 16 to 24 experience the highest rates of intimate violence – nearly 20 percent of every 1000 women within this age group.
  • Approximately, 1 out of every 3 high school students and 1 in 5 college females has been or will be involved in an abusive relationship.
  • Every 40 out of 100 teenage girls between the ages of 14 to 17 know someone who has been hit or beaten by their boyfriend.
  • 60 percent out of a survey of 500 young women were involved in an ongoing abusive relationship.
  • 68 percent of raped young women know their attacker either as a boyfriend, friend, or casual acquaintance.

Common clues that indicate a teenager may be experiencing domestic violence:

  • Physical signs of injury
  • Truancy, dropping out of school
  • Failing grades
  • Indecision
  • Changes in mood or personality
  • Use of drugs/alcohol
  • Pregnancy
  • Emotional outburst
  • Isolation

Attitude and Dealing with Life's Blows...

Find Courage to Stop the Abuse…

If you have no knowledge of domestic violence, the movie Precious will make you think, cry, soul search, and or literally leave you speechless.  My advice is to see it on a day that you can do something positive after the movie in order to stay grounded and remain in a positive state of mind.  The actors are so good that you could easily slip into a mood of being depressed for Precious as well as yourself if one is not careful. My family and I went home, cooked a meal together, shared our thoughts about the movie, and any “real life” situations that were bothering us as a means of “debriefing” ourselves.

If you or someone you love is being abused; I challenge you to find the courage to stop the abuse cycle.  Find the courage to stop the violence if not for you; then do it for the sake of other loved ones that maybe involved in the volatile environment.  The only way to break the domestic abuse cycle is to remove you and your loved ones from the abuser’s attack. It is never advisable to physically fight the abuser who is most likely stronger than what you are; however, you can begin to mentally fight to leave and separate yourself from the abuser.  Set a goal and develop a plan of action towards improving your situation.  You do not have to do this alone; seek help from family, friends, and the hotlines provided here and on the other hubs listed.  Change and fear of the unknown are powerful deterrents, so it is important to stay focused on the fact that you are an individual that deserves so much more out of life.  

As the Curtain Closes on the Movie...

As the curtain closes on Precious the movie, remember that domestic violence is real. It is a beast that knows no one color or gender. If you are being abused seek help just as Precious did. The world is your oyster if you can move pass the abuse...

If Someone is Being Abused - Get Help...

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rmcrayne 7 years ago from San Antonio Texas

Those Precious movie clips are quite powerful. I even viewed a couple more YouTube clips. I always say, it ain't Ward, June and the Beav out there in the real world.

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Money Glitch 7 years ago from Texas Author

This is so true rmcrayne! After researching domestic violence for the HubMob topic a few weeks ago; I went to see this movie with the intention of producing a hub about it. I guess you could say, it's my way of letting people know, that as you said "it ain't Ward, June, and Beav" anymore.

Which is really sad; individuals should not have to suffer at the hand of a "loved one".:( Including this one the HubMob produced 49 hubs on Domestic Violence. My hopes are that these will help someone through their bad situation. Thanks for stopping by and commenting!

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rmcrayne 7 years ago from San Antonio Texas

I'm sending you a link of an interview with Precious and the teacher (actors). The young man interviewing was saying that this movie was so powerful, he had no words to describe his experience and was wondering if the actors felt the same.

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Money Glitch 7 years ago from Texas Author

Thanks so much Rose Mary, you're a precious jewel as always! I appreciate your help, I've added the clip at the end as a word of encouragement. Thanks, again!

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habee 7 years ago from Georgia

I cannot wait to see this movie. It hasn't been here yet - hope it comes! Thanks for the review and info!

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Money Glitch 7 years ago from Texas Author

You're welcome Habee! Just take someone with you to see the movie, you will want to talk about the movie once it is over.

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myawn 7 years ago from Florida

I ant to see this movie it sounds enlightning. I know abuse can happen to anyone.

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Money Glitch 7 years ago from Texas Author

Yes Myawn, it is sad that someone you love resorts to being abusive. I never knew how much until I started my research for this hub and my other Faces of Domestic Violence hubs!

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Darknlovely3436 7 years ago from NewYork

great information,

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Money Glitch 7 years ago from Texas Author

Thanks Darknlovely, for the read and comments. It's nice to meet you!

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samboiam 6 years ago from Texas

Thank you for this hub. The reality of domestic violence needs to be kept in the forefront.

Just wanted you to know I have linked this hub to my latest hub "Stop Violence Against Women"

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Money Glitch 6 years ago from Texas Author

Thanks so much samboiam, I agree with you and I appreciate you providing a link on your hub. :)

serhg 6 years ago

I wish I can be someone of help to those who feel helpless and unwanted. It's really not true...

If I get to know somebody like this girl, I think we'd become good friends.

It's really saddening to see domestic violence occur, especially to children who need most love and help.

Thank you for videos.

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Money Glitch 6 years ago from Texas Author

Hi serhg! Unfortunately, domestic violence happens everyday around us. I think one important point of this movie was to bring awareness that domestic violence does occur in all cultures, and that if you do have an opportunity to help someone, to do so. Thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts and commenting. Namaste! :)

Msgracie 6 years ago

This movie took and put me in so many moods and ways. I laughed a lot and even held back the tears of crying. You cheer for her you become wrapped and involved with her. Anything that Precious did right or wrong, like stealing the chicken, you supported her 100% the entire theatre was cheering for her! Well, I'm glad you wrote this article about child abuse and the effects that it has on people.

Just a side note, regarding the movie trailer/interview, I felt so much like Paula Patton wanted to be scene. Her attitude and she kept talking it was like don't forget about me being in this film and "I'm the more accomplished acting feeling." That bothered me a bit, she was showing some jealousy and even mentioning WHEN I DID OTHER FILMS...Just me observing her, wondering what you thought of her?


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Money Glitch 6 years ago from Texas Author

Yes, I agree that Paula definitely was attempting to remind everybody that she was an experienced actress. Probably because everyone kept talking about Mo'Nique and Gabourey. Thanks Msgracie for stopping by and sharing your thoughts about Precious - The Movie. :)

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SEXYLADYDEE 6 years ago from Upstate NY

Great hub and so on point. I am publishing a domestic volence hub and wanted to research other hubs to link to mine. Yours is so very well written and I love how you constantly point out where the real focus should be. I will continue to be one of your fans. Dee

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Money Glitch 6 years ago from Texas Author

Thanks SexyLadyDee for stopping by for a read and comments. :)

Stephoni Ha 6 years ago

Thanks for posting this up. I truly appreciate it. I'm a survivor of domestic violence from my psychotic family. This along with psychotherapy, medications, exercise, and working on moving away from the household (root cause of the mental, physical, and emotional abuse)is helping. Thanks for the really informative, clear, succinct, and concise article. :D

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Money Glitch 6 years ago from Texas Author

Hi Stephoni, thanks for stopping by and sharing your story. I'm glad to hear that you are seeking your greatness instead of allowing a bad circumstance to hold you down. Wishing you the best and much success as you continue on life's journey. :)

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