Female Worship

The idea of worshiping women and lifting them on a pedestal higher than anything else in humanity is certainly not new. Many men seem to gravitate towards thinking of women as something divine that they must worship and look up to. Today however this female worship has an entirely new meaning in the context of gender equality and feminism and I want to take a look at it more closely.

Firstly, like the term god complex, the term female worship is not a formal medical term that you’ll find in textbooks. That doesn’t mean it has no meaning but that meaning is taken from the people using it with regard to the context. Having made that distinction I want to call female worship the pattern of behavior that leads men in particular to treat a woman or sometimes all women undeservedly as something greater than human. The key word here is undeservedly. Of course, treating anyone as greater than human is not good because it's obviously false. But what makes female worship stand out is that there seems to be no real connection between the woman’s true virtues and the worship that she receives from men. She is just worshiped for being a woman. I call it undeserved because being female is no more a virtue than being male. As blatantly obvious as that sentence may be, it’s amazing how many men can’t seem to get away from female worship and don't even want to.

Why do men worship women?

Of course not all do. Even among heterosexual men, the worshiping ones are in the minority I would say. But still there are so many that you could call it a societal mass phenomenon. There are several causes for this:

  1. One cause is surely the biological attraction to females and the rush of hormones that can make men (temporarily) lose their minds. This explains why female worship is usually aimed at young beautiful women rather than any woman. I’m just analyzing here so please try to not get upset yet.
  2. A boy’s relationship with his mother probably plays the most important part in later female worship. But what kind of relationship exactly brings this about escapes me. If anyone has more information on this please fill me in.
  3. The upbringing and schooling in a culture that treats women and girls as the ‘special sex’. For example, women’s lives are typically treated as inherently more valuable than men’s. This is so ingrained in our society that we don’t even notice it. It just seems normal which is why there isn’t more protest when people call out “women and children first” in an emergency. Again, I’m just telling it the way it is, not how it should be.
  4. Some submissive men also just like to look up to women. It's their nature to want women to be on top in their lives.

These four points mutually reinforce each other in a very complex way. I’m not even going to try to describe that in detail. This was more of an introduction to get a better idea of what we’re talking about.

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Female Worship in Modern Society

Unless you’ve been living on the moon, you’ll know that the last few generations of western society have seen a massive shift towards female empowerment. Women have gained rights and liberties so that they’re generally equal to men’s rights. Some people even say the pendulum has swung the other way now and that men are actually less privileged relative to women but I won’t go into that here because it’s another topic. The important thing to take from this, is that treating men and women as equally valuable and equally privileged is one of the idealistic principles of modern society. Whether or not that is successfully implemented is another question.

The problem is that female worship completely contradicts those ideals of gender equality. And yet it is a mass phenomenon that both genders typically nurture and perpetuate. A brief glance across the media is enough to show how young beautiful women are portrayed as the ultimate human being (The media is a reflection of society). This of course reinforces that phenomenon of female worship – especially to young boys (and girls) who grow up consuming media in massive amounts. The underlying message that youngsters are taking from this is that women are superior to men and that it’s not only ok but also true to say so publicly. Even president Obama said in a public speech that girls can do anything boys can do only better.

Both men and women end up believing this female superiority on some level of consciousness. There’s no end to the number of articles and publications that suggest women do things better than men or that they have some inherent social advantage making them better leaders (or better anything). It’s mostly nonsense of course, but somehow it is the politically correct position and most half-baked research is geared at confirming it. So these researchers often find what they’re looking for – whether it exists or not.

This is like female worship gone out of control. I can imagine that the days where women had far fewer rights relative to men, worshiping them as goddesses was probably not only harmless but may have balanced things out a little. In modern society, however, female worship has far reaching implications for future generations. It is certainly not harmless today and I fear that it might be causing us a lot of trouble the repercussions of which can’t be overstated.

The funniest part is this:Nothing says more about a people’s abilities and strengths than their accomplishments. And if we ever did make a serious no-nonsense comparison between the genders it would turn out rather bad for political correctness. I don’t think comparing genders is a good idea though. It’s far too general – like comparing blond people with red heads. It says nothing about you as an individual and so it isn’t very interesting. The final thing to remember about this is that men and women are far more similar than we are different. Within the genders, there are far greater differences than between them.

How this affects women

Because female worship, so far as it is based on physical attraction, is mostly aimed at young beautiful women, that leaves all the others with nothing. This provokes ageism and hostility between women from different generations. It also pressurizes women, who are aware of this phenomenon, to race against their biological clock in order to secure whatever they can ‘before it’s too late’. Not exactly the best way to find true love.

The biggest problem that female worship causes for women is surely that it’s completely without merit. Women gain a very high status for nothing other than their looks and for being female. This inspires young girls to go down that road and rely on plastic surgery instead of their brains. That reinforces negative stereotypes from the past.

So girls, there are many men out there who are attracted to intelligent and accomplished women who look very ordinary. Don’t let the media tell you that supermodels' looks are the only way to have a fulfilled life.

Female Worship in Relationships

Who am I to tell you how to live?! Answer: nobody. If you men choose to worship the woman in your life then by all means go ahead. My own boyfriend has a tendency to worship me but it isn’t over the top and it does make things fun sometimes for entirely different reasons. Besides I worship the ground on which he walks. But this is a personal choice and it shouldn’t affect your opinion or respect for other people. For example, I’ve known men to worship women who they don’t even know and who don’t have any feelings for them. There’s that word undeserved again.

If you’re one of those female worshipers:

Chances are you’ve already been taken advantage of and hurt by a woman. If not, then you will be very soon. Giving people credit they don’t deserve will eventually blow up in your face. Try to remember that women are just people. Like with men, there are plenty of flaws in them. Your respect must be earned – don’t give it to someone just for having two X chromosomes. And most importantly, please do not pass that on to others by raising children that way or by treating everyday strangers with female worship. I realize, that it may not be easy to get out of that pattern but it will make things better in the long run - not just for you.

As usual, feedback is greatly appreciated and thanks for taking the time to read through all of this!

Here are some related articles I wrote that might interest you:

Female Supremacy

Matriarchy

Herbivore Men

Women Leaders

Chivalry

Submissive Men

Women Who like Feminine Men

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Comments 44 comments

Marie 6 years ago

She wasn't saying that women aren't viewed as sex objects. She was making the point certain men have a blind attraction to women who might conceivably have the upper hand in a relationship. I agree that the worshiping behavioural characteristics stem from a strong Mother figure. My understanding is a male unconsciously links discipline, love and compassion together when he perceives an attractive woman. Although these sort of characteristics have different levels with different people, they determine how a male will behave in the company of a female. Nobody thinks that men don't see women as simple sex objects a lot of the time but as far as I can make out, the above was an article about why men have a drive to worship the opposite sex.


Tom 6 years ago

It is so refreshing to read intelligent and balanced thinking about gender. Please, please continue researching and writing about what you find in the way that you do.


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Lucy83 6 years ago Author

Thanks Tom. I really appreciate it.

I'll see how I develop that topic in the future. At the moment I haven't had the time to continue it. Certainly I'm still interested in exploring it further.


Toeknight 5 years ago

This page really hit every button. YES I got hurt, I worshipped my wife and trusted that if I was good and totally submissive 'Nothing could go wrong' I sold up everything in England and moved to live near her parents in Turkey. I bought everything in her name because things were quicker that way. Well...she took everything along with a diseased but wealthy lover and then a career in uhhhh 'Escorting' Six years on I am still a single dad of our now 7 yr old daughter. The ex has returned to the U.K only to seek to finnish me off. She is doing this by charracter assasination and claiming (in our custody case) that I was a controlling, violent and abusive husband. Nothing could be further from the truth and I am in terror of her. Now everytime someone gets close to us (myself and my daughter) I go off the boil. OK i'm looking for a particular type...age and race is unimportant but still she must be keen to take the dominant role. At 45 yrs of age i'm seriously starting to doubt i'm going to find her.


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Lucy83 5 years ago Author

Hi Toeknight,

I'm very sorry for your experience. That really is awful and mean. I hope you get out of it with some dignity.

Finding a woman who's willing to dominate you in some way shouldn't be too hard. But finding one that is willing to completely dominate you in every aspect of life, that is going to be hard. And I doubt it's a healthy road to go down anyway. Remember, you're still an autonomous adult and, even though it can be good to let your partner take charge over certain things, it can't be good to have her decide everything in your life.

That's just the way I feel about it.


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