Finding Freedom For Men In Panties

Freedom. As a society we're big on freedom, huge even. Freedom is the word we call upon when we want to inspire courage. Freedom is the word we call upon when we want to stir emotional response. For the West, personal freedom is everything. Or is it?

The freedom which we're all such big fans of evaporates when our preconceived notions are challenged. As Westerners, we'll fight for a woman's right to vote. We'll fight for a foreign nation's right to democracy. We'll fight for our right to party. But we won't fight for men's rights to wear panties because that notion strikes us as odd at best and plain out wrong at worst.

True freedom isn't limited by what is currently accepted by a majority of society. True freedom is the right to do whatever one pleases. True freedom is an illusion because in order for us to maintain a cohesive and well balanced society, we must put limits on behavior. We must curb one person's 'freedom' to hurt another. If we do not do this, we end up with anarchy and suffering for all.

Instinctively, humans understand that there must be limits to personal freedom if society is to function. I believe that we instinctively behave in ways that will promote a healthy society. For instance, most people will behave kindly towards children, even those who are not their own. Pregnant women often experience the bizzare breaking down of usual barriers of propriety when they are obviously pregnant. Strangers come up to greet them and chat to them, some may even rub their stomachs. Intimate questions about the pregnancy and its surrounding circumstances are par for the course. Because those women contain soceity's next generation, we value them, on some level they become the property of society. Most societies offer discounts for senior citizens as another means of supporting the weaker members of the group. These things all feel instinctively right and we don't usually question them too much.

However because we don't fully understand those instinctive drives, they can often be missapplied. Men who wear women's clothing may appear to society at large to be a dangerous abberation. After all, men are normally built bigger and stronger than women. To our primitive brains, they play a valuable role in protecting the group. If a man puts on women's things, he may be in some sense declaring that he rejects this role. I think this is why some women and men react in a strongly negative fashion to the idea of men wearing lingerie. It is perceived as a threat to group cohesion and therefore, survival.

Of course, in the modern world this reaction is misplaced. Not only are men who wear lingerie fully capable of being men in every sense of the word, even if they weren't, our safety and survival is not threatened by these men. To find freedom for men who wear women's clothing we need to step beyond the primitive brain.

Men in lingerie are not a threat. They are wonderful, loving, contributing members of society compelled to seek out all facets of their beings rather than settling for the one role destined for them with the allocation of a Y chromosome. As evolved humans, we are capable of understasnding this and building a new model for society, one which is not based on the simple need to sirvive, but which is focused instead on the joy of living.

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Najee 7 years ago

I get this weird feeling that you just wanted to break 400 Hubs...lol. Good read and very true!


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Misha 7 years ago from DC Area

Hey, you don't stop by too often nowadays. I would say I miss you here, yet I don't come by too often either - so just let's say I miss you :)


ILoveLingerie 7 years ago

Great article and elaborations. I hope someday people will learn.


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Hope Alexander 7 years ago Author

lol @Najee.. I broke 400 hubs a couple of hubs back... but it was fun ;)

@Misha you're correct, I should stop by more :D the missing is mutual

@ILoveLingerie one day they will learn ILoveLingerie ... one day


Gunnau 7 years ago from Central Coast NSW Australia

it's amazing how our ideals of someones personality and character is soley based on the clothes worn.

You see a man in a suit, it is assumed he is some of importance. A pair of overalls a lowely trades person. A woman in a short skirt and heels someone who is a sexy fashion icon

A guy in a short and heels a freak.

This society thing is wearing a bit thin for my money.

I keep hoping the fashion industry would get with the program but the Society Society are still holding us back.

Steve


Suzy31 7 years ago

Another winner, Hope. I particularly like the way you essentially lay out a political/philosophical argument for the type of people on this site. We are an underrepresented minority, even within the GLBT community, even within the subset of transgendered individuals. While smart politicians will acknowledge the advances that need to be made within this community, they seem to focus uniquely on transssexuals and not on the other people that make up the TG larger whole. There is nothing wrong with advancing the cause of the TS; they need government intervention and protection more than I do. But the rest of us are still relegated to a kind of freak status, and society is so judgmental that at times I find myself thinking that I'm OK, but the other male lingerie-wearing males are somewhat perverted, because that's the way they (we) have been portrayed. Such a self-loathing attitude is one of the true tragedies of living a closeted lifestyle.

Hope for president!


iwhcpanties 7 years ago

Excellent Hope, as one who has to secretly wear panties I think this was a great statement. I know that we will bash or be disgusted at certain things but yet allow other things to go by without a fuss. What may seem ok to me may not be ok to others and I think the key is understanding our surroundings and working within those parameters. I know the public frowns upon men in lingerie so in that; I will not be public with it. What Gunnau said about the fashion industry could be very true. If they would only realize what men want, and put products out there with men labeling on it, it would eventually catch on and work in marketing. Such as the Hanes Hi-cut panties for women, label it Hanes Hi-cut underwear for men. The fashion industry will fashion anything for supper stars and big money and I am sure if they tried it they would see a real market out there of men desiring real lingerie.

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