What Does it Mean to Find That One is a True Love in Life

Love that Holds Your Heart

The Love of Your Life

Soul Mates

Do you believe everyone has a soulmate? Someone predestined to be the love of your life?

In life, we may fall in love many times. Does each love compare equally the same as to that one true love? The one love, you are meant to be with, to spend together for the rest of your life?

So how do you know you have found that one true love? It takes some vulnerability to wear your heart on your sleeve. Break ups in love are heart wrenching. As you wrestle with yourself over the loves in your life, which one counts and which one doesn't. Is there a balance to liking someone verses loving someone?

When you see so many marriages fail these days, what do you think? Does it create a sense of fear in making a commitment. Why did that marriage fall apart? Did they just give up on each other? Did life get in the way? Relationships are multi-faceted and unique adventures. Why does one marriage fail while another survives?

In today's society divorce is so common. The real work resides in staying in the marriage. Fighting for it, doing life together takes a real commitment. Those marriage vows made months, or years ago were originally spoken in truth, out of a pure love. A love with all the hopes and dreams of a bright future.

Finding that one true love in life requires work to keep the flames growing. Mutual attraction may spark the relationship and fanning the flames may keep the embers burning, but when the winds of change come along the fire starts to die out. All relationships take work, they require compassion and understanding.

Finding that One True Love

Love sprouts and blossoms

What does it take to survive a crisis in love?

There are many questions to ponder. For any love to survive, there must be some real sense of friendship. To say you are friends first takes into account a different sort of relationship.

Focal-ism focuses on one thing and blurs out everything else. Our brains are appetites with a hypersensitivity to our desires. Love is something we all need, it breathes life within us, and it holds us captive. We do so many things out of love. Making foolish choices, stepping out on a whim, we lose sight of our future, all because of love.

Starting out as friends creates a special bond between two people.

That bond is trust, honesty and compassion. A bond that produces, with Love's assurance, they always got your back. True friends don't set out to hurt you or manipulate you. Sincere friendships are like pillars in your life. When the world around you starts to crumble, the truest of friends will stand beside you, holding up those pillars.

They are your safe-keepers. They keep your secrets and hold your dreams locked inside their hearts. A true love begins to form when the friend becomes something more than a friend. Knocking out any competition, the true love works over your heart. Their presence envelopes your soul. Everything is consumed by their ultimate love.

Throwing back and risking it all on chance, this single precious love grows over time. As a seed is rooted in the ground, the friendship foundation is rock solid. When the seed sprouts, the friendship changes into lovers. And when the flower blooms, the love begins to blossom.

Like the beauty of fresh flowers, love capitalizes on fresh fragrances. A love like that needs no bounds, it is free with grace.

It rests in the heart of the lovers, in the presence of life. Withstanding all temptations, this love fights for success.

It may take an entire lifetime to find that one true love, the soul mate that connects two hearts into one.

Life is not wasted during those empty years, as the soul prepares for that adventure of love. Sometimes, oh yes, sometimes the love is found early in life. When everyone else has a marriage falling to the ground, this early love is penetrating the survivors.

When life's unpredictability challenge the relationship and when it appears doomed to fail, this love stands up with joy and shouts. I'm here, I never failed you, I'm never giving up on you. I'm here for the long haul. When you get sick, I'll be right by your side. When you lose your job, your family, your riches or wealth, I'll be that pillar which holds it all together.

When it feels like everyone in your life is slowly slipping away, thattrue love will embrace your wounds and keep you safe.

True love means growing old together. It means sacrificing your own desires for the condition of another. Honest love never trades away one person for another.

Love holds no wrongs. It does not count the misgivings, nor does it tally up every hurt or pain that is inflicted. Love withstands the test of time. And finding that true love which lasts an eternity makes all the difference.

For when one person dies before the other, the love remains. Carried it the heart left behind, carried in the heart into paradise.

Love never fails us. Finding that one true love is the most enriching, blessing anyone could ever receive.

Soulmates forever. The memories begin and they last forever. Nothing compares to finding that one true love in life.

 

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WillStarr 5 years ago from Phoenix, Arizona

Falling in love is far different from staying in love. The initial euphoria always fades with time, which is one reason people used to favor long courtships. We can (and often do!) fall in love with a total loser!

Rather than a single person destined to be our soul mate, I think its probably more of a single type of person…a unique combination of attributes, appearance, personality, etc.

Excellent Hub!


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iamageniuster 5 years ago

Interesting. I totally agree. Sometimes it does take a while to find the love of your life.


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FaithDream 5 years ago from (Midwest) USA Author

Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

WillStarr, I agree on the initial euphoria, sometimes people fall in love with the idea of falling in love. When that feeling fades away, they wonder if they were truly in love.

iamageniuster, thanks for commenting. No matter how long it may take, when true love finally comes around, it was well worth the wait.


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mannyrolando 5 years ago

Great hub about finding the one true love... I feel that we have more than one soul mate... or at least more than one potential soul mate!


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revmjm 5 years ago from Richmond, VA

Loved your content, pictures and especially the video about "The Notebook" which is one of my favorite movies. I believe we do have a soulmate and while we might love others, only our soulmate can fit into and fill that special hole in our soul that was customed designed only for him or her.


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smackins1974 5 years ago from UK

Great Hub, you are right that friendship plays a big part in relationship with your true love.

Divorce may be easier these days but it happens for lots of reasons some of which are actually for the best in the long run. I would not be the person I am today if I had persevered any longer than I had already in my 1st marriage, many friends and family commented on how I was finally me again when I remarried into a solid and happy marriage. I believe I have now found my soulmate and look forward to our lifetime together.

Great clip / song from "The Notebook" great film if anyone hasn't seen it. True love really can last a lifetime. Thanks for sharing.

Sarah


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FaithDream 5 years ago from (Midwest) USA Author

Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

Manny, appreciate your comments, always a blessing.

Revmjm, I agree, the soulmate that fills the hole in our soul, I like that.

Smackins, thank you for commenting. It's good to hear that even though you suffered through a divorce that you found true happiness in a soulmate.

It makes all the difference when you are married to your best friend. I've been married for 32 years and I am lucky to have him as my soulmate.


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roger wright 5 years ago from charlotte, N.C.

FaithDream, you are wise beyond your years. Keep it up.

Roger


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Fossillady 5 years ago from Saugatuck Michigan

This is a good subject for you to write about! I think i've watched the notebook about ten time! I guess its because it was true love!


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atlovesbm 5 years ago from Orange County, California

Beautiful hub! :) Sometimes true love happens when you least expect it.. I guess that's the great thing about it!

:)


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FaithDream 5 years ago from (Midwest) USA Author

Thank you Roger, very nice compliment.

Thank you Fossillady, that is interesting. Maybe I found my niche?

Thank you atlovesbm, nice of you to stop by and comment.

I appreciate all the encouraging words. Thank you.


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crystolite 5 years ago from Houston TX

Nice hub.I believe that every one has a soulmate but it might take time to find.


win her back 5 years ago

Yes, I believe every people have a soul mate..btw, great hub you have done above..


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FaithDream 5 years ago from (Midwest) USA Author

Thank you crystolite for sharing your comments.

Thank you win her back for your nice compliments.

Glad you liked the hub.


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Becky532 5 years ago

Beautifully written! I think that all relationships should have a friendship base, however you do not have to necessarily be friends before you start dating. When you meet the right person you might have instant chemistry and not be able to hold off and be "just friends". I think when people say be friends with your love, it really means have all the good qualities of a friendship - truly like one another, build trust, have good communication, and as you put it a sincere bond with one another!


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FaithDream 5 years ago from (Midwest) USA Author

Thanks Becky for commenting and sharing your thoughts. I appreciate it.


Casey Michigan 5 years ago

Wonderful post and very well said. When you find your soul mate - you just KNOW it! Well written!


Casey Michigan 5 years ago

Thank God He looks at the heart...


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FaithDream 5 years ago from (Midwest) USA Author

Thanks Casey, appreciate your encouraging word of thought.


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Fluffy77 5 years ago from Enterprise, OR

I agree totally too, it is taking me a while now to find my true love in this life. So, I can absolutely understand this hub. I am one that believes we have more than one soul mate here, it's just choosing the right one I think. Very useful,awesome, and informative hub. I have recently published a hub on my dreams about weddings and a feeling of love in the air too, interesting hubs in common.


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SummerSurf 5 years ago

Beautiful hub! Inspiring


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jeshon 5 years ago

I believe that true love hit us when we least expect it to. And when you find that one soul mate it's a totally different feeling than for anyone else you may have felt love for...


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FaithDream 5 years ago from (Midwest) USA Author

Thanks for comments jeshon.. appreciate your thoughts here, I agree with you.


shan 4 years ago

I believe that true love is hard to find but when you do find it its the best experience ever because you have the love of your life.


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drdspervez 4 years ago from Pakistan

FaithDream thanks for sharing your thoughts.I rated you up. :)

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Abraham 4 years ago

I believe in true love but I'm also 22 and have only been in one relationship. They say you have to wait for it and the one thing that I hate is when it happens all around me lol and it's saying "can't touch this" haha but in my first relationship, I thought I was in love because I felt as is if I was floating in air when I would see her everytime. I knew her since I was 10 and she really tore me up afterwards. Sometimes my head jumbles around trying to understand what love is and I sort of gave up on it since it's so complicated. I've not known of love at first sight but I will say that I can sense when others are a match and meant to be. I've seen it about 5 times now


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epigramman 4 years ago

I believe that I have found that person in my life right now so I was very interested in reading this hub article which was very informative, enlightening and helpful - thank you for this one. And sending you warm wishes from lake erie time ontario canada 9:09am


lovedoctor926 4 years ago

Great hub! Some people claim that they have found their soulmate. Others search their entire life trying to find this person. I agree with you that the best relationships start off as friendships because this is why you get to know someone really well. But I also think that you can be compatible with more than one person. Cheating is a big problem these days. It's all about trust and establishing firm boundaries from the beginning.

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