Finding Your Voice In Love
Finding Your Voice
Often in relationships we are afraid to “rock the boat”, “mess up something that’s just fine”, or fearful of what might result from us expressing our desires. I’m speaking about being honest with yourself first and those you love second. By not expressing ourselves we can become sad souls settling for situations we really don’t desire or won’t please us in the long run. Sometimes when you express your true feelings, with love, you just might be surprised at the reaction. There is a beauty and art in being vulnerable –it is not for the weak. Remember, expressing yourself has nothing to do with your love interest, but everything to do with your well being. By not expressing your desires you supress who you are and can make yourself miserable inside.
It’s okay to speak of your hopes for the future, the way you feel about a person, or be honest about who you are. Think about it. If you were the best person someone met in a long time, why not share that? Expressing yourself takes strength and there is an art to this accomplishment. Why be afraid? My momma always says: people can only do what you allow them to do.
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