Internet Dating - How Can One find Genuine Love and Real People Online

Internet Dating - Finding your love in the Internet

Is Internet dating good? Many people are finding their love in the Internet these days. It is Valentines once more and all people from all walks of life are talking about the day of the hearts. Some who are not into relationships are dreaming they are going to find somebody before that special day and dreaming that they can find the special someone to warm their hearts and their senses too. The fact is there is nothing compared to the joy of being in love, and to be loved in return, and for a moment in time you forget everything around you, and all that matters is the feeling within you and the object of your affection. When you love, you love yourself in return because you want the feeling of it, it gives you gratification emotionally. Do you remember the feeling of the first love” fantastic isn’t it? You gotta be “in love” not because everybody needs to but because according to studies, being in love has a positive effect on health and mental well being. Then you ask yourself “Am I dead yet”? hehe.

Technology brings forth easier and faster communication and that we are able to communicate with people all over the world, places we deemed never see before are just one click away. We can talk and communicate with all people around the globe in an instant except of course for some countries which communications are not as free and it is monitored too.

Tips About Online Dating

The questions are: can we find true love in the Internet? Is it worth even joining the dating site to find your true love? Can you expect too much from it? How about in other sites like for example HubPages, in which it is defined for authors and not a love site?

First, let us talk about online dating :

Online dating services : can either be online sites which requires members to have an account and give vital information like age, gender, race, nationality/ethnic and employment -- income etc. or telephone matchmaking services. before they can search the service provider's database for other individuals using criteria they set. Most sites allow members to upload photos of themselves and browse the photos of others. Other sites offer additional services, such as web casts, online chat, telephone chat (VOIP) and message boards.

Important things to consider (just my thoughts) if you would like to find true love in the Internet:

Set your expectations:

  • Like in any endeavor in life it is always easier if you set your expectation about it, like what do you really want, are you really expecting something out of it when you start to join? Do you really want to find somebody to have a committed relationship, then hopefully marriage? In short are you expecting something from the relationship if it proceeds?
  • Some would say, we never know, "let us see", which is a valid stance since you never know really what is going to happen.

Trust issues

  • It is always been said that you need the “trust” thing. Do you think you can trust anybody looking at the screen and reading their profile plus communicating with them? Do you have any issues about trusting somebody? It always start from us, trusting ourselves first. Of course we have doubts at first, but I think, that when you join dating sites and you dont trust anybody and you always have doubts, then it may have repercussions, it is best if you set your expectations really at first.

Distance

  • Physical distance is also important, there are issues like are you willing to spend money (for phone calls, letters exchange) and travel for example? Can you keep the fire burning even you are in a long distance relationship? Are you willing to wait, for how long? Is it even possible to meet that person?

SUGGESTIONS:

  • At best meet the person first, be with them, and enjoy the moments, know their relatives and their friends, their hobbies and who they are really in person, spending time with them and just go with the flow. There is nothing compared to the excitement of being with a person you truly enjoy their company with and having moments with them,

There are of course precautions too like:

  • Never give personal information until and unless you are certain the person you are talking to is genuine and you trust them, don’t give your personal information. There are ways to find if they are true or not, ask their address or phone number and send them a letter and then let them write to you too, but this is done after say three months of communication.
  • There are some people who trust their instinct and it is true for some while it is not for others, you know the “gut feeling” thing.

Conclusion:

  • The thing is, in our lives, nothing is really certain so you never really know what will happen, it is just best to be cautious and be honest with yourself to know what you like and trust yourself first then learning to trust others. Like in any life, love is also a gamble, you never know if you are going to win or not. Even if you lose at times you learn the lesson and it is always best for your next partner, your ex is a dud hehe. At best you just try your best and don’t expect too much so that you don’t get hurt, protect yourself first.
  • And there is nothing certain in life who knows you might also find your true love in any dating sites or at HubPages

I have two closest Filipina friends who marry their partner after meeting them at online dating sites, and I have known others also who didn’t click and got divorced, like anything in life, love is uncertain, you just savor it at the moment and pray for it to last. And yes, we must still believe in love to last forever too, yet we must not rush just for the sake of having a loved one, As I have always said, true love waits and you gotta keep it when you find it. Are there signs of a true love, well, nobody has the correct answer for that, you just know it and only you can feel it.

Love is the sweetest thing in the world and when you feel loved and be loved in return it is worth all the risk. Love can really move the mountains, and passing through the farthest distance and if it finds it, it stays there. I truly believe it is worth the risk indeed.

Well, anybody can say this to me hehe:

"The hours I spend with you I look upon as sort of a perfumed garden, a dim twilight, and a fountain signing to it...you and you alone make me feel that I am alive...Other men, it is said, have seen angels, but I have seen thee and thou art enough." By George Moore

and

"It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye." By Antoine de Saint Exupery

 

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dohn121 6 years ago from Hudson Valley, New York

I came across this a few times in my life and I must say, time and distance was always a problem. I mean, why can't I find a girl on the net that's like 15 minutes away, instead of one who lives in Anchorage, Alaska? LOL. You brought up some interesting points, Maita.

Oh, and yes, I'd divorce my readers too if they didn't "click" (on my Google Ads, hehe).


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RevLady 6 years ago from Lantana, Florida

Maita, I enjoyed reading this hub. A close friend of mine met her husband online and they are still married after 15 years. Like you, I know of others that did not work out and still others that I read of that ended tragically.

It was wise of you to include the need for people to use caution. "At best meet the person first, be with them, and enjoy the moments, know their relatives and their friends, their hobbies and who they are really in person, spending time with them and just go with the flow. There is nothing compared to the excitement of being with a person you truly enjoy their company with and having moments with them"

The only thing I might add is to suggest that the couple FIRST meet in a place where there are lots of other people around. When my friend and her husband first met, it was at a restaurant and several of her family members were present at another table, though he (online date) was unaware of it.

Love and Peace.

Forever His


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Hello, hello, 6 years ago from London, UK

I loved your hub and dating online can be a success or failure like everything else. Thank you for an enjoyable read.


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ehern33 6 years ago

Very good points and the caution is absolutely necessary. Honesty behind the screen is also important. I know someone who thought she hit it off with someone, when arrangements were made to meet, the guy comes clean with her and it ruined the months of communications between them. Good article maita.


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Tammy Lochmann 6 years ago

Great article and I love the video I haven't heard that one in a long time. Not on the market right now so I will tuck this little gem away if I should need it someday. LOL. Thanks Maita.


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BkCreative 6 years ago from Brooklyn, New York City

Well, I have heard some great internet love stories - I must say I remain a skeptic but it hasn't stopped so many.

I know of a couple that have been dating now two years and are marrying in France later this year - and they look soooo good together. They are both in their late 40's so I wonder if age - and knowing what you want - has something to do with it.

Well, I can't think of many other ways to meet people so I guess the internet is the way to go.

Thanks for the hub!


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Ghost Whisper 77 6 years ago from The U.S. Government protects Nazi War Criminals

I have tried the internet dating and it doesn't seem to work for me. I meet them and there is no chemistry. Sad but true...even when their was chemistry on phone and through paper! Some men were very nice but no connection in person,some thought I was a scammer and had trust issues big time, some were just plain lying about who they were and others were just really weird,dysfuntional,swingers(lots of them) addicted to drugs or just your average con artists looking for easy prey. (whew..did I just say all that in one breath?)

I work often and won't go hang in the bars--so I thought this would really be a great way to meet someone! The strange thing is, I am one who travels often, doesn't matter what state I am in or the trivial job I do, I can do it anywhere--so my heart has always been open and I would be more than willing to move far away to be with the right man! You would think that I would have fallen in love with just one of them in the past 5 years? Nope.

I am a great matchmaker for others and many have gotten married..but I am not a good matchmaker for me! hehehe

I think that when God wants you to meet someone, you just will, so I have stopped with this dating online jazz. And in the past year, I have found it quite dangerous to do so!

This Valentines day? I will just buy me a big bag of chocolates and fill my cheeks and worry about important things! :)


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tony0724 6 years ago from san diego calif

Maita will you be my Valentine ?


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Dave Mathews 6 years ago from NORTH YORK,ONTARIO,CANADA

Maita:My dearest friend and co-writer.Again I open my computer to discover that through God, you my dear Maita have painted the page with such eloquent words of insight and wisdom. Internet dating is something I find fascinating,and I am so in awe to discover that it works, that two people who have never met,never talked face to face, never looked deeply into each others eyes and each others souls can discover a lasting love for each other. I know this love with God my creator, but I have yet to experience it with a woman, one of my own, and at the young age of 61, I'm not sure that I ever will. Maybe I am missing out on something maybe I'm not.Fortunately I love God and He loves me, and my intimacy with Him is so very fulfilling and rewarding, that I don't really know what I might be missing out on. Maita you keep touching my heart with your wisdom. Thankyou.

Sincerely,respectfully,

Dave.


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US Author

Hey Dohn, morning, how are you today, you made me smile as I am answering all the comments now, hehe, and yes dont divorce those who dont click your adsense, hmmmm, anyway, am sure you can find a good one very near you, women love good writers, just let them read your articles hehe, have a good day, Maita


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US Author

Oh Rev, thats a good insight, and yes wont you agree that there are no sure way if it will work or not? Thank you and bless always, Maita


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US Author

hello, I am glad you like my hub, and yes, at times we dont really know whats going to click or not, isnt it, as love is a a gamble too, we just try our best, and as always we try to be cautious as well, Thansk for your nice comments, Maita


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US Author

hi ehern, thanks for the incite and for your visit as usual, honesty is correct, it is the foundation of any relationship, I am sure your friend will find somebody too, she deserve it, \\

Thank you and I know you are still enjoying the Florida weather???? an dof course enjoying your day too, Bless, Maita


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US Author

Thanks Tam, you like the article and for your nice comments, have a good day and hows your day as a caring nurse as usual? Maita


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US Author

hey BK, yes age is a factor but, when you love each other, age doesnt matter anymore isnt it? then I am sure they talk together in the net already too, I mean your friends, good luck to them, as always there is nothing certain even in love, it is gamble too, and yes the internet is the way to go these days too specially with the technology.

I do appreciate you dropping by here always BK, Thank you, Maita


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US Author

Oh Ghost, at least you have tried it and now you can speak for us, that was tough and scary too, those men you have met hehe, anyway,

Can we just celebrate together with our bags of chocolates, and I am sure one day you will find the right man for you when you least expect it, isnt it,. I know your a good woman so, we gonna pray for that too,

Thnaks for your beautiful incite and share GHost, Maita


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US Author

Hey Tony, you can go here at Dallas hehe, sweet, we are going to have a party with Ghost too, she is near here, just bring many chocolates too, Thank you Tony, Maita


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US Author

Hey Dave, thanks for your nice compliments and words too. I can see that you are a man with deep passion and love for God too, and yes romantic love is surely different from the LOVE of GOD< in hierarchy, LOVE of GOD is at the highest point, but you gotta expereince love also like romantic love and it is never too late, one day you gotta find it like Ghost Whisperer said here (look at the comments up), sometimes when you are not looking for it, it will just come your way,

and you know it when it is there with you,,,the love youre waiting for is just a click away, who knows really, GOD is good and will grant every request we have, we just learn to wait,

and youre still young and still breathing, and LOVE is just waiting for you...

Thank you so much, Maita


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Truth From Truth 6 years ago from Michigan

Great Article Maita, I hope you enjoy your Valentine's day

Your hub gave excellent ideas for people. your advice is well said thanks.


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RecoverToday 6 years ago from United States

Hello Prettydarkhorse: I'm glad to see that you touched on the "Trust" issue in this article. It's so important to be very careful when meeting any person online, by phone or other means of communication. I've seen so many individuals come away from a relationship crushed. ON a positive note, I've also seen relationships flourish and turn into long lasting commitments. Very good article!


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Ghost Whisper 77 6 years ago from The U.S. Government protects Nazi War Criminals

Yeah Tony...bring lots of chocolate! Make sure the scanner in the airport doesn't melt it or change it's taste okay?

Kisses! Lots of chocolate and a few kisses hehehe..(chocolate kisses okay Maitia?)


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hypnodude 6 years ago from Italy

Another good one Maita, full of good advices. Anyhow I don't really understand why you and Ghost are going to have Valentine's day with a bag of chocolate, which is a great companion anyway. I could only say that sometimes men aren't the smartest creatures on Earth. :)


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Bmystic57 6 years ago from Sheldon,Tx

smart ,witty and cute too!

can you cook?

I think I'm in love.


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US Author

Hey Ghost. I wish He will really bring chocolate for us, good advice but it will melt at the airport hehe, because it will take also time to travel and security checks, just give the check to Ghost so she can buy hehe, Thanks Ghost, Maita


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US Author

Hey hypno, I really dont understand it either, just kidding, well chocolates they say can set the mood, hmmmm, bags bags bags, who knows maybe near Valentines me and Ghost can finally find one, Thanks hypno, and BTW I like your artcicle about Lost Flower, good write, maita


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US Author

Hey mystic, thanks for dropping by here again.How are you? Yes do you like Asian foods? what types of food do you like? Maita


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US Author

Hi Truth, tnanks once more visitng my hubs, and how about you, do you have plans for your Valentines now? it is too early, hehe, enjoy, Maita


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US Author

Hi recoverToday, thanks for dropping by and yes trust issue is very important really, as I have said that Internet dating is like the real life nothing is certain, I am glad yuo drop by here, Maita


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dave272727 6 years ago from Kentucky

This was a great guide! I like many others tried my hand and spent a lot of hard earned dollars chasing my "dream woman". I looked everywhere sometimes on several sites at once. The only thing that I kept coming in contact with was ladies that were not what they said they were. I wish I had found your guide long ago. I hope you have a happy and chocolaty valentines!


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US Author

oh Dave, at least you know now, but I guess you can still find if your heart is open, one day Dave it will come to you as you are a good man, keep on looking , love is a gamble, would you agree,

Sometimes they say that when youre not looking it will just come to you

I hope you find a trustworthy one and then you can keep it, Maita


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James A Watkins 6 years ago from Chicago

You have interesting ideas and you offer sound advice. I suppose it is, in the end, a mixed bag, or as Forrest Gump said: a box of chocolates.


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Niteriter 6 years ago from Canada

I'm in my drafty cabin high up the mountain, sitting with my battered old guitar singing to myself: "On top of Ol' Smokey, all covered with snow; I lost my true lover, a-courtin' too slow."

It's too late for me, Maita, but thanks for trying to bring a bit of cheer to an old man's broken heart... sniff, sniff.


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US Author

Hi James, Yes I believe in what Forrest Gump said, Life is a big chocolate box, you never know what you will have,isnt it?its true, and it is always best if you have safety nets too to protect yourself always, I am thankful you dropped by here once more Sir, Thanks, Maita


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US Author

Hi niteriter, hehe, the heart can be broken but it still beating just the same isnt it, hmmm, never too late for Love, thanks you always make me smile, youre come back to make me smile again, Maita


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Mystique1957 6 years ago from Caracas-Venezuela

Ah, My sweet kaibigan...

Yes, Love is full of surprises. Some nice ones and some not so nice! I understand what you mean, I have experienced that in my own skin, and I know what it feels like! I hope I can beat that, for the one I like is not here in my country-Sigh-

Warm regards and blessings,

Salamat, dear Maita!

Al


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US Author

Oh mystique, is she far away from you, I hope you can find a way to see her, Good day and thank you so much, Maita


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The original Eman 6 years ago from london

This is very good love i've always debated this topic with my friends whether you can true love on the internet keep it up . check out some of my stuff i would love to know your thoughts on them and follow me too love thanks


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US Author

Hi Eman, thank you, Maita


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Amez 6 years ago from Houston, Texas

Hi prettydarkhorse, Reading this Hub and Listen to your music selection of fine romantic songs is really nice, kind of puts u in the right state of mind to consider the valuable information on how to look for Love on the internet. I liked the song Fine Me by David Gates. I believe this is surpurb Hub for any Day! You know its hearts like yours that offer the Golden Drops of Love we all need, to make our lives just a little bit sweeter. Thank you for sharing so much of your Heart.


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US Author

Amez, thank you for your wonderful comment, am so glad to knwo you drop by here again, I like the song by David Gates as well, sweet isnt it, I thank you that you like my selection of songs as well, thats good and isnt it nice to feel love, it helps just to feel it,

take care and have a good day, Maita


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Teresa Laurente 6 years ago from San Antonio, Texas, U.S.A.

Great words, great information, great story. Thank you for this valuable hub. More power to you friend.


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US Author

Thank you Mam, Maita


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schoolgirlforreal 6 years ago from USA

Very insightful and well written, esp the part about how true love is worth waiting for and is worth the risk.

Beautiful and inspirational. thanks! :)

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