Five top blessings of a good marriage!

“Marriage is a mosaic you build with your spouse. Millions of tiny moments that create your love story.” –Jennifer Smith

‘I am blessed’! When do you say these wonderful words? When you have something which gives you happiness and fulfillment and is valuable to you, you feel that you are blessed. You need many blessings in your life. Your health, your job, your perfect body are all blessings which mean a lot to you!

But there is one blessing which everyone dreams of! But sadly it eludes most! Are you wondering what it is? It is a good married life.

‘Modern youth do not know how to value marriage’ said my eighty year old mother. ‘Why do you feel so?’ I asked her. ‘Instead of finding happiness in what they have got, they want something they do not have.’ I think she has a point there. When your mind keeps searching for what you do not have, you lose insight on what you are blessed with in your married life.

Most of you crave for more money and think that being rich is the top blessing you can hope for in your marriage. How much does money contribute to your marriage? It makes you financially independent and you are able to buy the best things the world has to offer. You also have an enviable social status. That is all!

Marriage needs many more blessings than money to transform it from an ordinary relationship to an extra ordinary one. You casually overlook the good characteristics of your marriage and go about your life without thankfulness.

Shall we look at the top five blessings your marriage needs?

1. Camaraderie and friendship

It is one of the rarest qualities you see in today’s modern marriages. You lead a hectic life style and you are always tensed and worked up with worries and stress. In fact you lose your smile after marriage.

‘I have become responsible and I cannot be as carefree as I was before marriage’, you argue. But strangely you are totally different at your work place. You laugh and make fun of your colleagues and have good companionship with them. I often observe colleagues sharing fun moments between themselves when I am in a bank or other offices.

I wonder whether these people will carry the same smile and friendliness back home. The sad thing is that you frown and fret at home about your dead tiredness from long distance commuting and demand rest and silence.

There can be compatible silence between you, but not forced silence! You do not talk with your spouse as your fear that your tension will spill forth as angry words if you interact with him\her.

Actually you should relieve your stress by having fun time with your family. You should be humorous and funny! You should small talk with your spouse! Friendly relationship with your spouse is a blessing which can be yours if only you make the effort!

2. Financial security

Money is a tricky commodity in marriage. It can give you great buying capacity, but also plunge you into debt if you handle it without planning. Do you know financial debacle instigates accusing war between you? You point accusing fingers at your spouse for your poor financial status. A very wrong thing to do!

You must save and spend! When you spend money recklessly without thinking about the future of the family, you lose your money and along with it your self respect and self esteem. Bitter arguments and harsh words make your married life a hell.

But when you learn the trick of saving money for the future and also to spend it for the happiness of your family you get the best out of both worlds. If you only save, your family loses the joy of life. If you only spend money, your family loses financial security. Financial freedom is a precious blessing your marriage needs!

3. Good children

Marriage is not you and your spouse alone. It involves your children! In fact your children are the anchor of your marriage! ‘God has blessed us with a wonderful daughter’ my husband used to tell. She was very friendly with us and enjoyed spending time with us.

Though my husband is no more, I can never forget the fulfillment I felt when I saw her playing games with her father and behave like a friend with him. Friendliness with your children gives you the blessing of being a well matched couple with well behaved children. Treat your children with friendliness and become their best friend and confidant.

4.Good health

Good health decides your contentment quotient in marriage. When health is lost everything is lost. You should thank god when he has gifted your family with good health. You should treasure it and not willfully throw it away in restaurants and hotels.

You should guide your children about good eating habits and inculcate in them the need for good health. A good life style blesses your family with good health!

5.The unwavering support of your spouse!

Do you get the spontaneous support of your spouse when you need it? How will you feel when you left to fend for yourself when your mind craves for the emotional support of your spouse? You feel terribly lonely, don’t you? But when your spouse springs to your support instantly you feel secure and safe in your married life. Yet another valuable blessing!

Good marriage depends on several beautiful aspects to make it a fascinating experience. Do not ever feel complacent about what you are blessed with. Every minute aspect of your marriage is a true blessing! Treasure and cherish your blessings!

© 2014 mathira

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Vickiw 2 years ago

This is a very charming and thoughtful view on what makes a good marriage. It is so true that it is something couples build on together.

Nice observations, Mathira, and a good marriage is indeed a blessing.

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billybuc 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

Well, we are working on the financial security part, but we have the other four. :) Beautiful thoughts my friend.


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denise.w.anderson 2 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

I remember one time a friend of mine was at my home, and she commented on my "good husband." The phrase took me back, since I was prone to be critical and unhappy. Since then, I have tried to look for the good, and have often found it. Yes, there are things that I wish were different, but at the same time, there is much to be thankful for!


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DDE 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

Good marriages require trust and love and all the happiness couples can get to stay together for the till death do us part your suggestions sounds very useful.


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mathira 2 years ago from chennai Author

Vickiw, most of us want things we do not have, rather than be pleased in what we have. It is applicable in marriage relationship also.


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mathira 2 years ago from chennai Author

billy, I am happy for you!


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mathira 2 years ago from chennai Author

denise, it is true you sometimes overlook the good qualities of your spouse and realize it only when someone points it out. You are indeed blessed to have a good husband. It is best blessing you can hope to have.


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mathira 2 years ago from chennai Author

DDE, you are right when you say that good marriages require trust and hope. If only couples realize it, it would do their marriage a world of good.


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FlourishAnyway 2 years ago from USA

I am fortunate to have a solid partner and helpmate. My husband is a good friend, provider, we have a loving home with a happy daughter, and life is pretty good.

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