Friends Of The Opposite Sex Can Ruin A Relationship
Friends Of The Opposite Sex Can Ruin A Relationship
Although it may be true that you can have friends of the opposite sex, it can become a potential problem when you are in a committed relationship. If you don't know where your priorities are when you try to balance a relationship with someone and a friendship with someone of the opposite sex, it will eventually destroy your relationship.
You might not have meant any harm to your relationship when you choose to go to a basketball game with your gal pal instead of going shopping with your girlfriend. Your girlfriend took offense to you choosing to go to the basketball game with your gal pal over hanging with her in the mall. She may have tried to understand that you needed quality time with your gal pal. However, because your friend is of the opposite sex your girlfriend felt insecure about it and tried her best to hide her feelings from you.
Then it happened again, your girlfriend needed you, she had a terrible time at work and you choose to go off to your gal pal's house to help her paint her kitchen instead of being there while your girlfriend was upset and needed you. This choice has only damaged your relationship; now your girlfriend will be on the attack.
All you utter to your girlfriend is that she should stop being insecure, while she is accusing you of sleeping with your gal pal. Rightfully, your girlfriend has every right to feel insecure when you are spending all of your time being occupied with your friend instead of with the woman who is supposed to be your best friend and who should be of more importance to you.
You know that if the shoe was on the other foot and your girlfriend was talking to a guy pal and choosing to attend ballgames or help him paint his kitchen instead of being there for you, you'd flip out over it. In order for someone to feel secure in a relationship with their partners, they have to first feel reassured that they would be number one in their partners lives before anyone and the only way to reassure them is by not putting them second.
No one should be on the back burner, sidelines or just background noise to their partners. Usually when someone is tired or bored with their partners they drift away and find it more pleasurable to spend much of their time with a friend of the opposite sex. They can complain about their girlfriends or boyfriends to their friends and get that emotional support they feel is needed or missing.
Many relationships have failed because someone thought their friends with their gal pals or guy pals would progress into something more meaningful and that they could drop their present girlfriend or boyfriend. Sometimes they are mistaken when they learn that their friends of the opposite sex never wanted anything more than friendship with them.
And sometimes when you think the grass is greener on the other side you can be very sorry later on when you realize your gal pal isn't all what she seemed to have been, in fact you only see that your gal pal broke you up with someone very special. So your boyfriend is telling you that the girl he is chatting on facebook with is only a friend of his and that there is nothing for you to worry about.
There is plenty for you to worry about because you are supposed to be that best friend he goes to if he needs any emotional support. There may not be any harm in the beginning with your partner chatting with someone else, but when he is ticked off at you about something he will surely make it a point to mention what he is ticked off with you about to the facebook chic and she will belittle his relationship with you and let him know that he can do much better with another woman, preferably her. Emotional cheating is another form of cheating, it might not be physical as of yet, but it is emotional and can easily turn physical.
When your boyfriend starts chatting with another woman be wary and vigilant because in no time he will throw you over for her, if not now it will be later. It's best you let him know how you feel about his friendships with other women and that you do feel threatened.
He should know that nothing he says about her being just a friend will make you feel any better, only his limited time talking to her once in a blue moon for a short time or his not hanging out with her at all will make you feel better. If he insist that nothings going on and you can't stop him from being friends with her, it's time for you to analyze whether or not you want to remain second fiddle to his gal pal during this relationship. Moving on finding a loyal boyfriend will suit you better. There are other men out there in the world who will be happy to show you that they only need one good woman to satisfy them.
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