Homosexual marriage and parenting pros and cons. Suggested best lifestyle for gays and lesbians to avoid sin

It is legal in western world to have several girl friends/boyfriends and sex partners (unless you are married). A guy in UK (known as 'The Sperminator' ) made 12 women pregnant all of whom he met in Facebook. Arnold Schwarzenegger,one of Hollywood's biggest stars, marred into the prestigious Kennedy family, nevertheless the former governor of California was recently in the news for having a child with a member of their household staff. He was not sent to prison as what he did was completely legal. At the worst case he has to divorce and pay the alimony according to the law of California. But why he was in the headlines though all he did was completely legal? Probably because, most people consider what he did was immoral and 'not right'. OK, so who decides what is right and what is wrong? The state or the church or the people? The catholic church (sorry I have to specify some name otherwise you will argue that 'church of sinners' allows all these acts) and most the people consider immoral what Arnold had done. According to the state what he has done is OK (he won't be put to prison).

Homosexual marriage is legal in New York. According to the law of New York, gays and lesbians can marry, adopt kids and raise them, all legally. It is legal to cheat the wife or husband, but should we do that? In this article, I would like to share with you my thoughts on the pros and cons of homosexual marriages and gay/lesbian parenting as well as a new lifestyle suggested for gays and lesbians.

Homosexual marriage and parenting pros:

  1. Feeling of victory and self- satisfaction over the discrimination of gays and lesbians
  2. Someone to love and care for
  3. No more loneliness
  4. Possibility to adopt children and be a parent like straight people.
  5. Children get someone who will look after them, someone brings them up and pays their expenses
  6. Lesbians can legally become pregnant by in-vitro fertilization

Homosexual marriage and parenting cons:

  1. Mortal sin of homosexuality according to Bible.
  2. Immoral act in the eyes of church
  3. Jeopardizing the eternal life Jesus promised for those who obey his commandments
  4. Self-deception: Even if you think you can get pregnant (through in-vitro) with your partner, ask yourself, Does the child really belong to you and your partner? When the child grows up he will definitely ask, who is my daddy? We can argue the legality but we cannot hide the fact that only a man and woman can create a child.
  5. Confused children: A child raised by homosexual person may be straight. They will have difficulty raising a family as they have never seen how a man and woman live together. They will have similar emotional and psychological effect as do children raised in broken families or by single parents. Here is a scientific article about the consequences of parenting by same sex partners.

https://litigation-essentials.lexisnexis.com/webcd/app?action=DocumentDisplay&crawlid=1&doctype=cite&docid=1997+U.+Ill.+L.+Rev.+833&srctype=smi&srcid=3B15&key=2dd8e8ce01af598ecb122a5dbbf019df

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It is quite unfortunate that society is yet to understand homosexuals. Unfortunately, most people find it hard to accept it. When I was discussing this issue with a woman, she replied that people can't be gay/lesbian, they just desired to be so or if he has some problem take some drugs and fix it. It is like telling a blind person, "you are blind, because you decided to be so". To be a gay/lesbian is not a disease, it is just a state of mind. Here is a nice article about it:

http://hubpages.com/hub/Is-it-a-disease-to-be-a-gay-or-lesbian-Is-there-gaylesbian-cure-Why-Church-is-against-homosexuals

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Suggested life style for homosexuals:

Even though to be a gay/lesbian is normal and not a disease, Bible says clearly that homosexual lifestyle is a mortal sin. It is a fact that gays don't feel sexually attracted towards women but men. It is normal. It is in the same way a married man feel sexually attracted towards a women in his office. What is most important here is how we deal with our feelings. If we let our feelings and our emotions overcome us, we are doomed. So how can a homosexual person live?

When I was a poor student, I shared my apartment with another guy to reduce expenses. His girlfriend wad abroad and they talked every day. For me he was a great friend. We shared the expenses and cooked together and after work we went out for drinks together. It was fun and I enjoyed it.

If you are a gay , find a lesbian ( and vice versa) and live together with her. Since you both are not sexually attracted to each other, it will be great fun. Have you ever heard the saying that gays are woman's best friend? This life style has several advantages. Most importantly, you are not living in sin. A straight catholic man cannot do this as living together with women before marriage is as grave sin (fornication) as homosexuality. You see, you have advantage over straight people. You don't need to be sexually attracted towards a person to love someone. Love your lesbian friend. You will never feel lonely as she will be your best friend. If you feel that you need a child, marry her. Even though you are a gay, your biology still works. If it doesn't work, medical science is advanced enough to help you. You can have children. Control your sexual excitement towards men in the same way married men control their 'broom' when they see beautiful women on street. If you now look the pros and cons of homosexual marriages mentioned above, you can see that by living together with your lesbian friend (or vice versa) you have the same advantages as homosexual marriages. However, you don't have the consequence of homosexual marriages. Most importantly, you will be living a life pleasing to God and at the same time having lots of fun with your friend.

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Kitty 23 months ago

14316Sepcb28KEB d46After reading seevral of the comments, a few things came to mind for me about this topic. It is interesting that people who believe that a homosexual person should embrace their desires and tendencies by being able to find a partner would be the most fulfilling optionfor them, and enything else will lead to a life of not having true happiness, love or joy. There are many people who believe that the number one reason we are here is to find love, love, and be loved. But is that true? Is the main goal in life to find love with another person? Is a person's life not fulfilled if for some reason they don't? Just because a homosexual person doesn't enter into a relationship with another person doesn't mean they are going to be left to face a life of feeling alone, unloved or like their didn't fulfill their true purposes in life. If a person who is gay chooses to remain single for the sake of what Bryan listed as his reasons (to lay his life down and glorify God), then why does that have to mean that he will be lonely? I do believe that God is loving, and we are still provided joys, laugther, loving, caring, nurturing relationships with others, even outside of a partner relationship. Marriage or a partnership to another person is not the end all for feeling loved. I believe He will still provide blessings of these types of situations outside of a partner relationship.This also reminds me of an article I read a while back on women and motherhood. Women are physically designed to be the ones to have children. Some women might make the decision, for whatever reason, to not have children. Some people would look at them and say why would you not want to be a mom? God wants us to procreate and have children? You aren't going to fulfill your purpose in this life, you are going to miss out on so many things . But, I don't believe that is the case at all. Being a mom isn't a woman's life end goal, and her life wouldn't be left incomplete if she chose to do so. There are many other things that a woman could involve herself in that would provide her with just as much fulfillment in her life than just having children. I feel like these two things in a way relate to each other. If anyone, not just a homosexual person, made the decision for their own personal reasons, to remain single, why does that equal to living a life that is unfulfilled?VA:F [1.9.20_1166](from 9 votes) 16b


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emdi 3 years ago Author

mbuggieh : Thanks for the comments.

¨Claims that the gay/lesbian "lifestyle" enables one to love without having sexual attractions leave me confused.¨

Parents do love their children. We also love our friends. God loves us all. It is not necessary to involve sex when ever love is involved. I see your point, but I think the media these days make us feel that sex has to be involved for love - even between two good male and female friends.

Sexual self-control applies not just to homo-sexuals, but also to hetro-sexuals too. The bible says those who who commit adultery and those who lives in homosexual life-style (this is different from being a homosexual, which is natural) does not have eternal life- life- ends with their death. So, sexual control is recommended for both homo-sexual and hetero-sexuals.

In fact you don´t need to involve God to understand this concept- just imagine the situation in this world, if there is no sexual control- sleep with anyone, anytime. This will lead to widespread genetic disorders (brothers and sisters having children together, unknowingly) and without children, human race will be extinct.


mbuggieh 3 years ago

Would we suggest to a heterosexual that they get a pet or a plant or a same-sex roommate to deal with whatever feelings they might have about being single or childless?

Claims that the gay/lesbian "lifestyle" enables one to love without having sexual attractions leave me confused. Are you saying that gays and lesbians can love without sexual/romantic interest, but heterosexuals are able only to love those people they are sexually attracted to?


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galaxy1000 4 years ago from Spokane, WA

I liked this article.


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emdi 4 years ago Author

pay2cEM:

As far as I know these are the verses where homosexual acts are mentioned as a sin in the Bible

1 Corinthians 6:9-10: "Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God"

Leviticus 20:13 "If a man lies with a male as with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination; they shall surely be put to death; their blood is upon them"

Romans 1:26-27 " Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural sexual relations for unnatural ones. In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed shameful acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their error"

Regarding Catholic and Protestant - as far as I know all those who are not Catholics are called protestants. I can also start a church today and say it is OK to have several wives or partners or it is OK to kill unborn babies, because they are not born and so on. This is the reason, I am a bit reserved in accepting the teachings of non-catholic churches, bible can be interpreted in the way we want.

One thing that I like of the Catholics is that they have almost the same teachings for the last 2000 years, hence probably more reliable.

I want to stress one more thing- it is natural to be homosexual. It is not the homosexuals that Bible condemns but the act of homosexuality in the same way fornication and adultery is sinful for straight people. Hence, thank God for the way he created you and ask his strength to overcome our weaknesses.


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pay2cEM 4 years ago from Nashville

1. My religious background was Protestant, so we obviously have different views about some things. The Catholic church declares many things to be wrong that the Bible never mentions, and it is my contention that it has no authority to to do so. Jesus telling Peter that he is the rock upon which the Church will be built is is a rather specious "explanation" as to why mortal men who are voted into the papacy have authority to whimsically make up and designate. If God thought it was a mortal sin, He would've said so. Since he didn't, no one is obligated to accept it based on the declarations of a man in a funny hat.


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emdi 4 years ago Author

Dear pay2cEM,

Thank you for the comments. I really appreciate it. Please read my feedback with an open heart and not with a defensive mood. I wrote this article to reach out to gay and lesbian friends and understand them. If you don't agree, please reply back at this comments section. There are several people who read this article and your comments will help us all to understand homosexuals and be more tolerant towards them.

Regarding you "Cons" about homosexuality:

1. The Bible doesn't say anywhere that it is a mortal sin.

%% Jesus said to Peter "And I tell you, you are Peter, and on this rock I will build my church, and the gates of hell shall not prevail against it. I will give you the keys of the kingdom of heaven, and whatever you bind on earth shall be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven.”" - Mathew 16:19

%% According to the catechism of the Catholic church, homosexual acts are mortal sin, so as fornication, all other forms of sodomy, as well as contraception, pornography and masturbation. Whether we like it or not, whether we follow it or not, this is what it has been teaching for 2000 years. There is no country, no institution or no leader who could influence so many people for such a long time. I personally believe that there is something supernatural (Pope and cardinals are just leaders, only as long as they are alive ) who leads the catholic church. If we disobey civil laws, we may have to go to jail. In western world we are under the delusion that nothing is going to affect us if we live our life in the way we want.

So, homosexual acts are mortal sin. If possible, stay away from it and thank God for creating us in the way we are. %%

2. . We can probably argue all day long about whether or not the church has the authority to legislate morality. I suppose they can declare whatever they want, but that certainly doesn't obligate any of us to listen to them.

%% We feel that we can do whatever we want and no one can prevent us. Yes, for some time. We face the consequences of global warming - people who lived before us didn't care about the nature.

%% It is church who gave the moral code of conduct to the western world. If you want to see the difference, spent some time in saudi and talk about the right to be a gay.

So yes, in west nobody force us to follow morality- but we will have to face the psychological and social consequences.%%

3. There aren't any Commandments about not being gay - let alone being a gay parent - so how would this affect your eternal life?

%% TO BE A GAY IS GENETIC, you can't do anything about it. What you could do is to control your free-will to do what you want and live a life pleasing to God, by following his teachings. You have the complete free-will to decide whether to trust in Jesus or not. Whether you would like to have a life after death or not.%%

4. Some heterosexual couples choose not to have children. Other couples CAN'T have children. Millions of people adopt children. What does #4 have to do with anything?

%% When Steve Jobs passed away, several newspapers talked about his parents. None talked about his parents who brought him up (probably very few), but his biological parents. Biological parenthood is so much important than any other means of parenthood. Only a male and female human can create another human- this is the law of God, this is the law of nature. All the unnatural ways will have its consequences (check medical literature for reference). Church call unnatural ways of living as 'sin' and society calls it 'inconsiderate'.%%

5. #5 is patently false. Millions of kids grow up in single-parent homes, and go on to have healthy family lives of their own. Do some kids raised in same-sex parent homes grow up to be dysfunctional? Sure! But so do kids raised in good homes by a mother and father. There aren't any generalizations you can make about kids growing up in a same-sex parent home that can't also be maid in an equally compelling manner about kids growing up in a traditional home environment. I would think a kid would be better off in a home with 2 dads who loved and respected each other than with a mom and a dad who fought all the time.

%%Yes, we all feel in the same way you think. The consequences are more psychological. Please check the scientific study link that I posted below #5%%


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pay2cEM 4 years ago from Nashville

Regarding you "Cons" about homosexuality:

1. The Bible doesn't say anywhere that it is a mortal sin.

2. We can probably argue all day long about whether or not the church has the authority to legislate morality. I suppose they can declare whatever they want, but that certainly doesn't obligate any of us to listen to them.

3. There aren't any Commandments about not being gay - let alone being a gay parent - so how would this affect your eternal life?

4. Some heterosexual couples choose not to have children. Other couples CAN'T have children. Millions of people adopt children. What does #4 have to do with anything?

5. #5 is patently false. Millions of kids grow up in single-parent homes, and go on to have healthy family lives of their own. Do some kids raised in same-sex parent homes grow up to be dysfunctional? Sure! But so do kids raised in good homes by a mother and father. There aren't any generalizations you can make about kids growing up in a same-sex parent home that can't also be maid in an equally compelling manner about kids growing up in a traditional home environment. I would think a kid would be better off in a home with 2 dads who loved and respected each other than with a mom and a dad who fought all the time.


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emdi 5 years ago Author

d.william: Thanks ! :-)

Can u please explain what is confusing in this article? This is a novel idea which you will never see anywhere else, might be because of this you found it irrational. Let's have a discussion here.

There is so much confusion among people these days regarding gays and lesbians. I believe society need to be more tolerant towards gays and lesbians and help them live a happy life. This is the intent of the article.

Regarding comment boxes, it is just an experiment to check the difference :-)


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d.william 5 years ago from Somewhere in the south

I found your article quite amusing (assuming that was your intent). If it wasn't then it is certainly lacking in logic and common sense. LOL.

P.S. I have read several of your articles and there is no comment box to write comments on them. Was this intentional? Or simply an oversight?


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emdi 5 years ago Author

Meow48, thanks for the comments.


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meow48 5 years ago from usa

humn, like this article because of the balance of both the pros and cons... since marriage has less than a fifty percent chance of being successful, i think it would be great if gays were included, it might bring the percentage of successful marriages up.... just a thought...

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