Getting Over Someone in Seven Easy Steps ( How To )

Have you ever hurted from an old relationship ?

  • Yes , and I forgot it easily
  • Yes , but it takes much more time to forget my partner
  • Yes , and I can't forget him/her up till now
  • No
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Getting over a person who hurted you or he was your old love is seems to be very easy , but most of people think it is very hard to achieve the complete stage of getting over that person , even if he work with you , in this article I will tell you how to do overcome any old bad memories , or to getting over someone who hurt you

how to get over someone you think that you can't live without him/her ??

First : asking yourself always : who is going to take care of me ? who will be beside me when I'm bad or down ?? , sure questions like this makes you fall again in living in the memories of your old relationship , STOP thinking in that way , search in your life , you must found lot of peoples who are already care about you .

Second : Listening to depressing musics and negative ones program your mind that there is no way to overcome this relationship , special if this media wether it was video or music or even a soundtrack remembering you with your old partner , please never listen to a music  after ending a realtionship for some days , you can only listen to the positive media only .. and forget the romance ones .

Third : as long as you go to the same placesyou are used to go with your partenr , you make getting over process more harder , if you persuade your mind and yourself that every thing is over , you will never think again to go to this placeswhich make you more depressed .

Fourth : Some people after ending up a relationship , when the mobiles rang they ran to see who is calling wishing that the caller is his/her old partner , or even calling him/her trying to get everything to normal , other people still visit their Facebook or myspace pages , and always try to know more information about them, all this methods deep your hurt more and more , stop thinking about your old partner make you never even remember her .

Fifth : most of peoples after ending their relationships start to visualizing their old memories and how much they love each other , and remember their best days , and their distress situations , as I said before persuading your mind that everything is over helps you very much in never even dream of him/her .

Sixth : Keeping anything related to the other partner sure make you remember him/her , so you have to get rid of everything can remembering you with the other partner , also never keep his/her photos in front of you .

Seventh : Keeping convincing themselves that he is the one , and no one like him in that world , all this things will never help you to getting over this old relationship , you have to know that their are lot and lot of potensial partner who are around you , just start to search your new soul mate :)

At the end , it's all about your mind persuading , if tell yourself that it is over , then you will never think about him/her again , and never look at him every 2 minutes if he/she work with you .

doing this seven steps well , help you greatly to forget any old realtionships or any old partner and you will have a new great life ;)

Best Regards

Comments 49 comments

6 years ago

Wha??


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Suri Serene 6 years ago from Former Jesselton, South East Malaysia

I just read few hubs to overcome your heartbreak and this would add up to be my sources of motivation to move on. Thank you!


not saying 6 years ago

i can't get over him and tbh he is the only thing ever on my mind

& i really wanna get over him but i just can't ;/


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Gypsy Willow 6 years ago from Lake Tahoe Nevada USA , Wales UK and Taupo New Zealand

Excellent hub with good photos. Thank you. It is a very painful process.


tinky 6 years ago

absolutely liked it!!!!

y cry 4 person who gives u pain, n would not even come n wipe your tears

better chuck him out, that's what he serves


Kendra  6 years ago

My lover died recently. We were together and i am so devastated. He was the most wonderful person. I am so heartbroken. I would give anything to have him back.


Michelle 6 years ago

Kendra, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I cannot even imagine your pain. I hope that you have strong support in your family and friends. You will need them to lean on. I will be thinking of you and praying for you. Just take it one day at a time. God Bless You.


Shelly 6 years ago

Having to go through this is lame.... Even after an eternity and the pain slowly going away it's still there, I still care and i still want it back. Is that a bad thing? Something "un normal"? Sometimes I feel asthough I have something wrong with me because I'm still not over it... Maybe one day though...


Wayne 6 years ago

It is easier to said then to do. Time spend and memories just kept haumting me. Seeing her spending more time with the other guy certainly cuts you deep. Its unbearable.


Sarah 5 years ago

Are you stupid? I couldn't even really concentrate on the meaning of this passage because all of the grammatical errors. Sorry, but that was just...horrid.


Sam 5 years ago

uh huh, your really not looking for help if you are looking for grammer mistakes. Geez, just read it and edit in your head to understand it if its THAT horrid. gosh.


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tinaweha 5 years ago from Seattle (and the world)

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Merry Christmas


tabby  5 years ago

Reading this jus makes me cry more. ...I hvent been wit ma x gf in bout 4 months nd I still cnt get ova herre so nobody can say its easy or this process helped....me nd herr were togetha 4 a yr


Mia 5 years ago

Thanks, this helped so much and I can relate from step one to the ending.


Greg 5 years ago

It's been about 4 months since my relationship with this girl who meant everything to me ended...and We've had on and off's keep happening...and She's just thrown me away again after yesterday me and her snuggled and kissed at the park..., and now I'm trying really hard to move on but its too hard..meeting new girls is hard for me :'( I just wanna die, i can't stand this pain..


georgette 5 years ago

Greg,

I know what your going through .Im you in the female verson .It just works to love youself .Put your hand over your heart and feel it .Self compassion is the answer Millions of people go through this a day .

the answer is to stop thinking about her .how is the question Im seeking .


Chad 5 years ago

ALCOHOLLLLLLL


thandie 5 years ago

readin this just made me realise i deserve better.i noe e path i hv chosen wnt b easy especially afta thinkin he was e right person for me.i pray and hope that the good lord wil strengthen me.


Lana 5 years ago

omg! such poor language! It is very hard to read this text with so many mistakes!!!


joolz 4 years ago

This article made me feel better only because I realized I can write much better. Clearly the advice "giver" needs spellcheck.


Helen 4 years ago

Im having the worst time at the moment myself.. And unfortunately i have made matters worse by al

lowing him to toy with my emotions.. And i have also developed quite worrying paranoia, in which im constantly asking myself 'who is she? Is she someone i know? Did he meet her at work? Does she know me?' .. Its killing me, i know time is a healer but this is torture... Seriouslly.. And im so friggin weak i feel like callin him now.. How can u be torn between 2 people?! BS..


Anonymous 4 years ago

Thank you so much u dnt now how much that can help me!


Hola 4 years ago

Helen I FEEL YOU!! Girl, continue to pray and hopefully each day will get better than the next. I am going thru the same exact thing. I hate him for it. And this too shall pass.


gdcarter 4 years ago

Well I can honestly say getting over someone is HARD. You move along but you never forget. Me and my first love have been apart since 2007 after 5 years together and sometimes I still wish things could have gone differently. My now ex and I broke up for a year and it was easy for me to move along then we started back conversing got back together and he cheated in leas than 6 months and I can't seem to let go this time. I thought things were going to be different this time. If I knew it would end like this I would have kept it like it was. Never speaking and definitely no face to face contact. I pray about this every night. That we work it out or that God gives me the strength to move on. I would never wish a broken heart on my worst enemy.


aa 4 years ago

I feel the same way. I feel like I just wanna die when I think about the fact that he will never be back. It's very painful


Jessica 4 years ago

Im tryn so hard I wasn't getting over him I was basically trying to leave him and not hurt a stick with my dicision needless to say I finally did it


Tiffany 4 years ago

It's hard..i had this man continously goin back anf forth with me. Continously breaking my heart. Lying to me, cheating on me, disappearing then reappearing in my life. I felt as though i did need him....couldn't see myself without him. I guess it was a fear of also being lonely..not finding anyone else who could compare. Then i opened my eyes and started looking at all the spiteful things he did, the many nights i cried and he didnt dry my tears. The many nights my heart felt as though someone had ripped it right out of my chest. The days i was always there for him and he didnt appreciate me. His degrading ways and his need to feel as though he had to be "A MAN" and disrespect me in front of other people, making me feel as though i was nothing...I opened my eyes and realized i was allowing myself to be treated that way, and a person will only do to u what u let them. I started loving myself a little more each day and realized he was a piece of shit and i deserved better...and with that being said i DID BETTER.It was hard but i didnt look back and i kept moving. There are people out there who will treat me better. Why settle for less when u deserve much more??


Kimberley 4 years ago

It is really hard, i'm 17 and just broke up from a 3 year relationship. I'm so scared, but i've sort've come to a conclusion, the other day i walked to his house to apolagize and i literally broke down and he didn't batter an eyelid at my pain, so i thought to hell with him! i can get someone better! He was a lovely boy but if he doesn't care why should i? Come on girls get some strength! :D xx


Not Illiterate 4 years ago

How did this defilement of the English language get printed? The information contained within might have been useful, had I been able to decipher it. Oh, I may be using words that are far above your obvious 3rd grade writing level. Maybe you should try to get an education before putting yourself in print.


dreamerxx 4 years ago

My bf slammed me on the hood of the car today and I STILL can't leave him or get over him, I'm doomed.


lover 4 years ago

this is for those who have the same experience like mine, just think about it: if he or she had loved you never left you. you yourself always be a lover.


Cheated on 4 years ago

I recently discovered my husband having an affair. He denied it but she called me and told me he was with.I confronted him he denied it and left the house and hasn't came hone. He spoke to our son and asked for me I don't know why we have been married for almost 20 years. I can't get him out of my head please help.


hopeless 4 years ago

it's been 3 years. whenever i am not overworking. the pain comes back. i m tired. he's getting married already. i still thinko fhim and miss him nad it still hurts like hell. i have aged so much and i can't seem to like anyone else.


Lynne 4 years ago

I have had my bf for a year and two months, i know this wont be easy. its when you have had a person for so long you can't stand to be lonely you were so dependent on that one person. Think about what you are able to do now that your partner wouldn't want you to because he didn't accpet it. Ex. i wanted a tatto forget it he found them to be discusting. I can do it now because it makes me happy, you just gotta control your urges and surround yourself with close friends and strengthen the not so close friends. Still in motion of getting over mine :{ been 4 days.


jairo 4 years ago

this sucks i fell like i got crushed stumach my hearts on the ground behind me in a 10000pieces my brain is stuck can't walk without breathing hard my eyes can't avoid her fav colors i can't funtion right. beer girls drugs dont help just make it worse. and all she did was just turned around and walked across the street to here house. but shit happens even wen you try your hardest..shit happens

fuck


Anonymous 4 years ago

I have been with him for a month bt am so in love with and can't seem to forget him it's been two weeks now.he left me coz his ex girlfriend is pregnant.am so broken


Zara 4 years ago

I left overseas for my higher education and within two months my boyfriend of three years doesn't want me anymore.He's like for commitment and marriage i've to think.I've caught him cheating on me on the past and always was suspicious about his activities.He finally figured it out that he's never gonna be happy with me after being with me for 3 years..It hurts like hell and i'm so miserable..want to erase him forever from my mind,heart it seems impossible..maybe someday..but i hurt like in hell now...icry myself to sleep every night..i miss him.Long distance relation never works...i pray even my enemy doesn't feel this sort of pain!!


Princessangel 4 years ago

I have been separated for a year frm my ex husband and then i had a bf which i thought i got into a relationship to early and i can't stop thinking about my ex sometimes. I recently broke up with my bf and was hoping to just try being friends then maybe trying again. The things he doesn't want me to do makes me angry at him as he doesn't like me chating with my guy mates, but his a real genlteman otherwise so loving and caring. Just hate it that i have hurt him when i did not mean to. :(


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Sheila 3 years ago

having my lover back was the greatest thing that has ever happened to me. I have been dating my lover for 3yrs now, we have never had a misunderstanding that would lead to us leaving each other till last month when my lover accused me of cheating when am not, his jealousy turned us apart. Everytime i message him or call him he tells me to go and meet my new boyfriend that he has found himself a girlfriend too, I was so depressed that i could not take it any more then i told a friend what i was going through. That was how i was introduced to a lady called priestess Ifaa online who they say it does spells. I told her all that happened and. The spell lady said that i shouldn't worry that she's going to restore my happiness At first I didn't want to believe her when she said my lover is now dating someone else that's why he is looking for an excuse to leave. She was right on because after she has done the spell to return my lover to me the other girl was trying to intrude into our relationship again that was when my lover beats her up and warned her never to come closer ever again. The lady spells worked to the fullness, you can contact her on this email priestessifaa@yahoo.com You will not be disappointed in ordering a spell from her.


Nene 3 years ago

Great ..!! Will definitely use these ..!!


Arvi 3 years ago

I revisit memories and imagine scenes without that person(or sometimes convince myself i was talking to an imaginary person). It's the easiest way I find to cope with losses.


Vicki 3 years ago

Tiffany 12 months ago

It's hard..i had this man continously goin back anf forth with me. Continously breaking my heart. Lying to me, cheating on me, disappearing then reappearing in my life. I felt as though i did need him....couldn't see myself without him. I guess it was a fear of also being lonely..not finding anyone else who could compare. Then i opened my eyes and started looking at all the spiteful things he did, the many nights i cried and he didn't dry my tears. The many nights my heart felt as though someone had ripped it right out of my chest. The days i was always there for him and he didn't appreciate me. His degrading ways and his need to feel as though he had to be "A MAN" and disrespect me in front of other people, making me feel as though i was nothing...I opened my eyes and realized i was allowing myself to be treated that way, and a person will only do to u what u let them. I started loving myself a little more each day and realized he was a piece of shit and i deserved better...and with that being said i DID BETTER.It was hard but i didn't look back and i kept moving. There are people out there who will treat me better. Why settle for less when u deserve much more?? I'm going through this right now. How can I move on??? I love him so much and he breaks my heart over and over again.


mary 3 years ago

I was in a 4 year relationship spoke Marriage and all..And then I found out by a co worker..That the man I was truly in Love with and thought was in Love with me ..Got Married on me..Soo destroyed to the core. how do I begin to Heal Idk where to start...


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riya 2 years ago

When I was in school ws in a relationship with a guy .

He broke up with me .

Its takes me 4 years to over come him those 4 yrs were vry painful for me than entered my college their I met with a boy ,

His playec with my emotions n now now I m heart broken lonely suffering frm insomaia:(

Just wanted to die


Fran 2 years ago

I am in the same boat as Tiffany. My husband of 20 yrs was very abusive, a womanizer and alcoholic. I left him almost 2 years now, he has a main squeeze and a few others. I have yet to find any one, much less hold a conversation. It is tearing me apart thinking about him and other women, he never show me love. He was giving what i wanted, what was to be for me away to every one but me. I loved this man with my entire being, and it is so hard to get him out of my heart and mind. The pain in chest grips me so hard it fisicaly hurt and there is a lump in my throat i can't seem to get rid of. I am trying very hard not to think or emagin him. When i think i am getting strong, i revert back to miss him so terribly. I know i am doing a diss service to my self and i am the one suffering while he is all happy and go lucky getting satisfied while burn. I still cry insasively every now and then but i calm my self after a while and give it another try to forget and let go. I met some one on public forum who is genuinely interested in me. He wants me to be his wife. It excited me in the begining but i simmer down because i was too excited and did not want to give appearance of being desperate. I din't want to spook him away. At times i say to my self i am not realy interested in him but i will learn to love him because is every thing i want in a man and he says i am every thing he wants. We have a lot in common but it troubles me that he is so much younger than me although he seems pretty mature and level headed. What is wrong with me, i notice some times i tend to sabotage my self. Is it out of fear of being rejected again and again so i ruin it before i let it ruin me. I am now trying to emerce my self into this man and over look all of my inhibitions. I want to forget my husband but i don't want this aching feeling affect my new life.

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