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Going Single Into Your Thirties And Beyond

Updated on March 5, 2017

Resist the social pressure to date just because people keep talking about it. So what if everyone is married and you are thirty at home with the TV and the cat for company? This is far from unappealing in my book. In my twenties, I used to buy books that told women how they could win a man's interest, or how to date better, but now I just give those books away. Although certain ones are funny and insightful for those who want to meet somebody, and that is wonderful if that is what you need and want in life. However, I just do not care at all if I never meet someone to date. I have dated, but it never made feel feel excited or good about myself. Actually, I have got to the point where I flout certain societal expectations that were made up years ago, such as the premium being placed on being in a relationship.

I do not have kids, and I am not upset about that either. My niece and nephew have enriched my life in many ways, and have never been one of those types of women who looked forward to having a baby. I do not fit in with many women who go on and on about their relationships and "pleasing my man" because these subjects are of no interest to me. Some people might think this is bitter, but I just find it refreshing. I refuse to be a statistic of the divorce treadmill, and it is not in my nature compromising who I am just so I can have a man in my life. Honestly, I believe many of us single and intelligent women are alone for a good reason, some men just cannot handle our cogent and pithy thoughts. I have had men tell me I must reform my thinking, but now I just do not care. I am not an extreme Feminist, but writing online has helped me to learn to flaunt societal rules even more. Here are some ways a single woman in her thirties, and beyond, can declare independence against silly societal conventions.

Flaunt silly societal rules and be single way beyond your thirties.
Flaunt silly societal rules and be single way beyond your thirties.

Dine Out Alone

Yes make a point of eating anywhere and everywhere you like, even if are by yourself.  Who cares if other people see you and feel pity.  Honestly, you should probably feel sorry for them if their company is not stimulating enough to find other topics of conversation.   As a personal preferences I only prefer to eat alone at places like Subway, and not at fancy sit-down restaurants.  Did I mention I prefer subs anyway?

Exercise Alone

The solitude of nature is far more stimulating than listening to a group of people prattle on about their ipods.
The solitude of nature is far more stimulating than listening to a group of people prattle on about their ipods.

Experience the sensation of nature by exercising on your own without having to making gym dates with friends.  People who are pedestrians like me are used to getting about on our own anyway, so a walk in nature is far more stimulating than hearing a group of people prattle on about the latest TV show.  I enjoy conversation, but I am more of a one on one kind of person.  When I take walks on my own I have the freedom to go at my own pace, and not to keep up or wait for anyone that does not enjoy my walking speed.

Single women need to blog too!
Single women need to blog too!

Blogging Is For Single Women Too!

We always hear about mommy blogs, but what about the single/childless women bloggers? I extensively write about this subject on my websites and blogs, which is just very refreshing. There is nothing like turning on the computer each morning to update my website on my rants and raves about dating, and being single. Mostly it is my observations on life as a single woman, which is just beautiful and powerful. I may never give birth to a child, but the things I create are meaningful in a way women with children will never understand or get. Do not get me wrong I admire women who are mothers, but there are a few that can be a bit disparaging towards those of us who do not procreate.  I just say women who are married with kids should think a bit more about the comments they make about those of us who do not share their path in life.  A few should step and consider whether they are coming off as judgmental or excluding of their single friends when they make certain comments.  Women who never have children are sometimes underscored in our society, and I think we are just as valuable.  We are all valuable, but the single women blogging movement is about raising this awareness.

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