Gossips and Busybodies
Oh my word! Did you know?..........
Save your strength. There is no sense in attempting to convince me that you never gossip.
I wouldn't believe you. No one ever freely admits to this nasty activity.
How is it I'm so sure of this? Because anyone with any sense of decency or grasp on socially acceptable behavior knows that to gossip is rude, cruel and results in unsubstantiated character assassination.
Mature adults should also be aware that spreading rumor a.k.a sharing the dirt is for busybodies and bullies. Frankly, this nonsense should be outgrown in High School. Not so. It seems some adults are only getting started.
Having said this, it would be fair to add, very few Politicians can be considered mature adults. They do however make major decisions that impact our entire country as they sling mud at one another non-stop.
Allow me to clear something up. The kind of destructive chatter I'm referring to would not include incidents of private conversations dealing with unpleasant issues people may have from time to time.. Human beings all need an outlet to purge or at least discuss the things that have a tendency to eat away at us.
In clarification, if you choose to spill your guts to your trusted sister about the fact that you have valid reason to believe that your neighbor's husband is having an affair with another neighbor's wife.....by all means get it off your chest. That surely beats the hell out of relating the same story at the hair dresser's with four other local females who lust for the scoop on anyone. This would include whether or not there is an ounce of truth to a story or it has been totally fabricated.
Please, can we not make it a practice to just believe every bit of idle trash we can collect on anyone.. to include people we don't even know? Does this make any sense to you?
A little idle chit-chat, anyone?
C'mon, you know those ladies.. who when they hear the words, "Can you believe what happened to...... their eyes light up, and they begin to salivate. (drum roll please) Introducing, "The Gossip Mongers." Men are not exempt from this group, by the way.
The reality is, I pride myself on tolerance but can readily admit I have none for the tongue-waggers of this world. Hard as I try to understand and accept, I see no justification for exposing one's own empty life by publicizing the flaws and vices of others.
If you find it difficult to see the nonsense in this idle chatter, simply pick up a celebrity gossip magazine off any shelf. In this case gossip is good. Having your name, your face and the latest stupid thing you did in public, is more exposure. More exposure is exactly what celebrities want.
But the reality for most ordinary people is we don't all have a public relation's manager, press agent, and tons of money. The same things many celebrities do that bring them fame, could easily get us into all sorts of legal troubles. The vast majority of ordinary citizens are not looking for publicity nor are they hoping to be noticed.
Let's Talk about this....
I'm sure that I feel strongly about this sad fact of human nature in large part due to my father's attitude and influence all his life. I can also give some credit to my own common sense
I recall being deliberately taught a lesson or two that ultimately appeared to be repeated as a mantra.
My Dad believed that parents could be sure to wish for a terrible and troublesome kid, just by judging other people's kids. I find that to be very true. Just do not slander the not-so-angelic-children of others. Your own darlings will transform and grow horns, before your very eyes. This of course, a punishment for participating in gossip.
Good mantras to cling to.
If you're going to be adamant about something, it can only be a plus to hold tight to the basic rules of decency and common courtesy.
It's a good idea to remember that everyone is someone's son, daughter, brother, sister and chances are good that they are loved and treasured by someone somewhere. When tempted to bad mouth someone, think about that. Speaking from experience, it helps to keep the negativity down to a whisper.
It also helps to think about your own loved ones and how very hurtful it would be to hear a nasty or worse, untrue statement being passed around about him or her.
Does it seem a bit bizarre to you that I am suggesting ways to curb the unacceptable habit of trashing fellow human beings? It seems kind of sad to me.
Sooo...WHY do you suppose People Gossip?
No need to belabor....
Feeling fairly confident I have communicated my message here in terms of my attitude on the subject of bashing and trashing individuals at random for your own selfish motives.
We all have opinions and attitudes on most topics of conversation. These are mine on the simple and Universal behavior of using various means of communication to hurt, defile, discount and demean fellow human-beings.
I don't approve. It saddens me and more often, angers me. My only defense to it is to avoid participation......ignore the ignorance.....rebut the nonsense. Try like hell to maintain my respect and compassion for all people....and hope that I might pass on the same to those around me.
Just one more tidbit I'd like to share. I heard this or read this, at least three decades ago and found it well-worth submitting to memory. You may be familiar with these words.....if so, this is just a reminder.....If not, I hope you'll find it valuable enough to take to heart.
"Intelligent people discuss ideas........average people discuss events.......ignorant people just talk about other people."
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