Gullible Guys Beware The Social Network 'Beauty Queen' Scam

GIRLS WHO LOOK LIKE THIS MAY BE THE GIRLS WHO ARE SCAMMING MONEY.
GIRLS WHO LOOK LIKE THIS MAY BE THE GIRLS WHO ARE SCAMMING MONEY.
IT CAN HAPPEN TO ANY GULLIBLE GUY--BEING TAKEN FOR HUGE AMOUNTS OF MONEY.
IT CAN HAPPEN TO ANY GULLIBLE GUY--BEING TAKEN FOR HUGE AMOUNTS OF MONEY.
BEING SCAMMED BY A PRETTY GIRL IS NOT FUNNY.
BEING SCAMMED BY A PRETTY GIRL IS NOT FUNNY.
SOME GIRLS WITH BEAUTY HAVE HIDDEN GREED THAT CAN ROB GULLIBLE MEN LIKE ME BLIND.
SOME GIRLS WITH BEAUTY HAVE HIDDEN GREED THAT CAN ROB GULLIBLE MEN LIKE ME BLIND.
DON'T BE FOOLED. EVERYONE WHO IS BEAUTIFUL IS NOT TRUE.
DON'T BE FOOLED. EVERYONE WHO IS BEAUTIFUL IS NOT TRUE.

Boy, Did I Look Foolish!

I want to be real honest with you now. I mean what I say. I am not, repeat not, a good-looking guy. Never was. Never will be. Not a problem. For I am learned to be comfortable in my skin and not worry about the Brad Pitt's, Matt Damon's and Johnny Depp's of the world. One day they too will face old age. On second thought, these movie stars will think of a way to always look good. You can take that to the bank.

I Was Minding My Own Business . . .When

I noticed that I had received an email from a girl that I did not know. I was working on my Facebook account at the time, so my mind wasn't focused as it should be. Foolishly, I opened the email. My heart stopped. My blood pressure shot up five points. I nearly fainted. Glad that I didn't for I was at home alone. The email had an accompanying photo of a gorgeous girl, similar to these in this story. A heiterosexual man's dream. Beautiful, brunette hair. Full lips. Perfect skin. I was dreaming. I must be dreaming. No girl who looks this good ever sends me an email. For any reason. Okay, I thought. I will read the email. No harm in that. Cannot commit adultery that way. Men can rationalize anything. Any situation.

The Email Started Off By Saying . . .

"Hi. I am new to Facebook. I don't know anyone. I need a good friend to teach me how to work on Facebook. You seem like that kind of guy. Would you help this lonely, Christian girl by being her friend?"

Ring-a-ding-ding! Red lights started flashing. Sirens, whistles, fog horns sounded so loud that the windows of the office in my home rattled as if it were an earthquake. I was scared for a moment. Sweat began to form on my forehead. My hands begin to shake as I tried to REPLY to this 'lonely Christian girl's' email. What else could I do? We are put here on earth to help the down-trodden, right? Jesus would do this, I thought. With that last bit of personal justification, I replied, "Hello. (nice start), my name is, Kenneth Avery. How are you? And I have to ask, "Why did you send me this email?"

Then I hit the REPLY button and that was that. I had terrible mixed emotions. Part of me was sorry that I had replied to this beauty, while another part of me said, 'hey, life is short,' so I just finished up my work for that day and shut down my computer. That night, I had millions of thoughts racing one behind the other--what if she really is wanting a friend? I'm a granddad, this won't work. I am an old guy. Girls do not want old guys. Were just a few of the thoughts that kept me tossing and turning before I fell asleep.

While Checking My Messages On Facebook The Next Day . . .

There she was. Again. Holy hot water, Batman! What do I do now? With shaking, unsure hands, I opened up her email. Her name was allegedly, Melissa Sherry Clinton. Odd name for a girl. What do her family and friends use for her nickname, Mel-Sherry? Sherry-Clint? Like I said. That was her alleged name. I checked her profile page and sure enough, that was her alleged name. Her email this time said,

"Hi, lover! Thanks for replying to me. I thought about you all night. I just can't wait to hold you in my arms, sing pretty love songs to you and tell you how much I adore you,"

Actually, not a bad read. I have never, even in my single days of chasing women all over Alabama and Mississippi, did I EVER get a note as steamy as this one. Sparks were flying from the screen of my PC. Now my mind, although gullible, was beginning to get suspicious. That comes from my background in the newspaper business--"take nothing at face value. Ask questions beyond the surface regardless if you do know what you see and hear is the truth," was what I was taught. Thank God, I remembered.

I hesitated before answering her second email. The first question in the back of my mind was, "what if this is a scam?" Followed by, "what if this is on the up and up?" I had a dilemma on my hands. A carousel of emotional, mental torment. What to do? What not to do? I sat and reread her second email while, honestly, enjoying her photo which was NOT pornographic in any way, guys. I know you thought that this girl was a porno star wanting new traffic. No, she was dressed rather modestly. But the look on her face said it all. But I won't aggravate the HubPages editors by writing it here.

I Replied To "Melissa Sherry Clinton's" Second Email with . . .

"Listen. I do not know you. What you say is very flattering. I am honored that you would say these rather edgy things to me, but I am not into adultery, cheating on my companion, even if she were allegedly treating me bad. I am an old guy. A sick guy with fibromyalgia and severe neuropathy. I do not mind being 'just friends,' and maybe correspond like pen pals, if you want to, but what you are suggesting, is not for me.

For the second time, I hit REPLY, went about my work for HubPages, (which in all honesty, I enjoy a lot more than Facebook. Free plug, HubPages editors), and had a rather quiet day. But "Mellisa," her alleged name, was still rolling around in my mind like a trolley car in San Francisco that never misses a stop. Thoughts of this girl hit right on time. Every time. And things for me were getting sticky. I did the one thing that I urge all gullible men who might be faced with my dilemma with a girl online or in-person who wants 'more than a walk in the park,' go take a long, hard, honest look in the mirror at yourself. That's all. If you are like me, seeing a true reflection of yourself can be very sobering. Even if you do not drink.

The next morning, I had my coffee and was booting up my PC with "Melissa," her alleged name, on my mind. Maybe she got the hint. Maybe she is long gone. Maybe the earth is square. Yeah, right. She was gone alright. When I hit my Facebook icon, went to messages, she was there waiting on me in her third message that read . . .

"Hello, sweetheart! I thought about you all night long. And I agree with you. I do not want you to hurt your family. (at this point, I let out a sigh of relief), I just want you and I to be close friends to share our dreams, hopes, love of God and stuff. I travel a lot and I have a job that keeps me on the road a lot, so being good friends ONLY sounds terrific to me,"

Now I was pretty-much relieved. No adultery. No sneaking out of town, which was a no-brainer for she allegedly lived in Memphis, Tennessee and I didn't have money to go there. Besides what would I say to my companion? "Honey, see ya' in a few days?" COMPANION: "Just where are you going?" "To Memphis. To comfort a new Christian friend." COMPANION: New Christian friend? What's her name? See? My case was already made. I wasn't about to do a stupid thing by mortgaging my home, selling my blood, borrowing money from my banker friend, Dana Scott at my bank in Hamilton, First State Bank of the South. No sir. I was going to be cool as Henry "Fonz" Winkler. I was through with online, edgy-girl emails.

Then on the third day, I booted up my PC while sipping my hot, fresh coffee. I hit the Facebook icon, went to messages and guess who? "Melissa Sherry Clinton," her alleged name, was there. Probably spent the night. Poor girl. What devotion. And yes, she had sent yet another lengthy email that read . . .

"You, lover, make me want to write love songs, poetry, and listen to songbirds. I have thought about us being friends and that is cool. But do you want to date me in secret or in the open?" (WHHHAAAAATTTT? Date? Secretly or openly? In-person? Cannot afford this and besides, it's wrong. No one dates online. Not feasible. I thought) "I just need a sensitive, caring man like you, who I don't care about his age, to take care of me. I am 29 years old, single, and have money, but no good man for a friend. Talk to you later."

Now I would have sworn that I saw Glenn Close run by my office window wielding a butcher's knife in her hand carrying a white bunny that I didn't even own. No, Michael Douglas wasn't in my front yard to be honest. Oh come on. You have seen "Fatal Attraction," right? This was turning into that for me in real-life. Now I was just plain bored. Wasn't turned on or off by this girl's suggestive verbiage. That happens to some guys when they reach my age, 57. I was really thinking more about having dinner that evening at our local Huddle House in Hamilton, Alabama more than the bold, 29-year-old girl from Memphis. Not even this girl would be able to stage a comeback from my last rejection. I was feeling good. Confident. Back to my old, broken-down self.

The next morning around 11:00, I did my usual morning routine: brought my cup of hot, fresh coffee with me as I booted up my PC. "it's gonna be a good day," I thought to myself slightly smiling as my PC roared to life. By the way, I drink Community coffee and use a DELL Inspiron PC. That's for the benefit of you who think that this is all made up. No. This, sadly, is a true story. I hit, as usual, the Facebook icon, went to messages and yes, "she" was there. "Melissa Sherry Clinton," her alleged name. With a fourth email. I started thinking of my lawyer's phone number as well as the number of my minister. Both are very useful in situations like this.

With a hint of frustration and anger, I hit the OPEN button to the email and she had written . . .

"Hello, my good man friend. I enjoyed your email that you sent me. Being friends with you is a warm experience. Now, you just tell me, what can I do for you today?" (I told her that I had checked her profile page and viewed her rather 'worldly' photos which she took as a compliment. I told her the fourth time that I was NOT going to do wrong by her. And maybe there was some other guy on Facebook that she could use in that capacity). Then it came. Like a bolt of lightning in a Kansas thunderstorm, the "real" reason she had been emailing me. She went on in her email to say: "I hate to ask you for a favor this early in our friendship, but I am trapped in Nigeria, in a motel room with all of my antiques, gold that I have bought, and some rare wedding items. The manager wants me to pay him $450.00 before he lets me go. Would you wire me the money?"

I was halfway angry. Halfway excited that this near-ordeal was finally over. My only response before reporting her abusive email practice to Facebook was, "Why don't you give the motel manager some of the gold you have? " Amateur. She must have thought by looking at me that I was born two days ago. And I am not going to sit here and say that I am a sharp-thinker for I am prone to making human mistakes just like anyone else. I wonder where girls like this were when I was 18, single, and had the time and health to entertain them?

A final piece of advice to you guys, like me, gullible, which is not an ugly word, let me share with you a few pieces of advice on how to spot an online scam artist who are sometimes an attractive young girl:

  • If the girl who approaches you comes on too soon, beware. She is not playing by the rules, guys. If this girl I talked about in my story had taken her time and led up to her question of wanting money, I might have given in. But she played her hand too quick.
  • Before you do anything for any girl who is not familiar to you, check her background, her profile on Facebook or any social network if she has one.
  • Make sure, like I did, that some of my old prankster buddies were not setting me up.
  • Ask the girl approaching you where she lives, works, background, anything you can use to find out who she really is and what she wants. Did you know that even foreign terrorists use this con to get money for use in their fight against us in Afghanistan and Iraq?
  • Finally, be cool, wise, and slow to answer.
  • And keep this old saying in mind: "If she appears too (looking) good, she is."

Turns out, the very next day, I went through my usual morning regiment--coffee, booting up the PC, hitting Facebook icon, going to messages and I couldn't believe it.

There was ANOTHER GIRL "Monica Lisa," her alleged name, who started off her email word-for-word like the "Melissa Sherry Clinton," all together now, her alleged name.

This time my reply was, "no thanks!" And went to my favorite website: HubPages for another day of writing.


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Movie Master 5 years ago from United Kingdom

Hi Kenneth, It's so easy to be pulled in by these scams, especially by a supposedly beautiful young girl, excellent advice here.

Pictures and lay out looks great!

Many thanks for sharing, best wishes.


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kenneth avery 5 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Hi, Movie Master! Thanks for the support! And yes, I agree. So easy for guys like me to be victims of these scams. Thank you again and my one goal is this: if ONE person is spared the pain and humiliation by reading my story or yours, from being "taken," then the work is not in vain. I.O.U. big time for the comment!


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robie2 5 years ago from Central New Jersey

Melissa Sherry sounds like the successor to the Nigerian Prince-- hey maybe she IS the Nigerian prince in another incartnation-- whatever. This was a wonderful read and I salute you for sharing it. Most of us have been taken in by someone at one time or another, but few of us are a willing to admit it and get a good chuckle out of it as you are-- Kudos, thumbs up and thanks-- and watch out for lonely Christian girls on the internet:-)


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kenneth avery 5 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Hi, Robie2, "Sincerely, THANK YOU for this lovely comment. It has cheered me up. A lot. And it is always nice, I mean nice, to hear from YOU, robie2. I hope that ONE person who is in the process of being set-up and don't realize it, will be helped by this.


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JamaGenee 5 years ago from Central Oklahoma

"If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is". Your background in journalism served you well, Ken. But it was a nice ride while it lasted, right? At 57, you aren't over the hill yet if you considered for even a nano-second that this gorgeous "girl" - who knows if "she" was even female - could be genuinely interested in a friendship with an old geezer like yourself! ;D


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kenneth avery 5 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Hello, JamaGenee--THANK YOU. AGAIN, for this comment. Nice ride? Well, granted, it was a nervous ride for I cannot afford a divorce much less a ticket to Memphis where this "girl" allegedly lives, or lived. I shall not ever dwell on the fact if this was a 'she' or, well, a guy. Just hope they got out of trouble in Nigeria. I am not a good 'soldier of fortune,' and would not pass a screen test for "The A-Team 2." Thanks again, Jama.


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Nellieanna 5 years ago from TEXAS

I have a friend who is very smart in most ways, but girls take advantage of him again and again. He never learns. He's single and about your age and really would like to get married. But he seeks the most unlikely women and fails to recognize the signs or to heed the 'red flags'. Over the years he's been scammed a number of times. So I know it really happens. I'm sure that the internet has multiplied the opportunities for this kind of scam exponentially! It's really incredible that guys wouldn't recognize it immediately. Must be a complicated brand of male psychology at work.


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kenneth avery 5 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Dear Nellieanna, thank YOU so much for this comment that proves that YOU are a very wise lady. I cannot count the times as a single guy that I was lied to and used by certain girls, but I don't have time for grudges, but I DO Have time to use the wisdom that these situations gave me. Thank you again for your encouragement.


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Nellieanna 5 years ago from TEXAS

As I was getting ready for my day this morning, Kenneth, it occurred to me that the lessons involved in those pretty-girl scams which prey on guys can easily apply to other situations in life for anyone.

The bottom line lesson is "if it seems too good to be true, it probably is" - too good to be.

I'm considering an offer (in a different area of life) which strikes me as a bit too good & realize it calls for a degree of skepticism before swallowing whole, in the same way. When one's ''guts" speak up, it's wise to pause & listen to their objections. And being alert & fully aware are the two major by-words.


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Nellieanna 5 years ago from TEXAS

As I was getting ready for my day this morning, Kenneth, it occurred to me that the lessons involved in those pretty-girl scams which prey on guys can easily apply to other situations in life. The bottom line lesson is "if it seems too good to be true, it probably is" - too good to be. I'm considering an offer (in a different area of life) which strikes me as a bit too good & realize it calls for a degree of skepticism before swallowing whole, in the same way. When one's ''guts" speak up, it's wise to pause & listen to their objections. And being alert & fully aware are the two major by-words.


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kenneth avery 5 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Nellieanna . . .you are so right. If I had listened to my gut years ago, a lot of bad decisions I made would not be a bad memory that haunts me at times today. Thank you for your sharp wisdom. I appreciate YOU!


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somethgblue 5 years ago from Shelbyville, Tennessee

Beautiful con artists aren't limited to the internet as many women soon realize they are sitting on a gold mine. Sex sells itself, kinda of like crack cocaine (no pun intended)!

I could list at least ten relationships I've had with women where they just came flat out and told me they want to find a sugar daddy.

What is the one thing that destroys more relationships . . . Love, hardly! It's money baby, where I grew up the brothers had a saying Money Talks, BS Walks!


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kenneth avery 5 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

somethgblue..I agree. And they are beautiful at that. The movie with Sygorne Weaver and Jennifer Love Hewitt, Heart Breakers, is about female scam artists. And their characters are smooth. Just like the one trying to get to me. Thanks for your input. Loved it.


Sueswan 5 years ago

Hi Kenneth,

Glad you caught on to the scam. Like many others already stated, if it seems to good to be true it is.

Take care my friend.


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Nellieanna 5 years ago from TEXAS

Women can fall for male con artists, too, of course. It's not as prevalent, probably ,but many women are so needy, or kind-hearted, or naïve, - that they are easy targets for unscrupulous guys, too.

Kenneth - knowing what you do now, you're in a good position to use experience to avoid future pitfalls. Regret has no value, but experience does if one puts it to work! Then it has real power, in fact! Regret, on the other hand, sometimes just makes a person feel badly about himself or herself or depressed, so as to be even more vulnerable to those scams!

It's not what happens to us - (or has happened to us) - it's our attitude about it that makes the difference and can free us from a lot of stuff & can give us power over some of it.

And every day is a whole clean slate in this regard!


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kenneth avery 5 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

"THANK YOU, SUESWAN, FOR THE COMMENT," I thank my Almighty, and all-wise God that He came through for me because not too long ago, this would have been an easy time for some girl with a pretty face and a sad story to take me to the cleaners. I am NOT a stingy or cold-hearted man. I just cannot see why people had rather 'take' something than to just ask for it. Thank YOU so much, Sue, and YOU TAKE CARE ALSO.


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kenneth avery 5 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Dear Nellieanna, you are absolutely right. Maybe YOU need to write a hub about women being scammed by slick-talking men. I think that would be a timely and useful idea. And thank YOU for your solid-wisdom. I envy you for that. And appreciate you for helping me so much.


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Nellieanna 5 years ago from TEXAS

It's a thought, Kenneth. It would be an excellent subject to consider, perhaps, though I'm not sure I'm the one who should write it. My style may be more along the "clean slate" lines.

I'm pleased if anything I suggest is of practical value to you! Certainly no cause for envy though. I just have a few decades of experience on you. wink, wink - - hehe.


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Maralexa 5 years ago from Vancouver, Canada and San Jose del Cabo, Mexico

Hi Kenneth, you write an excellent hub. I was with you all the way through. I thank you so much for sharing this experience with us. You write well and it came across to me as funny. But it was funny only because you didn't get caught!

It seems to me that it is 'big hearted' men and women who can get conned because they really wish to help where they can. And, as Nellieanna says, maybe women get conned for easily (?) because they are lonely and want someone in their life. I would bet we don't hear about half of the scams that go on.

This is the first time I have read your work and I find I like "you" more for your openess. (and no, I'm not looking for anything :) !


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kenneth avery 5 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Hi,Maralexa and Nellieanna, THANK YOU BOTH SINCERELY, for your comments. I try my best to be open, Maralexa. This is the best principle for me. That way, no one can accuse me of hiding anything--and I agree. IF I had been enshared, I would have been under my bed hiding my head in shame. Thank YOU for your comment and Nellie, I appreiciate YOUR insight as well.


benny hill 4 years ago

iam getting scamed by a melissa sherry clinton right now she or he is in uk now was in nigeria earlyer..there game is about to be over..there are people who are going to seriously hurt them soon dont worry it will be posted time of death.....


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Ive already sent her emails, Facebook page to my local FBI division in Birmingham, Alabama. Hope she gets the 'attention' she wants.


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

benny . . .she/he is NOT close to Nigeria. But odds are they are in the USA in some rat hole apartment taking advantage of fools such as I. This is what burns me is that they think "we" are walking idiot statues. Some in this country, I admit, are. But you and I are NOT.


rita dominic 2 years ago

yes of course why could some one use false pics.... i don't know if people do t and when do they get that from.....that's soo rude


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Dear rita,

I agree. Using fake photos of one's self shows that the person is insecure, and does not love themselves.

Thank you for your comment. I loved it.


CoucouToi 9 months ago

Oh la coquine !

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