Guys: Fifteen Things That Kill a First Date

Dating tips are essential if you've been out of action for awhile. OK, first dates are tough enough. Just ask anyone who’s single and dating. For women especially; we are already feeling over the top with anxiety about what this guy will really be like in person, whether he’s as cute as his pic and also if he’ll like us.

We’re not perfect either but here are some of the things that will drive us batty. Some of these apply to the ladies as well but we're talking to the the guys here. Here are the top fifteen, first date blunders, that will knock you out of the running with her.


Dating Tips/Advice

Dressing like a slob. Guys, depending on where the date is, you, should be dressed accordingly. A clean pair of jeans and a nice tee is all it takes for a date at a fast food restaurant. Something a lot classier, calls for a good pair of jeans with a button down shirt or sexy muscles shirt if you can pull it off and a fly pair of shoes. You’ll have her drooling at your good taste.

nice teeth by Maddy Magdalene Flickr
nice teeth by Maddy Magdalene Flickr

Bad breath/body odour/yellow teeth. This can’t be stressed enough. No one wants to stick around with a gent that reeks because he forgot to use his deodorant or didn’t shower. Yuck! Nothing sends us running faster than a date that has bad breath or yellow teeth. So, shower and brush your teeth before the date. Oh yeah, don't overdo the cologne either. Less is more.

table manners by amanky flickr
table manners by amanky flickr
Gentlemanly Conduct by Bjorn Bednarek flickr
Gentlemanly Conduct by Bjorn Bednarek flickr
Date Night! by ladybugrock flickr
Date Night! by ladybugrock flickr
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hoangdan1225 flickr

Chain smoker. You’re a smoker but excusing yourself to smoke every fifteen minutes signals major addiction. Unless you want the date to be over before it's even begun, then figure out how to handle this issue.

Bad table manners. Acting like a pig and stuffing your mouth is a definite turn off. So is talking with your mouth full or chewing with your mouth open, burping loudly, farting, picking your teeth, and blowing your nose at the table.

Poor English. English might not be your native tongue but if she can’t understand a word you’re saying because it seem like you’re speaking a whole other language, honey, you’ve got a problem.

He talks about himself the whole night. Guys, a conversation is a two way street. Ladies, if he spends the night talking about himself with you unable to get a word in; then let it be a lesson. Get rid of him quickly. Who wants to be out with a guy who’s not interested in what you have to say. He can enjoy going out with himself then.

Boring person/conversation. Just like above he’s turned you off with his boring conversation or he’s just a bore. The night will be a short one because you’re just planning your escape.

Ungentlemanly conduct. Let's face it, we want men who will perform the niceties such as opening doors, pulling out our chair and seating us, asking our opinion and giving up his coat if we’re cold. Chivalry is not dead.

Rudeness. You’re on a date so your cell phone should be turned off or set to vibrate. If you are spending time talking on the phone, texting or checking your phone every few minutes then you shouldn’t be on this date. Game over.

Cheap date. Guys this is a first date don’t be a cheapskate pay the bill. Unless she’s going for broke, you agreed to go on this date so pay the bill.

Dishonest/show off. He starts to tell you about how many houses he has and the many cars that are in his garage, yet he doesn’t want to pay the tab. Light bulb moment here. He’s a bald face liar. Avoid him like the plague. If he has the houses etc then he’s a show off and trying too hard to impress you.

Getting fresh with you. Guys, we know you want it. She does too, probably, (know I'm not supposed to say that) but what's the rush. Ladies, if he starts talking about his favourite sexual position and what he wants to do to you, watch out. Oh boy, major freak. Call your friend and arrange an sos.

Lateness. Men, be there ahead so that you can appreciate what she looks like. Tell her that she looks good too. He should have a good explanation for his lateness; like an accident on the 401 and it was closed for the night or he had to stop to get you a gift. Otherwise, it’s not a good beginning.

Drunkenness. This is so not cool. Excuse yourself and make your escape. Get out!!

Pushy. If he tries to grope or French kiss you at the end of the date, that's definite grounds for dismissal. Guys, a light kiss on the cheek or a hug is plenty as goodnight on a first date. Unless she was giving you majors signals during the date that she wants you, you need to step back. You're scaring her off.

If you can follow most of the dating tips on the list then you'll likely get a second date with her. Now each woman has her own list of things that she's looking for but many of them are here. If you really want a second date because she make your heart and other parts sing then let her know too(yipes, not about the other parts ok).

Don't say you'll call and then she never hears from you. Your word should mean something. Be honest and follow through.

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© 2009 Chris Eddy111

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dohn121 7 years ago from Hudson Valley, New York

Okay, this would have been nice to know a few years ago, as I'm guilty of breaking 10 of your 15 "Rules" during the course of my life! Just kidding, I've only broken about 3! Well, live, learn, and practice I guess. You could well write another hub of What To Do on a date I take it. This hub of course could be reciprocal for a lady too! Thanks, Chris. I look forward to reading more!

LeeKim 7 years ago

Hahaha... Bravo and so true Chris... now you have to do the one that dohn121 suggests.

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Chris Eddy111 7 years ago from Ontario, Canada Author

dohn121~ maybe I will do that and thanks for the suggestion. Yeah, the ladies should take heed as well but I was speaking to the guys. Women, know this stuff already. Some guys are clueless(not bashing ok). Thanks for leaving your comment.

LeeKim~ thanks for your comment.

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Micky Dee 6 years ago

What if you show for for a date and the lady doesn't have her own bicycle? Shouldn't everybody have their own bike? I guess single guys should rent a tandem.

And I have to wear a shirt? You ladies from Canada are spoiled! Thank you dear. I'd wear a shirt for you.

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Chris Eddy111 6 years ago from Ontario, Canada Author

Lool, Micky you are hilarious. Thanks for reading.

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maniackim 6 years ago from lagos, nigeria

you are great writer, keep it up

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Chris Eddy111 6 years ago from Ontario, Canada Author

Thanks maniackim.

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lovememarryme 6 years ago

Hi Chris,

Very nicely written and presented hub. Hopefully I don't, or should I say didn't break any of your rules as I have now found my perfect partner, yes we did have a second & third & fourth etc date. We actually met on the net, that rhymes doesn't it, so much of our initial ice breaking was done via email and yahoo and our initial date was meeting at an airport in China then a nice meal at a hotel.

I have also written a hub about dating which you maybe interested in reading. Have also become a follower (maybe you follow me too) hoping to read some more clear articles. Have you written one yet about 15 things to keep your lady happy, long term? maybe I need to learn.


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Chris Eddy111 6 years ago from Ontario, Canada Author

@lovememarryme, Hi Andy. Thanks for reading, commenting and following me too. Congrats on meeting that special someone.

I think that the net is a good starting place for meeting people. I read your hub and thank you for those tips. One can't be too careful.

Hey, I might take you up on that title lol. Thanks.

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lovememarryme 6 years ago

Hi Chris, Thanks for taking the time to read my hub and your positive comments. Happy you like the title LoveMeMarryMe, pass it around as much as you like.


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Chris Eddy111 6 years ago from Ontario, Canada Author

Hi Andy. Glad you came to share more thoughts with me. Thanks.

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amandavalentine 5 years ago from new york

Hi Chris! Unfortunately I had a lot of awful first dates...It a curse I tell you! Way do all the narcissistic guys like me so much?

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callmefoxxy 5 years ago

Excellent information and advice that applies to all. Thanks ChrisEddy.

callmefoxxy, my pen is a mighty sword!

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