How do You Know if You've Met Your Soulmate?

The search for the 'love of your life' is something that every single person on this planet has contemplated, or will, at least once in their lifetime.Those of us who are not bold enough, read about it in Harlequin romance novels, and fantasize about meeting such a person in real life.

Seeking out that elusive Greek God or Goddess whose presence lurks within the deep recesses of our minds is to some, an obsession, while others consider it a passing fancy. Yet all of us, at one time or another, have given thought to the one with whom we will spend the rest of our lives, even if the decision results in a solitary existence.

True perfection...is there such a thing? Is there really a person who exists outside of our minds who can fulfill our personal standards, requirements or conditions, and be skilled enough to 'scale the mountain' in order to storm the bastions of our heart?

A rhetorical question for some.

For others, such as myself, who perhaps view the world through slightly rose-tinted glasses, or whose souls have made this incredible journey through life more than once, the answer is a resounding 'Yes'!

Once you understand the fairy-tale image for what it is, you can open your mind (and heart) to the possibility that there is indeed, the perfect partner, or soul mate, out there for you.

But what constitutes a soul mate? The first thing everyone thinks of when asked this question is the physical appearance of the person we are looking for. While every-one's idea of physical perfection is different, it is widely accepted that the object of our desire should fit as closely as possible to our personal preferences.

This being said, when you finally meet the person of your dreams, you might be surprised to find they look nothing like what you had envisioned. Oh, my goodness, what happened there? Isn't my soul mate supposed to be everything I have imagined and more?

In a word, yes, your soul mate is everything you have dreamed of and more. This does not necessarily mean they will win the "Most Beautiful People Award". After all, we are talking about soul mates here, not eye candy!

And what your soul desires could be a far cry from what your head wants. So how can you tell if you have found your soul mate? Isn't there some criteria these things follow? Are you going to be left wondering for the rest of your life?

Well, if you are missing any of the following points, then it's possible you haven't found your true soul mate yet, although you might be perfectly happy with the person you are with. (Assuming you are already a couple...)

If you find yourself gazing at the person you have chosen and realize that absolutely nothing about their physical appearance jars in any way, their ears aren't too small, that hint of a bald spot doesn't send you screaming in the other direction, the way they walk doesn't make you feel like a zoo-keeper, or their profile, showing a beautiful roman nose sitting prominently over a rapidly receding chin doesn't inspire you to buy a gift certificate for a plastic surgeon, then you might possibly be looking at your soul mate.

When you realize this person inspires you to improve yourself, encourages you to reach for goals you previously thought beyond your capabilities, fosters a sense of self worth, or helps you to overcome obstacles so you can fulfil your expectations and not theirs, then you might be looking at your soul mate.

When you find comfort in their presence, not their absence, are treated with the respect that each one of us rightly deserves, have the freedom and safety to do your own thing without reprisal, and if they accept your gestures or overtures of affection with love and warmth instead of impatience or disdain, then you might be looking at your soul mate.

If all of these things stand the test of time, and five years down the road you still feel the same thrill when you see that special person walk into the room, if they still make you laugh, if you feel content, comfortable, loved, special and desired, and you know the feelings are reciprocated, then you can be pretty sure you have found your soul mate.

Something else that few people realize is the fact that there is more than one person out there who could qualify as your soul mate. Honest and for true...cross my heart and hope to die...it's a fact. So don't let the thought of missing your 'one and only' stop you from experiencing the joys of being part of a couple...you just never know...

In arguably the best known, and most requested love song to ever hit the movies, Unchained Melody by the Righteous Brothers.

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RedElf 7 years ago from Canada

Lovely hub - love the final image. Thanks for sharing another great one.


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Enelle Lamb 7 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

Thanks RedElf, I couldn't resist :D


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Peggy W 7 years ago from Houston, Texas

This is indeed lovely. This year we will celebrate our 39th wedding anniversary. We have had ups and downs in our lives but have weathered them together.

That perfect soul mate, as you pointed out, may no longer look like an Adonis or Aphrodite (maybe never did) but he/she becomes a friendly pillar of strength when that is needed and is the person one would turn to first if presented with good (or bad) news.

So nice to have a special someone by one's side who truly cares. it is worth the effort.


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Enelle Lamb 7 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

Wow, congratulations on your upcoming anniversary, your relationship has truly stood the test of time. Your 'Adonis' is very lucky to have such an 'Aphrodite' :D


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XXBAYXXACEXX 7 years ago

Congrats on your catch. Some find and keep, some find and tell the story of "the one that got away" you should read my hub. "one and only, HER". haha


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Enelle Lamb 7 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

I will definitely stop in for a read XXBAY - thanks, I think I did ok ;) lol


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Montana Farm Girl 7 years ago from Northwestern Montana

Beautifully written, truly from the heart!!! Love all the wonderful photos too!!! (i am a photo person :-).... I am married to an incredible man, whom I share everything with and think of him as my best friend. Yet, I am one who believes a little different than most... I believe you can love more than one person at a time... ah, I think that might be a hub for me to write in the future.... Great hub!!!!


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Enelle Lamb 7 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

Thank you so much for your kind words Montana - I too believe that...good thing I never acted on it though LOL


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jill of alltrades 7 years ago from Philippines

This is a beautifully written hub. I love the photos too.

Just a question - is it possible to have more than one soulmate?


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Enelle Lamb 7 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

Thank you jill - and yes it is possible to have more than one. Most people think that there is only ONE soul mate for everyone, but that really isn't the case. I have been fortunate to have met three - sadly the first two weren't meant to be - circumstances, and death, but the third is amazing :D


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TamCor 7 years ago from Ohio

I loved this hub--Thank you for describing "soulmates" so perfectly, Enelle.

I've been married to mine for over 20 years now(hubber Tom Cornett), and it's been perfect from day one. The two of us have fought many battles together against the world, but never once against each other...we've been lucky enough to never have the expected "ups and downs" of marriage.

We've always worked through any difference of opinion with calmness and determination--never shouting or anger. The loudness you might hear in our home comes from laughter, nothing else, lol.

I still get that special thrill when he comes in the door, and I love when he's home with me...I never get tired of having him around...

Thanks so much for this special hub, it means alot!


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Enelle Lamb 7 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

TamCor - You are so welcome! You are so fortunate to have found and married your soul mate :D lucky girl (or lucky guy lol) I am happy my writings had significance for you - all the best my dear.


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manujkhera 7 years ago from India

Love is the essence of life.........Great post.......Thanks.


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Enelle Lamb 7 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

manujkhera - thanks for stopping by :) glad you enjoyed it


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Mrs. Obvious 7 years ago from Northern California

Having been through a divorce already, I was happy to see your definition of soul mate. I love my new hubby. He is all those wonderful things you describe. He's 18 years older than me, but our relationship is sincerely great. Thanks for a nice hub!


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Enelle Lamb 7 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

Hi Mrs. Obvious - I'm happy you have found a wonderful relationship - life is too short to settle for ;)

So glad you liked the hub - thanks for the compliment!


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mlozinski 7 years ago from Ontario, Canada

I have found my soul mate, thank you for making it easier to know for sure. Great hub!


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Enelle Lamb 7 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

mlozinski - pleased to meet you :) It is wonderful when it happens!


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Zenobia J. 7 years ago from Huntington Station

Just got onto Hub, thanks for a great example of creativity. Your heart shines through:-)


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Enelle Lamb 7 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

Zenobia J - what a nice thing to say! Thank you so much, and for dropping in to visit!


scheng1 6 years ago

The cats are so cute! I think some people really treat their pets as their soul mates! At least the cats wont argue back.


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Enelle Lamb 6 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

Hi scheng1 - I'm not so sure about the arguing back part - the little fiend who calls me her servant is constantly yelling at me - the only time she is quiet is when she is sleeping - just like kids! LOL


Ashley  6 years ago

I think Michael Jackson is my soul mate! But, I just saw a boy my age who gave me the same wonderful feeling that MJ did. The thing is, I'm 12 and I just had to walk right on past him in the mall. He was so perfect! The shape of his body and just everything about him made me feel like me and just totally blissful!


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Enelle Lamb 6 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

Hi Ashley - I'm pretty sure you will find a few more out there who fit the bill ;) I remember when...LOL


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festersporling1 6 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

I quite agree with this. Some times you have to do your share of dating to find out that some of the more beautiful people are not necessarily the most kind, fun, sincere, etc. and that outer beauty inevitably fades with time.

Nice hub and a pleasure to start following you.

Daniel


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Enelle Lamb 6 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

Thank you Daniel eh..I mean festersporling1 LOL...Glad you liked it...and you are right...sometimes you have to kiss a lot of frogs!


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RackyB 6 years ago from The Treasure Coast

Beautiful...I especially liked the pics


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Enelle Lamb 6 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

Thank you RackyB!


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fiona_33 6 years ago from UK

Terrific hub. I think there are so many people out there who could be your soul mate. Who you fall in love with can be a result of such small decisions.


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Enelle Lamb 6 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

Yes, I don't think there is only one choice, I think there are possibilities for each stage of life.


seraphim11 6 years ago

Great hub ^_^. Sure inspired me.


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Enelle Lamb 6 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

Thanks seraphim11 - I'm happy you found it inspiring :D!


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jayjay40 6 years ago from Bristol England

Great hub, loved the way you explained looking for a soul mate so well.


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Enelle Lamb 6 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

Thank you jayjay40 :D glad you enjoyed my viewpoints ;)


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Poetree 6 years ago from Wilmington, DE

Beautiful hub! Thanks for the information you shared about soul mates. It is a beautiful thing when one discovers their soul mate...I know..I have found mine. The discovery alone is amazing...the love is strong...and the connection is indescribable.


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Enelle Lamb 6 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

I couldn't agree more! It is hard to describe to someone who hasn't experienced it ;)


MzGe3 6 years ago

I loved your hub, and the photos, especially the one with the cats. I have 3.


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Enelle Lamb 6 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

Hi MzGe3, I couldn't resist the cats :D (I currently have 5...OMG! lol)


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lilypjmom2122 6 years ago from Minnesota

You brought a tear to my eye. thanks so much :)


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Enelle Lamb 6 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

Aww, so pleased you enjoyed the hub lilypjmom2122 :D Thanks so much for stopping by!


Poppy War 6 years ago

I just realized I found my soulmate. I will let that sink in for a while.


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Enelle Lamb 6 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

It can be quite the experience :)

Thanks for stopping by and reading.


muneka809 6 years ago

I love it!


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Enelle Lamb 6 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

Thanks muneka809 glad you enjoyed it :)


lipaanna 6 years ago

really nice hub..more and more i do believe i have found my soulmate by reading your hub, we live continents apart and only met twice. WE just celebrated our 1st year together as a couple but we remain to be strong in spite of the ups and downs of our relationship but we continue to bring out the best in us in our individual worlds but with the thought always of having each other in ourselves as we bask on our day to day activities. thank you enelle, you inspire me more..


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Enelle Lamb 6 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

So glad you enjoyed the hub my dear, and good luck/congrats on your happy relationship :D


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Huey19 6 years ago from Chicago

Enelle Lamb I loved this article. It was absolutely intriguing and I couldn't stop reading. You found a way to put into words something that is a complex idea. I am a believer in soul mates and i appreciated this very much. Your choice of pictures added to the article a lot. I love the kittens.


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Enelle Lamb 6 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

I'm so pleased you enjoyed the hub Huey19, I loved the kitten pics too!


qqjewelry 6 years ago

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Enelle Lamb 6 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

So true qqjewellry! So true :)


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IdeaMorphist 6 years ago from Chicagoland

What beautiful words and images!!!


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Enelle Lamb 6 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

Thank you IdeaMorphist :) Glad you liked them!


aaron 6 years ago

this was the most inspirational thing i havee efer read.


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Enelle Lamb 6 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

Thanks aaron - I`m so pleased you enjoyed the hub :)


gail 6 years ago

Omg, what a great definition. I can't get over the fact that everything you described here is exactly how I define a soulmate. It makes me crazy to. Maybe you can advise me. I have an ex who I just ran into after 7 years, we both can still taste eachother, I'm going through a divorce and he has a girlfriend that he lives with. We still email\text and we know there is something there but I don't want to play that emotional head game. Were in our mid 30's so were not young. What's your advice?


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Enelle Lamb 6 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

Get clear of your past involvements - then see where you both are in terms of relationships. Sometimes lust is stronger than love, so make sure both of you are on the same page ;)


sibo 6 years ago

wow, dis is soo gud, so true n i believe so helpful

tank u so much

well i still haven't met my soylmate but wont despair

a woman of faith n hope

Am goin to hang in there n tanks to uour article al know

wen we meet

tanx again


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Enelle Lamb 6 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

Much luck sibo :)


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Ladda Boonmee 6 years ago from Thailand

Such a lovely hub. Thank you!


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Enelle Lamb 6 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

Thank you Ladda,I'm glad you enjoyed it :)


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sockyee 6 years ago from Singapore, Malaysia

That's so cute and lovely. Glad I found your hub today :)


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Enelle Lamb 6 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

Pleasure to meet you sockyee :)


jen 6 years ago

i would like to share my story in question of if this qualifies as being true soul mates. my ex and i met last year, and i fell in love with him since day one. i never, ever kissed anyone i hung out with on the first date, but it was different with him. After we hung out, we started dating a week later and he dumped his gf to be with me. when we got to know each other better weird things happened. We both used to live in the same town aurora in Colorado, and ended up living on the other side of America, the same town in ny.(quite strange) The first weird encounter that happened was when i literally pulled out what he was thinking out of his head. he was remincing all the times he was with his ex comparing it with the present. i asked him if he was thinking about this and he said "yeah howd you know". The next weird thing that happened was when he had a dream about us still living in aurora meeting for the first time. crazy thing is while he was describing it to me i already knew that we went to different schools there and i could even describe the scenery of the deli. i dont know how i knew, but i already did. it freaked us both out. I feel like i knew him my entire life, but i never did. Before him i was a virgin and i planned on waiting till marriage, but then he appeared in my life. When we were dating he told me he had a dream that we had a child together and me and him were married. we did end up breaking up because i dont think hes ready to commit to just one person since hes only 16... i hope that hes my soul mate since it feels so strong, real and rare, but i have doubts since he broke up with me. a soul mate wouldn't do that. please tell me what you think.

Sincerely jen.


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Enelle Lamb 6 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

I think that you have plenty of time to find out if he is your soul mate. Things change as we get older - give him time to figure out if he feels the same way.


Miranda 5 years ago

So, all three of those things fit my ex. And I def think that he is my soul mate, have for a while now. But things have happened and both of our hearts have been broken. I don't want to lose him and I can't watch him date the girl he cheated on me with. Yes, he cheated, but weird as it sounds, I'm still completely in love with him and I do not know what to do.. He was very vulnerable at the time and it was partly my fault as to why he cheated.


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Enelle Lamb 5 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

Perhaps a cup of coffee and some 'soul' searching might be in order...


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FloBe 5 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

I believe that I have found my soul-mate, although I don't believe that it means it is an absolutely "perfect" fit--there will be disagreements and hurdles to overcome even with a soul-mate because we all have selfish moments when we want our own way and it conflicts with what the other person wants. But, on a deep level there is a comfort, a love, an acceptance that makes each of us a better person together than we would be apart.


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Enelle Lamb 5 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

Sounds like you have figured out the soul mate secrets ;) Most people seem to think that a soul mate is a perfect person...


L33t 5 years ago

Great article, but I'd like to point of that a soul mate doesn't nessecarily have to be a romantic partner. I have an amzing best friend, who I cna talk to about anything, who makes me feel amazing every time I talk to him, who, even after all these years, never fails to make me laugh, even when I'm at my most depressed and miserable. I feel perfect and amazing every time I'm around him, because he sees me that way, and I see him in exactly the same way. I have no doubt that he's my soul mate, but I have never thought of him romantically. I think people are far too caught up with this idea of a "perfect soul mate" that they confuse it with the idea of a perfect spouse. A soul mate can be a partner, or a friend, or a sibling, or even a pet, in some cases. My point is, even if you haven't found the right guy, doesn't mean you can't find someone who makes you happy; guys come and go, but a best friend will be there for you forever. I hope you all find your soul mates, but don't be surprised if they're not exactly what you expected!!!


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Enelle Lamb 5 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

What an excellent comment L33t!


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sumitparihar 5 years ago

really amazing.....


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Rastamermaid 5 years ago from Universe

Awesome!


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howcurecancer 5 years ago

I believe I found mine.........awesome hub.


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Enelle Lamb 5 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

Thanks howcurecancer, it's a great feeling yes? Thanks for dropping by :D


sandy 5 years ago

I would like to teel you all my story. I met aguy called Howard and l was only 12 at the time but we thought alike , we had the same dislikes cconnections, thoughts, and e.s.p. we knew what each other were saying a 1.000 miles away we lost touch , BUT then after my divorce to adifferent man l met and fell madly in love with a man , whom l knew the second we met , l knew where he came from , what thought , what he liked, e.t.c. we have the SAME dislikes,likes,we have the same taste in food and when he was a young boy he did airfix kits in the same colours and the same plane , with the same emblum on e.t.c. he wanted to be a pilot, l wanted to be an air stewardess, but because of our parents non cosent we were not allowed to and he has saved my life twice telling me before the accidents happened, all l am trying to say is there are true soulmates out there its whether you meet or not, l have met my TWIN flame and l would die without him being in my world, he is the only human who in this universe knows everything about me , we don't need to talk , he hears my thoughts over 2.000 miles away, he knows when l am happy,sad,angry,crying, hurt he is truly magical the best human in l have had the good fortune to meet, and he has bought love, joy, happiness which l thought l would NEVER know. I LOVE him with all my heart. He is my world , my life, my love , he is why l wake , sleep, smile, cry , and exist because of him , l pray you all have the good fortune l have , l had, and will have for years to come , THANK YOU GOD AND ANGELS FOR HIM , for his life ,and for the person he made me become.


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Enelle Lamb 5 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

Sounds to me like you have definitely found your soul mate :D


taylor 5 years ago

i am only 12 yet i know this guy and he lives states away, but i love him so much but he likes this other girl ...yet he calls me his soul mate and we have gone out before, and he is the only 1 who can make me laugh when i am sad and down, and i just feel like i cant live without him ... we have had our fights, but i told him that no relationship is perfect. i love him with all my heart :)


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Enelle Lamb 5 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

Hi taylor - take heart my dear - relationships evolve and change, so although your soul mate likes someone else right now, it isn't unusual for that to change in the future :)


Mary 5 years ago

I'm in a relationship right now with nice man & about to get married soon..actually at de end of the year, But that word (But) i can not stop thinking about this guy whom i met once & had one night stand with 4yrs ago, i was single at time..he was in the navy & we had a short long distance relationship that lasted 4 months, he broke it off with me because he thought i wasn't seriouse about him, & that was true who would in such situation...anyways at that time i wasn't angry however as time passes i realized how much i missed him & stil do, i think about him daily and it drive me mad, & the sad story is that i dont know where he is a & have no idea of how to contact him......

please tell me, am i afraid of getting married or is it the guy from my past that i'm in love with? i asked myself those questions with no answer.


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Enelle Lamb 5 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

Unfortunately, you are the only one who can answer that question. From what you have said, I can only say that you have unresolved issues with the gentleman in your past, however, I can't counsel you regarding answers. So sorry...

I do hope you find your way :)


Nickole 5 years ago

Enelle....am so fascinated by ur write up on soul mates..its very interesting and touching. About five months ago i started dating dis guy i met on the internet. wen we finally met i fell in love wt him crazily..as time went by i realised he has dis kind of hard heart dats not really forgiving...i overlooked everything he did wrong..even begging him just to set things straight..at some point he became distant to me.. hardly talking to me.. i had to force words out of him..he always tells me he loves me and i always believed him..i thought he was my soulmate cos he made me happy always and i always envisaged him in my future..not until dis morning he broke up with me.. i told him i was coming to see him but he told me he'd embarrass me if i dared show up at his door...i feel so foolish cos i didn't see the writings on the wall for so long....Enelle..i cant wait to really find my soulmate...


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Enelle Lamb 5 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

We all make mistakes Nickole - trust me when I tell you this! However, once you pick yourself up and dust yourself off good things will happen :)


dimples 5 years ago

I met my soul mate,

but he was already taken. =(((


hearmysmile 5 years ago

i met my soulmate on a chat line and we ve been talking for over a year now on the phone i love him with all my heart and its long distance relationship. my question trust issue from past and i thought healed from my past relationships cause i stop dating for seven years. so i could give myself time to heal. well ive been with my soulmate for over a year now and i can feel that trust issue coming back and he have not done anything to cause it its all me. so what do u think i should do cause he means the world to me and he is everything i ever wanted in a man and this is my first time dating a man who is irish and native american and im black female. he is my best friend and he makes me happy and laugh. he is so smart and has a big heart. when im with him he make me want to be a better person and go after my goals in life. and he is so charming and handsome. i just love him to pieces. so please help what advice can u help me with. i love your article......


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Enelle Lamb 5 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

I would suggest talking with him about your issues. You say it is you and not him, so let him know what you are facing. Two heads are better than one ;) and he might be able to help you deal with it better.


jennifer 5 years ago

when i first saw this man across the room, i knew i had known him somehow. i could not put my finger on it, but he seemed so familiar to me, it dove me crazy. i still do not know how i knew him, but we have since formed a close inimate relationship and i firmly believe he is my soulmate. when i look into his eyes, i see such beauty, such kindness. i feel at home in them. when i hear his heart, it's like i was meant to be in these arms, hearing those beats. i cant explain how strong this love is, it just is and i pray every day that i get to hold and experience this relationship for the rest of our lives. he may not be perfect in reality, but to me, he is evry ounce of perfection i ever dreamed he'd be and every ounce of perfection i never imagined.


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Enelle Lamb 5 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

jennifer, that is a lovely comment and you explained yourself very clearly! I just hope everyone gets to experience that at least once in their lives :)


Brook Ellis 5 years ago

I live across the road from this boy who I adore. The thing is he's 3 years, 1 month and 19 days older than me. I'm 12 and he' 15 nearly 16. Whenever he comes out of his house I stare at him, and when I'm outside and he's outside I go crazy. I can't help it, his presence makes me feel nervous and he makes me want to look and feel my best;inside and out. I don't think he likes me, I can't really tell. He's perfect in every way; he's really sensible;cute; funny; sporty and his body is curved to perfection. Any tips?


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Enelle Lamb 5 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

Wow, to be 12 again! Well, my dear, I don't know how big of a chance you have to get him to notice you, and I don't want you to become older than your years - but I would suggest that you at least take the step to say hello, find out what he likes and dislikes, what he is looking for in a girlfriend and what he wants to do for the future. Then you can make up your mind about whether he is for you or not. :)


rachel 5 years ago

My boyfriend treats me so badly but i love him with everything in me...we were perfect for eachother before and i wanted to be with him for all eternity until he started all this...what should i do?! and he still tries to say im his soulmate after constant lies and taking me for granted


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Enelle Lamb 5 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

Ultimately, the choice is yours...

If you are indeed soul mates, he isn't ready for an "all eternity" commitment.


Belle 5 years ago

Um.. okay. Here's the thing. I'm 14 years old and the guy I reeeeally like just turned 18. He's really nice and all but he likes teasing me. He makes me laugh lots and I trust him lots as well. But the thing is, I'm talking to him online, like on a chat site, on MSN and on Skype. We both know how each other look but he lives half way across the world practically. I dunno if he likes me, I like him obviously. We have the same interest in games such as pokémon, etc etc.. And his and my Zodiac signs are the total opposite, like.. he's a Sagittarius and I'm a Gemini. It says that the both of use really match together but I dunno if he likes me.. I sorta think he does. But that's just me. What do ya think? :3


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Enelle Lamb 4 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

I think you should ask him! That is the quickest and most honest way to find out!


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Enelle Lamb 4 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

There is a prayer, called the Serenity Prayer...it goes like this:

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change

Courage to change the things I can

And the wisdom to know the difference.

I think you need to figure out what you can and can't change about your relationship and go from there.


brittany 4 years ago

How can i delete my comments?


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Enelle Lamb 4 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

I can delete them for you - no worries!


brittany 4 years ago

Thank you! i was a little sad when i wrote that. i married my husband because he was my best friend. :)


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Enelle Lamb 4 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

You are very welcome :) all fixed my dear. I hope you feel better soon.


ExoticHippieQueen 4 years ago

Thank you for the realistic look at what a true soulmate is. Too many people walk away from their soulmate when they don't recognize them from the outside. They don't understand....


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Enelle Lamb 4 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

Too true...


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jeyaramd 4 years ago from Mississauga, Ontario

We dream of eye candy, but are drawn to our soul mates. That is so true. Beauty lies in the eye of the beholder. The soul is what is eternal. Beauty is there to confuse the crap out of you. Do not fall pray to the notion of a fantasy.

This was an absolute joy to read. A masterpiece of writing. All those in love or planning to fall in love should read this. Its really good. God bless you for writing such a wonderful hub.


Alyssa 4 years ago

I found my soulmate and were both almost 20. ... My mom doesn't beleiveme but I don't think it's possible to be happier


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Enelle Lamb 4 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

jeyaramd, thank you for such a beautiful comment. I'm thrilled that you enjoyed the hub!

Alyssa, I'm happy for you! Just be sure to hang in there when things get a bit rocky ;)


She 4 years ago

I found my soulmate, he has been my best friend since I was seven. He got a girlfriend who is a model, that all the guys like. He says he loves her. He doesn't know how I feel. I think he used to like me before he met her, because he used to cuddle and kiss me a lot. I have loved him since second grade and still do now! I know that I always will.


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Enelle Lamb 4 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

Soulmates make mistakes too...


4 years ago

I've met this person and felt an 'unexplainable' feelings towards him even though I don't know him. Now that I left, I miss him a lot ! For the moment I left, he never goes out of my mind, not even for a second. Sometimes, I do want to go back to look for him again. But I just can't make up my mind. Is this so called "love at the first sight" ? Should I go back to look for him or just forget about it ? This feeling is so strong and I've never felt it before.. Can anyone give me a some advice, please ?


stephanie anderson 4 years ago

Just what I thought!!!!


4 years ago

Dear stephanie anderson,

Do you mean you encounter the same situation as I do ?


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Enelle Lamb 4 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

If it was me, I would take the chance and go back...but that is just me...


4 years ago

Thanks Enelle. Thanks for your opinion..

Actually not only you, most of my friends told me the same. Well, maybe I should take the chance.. better than not trying anything and leaving a hole in my heart for the rest of my life, right ? I think I'll just follow my heart.. =D


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Enelle Lamb 4 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

Good for you - better to know you did what you could than nothing at all :)


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msorensson 4 years ago

This may sound funny..but you would insist on getting married as soon as possible.

This is so true..

When you realize this person inspires you to improve yourself, encourages you to reach for goals you previously thought beyond your capabilities, fosters a sense of self worth, or helps you to overcome obstacles so you can fulfil your expectations and not theirs, then you might be looking at your soul mate.

When you find comfort in their presence, not their absence, are treated with the respect that each one of us rightly deserves, have the freedom and safety to do your own thing without reprisal, and if they accept your gestures or overtures of affection with love and warmth instead of impatience or disdain, then you might be looking at your soul mate.


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Enelle Lamb 4 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

I couldn't have said it better myself! Thanks so much for commenting :)


anonymous capricorn male 4 years ago

i have found my soulmate. She, like me, is capricorn. Born 2 years and 6 days after my own birth. When we first met, our gazes met and both of us found eachother without description of how... miraculous?? we.. were..are. She read my mind. daily. i hers, but spoke less of it. We both, since last year (when we met) have made mistakes. Mistakes that in relationships, either people end up in violent circumstances, or (as I myself think) can't happen for a relationship to work. But i've completely decided that those mistakes matter not to what she is to me (and beyond, even what she isn't and what she has the potential for.. everything and anything!). I don't know if i'm obsessed, but i do know that the feelings of care and concern and love OUTWEIGH that obsession. Even though i know she does wrong, i'm able to forgive... we are no longer together.. And i'm scared for her... shes confused but won't let me in.. And i'd nothing more than sit down with her (one more time) to listen and hear her (comewhatshemaysay) if only she would respond to my response of her message "i miss us"...


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Enelle Lamb 4 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

I hope that one day she will answer you :)


si 4 years ago

I have found my soulmate,

am I hers though?


Tara 4 years ago

Can one person feel he other is their soulmate but it is not returned. Can u meet your soulmate when one of you is not ready, but later come together?


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Enelle Lamb 4 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

That is a good question - Sometimes your soul mate won't stay with you forever, it depends on the time in your lives that you come together, and what still needs to be resolved in your respective lives. Just because you are soul mates does not mean you will live together - sometimes it takes more than one lifetime for that to happen :)


Vincent Moore 4 years ago

In my past journey through this life I truly had a soul mate, however it's been a very long and winding road through this present one. I have written about her often and weaved her through my work penned here. I strongly believe once your twin meets up with you, both will feel the power of love so deep within your souls that you will immediately feel bound to one another. Enelle a most stimulating hub, thought provoking and very sensual to my soul. I agree with your choice of videos, the most compelling heart throbbing feeling of ONENESS..I loved this scene, along with the hands of clay, I wrote about it in one of my recent scribes as well. Hugs

I am cursed this time through and accept my fate of being a reclusive romantic. I envy those who have found the love of their lives and remain constant and true to each other. I lift my glass and toast to thee.


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Enelle Lamb 4 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

Lovely comment Vincent, thank you so much for your heartfelt words. May your next journey be a kinder and romantically satisfying one with your soul mate at your side.


whiteraven 4 years ago

Enelle I'm sixteen about to turn seventeen and I am not like others my age. My religion is different, the things I like are different, and I somehow always feel out of place. But since I turned thirteen I've been having these dreams that happen nightly. Before that I only dreamt once a month, if even that, but now I wake up with feelings of the future. One day I had a dream of a man, I cant remember his face but in my dream I remember rushing to a house to see him. Joy filled my heart, I was in love with him and I couldn't wait to see him...and in another dream, he was leaving and I watched him go, but in my dream I was crying and my whole chest hurt because I was heart broken, I was sobbing and I could feel that he was hurt too but he still left. Then I woke up amd it was 3 in the morning and I felt tears running down my cheeks and my chest hurt so much. After that I couldn't go back to sleep. I had this feeling of lonliness and longing...whay does this mean?


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Enelle Lamb 4 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

You could have seen a portion of your future, or a feeling of your future, although some dreams can be so vivid they trigger our emotions.


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Anil and Honey 4 years ago from Kerala

Very Interesting , very colorful , very beautiful. I like your simple and perfect language style.

I am glad to meet you.


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Enelle Lamb 4 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

Thank you for the lovely compliment Anil and Honey, I'm glad you enjoyed it. Thank you for stopping by :D


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mts1098 3 years ago from InsideTheManCave

Nicely done Enelle - I think you hit this spot on, as my Brit friends would say...Yes the soul mate is best described in your last paragraph before the cat picture...cheers and I hope all is well


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Enelle Lamb 3 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

Thank you so much for your kind words, it was a pleasure to read your comment :) Certainly made my evening! Cheers my friend, and all the best for the coming year :)


Rm 2 years ago

Physical appearance was never all that important to me.

However, when I met my soul mate, I got the BEST of all features and attributes. I often thought and told him that I thought he was too good for me...and he thought the same about me. People often told us that they admired our love for each other.

He was loving...had compassion for me, other people and animals... romantic, faithful / devoted / attentive, honest, congenial, hard-working, responsible, intelligent, generous, thoughtful, helpful, self-respecting, well-respected, and respectful to others....AND handsome...not only according to me, but to others' opinion as well.

Our relationship fulfilled all the soul mate points mentioned in this article.

We were SO inseparable during our 25 years of marriage, that we just enjoyed being in the same room with each other.

Gifts, vacations, material things were not important to us.

I am EXTEMELY fortunate and blessed to have met my soul mate, my dearly beloved husband. And now that he has passed, there is no need, no longing, no desire to search for and be with any one else.

I found the BEST man ever....we completed each other....and that's it.


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erorantes 2 years ago from Miami Florida

I like the picture of the cat holding the kitten. Even animals hug another animal. It is so amazing how they love each other. I like the swans. They make a perfect hearth. The symbol of love. I saw two swans hugging and twisting their neck until one of them made some noice. They were on a lake.The swans started to go apart. I like your writing about love. True love is beautiful. Once, you find it. It is better to keep it. Until , it last. I like your hub miss enellelamb. Also, I like the hearth made of wood under the tree and the light of the sun.


mslenai 2 years ago

This only confirms that I am with my soulmate. Interesting read!


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Enelle Lamb 2 years ago from Canada's 'California' Author

Glad you enjoyed it :)


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Kimberleyclarke 14 months ago from England

I'm lucky. I found my one! And he is beautiful. Love is the best!


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Enelle Lamb 14 months ago from Canada's 'California' Author

You are indeed lucky! Thanks for stopping by :)

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