If You Have A Great Wife, Hold On To Her Tight

I know how lucky and blessed I am to be with the one I love.


My wife is a well spring of energy. She has a bright smile and her eyes light up like amber candles to me. She is kind, generous, warm and caring, my great wife.

I always tell her that life is perfect with all of it's imperfections. But it's damn hard to find any on her. Just the fact that she allows me to ramble on with my art and writing says this woman can roll with it! She really is a great wife and I try to show that I appreciate her as best I can.

Me and my sugar

I thank my lucky stars to have found my great wife!
I thank my lucky stars to have found my great wife!

We get along, we communicate, we have as much fun as we can when we can.


Being married to an artist and writer is not as much fun as they might make it out to be in the movies. It takes a great wife to break this mustang I tell you what! She has to listen to first drafts, critique drawings and paintings and also be a regular sounding board for various sales pitches and other solicitous quotes. Not to mention having to bare all the usual trumpeting man sounds, smells and the occasional a Capella out of the shower or the kitchen. But she abides, this great wife of mine.

We get along, we communicate, we have as much fun as we can when we can. No matter what our situation may have turned into, we're always there for each other. There's always an I love you if you need one, always a kiss or two whenever.

She's so much smarter than she ever gives herself credit for. She studies wines and has learned a continent of facts in an ocean of knowledge. She gets along with all manner of people, like some sort of brunette angel hopping from place to place. She's always hopping, she even says so. Hopping in the shower, hopping to work, hopping to the store.

She has taken on the role of mother before we have had any children together, as I was a single Dad when we met. My daughter loves her just as much as I do. She is like a sweet smelling glue that holds our family together. She plays games with my daughter, and listens to her stories and looks at her art too, as the apple hasn't fallen far from the tree around here.

My advice to any man who has found a great wife is to hold on to her tight. Open your mouth once in a while and by that I mean every day or a couple times a day and tell her you love her. Let her know how much she means to you, how much she means to your family. If you've found a match, you are in good with the Great Spirit. You are a better man because you have a great wife, tell her so.

Mostly I wanted to dedicate this batch of gumbo words to my great wife. Allison you are a wonderful friend, gentle partner, gorgeous eye candy, great wife and my spirit keeper. I love you.


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smileyz 6 years ago from ABUJA NIGERIA

so happy for u that u are with the woman u love..hope u let her know all the time how much u care. nice hub


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Ben Zoltak 6 years ago from Lake Mills, Jefferson County, Wisconsin USA Author

Thanks smileyz, I do let her know. Promise I'm not trying to rub it in, I hope everyone can find someone to love.

Ben


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Gabriella D'Anton 6 years ago from Los Angeles, Ca

You are a lucky man Ben and so is your great wife Allison. It takes a special kind of person and a generous one to love and treat well a child from a previous marriage.

It takes just as much of a special person to understand and give space to an artist.

The best part of it all is that you are also special and appreciate how lucky you are. I wish the three of you love, peace and happiness


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Ben Zoltak 6 years ago from Lake Mills, Jefferson County, Wisconsin USA Author

Thanks Gabriella you made my day! I will pass along the good wishes to my girls when they get home!

Ben


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Green Lotus 6 years ago from Atlanta, GA

Somehow I knew you had a great wife before you even wrote this hub. It's in the energy of all your writings. (she's pretty too!).


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Ben Zoltak 6 years ago from Lake Mills, Jefferson County, Wisconsin USA Author

Thanks H: !!! Green Lotus, you are practically a house hold name around here now, so she will be happy to hear your intuitions! I saw a huge billboard with your vegetable on it yesterday, made me laugh. Also, took your advice and back linked on my Top Chef article on their message board, thanks!


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judydianne 6 years ago from Palm Harbor, FL

Every man should read this hub! You are #1 in my book and your wife is very lucky!


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Ben Zoltak 6 years ago from Lake Mills, Jefferson County, Wisconsin USA Author

Thanks Judydianne! I am by no means perfect, not even close, but I don't give up easy either, so maybe that redeems me a little bit! My wife and I appreciate you compliment!

Ben


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Gabriella D'Anton 6 years ago from Los Angeles, Ca

Hi Ben,

I just wanted to let you know about my hub on happy marriage. It is called "Forever Gibraltar" and if you have the time to read it I would love to hear your comments. Thank you


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Ben Zoltak 6 years ago from Lake Mills, Jefferson County, Wisconsin USA Author

Thanks Gabriella I will, feel free to post the link here.


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Jennifer D. 6 years ago from Canada

Wow. Just wow!

You and your wife are both very fortunate to have found each other. What a beautifully written Ode to Allison.

Every person who loves would really appreciate reading words such as these...and you put it all out there on Hubpages.

Congratulations!


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Ben Zoltak 6 years ago from Lake Mills, Jefferson County, Wisconsin USA Author

Thanks, I feel a little sheepish about "putting it all out there" like you said. But she's a great lady, and I wanted to show her in a way I knew she would like. Luckily, she did!

Thanks for the compliment Jennifer!

Ben


Duchess OBlunt 6 years ago

Allison - you lucky lady. Ben - you lucky man. It's especially difficult with extended families to find what you have found. Give it your best!

Have you read my hub - Marriage - it takes two? Love to hear your comments

http://bit.ly/7Wudl2


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Ben Zoltak 6 years ago from Lake Mills, Jefferson County, Wisconsin USA Author

Duchess OBlunt, thank you! I do indeed feel lucky in many ways. To be with a looker! To be with a kindhearted soul. To enjoy the company of my dear wife and our lovely daughter.


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Bovine Currency 6 years ago

good on you Ben. I am far too cynical to read the whole hub. My marriage is 99% finished, waiting for divorce. Anyway, I like the personal touch, I will bookmark this and come back when I am less grumbly for another look :)


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Ben Zoltak 6 years ago from Lake Mills, Jefferson County, Wisconsin USA Author

Thanks BC, promise I'm not trying to rub it in. If it makes you feel any better, both my wife and I had pretty miserable first marriages and went through divorces too. So it might not look so hot now, but you'll be surprised at the difference when you find a better fit in the future!


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Mike Lickteig 6 years ago from Lawrence KS USA

I'm not married, but I have a very special lady in my life and you are correct, it helps. When you find that person, don't lose her. Don't do anything to make her want to leave.

It's a lot more fun to be with someone than to be alone. I wish you and your wife much happiness.


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Ben Zoltak 6 years ago from Lake Mills, Jefferson County, Wisconsin USA Author

I agree with you Mike on being with someone. I'm a lot less grumpy in general and probably more interesting specifically. I have learned from mistakes in the past and I'm holding on to this one! Thanks for the well wishes and I wish happiness to you and yours!


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K Kiss 6 years ago from Newcastle upon Tyne, UK

so sweet of you Ben... Hope you two be together forever & after!!


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upal19 5 years ago from Dhaka

You are the luckiest man on this earth. You don't know what hell is. People may embrace hell fire when one gets in the claw of a hellish woman.


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Ben Zoltak 5 years ago from Lake Mills, Jefferson County, Wisconsin USA Author

Thank you warmly upal my wife is really a sweetheart. As for the "hell fire" you mention, I've been there man not easy to get out of either! Good luck to you my friend!

Ben


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Ben Zoltak 5 years ago from Lake Mills, Jefferson County, Wisconsin USA Author

Thanks K Kiss (how'd I forget to reply to you? oh well better late then never)I hope we live happy together forever to my friend. Thanks for your kind words.

Ben


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Winsome 4 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas

Hi Ben, congratulations to you and Allison. If more of us realized that relationship trumps things we would be a lot happier. Happy creating! =:)


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Ben Zoltak 4 years ago from Lake Mills, Jefferson County, Wisconsin USA Author

Thanks for the kind words Winsome, we're sitting together drinking beer reading your comments together now. Happy creating to you too my friend.

Ben

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