Holiday Hook ups Do They Last?

It's inevitable. The Holidays are one of the most romantic times of the year. Who wants to be alone? It is only natural that a lot of people find comfort with one another. but what can you do to avoid the common pitfalls of starting a relationship at the Holidays? Here are some things you should consider before getting the "hook up"

Common Hook up mistakes

Even though it is inevitable, there are several types of holiday hook ups to avoid. Even though this is the most popular time of year to find a mate it doesn't necessarily mean mate for life. You want to avoid hooking up with your co worker. if you do decide to end the the relationship after the holiday season dating a co worker will just make things that much harder for you. Avoid dating the desperate guy or gal. This person is an obvious lonely person who will most likely get on your nerves after the holidays are over. You may take your relationship as a holiday hook up. He or she may take it as a life long commitment.

Don't hook up with your ex. There is a reason he or she is the ex. Once the holiday magic disappears you will be abruptly reminded of it. Sex with the ex or a booty call is just not worth the effort.

Don't hook up with the family friend. This guy or gal is someone your family already approves of so there will be an automatic push for more to the relationship!.

Should you hook up?

It all depends upon what you are really looking for. If you are looking for a one nighter it might be ok.. Or will it? Men and women are wired differently. Women have a chemical in their brain called oxytocin. This chemical when released makes us want to nurture and stay close to our loved ones. Men have testosterone. This chemical counteracts the Oxytocin and makes men want to leave the nest. Hmm no wonder they are not good cuddlers.

The After effect of the Holiday Hook up

Well it is the day after and the deed is done. What do you do now? Keep it professional. No doubt that hottie doesn't look so hot anymore under the glaring fluorescent lights at work. here are some ways to clean up the after math

Don't talk about sex at work. Remain professional and dedicated to the task at hand. Come up with a game plan with your partner about how you are going to handle things at work. Do not make a spectacle of yourself. If you gotta spill your guts to your co worker do it on a lunch break where no one is around!

The Holiday Hook up could in fact lead to depression. Studies have shown the shorter the relationship the more likely you will suffer from depression and alcoholism. Constant hooking up my create a bad pattern for you and make it harder for you to have a serious relationship.It has been suggested that the long term effects of hooking up stunts our ability to develop intimacy.

Office Party Tips from Larry The Cable Guy

What to do to avoid the holiday hookup

Maybe a lot of your friends have disappeared into "coupledom" during the holiday season. What do you do with your spare time? Maybe throw a party yourself. Holidays are a great time for friends to get together. this might get your couple friends out into the open more! And parties are a great place to meet new peole, even if you are throwing them yourself!.

Organize an activity with a friend. It doesn't have to be anything extreme. Go Christmas shopping, grab a movie or a cup of coffee. There are lots of Holiday activities you can go to as well. Go to Christmas play or attend a sporting event.

If you find yourself intrigued by another person try some visualization techniques. visualize the morning after and how you are going to escape unnoticed!. Try to visualize this person without the effects of alcohol! Will they be the same dreamy catch then?

Maybe you have hooked up at a Holiday party,maybe you haven't . Regardless of the time of the year a hook up is just that a hook up. Many have argued that the hook up is a healthy outlet , while others state it prohibit intimacy. Think long and hard this holiday season about the hook up before you take that first sip of eggnog!

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My Sweet Anjolie 6 years ago

I know this is a fringe idea for many but the distinction made here is what is safe, what is real, what may lead to trouble. Consider hooking up with another woman, friends, able to trust each other and well ok I know, but try making love to a close female friend. You might find it a magical new beginning. Keep it a secret - its ok. Alright maybe its just me but .........


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curtis thomas 6 years ago

hook ups are like calling Tow Pro to get at your paid parking spot it is ok to remove an unwanted car from a paid for spot just remember that in the morning everyone wants to know what happened to their car. leave the hook ups for the professional.


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Ms Chievous 6 years ago from Wv Author

Rob Thanks for sharing! I am glad the Holiday Hookup works out for you! :)


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Rob in Las Vegas 6 years ago from Las Vegas

Last Christmas, I met a girl and ended moving to another state to be with her. (Please check out my hub for the details) It didn't work out there and now I'm back in Vegas, but I'm visiting her for Thanksgiving. I believe in the holiday hookup.


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Ms Chievous 6 years ago from Wv Author

Wesley! Good to see you! Sorry to bring up a bad memory! Ok One vote for No! Thanks for stoppin


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wesleycox 6 years ago from Back in Texas, at least until August 2012

Sometimes romance blooms from too much alcohol. I had a holiday hook-up a long time ago, but I'd rather not discuss what happened. Lets just say when I was sober she wasn't very attractive.


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Ms Chievous 6 years ago from Wv Author

Hello Dohn! Holiday hookups are a gamble aren't they! thanks for stoppin by..


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dohn121 6 years ago from Hudson Valley, New York

You outlined some great advice here, Ms Chievous. I have had two holiday hook ups and one went sour and the other? Sweet. I guess that's a wash! In either case, both make for some problems down the road and I wouldn't recommend it as it can compromise the atmosphere at work, especially if one partner is the other's boss!

Great hub!


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Ms Chievous 6 years ago from Wv Author

One yes! Thanks for Commenting Gennifer!


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Gennifer 6 years ago from Minsk, Belarus

Yes, once my holiday hook up turned into pleasant relationship that lasted for some months. Frankly speaking, I don't regret that it was in my life.

Nice hub!! ;)

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