Homophobia

A gay rights march (picture from www.reelpridemichigan.com)
A gay rights march (picture from www.reelpridemichigan.com)

Homophobia - the new leprosy?

For centuries, gays, lesbians, bisexuals and transgender people have been on the face of this earth and all the way down the line, they have been persecuted.

Although treatment of these individuals is getting better, it's still something that is a problem as people don't generally like that which is different; that which flies in the face of what's 'normal'.

Sadly, the concept of what is normal is becoming an increasingly grey area, one which many do not hold with and coupled with many people's difficulty to accept change, the situation is only being exacerbated.

Gay lesbian and bisexual individuals can often face ridicule, persecution, physical harm and even death for what they are and what's worse is, in many ways society is encouraging this behaviour. They are treated worse than lepers, since at least the lepers were herded out, as people would rarely go near them for fear of catching the disease.

What is a homophobe?

A homophobe is someone who has an unreasonable or uncontrollable fear of homosexuals - which includes gays, lesbians or bisexuals.

Homophobic behaviour can range from being uncomfortable around people of that persuasion or can be as bad as going out of their way to cause them harm.

Often it's sad to say, homophobes can do what they do under the banner of religion.

They will quote passages from the Bible in justification of beating the living crap out of someone even though that person or those people will have no effect on the perpetrator's life whatsoever.

Mostly though in my opinion, homophobes are ignorant of the facts.

What are Gay, lesbian or bisexual people doing that's so different?

Nothing really.

When you think about it, many so-called straight people are far worse deviants than gays lesbians or bisexual people.

Many 'straight' people are promiscuous, indiscriminate in their sexual activities and can often engage in sexual practices such as paedophilia, bestiality, necrophilia, adulterous affairs and worse, yet, these people would pass for normal, upstanding members of society that are more often than not, above reproach.

Conversely, a monogamous gay, lesbian or struggling transgender, who wouldn't harm anyone, least of all a child or an animal, will come under the hammer and their lives made miserable, when they have actually harmed no-one.

Their persecution is merely a result of their honesty in being open about the fact that they prefer to be in love with someone of the same sex or have no preference as to the gender of their partners.

A sad fact

Despite many moves by various governments around the world to go further than simply to legalise homosexuality and lesbianism, it is not changing the opinions of a great many people.

Many feel uncomfortable and I'm sure are afraid of 'catching' gayness; of contracting lesbianism.

Nothing could be further from the truth. This concept is as bad as believing that you can catch STD's from the toilet seat or if you pull a face and the wind changes direction, you'll stay like that.

You either are or you're not.

It is my contention that many straight people fantasise about being with partners of the same sex or participating in an orgy where men and women are all getting it on together with other men and women regardless.

Seeing people who actually do this by choice and are open about it, I feel, raises questions in the heads of at least some homophobes and this is where the fear comes from. In fact it's not fear in many cases, but jealousy.

The saddest fact of all is that people are afraid of the unknown and it's entirely likely that many homophobes have had no interaction with gays, lesbians or bisexuals on any level and are reacting to what they have been told by those no more qualified to talk on the subject than them. In fact, it's altogether possible that these people have had contact and didn't even know it as some gays, lesbians and bisexuals prefer not to shout about it.

The misguided concept that gayness can be cured should by now be a thing of the past, but it isn't.

My opinion

I am painfully aware of the fact that some gays, lesbians and bisexuals who have come 'out' like nothing more than to ram this fact down the throats of anyone and everyone who will listen and many who would have preferred not to have known too.

This can be embarrassing and make people uncomfortable. Sometimes, people are better off not knowing, or at least not being forced to hear about things they don't need to know about.  

Although I don't feel threatened by by being around gays, lesbians or bisexuals, I would prefer not to have to listen to them talking about sex and their sexual preferences in public.

I do not believe that a homophobe is someone who fails to agree that gays, lesbians and bisexuals should be allowed to date and have sex with whomever they choose, but that homophobes are similar to racists and anti-semetics.

In my opinion, homophobes are people who cannot tolerate the thought that same-sex relationships are natural for some in the same way that Hitler and his regime felt that people who weren't born with blonde hair and blue eyes were inferior to those who were, or that the Jews should be eliminated. Indeed, the KKK's continued treatment of African Americans is just as intolerable so God help you if you are a black, Jewish gay or lesbian.

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Rascal Russ Miles 7 years ago from Show Low, AZ USA

Nice writeup Nick. Maybe the deviants that suffer from

homophobia would rather that all gays, lesbians, bisexuals and transgender people returned to their respective quite closets. Certainly loud homophobes would fear what they couldn't see and broadcast anyway :))


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Nick B 7 years ago from Normandy, France Author

You got that right.

Most of them wouldn't know a gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender person if they were bit on the arse by one!

Not quite the same, but I heard a story from Ozzy Osborne who was playing a venue in the US. He went outside to see what all the commotion was about and joined a bunch of protesters who were anti Ozzy Osborne.

They had no idea who he was.

Makes you wonder doesn't it?


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Mortgagestar1 7 years ago from Weirton,West Virginia

To each thier own and I wish not to judge. However, the militant Gays such as Perez Hilton and NAMBLA enjoy jumpimg in your face and exude a violent attitude towards non Gays.They demonstrate just how closed minded and intolerant they themselves are.

Pushing the envelope is the mantra of Gays and they have Hollyweird and the liberal elitist propagating upon grade schoolers. I wish kids to have a normal and natural evolution as individualist and not programmedto thing they are bad or abnormal if they are straight. I have had Gay men hit on me throughout my life and I tell them I'm straight. Most are cool about it , but at times some are progessive and down right rude. I don't want to see straight couples molest each other in public as well as Gays. Public schools are now pushing youngsters to "experiement" outside of hetero bounds and this should NOT be forced on kids. I personally am just addicted to the opposite gender.


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Nick B 7 years ago from Normandy, France Author

I wholeheartedly agree--on all counts.

I discovered after writing this that GLBT is mainly GLB, but I will divulge more of this in a hub.

Thanks for your comment


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Petra Vlah 6 years ago from Los Angeles

Diverting attention from the real problems is working every time. Bleaming minorities is effective and has been done time and again. Focusing on the non-violent and letting the real criminals run wild is the politic of choice for the ones who seek re-election.

Way to go, America, way to go!


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Antecessor 6 years ago from Australia

There are a lot of homophobic skewed hubs written by christians on here, some of them even said stuff like its not black peoples fault they are black but it is gays fault they are gay, as if there is something wrong with either. When I flagged the hub for hate speech I got banned for three days and the hub is still there.


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DavitosanX 6 years ago

You tackled an important point right at the end. Some people are downright homophobic, but others are just uncomfortable with blatant discussion of sexual issues and preferences, especially if it also includes tender subjects, like homosexuality. All people, gay or straight, should behave respectfully and decently.


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rgarnett 6 years ago from KC, MO

As a member of the GLBT community, I want to say that I agree with you on many points. I will point out that I especially agree with the last part of this hub. I know alot of flamboyant members of our community who make it their mission in life to throw their sexuality in someone's face. While I want to be respected DESPITE of my orientation, these people want to be respected BECAUSE of it. My orientation is a part of me. Its who I am - I will not shy away from telling people that I am in fact a lesbian, but I don't need to see PDA from a straight or a gay couple, its just not polite.

People who are flamboyant just to make people uncomfortable offend even me. I find them to be the main reason why we are stuck in stereotypes and scared people out there don't understand what a real gay or lesbian person feels or thinks. If we keep perpetuating the stereotype just to get back at those who hurt our feelings, we will never get past the untruthful way we are looked at.

People do not like what doesn't seem normal to them. This is why I try to get to know a person before I come out and tell them about my orientation. Its a piece of me, but its not all of me. In most cases, if they get to know me, and they don't know anything about my orientation, when I do tell them, they don't think anything of it.

Its all about how we present ourselves. I understand that religion and opinions and upbringing is going to come into play. But frankly, if we were more respectable of the people around us, instead of blatently trying to make them uncomfortable, perhaps they would be more accepting of our orientation. They will see that it who we are - no more or no less.

Anyway, sorry I rambled so much - I am glad to see your hub and I appreciate the positive spin you have put on this subject. :)


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Ralph Deeds 5 years ago

Tony Soprano is a homophobe--

Dr. Jennifer Melfi: You personally, how do you feel about homosexuality?

Tony Soprano: I find it disgusting. Men kissin' men, holdin' hands in the street. Every fuckin' TV show now, they rub your nose in it. Although, that, the lesbian thing with the, uh, Jennifer Beals, it's not bad. She a dyke in real life? I don't give too much of a shit, what people do behind closed doors with the consentin' adults. Although, don't forget, I'm a strict Catholic. I agree with that Senator Sanitorium, says if we let this stuff go too far, pretty soon we'll be fuckin' dogs.

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