House Husband

Becoming a House Husband

Since the beginning of time, women have always taken on the role of looking after the household and children, these days though more and more men are taking over that role and becoming stay at home dads.

There are many reasons for this change of circumstances.

The long fight for women's rights and equality is at last starting to bear fruit especially in the workplace where women are earning just as much as their male counterparts and have an equal chance of promotion to higher level jobs.

The economy is in recession which has led to a lot of redundancies and fewer job opportunities leaving some men with little or no choice to stay at home whilst their partners go out to work.

Choice some couples decide long before any children come along the roles that they will play at home.

Whatever the reasons, there are more men staying at home raising their children than ever before.

Redundancy became my introduction into the life of a stay at home dad, a week before Christmas last year I lost my job.

Stay at Home Dad

They look like perfect angels but don't turn your back for one second.
They look like perfect angels but don't turn your back for one second. | Source

Life as Stay at Home Dad

Starting my new role as a stay at home dad was a real eye opener for me. I thought it would be so easy, after all how difficult can it be to do a few chores around the house and keep an eye on the children. That first week was a real learning curve for me.

Having been used to a routine at work I thought that it would be a matter of doing the same at home get up, make breakfast, see children off to school, make beds, do washing, vacuum, then take a break with a cup of coffee. After break polish and do any other cleaning chores that need done around the home then I could put my feet up and watch TV until the kids came home from school.

Make dinner, let kids go out to play for a while before shower and pyjama's supper and bed ready to do it all again the next day.

Simple as that, it all looks good on paper and it would have worked perfectly if the children were not a part of the equation, especially when I realised that one of my children was still too young to go to school and I would have to work around him and his needs.

It wasn't long before I realised that having a toddler at home with you 24/7 makes your job almost impossible. I also discovered that my other 3 children were not the perfect little angels that I knew from the 2 or 3 hours that I used to be with them after work.

Brotherly Love

On camera they look like best of friends, off camera they fight like cat and dog.
On camera they look like best of friends, off camera they fight like cat and dog. | Source

Daddy I'm Wide Awake!

Jason bright eyed and bushy tailed.
Jason bright eyed and bushy tailed. | Source

The Reality of Being a House Husband

Having a routine seems like a great idea but in reality when you have children routine flies out of the windows along with your notion of how simple your new role will be.

Firstly I got up washed and dressed in plenty of time to make breakfast for the children and see them off to school, all was well on track breakfast was on the table and I went upstairs to waken them.

Children I have discovered are not at their best when they have just been woken up, especially the teenage ones. They are grumpy, argumentative and they love to fight with each other from the race to the bathroom, to sitting at the breakfast table, dig, dig, dig, "Dad, She done this", "Dad he did that" but of course that is only half the story.

Children getting dressed for school is an adventure, even though all of their clothes had been set out the night before they all seem to have disappeared into thin air, " Dad Where are my socks?", "Dad I can't find my skirt". "Dad my shoes have gone missing".

By the time they have all been dressed, washed, brushed their teeth and sat down to breakfast, which they have to rush, because they are running late.

So off to school they go after a panic of bus fares, lunch money and a frantic search for bags. Letting me get on with my job of tidying up the house and doing any shopping that was needed for the day.

Just as I was about to start picking up the breakfast dishes to wash, I heard a noise from upstairs. Jason was awake, oops silly daddy forgot all about him.

It was at this exact point in time that it became perfectly clear to me that the routine I had planned for the day was dead.

Jason is such a Good Eater

Who knew that a two year old could be so messy?
Who knew that a two year old could be so messy? | Source

Shopping with a Two Year Old

When going Shopping with a two year old child, I would strongly advise that you take a stroller, you have a little more control and you can use the handles of the stroller to carry bags.

With a stroller baby won't get tired and you won't have to carry him and your shopping.

Jason on Tractor Tom

So happy riding on Tractor Tom until the ride ends, let the screaming begin.
So happy riding on Tractor Tom until the ride ends, let the screaming begin. | Source

House Work Around a Two year old

With Jason out of bed cleaned up and changed I thought that while he ate his breakfast in his highchair I would be able to get at least something done and I did.

I managed to clear up and wash the breakfast dishes and I managed to get a load of clothes into the washing machine.

Then I turned my attention to Jason who was sitting in his highchair with an innocent look on his face, it would have been a perfect picture if he wasn't covered head to toe in his breakfast, his plate was lying on the floor and his food was scattered all around the floor and there was even some on the walls. Who knew that you had to supervise a two year old while they were eating?

After bathing and changing Jason, I decided that to get it out of the way we would go out shopping for the things that we needed for the day.

Shopping with a two Year Old

Shopping with a two year old, is an adventure, do you take the stroller or do you let him walk with his reins?

I decided to walk with Jason, big mistake, reins are ok if you are just going for a walk to the local park but if you are going shopping I would advise the stroller.

Jason really is a good walker, actually I would say he is more of a runner pulling me along happy as Larry, until you get to the store then he wants to pul everything from the shelves.

It was a complete nightmare, trying to hold Jason back from the shelves, holding a shopping basket and trying to pick up the shopping that I needed, I am surprised that we didn't get thrown out of the store with the amount of Items I had to pick up from the floor and put back on the shelves.

To give me a break for just a few seconds I decided to let Jason have a ride on the moving toy he loved it so much that when the ride ended he screamed the place down not wanting to come off.

We made our way back home bags of shopping in one hand and Jasons reins in the other, then Jason decides that he has done enough walking for the day and wants carried the rest of the way home.

Weeeeee!

Jason loves the slide he got for his birthday.
Jason loves the slide he got for his birthday. | Source

House Work

The shopping trip was a good idea, at least something I did was right, it tired Jason out so much that within five minutes of getting back home he fell asleep giving me the chance to get on with some chores.

The washing machine had finished its cycle so I took the washing and put it in the dryer, I tidied up Jason’s mess from breakfast and I managed to get another few small jobs done before he woke back up.

Jason has two gears fast and sleeping, when he is not sleeping he is all over the place, he is great fun to be around and 99% of the time he is a happy baby but boy does he make a mess, toys everywhere, books everywhere and when you try to pick them up he takes them from you plays with them for a few seconds and throws them away to play with something else.

The problem is that when Jason is awake there is not much chance that anything will get done around the house.

My idea of having a coffee break was now a pipe dream and all that I would see on TV would be an episode of Sesame Street

Jason Enjoys Playing in the Grass

Jason loves playing outside.
Jason loves playing outside. | Source

Home from School and Work

When the children came home from school and my wife came home from work, although I still had a few chores left to do, it was a huge relief. I could get on with things and some one else could watch over Jason.

The children got on with their homework, then tidied up their bedrooms, changed their clothes and then went outside to play taking Jason with them.

With mum home we worked together to get everything done and by the time it came for me to go to bed my head hit the pillow and I was giving it big Zeds.

Being a House Husband

Being a house husband is hard work, but it is rewarding spending more time with your children and getting to know them a lot better.

It takes a while to get into a routine, but you get to know your child's sleeping patterns and to work around them.

I am settling into the role of house husband now and beginning to enjoy it more, They say that "A womans work is never done" and now i am beginning to believe that.


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crazymom3 4 years ago

ood for you! I have pondered the idea about my husband doung this since i seem more productive, but found when im gone and he is home, the house is a bigger mess whe n i get home then how i left it so its more work for me. It only works if the man understands that there are things that need done nit just each tv, play and eat.


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Janine Huldie 4 years ago from New York, New York

Jimmy, I am a house wife and am letting my husband read this one the next time he asks what I'd you do today. I have 2 children, one is 3 years old and one is 20 months old (not even 2 years old yet) and could relate to quite a bit of your article. I swear they'd re like 2 little hurricanes when they are playing with all there toys (we put Toys R Us to shame). Thank you for writing about your experience and enjoyed and related to completely. Voted and shared too!


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Natashalh 4 years ago from Hawaii

My dad was a stay at home dad for a while. He had the 'soccer mom' van and took my sister and me around to everything! People always assumed my mom would pick me up form school or would make dinner, but it was always my dad. I thought it was kind of cool, really.


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jimmythejock 4 years ago from Scotland Author

Thanks for your comments guys, I think my kids also enjoy having me home more.....jimmy


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courtyB3 4 years ago from New Jersey

What a great idea. So many don't realize that they change in society has caused a lot more dads to stay at home and raise the family.


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Lady Guinevere 4 years ago from West Virginia

I just love your way of presenting things. Yes it is hard work for any gender. Children are the spice in the mix. I love the pictures of your children. Very nice hub indeed. I rated it up and across the board.


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Patty Kenyon 4 years ago from Ledyard, Connecticut

Interesting Hub!! I LOVE the pictures and the way you presented this Hub!! Awesome Job!!


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Lightshare 4 years ago

Thanks Jimmy!. Thank you very much for a cute hub -)


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tsarnaudova 4 years ago from Sofia, Bulgaria

That was refreshing hub, Jimmy! I work from home for 4 years now and I know exactly how it is. My little girl is now 3 and a half years old, the elder is twelve.

Not so many guys find something positive in house work and children watch. I think you're great dad, patient and loving. Your children are beautiful.


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Lovelovemeloveme 4 years ago from Cindee's Land

Such a cute hub! haha I liked the caption on the pics of your two sons. they looked very well behaved. can't imagine them fighting like cats and dogs. lol but very cute caption ahahaha


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Ddraigcoch 4 years ago from UK

My husband says he will stay at home if I can fond a job instead of him, alas, whilst on Paternity leave and me laid up after a bad birth, he sent my girls to school looking like they had bed hair, put my 7 year old's clothes on my 5 year old and vice versa, although this was 2 years ago nearly, so they didn't know, they would blast him now.

I was trying to work on my writing this weekend and he stated " I have all day to do that!"..he didn't even have the decency to run for cover.

My kids are 10, 7, 5 and 23 months, so I have to walk them to school, so the terrible toddler gets up with us all. By the time he falls asleep, the neighbour who has all her kids at school decides she is bored of being on her own and comes around to bug me and nothing will shift her.

I love my kids and husband dearly, can't wait for them to be a bit older though.


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old albion 4 years ago from Lancashire. England.

Great hub Jim, it provided me with a few smiles. Thanks for sharing.

Graham.


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Your Info Gal 4 years ago

Thanks for the hub. I think that's great that you are able to be there for your kids. Those are the memories that they will always remember. Rather than seeing dad come from work all grumpy and tired and not having time and energy to be with them.


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Jools99 3 years ago from North-East UK

Jimmy, great hub and very honest! Jason is your double by the way :o) I recently gave up work and am now a housewife (or home maker I think they're called now) which I have never been before; I have worked since I was 16. Well now I wonder how I ever found the time to do a full time job. There is always loads to do in the house or shopping etc and you must be rushed off your feet with 4 kids to look after as well. I bet you are sleeping like a baby!


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fpherj48 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

Jimmy...This is priceless! I chuckled all through it. Dads make perfect stay-at-home parents....I know several. This never fails to entertain me. It may be a rough start, but for some reason, Dads seem to get on track quickly, and work out a routine and regimen, quite successfully.

It should be "required," for all Dads to take on this role, for at least one year...(when the kids are at their most troublesome ages!! LOL) It's an educational and mind opening experience.......that I see you've discovered!

Your children DO look like little Angels! They're beautiful.


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healthwealthmusic 3 years ago from Everywhere Online ~ Fingerlakes ~ Upstate New York

Loved your hub! Finally, a husband who realizes the truth about what a woman does at home all day, and why she is sometimes a 'bit' stressed when he comes home from work! I agree - it would be good for both husband and wife to change places for a year, the husband staying home and the woman working away :) They would likely both be more understanding of each other.


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mary615 3 years ago from Florida

I loved this Hub! I think it would be a wonderful idea for parents to exchange roles for a while. You Dads would appreciate what your wives do all day if they are home with the kids. It isn't an easy job, is it? Sounds like you are doing a great job!

I voted this Hub UP, etc.


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elle64 3 years ago from Scandinavia

Well I think many men should try to be a stay at home dad, I think many does not realise how hard work it is. You do though,excellent hub.


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LongTimeMother 3 years ago from Australia

I am thinking that with the passing of time you'll have learned a few of the tricks of full-time parenting, like the advantage of standing your two-year-old inside the big shopping trolley as you weave your way around the store. It's the only way to keep them out of reach of the shelves. The only food you'll have to pick up is the food they might toss from your own trolley. Of course it helps to choose toilet paper, paper towels and cans first - leaving any bottles and breakable things till last. Great hub!

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