How and Simple Ways to Ask or Asking a Man or a Woman or Women About His or Her Age Young George Clooney

Woud you ask her  how old she is?
Woud you ask her how old she is?

Older Men Look Distinguished

Age Idiom for Men

I decided to start my discussion on how to ask someone their age from a male's perspective, since it seems to me that men are not sensitive regarding their age or how old they may look as they grow older. And why should they be?

As demonstrated in our culture and as shown by pictures of men in magazines and other media, men tend to embrace aging, probably because of the perception that they tend to become mature and look more distinguished as they age.

An example of such a man is George Clooney, who I think looks even more handsome now than when he was younger.

On the flip side is David Cassidy, who was handsome when he was younger, but, to me, lost his looks as he got older -- at least to me anyway.

The lines on men faces give them a look that can be appealing, when compared to the pimple face they may have sported in their very early years.

However, for women, the perception of aging, growing older and looking older is quite different. Lines are seen as "worry," or "aging" lines.

There are other differences as well.

A young George Clooney.  Not bad.
A young George Clooney. Not bad.
Handsome, older, mature, distinguished George Clooney.
Handsome, older, mature, distinguished George Clooney.

Older, Aging Women Look_________________

Age Idiom for Women

I will let you complete the sentence above. What words come to your mind? Let's try a few -- "tired,", "angry," "old and dried up", "like she needs to rest," -- there are many many more. The point is the terms are negative in nature.

It is no wonder we women (I include myself in this group as well) will use whatever means we have to stay as young looking as we can, for as long as we can. The cosmetic industry is booming with all types of creams, mosturizers and other products that claim will lead us to the fountain of youth -- a path that I will happily follow.

By the way, there is truth behind the term "beauty sleep." Nature gave us a way to stay looking younger, simply by getting enough sleep.

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Age Perception Demo A Real Live Example

Age Broadcasting by Men versus Women

In a public place, I overheard a male yell to his friend, "I just had a birthday!" The friend yelled back loudly, "Really? How old are you?"

Now this is what surprised me. He answered back really loud and clear "I just turned 57."

Then even more alarming to me was the friend's response. "I got 7 years on you... I'm 64!"

Amazing! Such public exchange of what I would consider sensitive information.

Some women, of course, do not mind telling their ages, but it is well known, I think, that no one should ask a woman her age, unless she says it's ok. This rule, apparently, do not apply to men.

Are you familiar with the term PDA for Public Display of Affection, or TMI for Too Much Information. I'm coining another term along that vein -- PDI -- Public Display of Information, incurred by divulging your age in public or in a public place within hearing distances of others. I repeat -- Telling your age in public is PDI!


When is it OK to tell your age?

With Me -- Age is Personal!

Personally, I think my age is my own personal business. So unless there is a dire need for someone to know my age -- My age is "for me to know, and for you to find out."

However, that being said, I'm finding that more and more women do not seem to mind telling their age -- even older women.

For example, Debbie Reynolds proudly volunteered to everyone during a television show that she was 80. A few days later, on another television show, Jane Fonda revealed that she was 74. In Jane Fonda's case, I think she was asked her age by the host of the show. But she did volunteer that she had a hip and knee replacements!

And the age reveals continue. Mary Lou Henner of Taxi fame recently told everyone on a talk show that she was 60. Surprisingly since he is obviously a man, William Shatner muffled and put his fingers in front of his mouth when he muttered in a low voice that he was 81. William Shatner's personna was unlike Ryan O'Neal who matter of factly stated that he was 71.


What is the big deal with age anyway?

You may ask, what is the big deal? We all, for the most part, get older, and we know what the alternative to not getting older is!

I would respond, it's a matter of etiquette and giving someone their sense of privacy. I use "sense of privacy", because in today's internet world, you can just "Google" someone and find out how old they are.

My focus here is on what you should say if you are maybe at a party or a gathering and are wondering how old someone is. Show your maturity by not asking, especially if you do not know how that person would feel about or react to you asking them how old they are.

Remember, you can always get their name, and "Google" them later on and find out their age without asking them directly.

Age Revelations -- An Individual Decision

Of course, whether or not you divulge your age is an individual decision.

As for me, I put asking how old I am, in the same category as asking how much money I make. I will go even further to say that I think it's rude to ask a woman her age -- even if she does not mind telling you. Her age is none of your business!

Perplexed by the age question? I have to know how old he or she is!

If you absolutely must know someone's age, follow the steps below:

How to ask a woman her age: If you are maybe at a party or gathering, and your curiosity about her age is wearing you down -- the polite way to ask is to inquire if she would mind telling you her age. In response -- she may or may not respond in kind.

How to ask a man his age: There is really no protocol -- just ask away!

Age Question Poll

Is it ok to ask a woman how old she is? POLL RESULTS: 71% says No, 29% says Yes

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Comments 8 comments

Dedmoroz 5 years ago

Hi ladyhowto4u,

I really enjoyed reading your hub. I think how well you know the person, would determine how confident you are when asking someone their age.

Although on general, I would feel more comfortable asking a guy their age, rather than a woman.

Just want to add something to your hub - "How to ask a man his age: There is really no protocol -- just ask away!" But if he says no... - buy him a beer and ask again ;)

Best Wishes,

Max


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ladyhowto4u 5 years ago Author

Hi Max,

I'm happy you enjoyed reading my hub. I laughed out loud about your statement to buy him a beer and ask again. Very funny.

Thanks for your comments!

--ladyhowto4u


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Au fait 5 years ago from North Texas

A lady never tells her age and a gentleman never asks!

Generally you need to know someone very well to ask them their age. IMHO the only people who really need to know my age are my doctor and my lawyer. It's irrelevant to all other relationships. You might choose to share it with a spouse or fiancé if you have one . . .


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ladyhowto4u 5 years ago Author

Au Fait,

I agree. Your lead in statement would be a good title for my hub.

Regarding relationships -- On an interview type TV show, one woman said she did not divulge her age to her fiancé until they were married. All along she said he thought she was 10 years younger! So it looks like even telling your age to your fiancé can be individual decision as well.

Thanks for your comments!

--ladyhowto4u


Debbie Dallas 4 years ago

C I didn't think telling your age mattered! If your confident why not? What do u have to lose?

Pretty much a lot of personal information can NOW be found on line! ;) hey!! I'm turning 36 soon- I one month! Lol oops! ;;)


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ladyhowto4u 4 years ago Author

Debbie Dallas,

Thanks for your comments. I guess it depends on the person divulging the age information. As for me, telling my age is a definite "no no." Let them look it up online if they want to know! LOL.

--ladyhowto4u


thommie eric 2 years ago

i loved the topic but, i think telling someone your age does not matter unless you think something bad from tha person asking


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ladyhowto4u 2 years ago Author

Hi thommie eric,

Thank you. I believe everyone has their preference. I personally prefer not to be asked my age and do think that it is rude -- in my opinion. I believe some people think that it is rude also, because some ask you before they ask your age, "May I ask how old you are?" Sometimes people may ask how old your children are -- as a sly way, in my opinion, to find out your age. Or sometimes they may volunteer the age of their children, thinking that you may reciprocate in kind.

I stand by my age being my personal information. If they want to find out, they can always look it up, google it, etc. But I will never tell. In other words as these sayings (paraphrased) goes -- "This [information] is for me to know and for them to find out." and "A lady never tells."

I appreciate you taking the time to stop by and comment.

ladyhowto4u

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