Having an Affair

Are you aggravated because she doesn't do all of the sexual things every guy wants his girlfriend to do? Are you just bored? There are plenty of good reasons someone has an affair. You have to decide if it's the right thing to do. Okay, maybe you could leave the relationship. There could be reasons for not wanting to leave though. If this is the case and you need romantic involvement what else can you do? So now the question becomes not what are you going to do, rather how are you going to do it?

It becomes about accounting for your time. You know your significant other wonders what you're up to most of the time. The only thing you can do about this is to find anything and everything to do. You can actually do all of this stuff while you're trying to meet someone with which to have the affair. The more you do, the more excuses you'll have for always being gone.

Once you get a number of activities in place on your schedule you can get on with the business of the affair. It's probably best to start out slowly to see how things go. So a little jaunt down South with an old friend may just be best way to go. You'll have to start lying though. You can't take off to destinations unknown without telling your partner some type of concocted story. In this case it's best to tell a partial truth. Since you do have to go to the airport, you might want to say that you're traveling to the location, but actually do something other than what they think you're doing when you get there.

After you get one little tryst under your belt so to speak, it will be easier to indulge the next time. And that's the thing about an affair, it makes you want to do it again. So you'll have to think about who you'll be seeing. If you want to keep it convenient you could get a regular date. If you want to keep it interesting you'll have to be on top of your game always coming up with interesting things to say.


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kschang 3 years ago from San Francisco, CA, USA

One can be deceptive in person as well as online.


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lisasuniquevoice 3 years ago from Michigan Author

kschang,

You're absolutely right about that. It seems no matter how we meet people, we have to be careful.

Thank you,

Lisa


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MsDora 3 years ago from The Caribbean

I always thought this was too risky for me, but I also know people who enjoy happy, successful unions after meeting online. Look for the giveaway clues!


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lisasuniquevoice 3 years ago from Michigan Author

MsDora,

I know what you mean. When I was dating there were no computers. I do have to say that my son met his wife online and they're very happy.

Thank you,

Lisa


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kschang 3 years ago from San Francisco, CA, USA

One cannot succeed if one does not even try. :)


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lisasuniquevoice 3 years ago from Michigan Author

kschang,

You have a nice positive attitude. It's refreshing.

Thanks,

Lisa


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dashingscorpio 19 months ago

A while back I asked the following question on HP.

Is sexual incompatibility enough of a reason to end a marriage?

Over 90% of those who answered said "no".

I suspect most cheaters agree with them!

Just because their mate (stopped) doing all the things they use to or has completely lost interest in sex, being erotic, or adventurous doesn't mean someone is going to run down to the courthouse to file for divorce, move out of their home into an apartment, possibly pay child support and alimony or become a weekend parent. That's a lot to consider just because a marriage is sexless or unfulfilling in some way.

Some people wrote they would tell their mate what they needed or seek out therapy. However usually before there is an affair most people have tried and failed to get their mate interested.

The goal of most cheaters is to hold onto all that is "good" in their relationship while addressing their other "needs" on the side.

They're not looking to replace one relationship with another one. Their goal is to compliment what they already have. However it always gets tricky if one person in the affair falls in love or they get busted.

It's been said that women are better at not getting caught than men. :)

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