How Do You Measure Love
My story is merely my personal perception and observation, so this is not based from any professional evaluation and no scientific study was conducted on my part to write this story.
As most writers so often do, I found myself thinking about the measurement of love. One thought in particular that crossed my mind was something that I thought I would share.
How our society measures love
Some individuals would say you should love God more than anything, your family, more than your friends, even your children. How is that possible? Can you really love more than the people that are in your life? How can you really measure how much you love? If you love, don't you just love? Is there a way we can measure how much we love something or someone? Personally, I don't see how. I believe a measurement of love is measured by one's personal consciousness. What we are measuring is not actually Love, but how much significances that person means to us individually. But, can you measure significance? Not on a scale.
I think it is comical that we as a people will try to give everything a size, a measurement, or a limitation. Can you really measure Love or is love simply a personal perception? Isn't a measurement of love a definition of one's own personal significance and importance? When you Love, isn't that is all there is? It's not that simple. There is love and there is the kind of love where you love beyond all words. You can try to describe the kind of love you feel, but true love is something that is immeasurable.
Scientists can measure brain reactions to sight and smells, view the changing patterns of activity and biochemical reactions to measure activity in the brain, but unless scientists study numerous subjects who are truly in love versus subjects who are in lust for someone attractive, the responses will be nearly impossible to measure, because everyone's reactions are going to be different from one individual to another. These differences will be based on social experiences. Thoughts during the testing will also influence these tests, but I don't think it could ever be measured accurately and be used as fact. I don't want to go into any technical details, because I am not reporting on facts or figures based on scientific data. I merely want to share about my own personal experience in comparison to how love is measured and possibly get some input from my readers.
In this past year, I have experienced love on a new level. I truly believe in my heart, that I have found the one, my kindred spirit, soul mate if you will. Many believe a soul mate is just a figment of one's own imagination. Others believe that our main purpose on earth is to find our soul mate or you are doomed to travel through time and live multiple lives until we found our counterpart in order to pass onto everlasting life. I'm not going to discredit anyone beliefs nor will I deny that it isn't possible, but I don't believe it is a figment of my imagination.
I am 35 years of age. I've been married before and I've had my share of serious relationships over the course of my life, so I've experienced a great many things on different levels of love. Some therapists might say that I had an addition to the euphoria of falling in love. Maybe, I did. I am not denying it. And, once the sensation dissipated, I lost interest. I am not disputing this theory. The more I look back, the more I realize that I did feel those things. I guess this is part of being human. Our initial human reaction is to see a person that we find attractive and this creates the desire is to mate, correct? This is the very reason how we procreate. The difference is our ability to love and care about the individual and the ability to nurture that relationship, "until death do us part". How the relationship results depends on how we learn from our social influence. Were our parents divorced? Did they stay together? Do we have parents in our lives at all? Did TV, internet, or even pornography play part in early development? How did our friends act as role models in school while we were growing up? All these things have a direct influence on how we develop as teenagers and it stretches all the way until our adult years. Depending on habits and social surroundings, these influences can and do permanently influence your entire lifestyle. Fortunately for me, I learned and identified what was destructive in my life later rather than never.
What do you guys think? Is there a piece of the puzzle that I'm overlooking? Please comment with your ideas and opinions. There is no right or wrong answer.
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