How Fake Feminism Harms Women
What is Fake Feminism?
Do you know any women who practice fake feminism? By fake feminism, I mean that they flaunt a feminist attitude that contradicts sharply with how they really treat other women. They pretend to have a feminist attitude by calling out those whom they consider to be "male identified," women beholden to male authority, and read all the feminist literature, quickly engaging in discourse on feminist theory and saying "down with the patriarchy." However, those who practice fake feminism are especially harsh on their fellow women. They judge other women from the jobs they have, the way they dress, and by whom they socialize. They actual adopt a very negative attitude about women because they have an ideal in their mind about the "real woman" - an ideal that most women cannot maintain. It is not much different from the patriarchal notion of the "ideal woman."
Fake Feminism Hurts Women
Fake feminism, especially when practiced by women, hurts women. It creates a box in which most women are unable to mold themselves. In the professional world, a female boss who is a fake feminist may actually be harsher on her female employees than her male employees. Her idea of what a true women should be may cause her to be unduly harsh on women and actually prevent opportunities for advancements for their fellow women, creating an additional "glass ceiling" that is supported and erected by women. As a parent, a fake feminist may express harsh judgments on their female child - especially around a teenager's expression and understanding of sexuality. As young women begin to understand their bodies and experiment with the way they dress, they need support and kind advice instead of biting criticism. These experiences can impact self-esteem.
While many girls and women may indeed be "male-identified" and try too hard to gain male approval, these women could use kind support to help them develop their own personalities. True feminism means that women are seen as full human beings who are accepted for who they are as people. There are many different types of women, as there are many different types of people. Why not support your fellow women? Love and embrace them for who they are and what they want to achieve. Take the time to understand differences before passing judgment.
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