6 Ways Men can Improve their Sex Lives

All you ever seem to hear from men is that they don't get enough sex. Sex, sex, sex it seems that's all they ever think about! Well, I've got news for you. There is a way, in fact there are 6 ways to improve your sex life. And, no, one isn't some stupid pill. Not that there's anything wrong with that!


Here are 6 ways to improve your sex life:


  1. Know what you are doing! Study up...get a book, take notes, know how to make a woman climax because if you don't know how to do that, you are going to have some long sabbaticals in between trysts! Every woman is different, so you have to talk to her and find out what makes her tick, make her feel safe and let her know that her secrets are safe with you. But whatever you do make that the goal, make her happy and you will be happy too. And if you do, you wont be waiting long for the next round.

  2. Compliment your wife, tell her how sexy you think she is, how beautiful she is all the time. Don't tell her this just when you want to do the deed. Tell her this all the time. Try little text messages throughout the day, sexting isn't just for pervs you know! And if you think for one moment that criticizing her or nagging her about the way she looks is going to help your sex life, boy are you barking up the wrong tree. Nothing kills the chance for romance like criticism. You can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar and that is especially true in this department.

  3. Create a private, stress-free environment, some flowers and candles for no reason would be nice but a lot of us would settle for just a clean house. Mix it up now and again, boredom is not just a problem for men. Women get distracted easily and they have a lot on their plate, Environment is very important to a woman, men could do it in a pick up truck going down the high-way, not women...environment is very important.

  4. Don't skip the preludes, kissing, massages and foreplay are key. If you skip those you will be skipping other things too like nookie for the next 6 months!

  5. Don't be available all the time! That's right DON'T be available all the time. Give us time to miss you.  It's the law of supply and demand. If you are available all the time your value lowers, if you aren't it rises, Absence makes the heart grow fonder...trust me on this one.

  6. Finally, if you were a woman would you WANT YOU? Women want to look up to their man and feel proud of them, if you just lay around all day or have let yourself go then don't expect her to be begging you for it...it's not that she doesn't want it, it just might be that she doesn't want it with you...step up and take a good hard look in the mirror. And, I know this might make some men mad but a woman can have it anytime she wants with just about any man she wants so the onus is on you not her. Let me tell you something. I did a little experiment once (mainly because my friend didn't believe this when I told him) and I put an ad on Craigslist posing as a 76 year old woman who wanted a young man for the night...I know, I know I'm going to hear some flack on this but it WAS just an experiment to make my point so don't get your panties in a bunch! Anyway, I put the ad up on Craigslist just to see how many men would reply...the ad got over 400 replies! So trust me when I tell you a woman can have it anytime and the onus is on you to encourage her to want you, not the other way around! And, it doesn't take much, remember she loves you and married you so you have the home-team advantage.


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Nan Mynatt 5 years ago from Illinois

Brie, you are one of a kind. Some people will do anything and your posted article shows just that!


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Brie Hoffman 5 years ago from Manhattan Author

What do you mean?


Nan 5 years ago

I'm surprised that at 76 some men long to have sex with an old woman. It should be a thing of the past. There are so many younger women willing to take up the cause and take them on. Past 65 is another phase of life. Time for a change, they might have a heart attack.(smile)


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Brie Hoffman 5 years ago from Manhattan Author

Well, it's the truth, I did the experiment myself. I must say my friend was quite shocked!


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Neil Sperling 5 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

here I was hoping you were going to give me 6 of the 7 numbers in your phone number and all I had to do was try the combination with a Manhattan area code..... LOL

just kidding - the shoe fits on both feet. A woman who is constantly nagging their old man about anything, no matter how sexy and beautiful they are, quite frankly turn off a guy so they have no interest in them too. Same goes for a woman who stops taking care of themselves physically.

good article but the title is directed to both genders and the content mainly to men.


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Brie Hoffman 5 years ago from Manhattan Author

The article is geared more to men because like I said in the article women don't really have a problem with the lack of sex.


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Becky532 5 years ago

Love the experiment, hope you won't have creepy guys emailing you forever!!


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Brie Hoffman 5 years ago from Manhattan Author

Oh, that was awhile back. No worries :)


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cheapsk8chick 5 years ago

Love the hub Brie. Think I'll leave this one open this evening on my laptop... ;) Voted & rated!


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Loves To Read 5 years ago

Great hub Brie, It brought a smile to my face. How true that women need to feel special and it doesn't even have to cost anything. Hubby could just pick a flower from any garden and it means just as much or more than a big expensive bunch. It is really the thought that counts more than the gift.

If more men showered their women with love, they might be surprised just how much better their sex lives would be.

Peace and Blessings


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acaetnna 5 years ago from Guildford

Great hub and definitely more men should read it. Men need to appreciate that women need the whole package, love, care, emotional stability, tenderness, friendship, trust etc love making to them is just the ice on top!


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Brie Hoffman 5 years ago from Manhattan Author

I'm so glad you guys wrote and like it cheapsk8chick, Loves To Read and acaetnna; I was kind of nervous about writing it.


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pointblank009 5 years ago from Buffalo

Brie you are a genius. I like these points the best: "5. Don't be available all the time! That's right DON'T be available all the time. It's the law of supply and demand. If you are available all the time your value lowers, if you aren't it rises, Absence makes the heart grow fonder...trust me on this one.

6.Finally, if you were a woman would you WANT YOU? Women want to look up to their man and feel proud of them, if you just lay around all day or have let yourself go then don't expect her to be begging you for it...it's not that she doesn't want it, it just might be that she doesn't want it with you...step up and take a good hard look in the mirror. And, I know this might make some men mad but a woman can have it anytime she wants with just about any man she wants so the onus is on you not her." You are hitting some sensitive but need to be discussed topics. Here's another good piece I read on relationships this morning coincidently: http://www.drwill911.blogspot.com (Do women who make more money cause more problems?)


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Brie Hoffman 5 years ago from Manhattan Author

Thanks Pointblank and thanks for commenting.


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speedbird 5 years ago from Nairobi, Kenya

I like the last one 'Don't be available all the time' also to add another point is 'Never be predictable'

But I disagree with you that women don't have a problem for lack of sex. The truth is that both women and men enjoy sex equally. In fact, there are men who abuse their wives or girlfriends by denying them sex..


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Brie Hoffman 5 years ago from Manhattan Author

There are always anomalies, but what I said is true. Thanks for writing speedbird.


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Enni82 5 years ago from Rochester MN

Great Hub Brie! Interesting topic.


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Brie Hoffman 5 years ago from Manhattan Author

Thanks Enni82 I hope you voted it up!


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lindatymensky 5 years ago

This is a really good piece! Funny and helpful! I love your casual writing style. Forget all those big deal sex experts. If a guy did 50% of what you've suggested he'd be drowning in you-know-what... Keep 'em coming!


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Brie Hoffman 5 years ago from Manhattan Author

Thanks lindatymensky, isn't that the truth! I hope you voted it up!


William McWhirt 5 years ago

This is the most insane, absurd nonsense ever concocted. Obviously you've been studying Cosmopolitan, where women are perpetually surounded by mirrors and their men are made of money. If a man did as you dictate it would take an entire day, every day, to "please" a woman; and that's just the foreplay. I'm not suggesting the man do a splash-and-dash. But I got wiped out just reading to the end of your trivia. As usual, women expect more than is humanly possible to achieve.


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Brie Hoffman 5 years ago from Manhattan Author

That's ridiculous! And I would lay odds that YOU aren't getting enough!


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Stan Fletcher 5 years ago from Nashville, TN

Brie - this was really good advice and should be heeded by men everywhere if they know what's good for them. Whether they agree with it or not is beside the point, because it's verifiably true. William, never lock horns with a woman from Manhattan. She's got this all figured out.


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Brie Hoffman 5 years ago from Manhattan Author

Thanks Stan! Don't these men know that I am just trying to help them out? :)


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no body 5 years ago from Rochester, New York

I made a promise a long time ago that a day would not go by without me trying to make her smile, laugh if I could, do something for her, and tell her that I love her. And oh yes, never, never, tell her no if she needed me. This used to drive her nuts. I think she took it as neediness or clinginess. No man she ever knew did it. After a year or so of "oh well ok..." from her she began to see that I was serious. I was really in love with her. I was really trying to make her smile without needing anything. If she would say no and I would tell her "you are worth the wait." Since I've retired I've been to the gym more than ever but age has a way of taking from a man's body. Some of it can be put back but I think the effort to try to put it back has value as well. My wife and I, I believe are closer now, happier now, more passionate now, than we ever have been. I still do all those things for her I did before but now she does them back. I still say yes to her always (and she has tested me, waking me up at 3 am or 5 am) and I never say no. Now she doesn't say no. I am very mindful not to abuse that. Somehow when your woman always says yes, because she loves you, you don't need it as much. You just know she is there for you and you are there for her. Marriage is a hard life in some ways. I gotta go downstairs now to the gym and sweat a little. I do it for God, for her (my body belongs to her) and for me. Love you sister. Great hub.


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Brie Hoffman 5 years ago from Manhattan Author

Boy, that was wonderful No Body! I think God has blessed you with a wonderful marriage...saying YES to each other is a great thing.


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Harlan Colt 5 years ago from the Rocky Mountains

Sex Wanted: 76 year old dame wants some nookie. Want younger man who can perform like a flying trapeze circus man. Tired old Idaho Mountain Men need not apply.

You never cease to amaze me Brie Hoffman.

- Harlan


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Brie Hoffman 5 years ago from Manhattan Author

I'm full of surprises!


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DeLaro11 5 years ago

good advice

thanks

C DeLaro


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Brie Hoffman 5 years ago from Manhattan Author

You're welcome, glad you liked it!


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Kamran100 5 years ago

great tips.*_*


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Brie Hoffman 5 years ago from Manhattan Author

Thanks Kamran100


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PaulStaley1 5 years ago from With the wind---(or against it)

Another more longterm way to improve your sex life is to become a healthier person. Go to the gym, take fish oil, think about what you eat. Moving towards a healthy lifestyle builds self confidence, makes you more attractive and, well, keeps your little friend at the ready(did i say little?) Nice hub, thanks for the good read!


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Dexter Yarbrough 5 years ago from United States

Great advice. Excellent! Just, excellent!


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Brie Hoffman 5 years ago from Manhattan Author

True Paul.

Thanks for writing Dexter.


imranhaider 5 years ago

nice topic


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crystolite 5 years ago from Houston TX

Brie Hoffman,am giving you three hot cheers for this write up.Actually men should read and learn a lot form this.


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Brie Hoffman 5 years ago from Manhattan Author

Thanks crystolite I hope you rated it up! I'm glad you liked it.


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arb 5 years ago from oregon

Love it! "If you were a woman, would you want you?" Afraid to go there. I've four kids who don't listen to me, a dog that won't come when I call and the remote only works when anyone else is using it! Forced to examine your question would jepordize what little self esteem I've left. Thanks anyway!


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Brie Hoffman 5 years ago from Manhattan Author

I'm glad you like it Arb, cheer up, things could always be worse!


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DTroth 5 years ago from My Little Hole In The Wall, HubPages, USA

Brie,

Another hole in one!

(pun not initially intended, but it kinda works!)

Great advice. (:

Keep up the good work!

Diana


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Brie Hoffman 5 years ago from Manhattan Author

LOL, glad you like it.


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mistifields 5 years ago

Love it!


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Brie Hoffman 5 years ago from Manhattan Author

Glad!


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Wesman Todd Shaw 5 years ago from Kaufman, Texas

I think the "don't be available all the time" thing is really something that most wouldn't consider - but is probably true in most cases.

Interesting - today in one of my Facebook groups some of my bright friends were talking about average sperm count in today's US men - supposedly it's 1/10th what it was in the 1930 due to all of the .....crap in food.

I'm not sure what correlation sperm count would have to sex drive or performance though.


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Brie Hoffman 5 years ago from Manhattan Author

I'm not surprised..the NWO doesn't want you to have babies.


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incomeguru 2 years ago from Lagos

Thanks for keeping romance alive in our marriage. Your hub is a blessing to me and my spouse. Voted up!


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Brie Hoffman 2 years ago from Manhattan Author

Glad to be of some help, thanks for commenting "incomeguru".

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