How To Fix A Broken Heart

A Broken Heart Defined

What is a broken heart? Does one truly exist? Yes, it does but not in literal terms. A broken heart is when someone dear and near to you hurts you in an unforgiving way. At least it seems, that way at first. It is a deep pain, almost like a stab in the back, or in this case, a stab in the heart.


Here are a few ways a loved one can break your heart:


  • dishonesty, lies, deceit

  • abuse: verbal, emotional, physical, financial, spiritual

  • careless acts, stealing, cheating


Heartbreaker~ Pat Benatar

It's Not Too Late to Apologize

Better in Time

Repairing the Damage

What's done is done. When it's over, it's over. Time cannot be stopped or paused; it's constantly in play. No sense in going backward or remaining in a fragile state of mind. The best thing you can do is let go and let God. Allow God to remove the angst and instill serenity back into your heart. It can be done because His will is done. Holding on to lost loves and past friendships can be damaging to not only your heart but to your health, your finances, your mental/emotional state, your children, your family and your existing friendships. Ask God to help you through this difficult time. Rely on him to heal your heart, not another man/woman.


I can do everything through him who gives me strength Philippians 4:13


Utilize the energy you are wasting in crying and being angry by placing it into something more positive. Regain your focus on what is important in life. As a Christian, that is bringing glory to God. Put your time and effort into bringing pleasure to the Lord. The more you are in a position to be blessed the more you can be blessed and be a blessing. Did you catch that? God uses us to help others, not to help ourselves. But before we can help someone else we must be in good standing with ourselves and with Him.


For from him and through him and to him are all things. To him be the glory forever! Amen. Romans 11:36


Forgiveness: accepting the responsibility of ceasing blame to all parties involved. The power of forgiveness is strong. To have the ability to say "I know you hurt me but I forgive you" is a great thing. It releases so much weight from your shoulders. Forgive those who harmed you. Even go as far, to thank them for being in your life. It sounds strange, but I know it works. Why forgive and be thankful? Because it means you have grown, it shows you are the mature person. It shows God that you have learned a valuable lesson and that your faith is not weary. Many times when people hurt us it is because they are hurting themselves. Something deep inside is bothering them and they have not come to terms with their pain. Many times what we see as bad, God really meant for good. There is a lesson in everything situation, every circumstance. Nothing in life happens just because. If life was easy, we would never learn or appreciate anything.


Jesus said, "Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing." Luke 23:34



Appreciate the good, the bad, and the ugly; forgive, be thankful, re-establish focus, let go and let God.


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Cris A 7 years ago from Manila, Philippines

I don't actively mend a broken heart. I let time take its course in healing me. Or until another great love comes along. It's a vicious cycle, a downside of loving. But that's not to say these tips aren't great. Thanks for sharing :D


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Single Mama 7 years ago Author

i wonder if it's easier for men to move on than women. yeah, i think it is. i know more men that can get over women without an issue, than i kno women who cannot.


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Cris A 7 years ago from Manila, Philippines

And I know more men than women who almost killed themselves when they got dumped. So I guess it just works both ways. We're just not as "showy" or something. :D


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Single Mama 7 years ago Author

that is true, men are not as "showy" or as emotional. men are more physical in nature.


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G-Ma Johnson 7 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

I have forgiven, but I just can't forget...Time seems to be the healing for me...and the lonilessness I feel is pushing me to do things I would have never done...My time is my own now...more so then when he was here...God is my Love now...Nicely written hub my dear...G-Ma :O) Hugs & Peace


Cheryl Williams 7 years ago

Broken hearts happen when we open them up to be loved. Its inevitable. However...without opening ourselves up to pain, we will never experience the joy.


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lilclassyone 5 years ago

a broken heart is painful ; i don't even deal with it. i preoccupy myself with work and more work which is bad because now all the pain has caught up to me and i am taking it out on people who genuinely care.


alanis hernandez 5 years ago

i am broken hearted wishing i wasn't hoping it wont be for long he's token my strength to go on and left me in the cold to parish in this forever lasting pain in my heart.. missing him is the hardest thing i've ever been in countered with and it's the hardest acomplishment that has yet to come but i have hope and faith and i am glad to say that god has sent gaurdian angels to watch over me and stop me from doing things to myself in order for me to move on and mend this broken heart!!!!!!!


Broken 5 years ago

I am deeply broken hearted. Although I know he was not the man i wanted him to be and even i know he didnt love me as much as i loved him, he caused me so much pain but My heart still feels broken without him.


liftingheart 5 years ago

there are many reasons why there are broken hearts. But all you need to heal that wound is to let time heal your heart. Trust it to God and He will send someone to heal that wound. 'Cause sometimes, our hearts were really broken, we just need someone to make it whole again.


john 5 years ago

i'm also broken hearted and as the time goes by i'm already healed by the pain i felt before. i beleive that time heals all wounds ..


leelee 4 years ago

God is good.and over time all will work out pray more and stay away from that person that hurt you so much.


Stephanie 4 years ago

I fell in love with a person who I thought truly loved me. Two years this month and I find out he has been dating another girl almost the whole time and the worst part about it is I am having his baby. I really dont know why this had to happen to me and I dont know how I am going to make it through. I keep praying to God to make it better but I guess not much can be done in two day. I hope things get better for me.


SHAWN 4 years ago

TIME DOES NOT HEAL ANYTHING...ITS WHAT YOU DO WITH THAT TIME THAT HEALS THE SOUL! TRUST GOD AND SEEK HIM TO HEAL YOU, BECAUSE HE WILL... BELIEVE ME HE IS THE ONE TRUE HEALER... JUST SPEND TIME AND BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF PRAY GOD WILL SHOW YOU THE REAL REASON FOR THE HEART BECOMING BROKEN. THEN PLEASE USE YOUR HEAD AND NOT YOUR BROKEN HEART TO MOVE FORWARD...PEOPLE THAT LOVE YOU DON'T GO OUT OF THEIR WAY TO HURT YOU! THATS NOT TRUE LOVE...DO YOU HAVE LOW SELF RESPECT? WALK AWAY FROM SOMEONE THAT DOES NOT LOVE YOU IN A REAL WAY. ASK GOD TO SHOW YOU THE TRUE DEEP PROBLEM INYOURSELF... SO YOU CAN MOVE ON INTO A GREAT AND TRUE LIFE WITH SOMEONE THAT CARES FOR YOU MORE THEN THEMSELF... THERE ARE EIGHT BILLION PEOPLE OUT THERE FIND ONE THAT HAS A GOOD HEART!


sky 4 years ago

my heart is broken by my dear one i called for separation but the fact is i still love her.


naomi 23 months ago

please help me

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