How To Deal With Bad In-Laws

Does the oppossum represent how your in-laws treat you?

MORE IN-LAWS WHO MIGHT CAUSE YOU SOME TROUBLE

AHHH, YES. THE PERFECT BROTHER-IN-LAW. LANCE "THE BULL" HANCOCK--ATHLETIC, GOOD-LOOKING, COCKY. SELF-CENTERED. HE CAN ONLY MEAN ONE THING: TROUBLE. FOR YOU.
AHHH, YES. THE PERFECT BROTHER-IN-LAW. LANCE "THE BULL" HANCOCK--ATHLETIC, GOOD-LOOKING, COCKY. SELF-CENTERED. HE CAN ONLY MEAN ONE THING: TROUBLE. FOR YOU.
MOST CONTROLLING FATHER-IN-LAWS ALWAYS LOOK ANGRY AT THEIR SON-IN-LAWS. ALL THE TIME. THE SON-IN-LAW MARRIED HIS 'LITTLE GIRL,' AND THAT KEEPS HIM UPSET.
MOST CONTROLLING FATHER-IN-LAWS ALWAYS LOOK ANGRY AT THEIR SON-IN-LAWS. ALL THE TIME. THE SON-IN-LAW MARRIED HIS 'LITTLE GIRL,' AND THAT KEEPS HIM UPSET.
THIS IS A PRIME EXAMPLE OF A GOOD FATHER-IN-LAW. SOFT-SPOKEN. HUMBLE. MINDS HIS OWN BUSINESS. STAYS OUT OF THE WAY.
THIS IS A PRIME EXAMPLE OF A GOOD FATHER-IN-LAW. SOFT-SPOKEN. HUMBLE. MINDS HIS OWN BUSINESS. STAYS OUT OF THE WAY.
WHAT DAUGHTER-IN-LAW HASN'T FACED THE NOSY, BUSY-BODIED MOTHER-IN-LAW AND HAD PROBLEMS GALORE?
WHAT DAUGHTER-IN-LAW HASN'T FACED THE NOSY, BUSY-BODIED MOTHER-IN-LAW AND HAD PROBLEMS GALORE?
SO WHAT IF YOU ANGER YOUR MOTHER-IN-LAW IF YOU DISAGREE WITH HER CALLING YOU A "WORTHLESS BUM"? YOU ARE  MAN. YOU HAVE RIGHTS. USE THEM.
SO WHAT IF YOU ANGER YOUR MOTHER-IN-LAW IF YOU DISAGREE WITH HER CALLING YOU A "WORTHLESS BUM"? YOU ARE MAN. YOU HAVE RIGHTS. USE THEM.
MEN, HAVE YOU HAD YOUR FILL OF THIS TYPE OF IN-LAW? JUST BE A MAN AND USE THE TIPS IN THIS STORY.
MEN, HAVE YOU HAD YOUR FILL OF THIS TYPE OF IN-LAW? JUST BE A MAN AND USE THE TIPS IN THIS STORY.
THE 'DANGEROUS,' FLIRTY, SISTER-IN-LAW. LISTEN, FRIEND. STAY CLEAR OF THIS GIRL. SHE MEANS TROUBLE.
THE 'DANGEROUS,' FLIRTY, SISTER-IN-LAW. LISTEN, FRIEND. STAY CLEAR OF THIS GIRL. SHE MEANS TROUBLE.

Do You Have In-Laws

WHO MAKE YOUR LIFE

MISERABLE?

Come on. Be honest. Sure you do. Most everyone has in-laws who make their lives a living hades. I cannot tell you why this phenomenon is existant in society, but I can tell you that it can be a real problem. If not handled properly.

You are a man. A woman. You have rights. Just like your in-laws. Why don't you exercise your rights? Are you afraid of making your in-laws angry? So what if you do? Will the world end? No. Will the earth open-up and swallow you? And No.

Just stand your ground. Do not cave. You married their daughter. Or son. Not them, your in-laws. So you do not have to put up with their constant barrage of verbal and sometimes-physical torments.

Read this story. Think it through. And when you are seriously attacked verbally in front of a crowd of your wife's relatives, stand up for yourself.

WHAT HAVE YOU GOT TO LOSE?

Please allow me to ask you a few serious questions. About your in-laws. These are touchy. Sensitive. And might put you in an awkward position. So answer with care.

Do you love your in-laws? Do you like your in-laws? Do you work to tolerate your in-laws? Most honest people will answer one of these three questions with a 'yes.' The question that you answer is your choice.

When I say in-laws, I refer to mother-in-law, father-in-law, sister-in-law and of course, the always-popular, brother-in-law. No family should be without them. What would be do without in-laws? Ever thought that deep? I have. And for the most part, my life would be quieter. Saner. And pretty-much the same as it is now.

When I asked if you loved your in-laws, I meant truly loving them. Not play-acting that you love them only when you are with them at birthday and anniversary parties. Plus Christmas, New Year's, Thanksgiving, and the Fourth of July.

Let's face it with an honest confession. Some, I say, some, in-laws are tough to love. Some in-laws need a dose of 'tough love.' And then there are those in-laws that, with every opportunity, for some reason that remains unknown, they tend to make your life miserable. Sheer torture. Painful. And sit and laugh while inflicting willful punishment on you because you are their prisoner. In their house. At their mercy. Ever been there? I am asking both, women and men.

I am not going to ask you to do something that I won't do myself. So I will, for your benefit, ask myself, "do I have good in-laws?" Yes. "Have any of my in-laws ever embarrassed me?" Yes. And "Has any of my in-laws ever drove me to anger?" Well, yeah. Did you think I was going to lie here?

Okay. Now for the next exciting phase of our talk about in-laws. Do you have a . . .

FATHER-IN-LAW who always, and him being a Godly man, mildly-insult you in front of your wife, his 'little girl'? Does he strongly imply that you are not making enough money at your job? And that his little "Sally Jo," should have married Jimmy Tom Taylor, the president of the Dental Club in high school? Well, does he?

MOTHER-IN-LAW who snaps at you for no reason? Then smiles when other family members enter the room. Does she scowl and sneer at you undetected by anyone, when you reach for the last pork chop? And does she always say, "wy' Sally Jo, guess who called you yesterday? It was that nice, good-looking gentleman you rode the school bus with, Jimmy Tom Taylor. He's a successful dentist nowadays." Well, does she?

BROTHER-IN-LAW who happens to be All-State Wrestling Champ and puts you in head-lock when you and your wife, his sister, visit him and her parents? Oh, does he go by the name, Lance "The Bull" Hancock? I figured as much. Does he, when asked to pass the hot biscuits at the family dining table, wink and actually 'passes' the biscuits to you in Tom Brady fashion? And laughs like a horse when you drop the hot biscuit? Well, does he?

SISTER-IN-LAW who always grabs your wife, her sister, and runs away to another room for a lengthy session of 'girl talk'? For hours? And when Julie Tiffany Hancock, her name, gets your wife, her sister, in front of people, Julie always, like clockwork, mentions all the eligible guys that your wife left behind? And tells all of these guys who are still available. While looking directly at you with a sneer on her face? Well, does she?

I know. It's a tough deal. Having in-laws who only tolerate you, their son-in-law or daughter-in-law. You can tell me the truth. I won't judge or condemn you. We are all open. Friendly and understanding people.

One more tough question: In all of the unwanted. Unneeded. Tormented acts, humiliation, brow-beatings, verbal beat-downs, and yes, the painful head-locks by Lance "The Bull" Hancock, have you ever secretly wanted to know of ways that you could fight back? And be somebody? Get your self-esteem back? In one piece? Without serving one day in jail? Well, friend. You are in luck. I just happen to have a few trusty ways that you can 'get over.' Get back. And get even. Legally. At your unfriendly in-laws.

Just remember,

when your father-in-law . . .

implies that you do not make enough money, strongly-but-nicely state, "at least my home is paid for!" Or to reply to his statement that this 'little girl,' should have married Jimmy Tom Taylor, just smile and softly say, "oh, the guy with the criminal record for selling drugs." Your father-in-law may grimace. Growl. And not like you, but hey, can it hurt any worse? He doesn't care for you that much as it is.

when your mother-in-law . . .

snaps at you and 'acts' friendly when other family members get near to you and her in the kitchen, just say, "hey, ma, do that impression you were just doing of a hypocrite," that will shut her up. Teach her a thing or two. And show her that you do have a backbone. Or when she politely tells your wife, her daughter that Jimmy Tom Taylor called, smile and ask, "oh, honey, (your wife), is he the one who works on the sanitation truck? You may not get anymore pork chops, but she will not mess with you anymore. Your mother-in-law, not your sweetie of a wife.

when your brother-in-law . . .

Lance "The Bull" Hancock, puts you in a painful headlock, politely say, "oh, uh, Lance, I read an article in American Psychiatry magazine last week stating that men who wrestle are over-compensating for being 'short' in the private areas of their lives. This will put the fear of God in his brutish mind. And if Lance passes you another hot biscuit, catch it, and then slam it to the floor with an end zone celebration dance. Lance will be so freaked at your comeback that he will never hit you with a 'long biscuit' bomb again. But won't his embarrass Lance, you ask? Yes. But look at all the stupid, uncalled-for head-locks he hurt you with. Payback. Use it.

when you sister-in-law . . .

spouts off at you (with a sneer on her face) about all the guys in your wife's past who are still eligible, take a bite of ham. Turkey. Roast. Chew. Swallow. And reply, "Yeah, dear (to your wife), aren't those the guys we saw in that special on Spike last night about members of gangs in Chicago?" This one remark will stifle your sister-in-law. For good. So what if she doesn't like you? Does it really matter?

Here are some more

Useful Bits of In-law Wisdom That You Can Use . . .

If your wife has a sister . . .who is a stunner. A knock-out. A girl who makes Kathy Lee Gifford look plain. Just pretend she looks like Roseanne Barr. It is very dangerous to be near. Get close. To a Bo Derrik "10" sister-in-law. Stay your distance. And if, to make matters worse, she is a terrible flirt, do not come near her. At all.

If your sweet wife has an alcoholic uncle . . .who loves to fight, just run. From him. Do not fight with a drunk man. Or woman. Sure, you will win. Hands-down. But you will look like you're taking advantage of someone who is unable to defend themselves, so look cool. Be cool. Even if it means running from Uncle J.W., the ex-Navy Seal who loves to guzzle Jack Daniels black label--straight.

If your lovely wife has a loud-mouth aunt . . .who verbally snips at you each time you see her. Next time she tears into you, start talking wild. Out of your head. And the icing on the cake, do some preparation work. Memorize some tough physics questions to ask her in front of everyone. This should take care of that motor-mouth--giving you some peace of mind.

Dealing with in-laws can be treacherous. If you don't know how to handle them. But do give them the benefit of the doubt. It could be that they do not know any better. But if their constant belittling, insulting, and physical attacks get to you, you are well within your rights to defend your honor.

Be a man. Or woman. No one likes a wimp. A worm. A wet noodle.

And always keep in the back of your mind that if one or all of these useful tips work for you, they might turn from 'in-laws,' to 'out-laws.'

As in . . .out of your live.


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KeithTax 4 years ago from Wisconsin

Was I supposed to laugh? Well I did. Funny, and all too often, true. Love the photos, too.

Now I'll have a bounce to my step the rest of the day (and the next time the in-laws show up.)


V Qisya 4 years ago

Simply awesome! See, I'm smiling again, Ken. This is really funny! I loved it. Take care, Ken.

Love, V


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Hello, Keith! Thank you so much for the honest comment. Yes, this IS a funny viewpoint or points, on how we can deal with in-laws who, for some reason, do not want to see us around. And friend, there ARE some of those in someone's family. Have a great day and visit again soon. Kenneth


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Hello, "DEAR" V., I am very GLAD to see you smile at one of my hubs. That, your smiling, makes my day. Really! And I want to keep doing that as much as I can. You are very-appreiated, "V,". Love, Kenneth


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carolinemd21 4 years ago from Close to Heaven

Kenneth your hubs always make me laugh and smile. Great work. :)


Arlene V. Poma 4 years ago

Oh, Kenneth. I see you have received inspiration from my ex's family. Thanks for the memories (I think). You're tops!


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Dear Caroline..."Thank YOU very MUCH. Your comment thrills me that you smiled at one of my works. I think that now I will take it easy for the rest of the day. Visit with me anytime." Have a great day. Kenneth


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

LOL! Arlene, YOU are the funny one. Your comment was hilarous. Thanks, dear friend, for cheering me up. I knew when I said it, "I HAVE THE BEST FOLLOWERS ANYWHERE ON HUBPAGES," that I was RIGHT!


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Jackie Lynnley 4 years ago from The Beautiful South

Wow, well Kenneth to start with it is not funny, is it? But once we get over the shock, in about ten years, it gets easier to laugh. Voted up and across.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida

Glad you see you back in full humorous form. Hope that means you are feeling a little better. I had to laugh at this one. Keep up the good work, Kenneth. Goodnight.


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Lastheart 4 years ago from Borik√©n the great land of the valiant and noble Lord

You have me wondering how am I seen as a mother in law in the eyes of my kid's partners.


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Dear Jackie, THANKS FOR THE VOTES and the comment. Yes, this is funny. At least that was how I intended it. In clean humor for there are not many men or women who would have backbone enough to say these things to their in-laws. That is why I was in mind of Chevy Chase or David Spade when I wrote this. Thanks, Kenneth


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Hi, Mary and Thank YOU for your sweet, thoughtful comment. I was glad because this was two of the two hubs that I had on the back-burner. Now both are done. And I can rest. Some. Good night to you also, dear Mary. And keep up YOUR great work.


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Hey Lastheart...thank you so much for your comment. And that is a diffent angle--seeing an in-law through the eyes of a child. Amazing insight. Thanks for the input. Take it easy.


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Deborah Brooks 4 years ago from Brownsville,TX

SO FUNNY AND SO TRUE... My in laws are no longer with us.. but my sister in law is still around she doesn't like anyone.. lol..thank you for a great laugh.. loved the HUB..


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Deborah . . .you are very WELCOME for the laugh. That makes ME happy to know that someone else was made happy by something I contributed. And I sincerely thank you for your lovely comment.


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inaniLoquence 4 years ago from Singapore

Although I'm not married, I still could relate! Well this is hilarious to the max! Great job, you! :)

P.S. Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year in advance!


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The-BestMouseTrap 4 years ago from The heartland, USA

I loved my mother in law so very very much and I miss her a lot(RIP Peg) and my father in law is the smartest most generous man I know. What's really sad is its MY family I can't stand! Well, most of them, they are crasy with an "S" for senseless, shortsighted and strange and the other S word I tell my kids not to say. Sure am glad I broke the mold, maybe I was adopted.


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Hi, inaniLoquence, nice to meet you. Lovely name. And thanks for the sweet comment. And for stopping by tonight. So you are not bothered by in-laws, eh? Okay. You can write a hub about "What My In-Laws Will Be Like," a wishful hub. Okay? Id read it. And I wish for YOU a Merry Christmas. Kenneth


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Hello, The-BestMouseTrap...this is kinda like "my" family. I have a sister who is now divorced after 38 years. Her ex had a lot of affairs. Long story short. She has not moved on and still lives in the past and this was 16 years ago. She calls me way too often to only complain and complain...I am OUT of supportive words. Does that make sense? Anyway...your comments are always a pleasure. As well as your friendship and your following. Have a safe and happy weekend and I will catch up to you later.


femmeflashpoint 4 years ago

Kenneth ... I laughed.

However, if you have in-laws ... God help you. You're gonna be in deeeeep ca-ca once they see this, lol!!! If you decide you might be in need of a mortician in the near future, lemme know. I'll mail you my card. (Grin!)

femme


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Dear femmeflashpoint, I laughed too. When this was finished. But thank God, not any of my in-laws are on hubs, much less the internet. And thanks for the offer....I will send for YOU first if that service is needed. You are a super-friend and follower. (smile too). Merry Christmas, femme!


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2patricias 4 years ago from Sussex by the Sea

Great photos! In-laws can be difficult. But sometimes I wonder what they think of me?

Sometimes I remember that I took away their favourite son - and so I owe them some good behaviour. Other days, I'm just not as nice as I should be...


Sueswan 4 years ago

Hi Kenneth,

I am still laughing! Being single, I don't have inlaws or outlaws.

just say, "hey, ma, do that impression you were just doing of a hypocrite," ROFL

Voted up and away!

Happy Monday. Well it is for me because I am on vacation. :-)


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

2Patricia's...you make a good point here. I don't have any in-laws now. My father-in-law, in all respect, was a saint. He was a worker. Never talked much. Minded his own affairs. Kept to himself. Took ridicule from his wife, my mother-in-law when I married one of their daughters, and Ive never figured out why he never defended himself. Or where his wife got the right to talk to him like he was trash. Never have made sense of it, but thanks for sharing with me. Visit anytime.


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Dearest Susan...vacation, eh? Hmmm. No wonder the tone of your comments are so giddy and happy. Good for you! You enjoy yourself. Do things that make Susan happy. But be careful. And do have a wonderful Christmas...thanks, Dear Friend, for this and all of your sweet comments that make my day a lot brighter. I mean it.


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rutley 4 years ago from South Jersey

Kenneth your awesome! Thanks for your kind words and the follow. One of my followers myrtle mckinley has a hub on this issue also. Give her a shout out as she's a brand new hubber.


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Gotcha, rutley. I am going out of town today, so it will probably be Thursday when Im back on hubs. But I WILL not forget it. And thanks so much for the nice comment. I appreciate it. Kenneth


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Leptirela 4 years ago from I don't know half the time

hahaahah i have almost a MONSTER-IN-LAW kinda thing hahah

shes not too too bad ... but then again!

amazing hub Kenneth so much detail in each one

I really enjoy your style of writing

you definitely get across to your readers

it's fun , interesting and rather entertaining

Vote up, no doubt


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Dear Leptirela, thank you so much, but you are way too nice to me. Honestly, I VALUE you and your support, votes, and input. Mother-in-Laws CAN be good. I had a good one. Once. She was good to me. And all the good memories I have of her will always make me smile when she crosses my mind. And Leptirela, keep smiling and keep writing. Visit with me anytime. I appreciate it.


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dotty1 4 years ago from In my world

Hehehe you made me howl with this hub Kenneth. I have been married a couple of times (ssssh) and I have to say that I experienced at least three of the relatives you wrote about..... I have had an eviiiil history of inlaw/outlaws. x


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Dotty! Thank YOU so much, dear friend. I appreciate YOUR candor. And humor. Welcome to the club. Seemingly I was always the one looking in...thus in-law! And not really connecting to all of my in-laws, but one. My late father-in-law was like a dad to me...he listened to me. Understood me. And was a humble guy who knew two things. And knew them well: How to work. And how to treat people with respect. I envied him for years.

Thank you, dotty. You are a very delightful girl to talk to.

Kenneth


ya mum 4 years ago

thanx


ya mum 4 years ago

thanx for last night


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

ya mum,

you are welcome and I wish you would refresh my memory.

Kenneth


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DzyMsLizzy 4 years ago from Oakley, CA

Hahahaha!! At least some morsels of truth here for everyone. My current mother-in-law is a sweetie--genuinely love her. But my ex's family... :: shudder :: ... the typical 'act all nice' to your face; who knew what they might say behind your back. ..and one of his sisters is the 'drive-you-nuts' Pollyana "everything is just fine/hunky dory" while everything is falling apart around you. Ugh! I'd like to have slapped her silly a few times, and see how "fine" she thought that was!

Voted up, funny and interesting.


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

DzyMsLizzy,

It is nice to meet you. And to thank you for this comment. I am glad that your mother-in-law likes you. Mine did me, but sometimes a few of my in-laws had this tendency to look down on me and for what, I don't know. Anyway, thanks again and why don't you become one of my followers? That way I can keep up with what you are doing. I always need more followers to advise me on the newest writing tips. I am far from perfect. Thanks again for the visit.

Kenneth

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