Beauty Evaluation Without A Mirror
The glass mirror can reflect the color of your clothes, the shape of your figure under the clothes, your picture perfect hairstyle and your make up. However those physical features are only a part of you.
If you want to evaluate your real beauty–the combination of the qualities that make you attractive- you need to step away from that mirror.
Mirror, Mirror on the Wall . . . Am I Beautiful at All?
Sure, your physical appearance is an important part of the first impression you make on admirers. But have you noticed that rational people always want to know you better before they reveal what they think about you?
People need more than a look at your physique to form their opinion. They really want to know what's on the inside.
Wisdom dictates that a person’s beauty or attractiveness be judged not by shape, size, color, dress, makeup or anything else physical; but by interaction with other people.
"Beauty is a light in the heart," says the poet Kahlil Gibran.
Like any other light, beauty fulfills its purpose only when it is exposed. True beauty -the kind that put is forth, not put on, is in great demand. Too many people witness more of the ugliness than of the beauty in mankind. Especially for them, the beauty that makes people kind and caring need to be displayed. They need a glimpse of the beauty that the glass mirror cannot capture.
Beautiful hands render help
The Relationship Mirror
Relationship is the two-way mirror that demonstrates your true beauty.
- Does your self-concept (your opinion of your own beauty) hold up in the relationship?
- Do you contribute to the other person’s self-concept?
- Are you part of a mutual exchange that empowers both of you?
- Does that exchange have a life-time benefit?
An affirmative answer to these questions validates your beauty-the essence in your soul that makes and keeps you loving and lovable.
This concept is illustrated in Time Tested Beauty Tips written by Sam Levenson but attributed to Audrey Hepburn (1929-1993) because she loved it so much. She quoted it when asked for her definition of beauty:
“For attractive lips, speak words of kindness.
For lovely eyes, seek out the good in people.
For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry.
For beautiful hair, let a child run his or her fingers through it once a day.
For poise, walk with the knowledge you'll never walk alone.”
The Self-Reflection Mirror
When was the last time someone complimented you on your personal beauty? Not the beauty of your dress, or your shape or your hair; but on the beauty of who you are?
When was the last time you complimented a friend on personal beauty? Were you focusing on physical appearance or on quality of character?
How do you rate your beauty right now? Does your heart hold enough kindness, compassion, tolerance, humility and other like qualities enabling you to see some form of beauty in someone who is not physically beautiful?
Just like your facial beauty, your beauty of soul requires maintenance. Check your levels of self-confidence, courage, patience, fairness and so on. Be approachable and available as best you can to share the beauty that identifies you. It takes a beautiful soul to admire beauty in someone else, and in the world around you.
Beauty is reflected in genuine smiles
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The Smile Mirror
Smiling is a quick way to spread and evaluate your beauty. Apart from your interaction with family members, fellow workers and other people with whom you have an established relationship, evaluate how your smile influences the people who cross your path.
Every face looks more beautiful with a smile on it; and seldom will you smile at a passerby who will not smile back. On the rare occasion when you do not get a smile in return, be happy about the beautiful contribution you made to that person who saw your smiling face.
Sandra Bullock, recognized as one of Hollywood’s most beautiful women is reputed to be just a happy, down to earth woman with an alluring smile and a laughter that makes the saddest person laugh and forget adverse, personal issues. How beautiful is that?
All the make-up in the world will not make a sad face look happy, or a mean face look kind. A genuine smile put forth from within a beautiful heart can make a difference. Evaluate your beauty by the number of faces which reflect your smile.
© 2011 Dora Isaac Weithers
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