How To Forget A Girl In 10 Ways


Be a MAN and MOVE ON!

It has been four years since I last experience the tremors caused by heartbreak. It has been over six months since I got busted by the woman I loved seriously and it has been days since I heard as sad story about break up. I know breaking up with your girlfriend/boyfriend for years is a heart tearing moment— not just to me but also to my best buddy. He may not shed a tear in front of consumed beer bottles and beer mugs but I know how much he’s hurting from the inside. It was his first serious relationship and his very first girlfriend. Indeed, it was earth shattering. I have to take my iPod bombarded with songs from The Script away to calm him down.

His break up with the first woman he loved inspired me to read my older blog post about “How to forget a girl in 10 ways”. It was a bit too old as I checked that I wrote it during college back in 2006. I shared it to him and now I will be sharing it to the world. This inspired me to share my thoughts on how to forget a girl in 10 ways for the broken-hearted young boy and vice versa.

Take her out of your system.

I know how hard it is to take her out of your system especially if she has always been part of it. But you can always do it step by step. You don’t need to rush things, right? A wound takes time to heal so as your broken heart and probably, it will mend as soon as the right time comes. When I experienced this, taking her out of my sight was hard. She's my blockmate and every day we see each other. Every day, I always see the mall where she worked and I told myself that if I could only bring this mall down, I would. However, I can't. Not to mention, Jollibee stores are everywhere and it tortured me. If this is the situation that you're into, face the problem. Don't talk to her. As much as possible avoid encounters. Look for other people to talk to so you will not be distracted.

Cut the communication lines

As what they say, communication holds society together. And this is also the thin line that connects the both of you. As much as possible cut all the connections that you have. If you are friends in Facebook, block her. If you are following her on Twitter, unfollow and block her.

Burn all the memories

You might not talk but the memories of the past always reminds of her of you. Throw everything that she has given you that you think would bring the past back. Burn it, bury it in the farthest forest just to forget her. Don’t leave any traces of her memory in your room, in your system and in your life. You should know that such feeling lingers. Burn her pictures and tell her she’s just another picture to burn. Aww!

Call your friends

Friends will always help you out. Talk to those people whom you haven’t spoke to for years. Pay them a visit and enjoy the life of being single. Now that you are free, you may probably invite these people for drinks at a local bar. Meet new friends and enjoy the time without any attachment to anyone. Never lie in your bed and think about her forever. One day you’ll probably wake up that you have wasted the opportune time to make friends and be merry. Thus, re-connecting to people and the society is possible and just a call away!

Do things that you haven't done before

Your life will surely be a big cycle if you continue to do the same things over and over. This will just give you hurtful feelings of the past. It wouldn't be cool if you grow old not even experiencing the best things in life. Hence, make a move, flex your muscles and see what lies on the other side of the fence. After all, there is no harm in look at a different direction, right? Okay, just set your mind that it is better to regret the things that you have done rather than regret the once that you haven't.

Engage yourself to a new sport

Engaging yourself to sport is a good avenue to release all the heavy feelings that you can hardly bear. Try to kick some butt with taekwondo or muay thai or go to the gym for some power lifting. These new sports might give you that abs that will give her the greatest regret of her life. If you think that you are big, fat and ugly, this will help. Burn calories as you burn her memories. After a year, she will be surprised that you have a six pack and give her a doze of her own medicine. Sweet revenge, isn’t it?

Focus on what you do

If you are still studying, study hard. If you are working, work hard. Focus your attention on these things instead of giving your time to people who can’t reciprocate the love that you can give. This way you are able to divert your attention to important matters rather than think of her every day and every night. Experience in live like are are too painful to fathom, sometimes, are the circumstances that can either make us stronger or weaker. It depends on how people take it.

Find a new girl

Breaking up is not the end of the world. There are so many birds in the sky and fish in the sea. Talk to your friends and ask them to introduce you to their network. You may also go on blind dates and speed dating. You might probably get a girl better than your ex. But don’t compare, this will only lead you back to her.

Go on a spiritual journey

Corny as may sound to some but going on a spiritual journey will help you find your soul and mend your heart. Do charity works and translate your erotic love to the people in need in the form of relief goods and gifts in kind. Volunteering for a charity will surely help you spend your time in more important things. Plus, you might probably get to know other people and make new friends. You can also go to other place without seeing traces of her. Go on mountain climbing, canyoneering, biking and other fun activities that can be done alone. You can also travel to some parts of the world where you heart can find tranquility. Doing things like these will give you the time to think, to refresh your mind and to start anew.

Move On

Realize your mistakes and accept the fact that she is gone. Everything else will not work out if you keep denying the truth to yourself. Don’t cry over spilled milk if you have a wide selection of coffee cups in front of you. Don’t dwell on the past and follow the nine aforementioned steps to totally erase her on the new chapter of your life. After all, you deserve someone better.

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jacqui2011 5 years ago from Leicester, United Kingdom

Very true. It is all about moving on and living life. It's very difficult, but every day is a day further away from her until one day in the future you meet someone who means as much to you as you do to her. Great hub. Good advice.

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rob_allen 5 years ago from MNL, PH Author

Oh hey jacqui2011, Thank your for reading my hub. I appreciate it. Hope to hear more from you. Thank you again! :)

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Jacob_Jube 5 years ago



Find a new girl will be best idea ... Just she must be best from last one and more hot :)

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rob_allen 5 years ago from MNL, PH Author

Hey Jacob- YEah, get a new girl way hotter than your ex. That's how you slap he by dumping you, right? BTW, thank you for voting it up! :)

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jami l. pereira 5 years ago

I voted this up and awesome , very well thought out and written !I'll have to remember some of these things myself lol have a great weekend! :)

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rob_allen 5 years ago from MNL, PH Author

Hey jami! Thank you for voting this up. have a great weekend as well :)

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rorshak sobchak 5 years ago

I loved this write up. I wish I would have read it a few years ago.. Thanks for the write up, keep up the great work!

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rob_allen 5 years ago from MNL, PH Author

rorshak sobchak, thank you for reading this hub. I appreciate it :)

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sweetie1 5 years ago from India

Even though this was for the boys yet i read it and it can apply to girls too.. Very nice hub

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stricktlydating 5 years ago from Australia

Great advice. I agree this could apply to girls too. I like no. 7 best - Focus on what you do. A really good Hub about moving on.

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rob_allen 5 years ago from MNL, PH Author

Hey sweetie, yes this is also applicable to women and thank you very much for reading and leaving a comment :)

HEy stricktlydating, thank you for dropping by and thank you very much for sharing your thought!

Godspeed peeps,


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ginjill ashberry 5 years ago

I like this hub, Rob!



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rob_allen 5 years ago from MNL, PH Author

Thank you ginjill! :)

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twilanelson 5 years ago from Carmichael, California

Beautifully written and exactly what someone needs, male or female, when their heart is broken.

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rob_allen 5 years ago from MNL, PH Author

Hey twilanelson thanks for dropping by. Yes, this is not just for a broken-hearted man, this is for everyone :)

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ChilliWilly 5 years ago from Kaunas, Lithuania

Some good information here. Thanks for sharing!

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spiderman6 5 years ago

I having bad relationship that I can be happy and I just came out of jail for 8 month and I have tried to make this woman happy, but that neverf happen....... Now I have nothing to offer no love no sex, nothing and I am hurt cause she used me like a DOG and I wil not let nothing hurt me. So how deal with that?

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thesingernurse 4 years ago from Rizal, Philippines

While it's great to check out other guys/girls, someone should be a little careful in doing this. It's best to go on dates when you think you're ready. And don't ask me how to know if you are ready because I tell you, you'll be the one to know for sure. :D

Great advice Rob. I enjoyed reading this. :D

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rob_allen 4 years ago from MNL, PH Author

Thank you @thesingernurse. Those words came straight from the heart :)

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Kristine Reyes 4 years ago from Baguio City Philippines

I thought only girls do these men are emos too?? lol :D this is cool though, great advice.

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rob_allen 4 years ago from MNL, PH Author

@Kristine- Of course, men have feelings too. :)

But unlike women, we don't cry it out loud :)

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Kristine Reyes 4 years ago from Baguio City Philippines

yes women cry, and we're pretty obvious when we're upset :( you should write something about that, how men are very good at hiding their true feelings ;) is it manly if you don't show your tears?

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rob_allen 4 years ago from MNL, PH Author

i will try to consider that :)thanks for the suggestion :)

IZORMOR 4 years ago

Dis words are rare magic tooooo great

me 4 years ago

forget the girl who dont care of the girl who love u not love whom u love u

Timothy chiinda 4 years ago

Nice and encouragng words,keep it up!

Arjun Mohan 4 years ago

I love it love it love it love it. i just broke up with my girlfriend. I already feel a lot better after reading this. God bless you man.

AFTAB 4 years ago

GUD suggestion ..

Ikutomoni 4 years ago

Am very happi to read,cose it meet my need at the right time. God bless u amen

Cole 4 years ago

Leaving someone you've ever loved so much seems to be the hardest thing but it's a must, when the sun sets it also rise in the next new day, let it go and have someone new.

yash 4 years ago

I had frgt her bt again she came back in my life...we had an awesome time which she too wanted den she found a new to frgt her now..:'(:'(

Cole 4 years ago

When someone leave your side, take it as it is and then don't think about yesterday but the future. What happened yesterday will never happen again and remember that to forget about someone needs more time and concentration. Finding someone new is much better than living with someone who don't care about your love.

Rupesh 4 years ago

really am felling better after readng this. ma gf heartz me a lot now just 1 hour back i broke ma relationship wit her . . . .

MiDo 4 years ago

Perfect one !

ramiz 4 years ago

great man' best way to get out this mental truama,, i appreciate ur noble thought & god bless u.

raghu 4 years ago


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sammerraghu 4 years ago

hey i just read your article it is really good i want to ask just question my gf has done lots of mistakes so do i as in she talks to my enemies wich i dnt like den also i ignored today she went with another boy wich i did nt lyk i was hurt badly plz plz sir give a solution so that i can forget her

sm days ago she said to her frnds that she may leave me because there is lot of family problems in her hm hw can i trust a gal who will change according to situation sir plz plz give a solution wich 100% useful

James 4 years ago

So nice of u... Thnx

BAbA 4 years ago

buddy thanx for d info/advice in a real need of it have exams n cant focus hope your tricks help me out thanx again.......!!!!

nahid 4 years ago

thanx a lot for ur advice.i wonder if i could forget her within a day.if i could all the memories of last 5 years.its damaging my life.thanx anyway

claudio bustos 4 years ago

This is great... She broke up with me and I fell like I'm diein but I have to move on and be strong thank you

stranger 4 years ago

very nice i like it very much i was lost my hope but author give me a new hope to enjoy my life its is a very nice hub thanx author thanx so much...

Ahmed 4 years ago

Very nice post. You gave me a lot of fruitful ideas instead of just sitting here greiving and doing nothing. Thank you very much

sidharth 4 years ago

hey bro real fact....thx a lot for posting this post...this wann going to help a lot to all

cnu 4 years ago

thanks dude... but my love problem is very different...i loving a girl, she is my colleague..we love each other,but some days she saying i don't love you and she is saying just forget all da thing what we have done before.i hurted for that and i was going to forget.after some days again she saying love u ra. then i forget d thing wht she hurts before.i am also loved again.

this process continuously going. she is wandering around me regularly i cant stay my eyes perfectly.always thinking for her.I am going to mindless fellow. please help me out how to i forget that girl completely.

santosh 3 years ago

whatever stated above is takes little time to getthrough...but itl surely heip me...thanks to the writer

krish 3 years ago

gud suggestions

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Benni 3 years ago

This is helping me a lot right now.

Well said & I'm trying to follow the above rules. Getting good progress so far.

I don't want u back bitch!!

Look at me now. Single & happy.

BrokenHeart 2 years ago

Thx for the blog

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bijay 2 years ago

thks for the suggestions bro!!!!!

bijay 2 years ago

thks for the suggestions bro!!!!!

Panorama 2 years ago

Wow, fantastic advise. All these thing is applicable for me. I will put an abs then, she will be regreted for her whole life.

shrishail 2 years ago

Brok up with her before 3 months but still every second paining me past memories... Everywhere everytime me thinking about her only.. Like dieing insidly...

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