How To Know if a Man Truly Loves You

How to know when a man truly loves you

Because of the nature of human, which can be traced to creation, it is often difficult for us to know exactly when our partner truly love us or not, however, certain modalities aside love spells, stand as a good test to determine how much love our partner have for us at a given time and circumstance. I am quite sure that sometimes in our lives, we have been stocked in the middle of a relationship, not knowing what to do, whether to move front or to go back; our mind is just confused on what to do or what not to do. This always arise as a result of either insecurity of the mind or past negative experiences, which often leads to the destruction of trust in people thereby making it difficult for us to ascertain the veracity of our partner’s love for us.

Have you been wondering and bordering if that man or guy you are dating loves you? Now is the right time for you to know exactly if he truly loves you or not. I know by now, you are pondering in your heart; what is this guy going to talk about that I have not heard in the past? But I tell you, relax! All you need to do at this time is to adjust your reading glasses, take a whooping sip from your juice drink, and then clear your brains off every doubt, then read on.

This article will let you know if that guy truly loves you, or if he is moving around sleeping with other girls in town and fooling you with the words "I love you". All these knowledge are for free, just because you are eager to help your relationship excel. Now that you are prepared to know the truth, I would like to ask you few questions: Is your mind ready to explore some twenty-first century secrets to knowing playboys? Is your mind clear from doubts? Do you believe that two types of love exist- true love and fake love? If you answered 'yes' to the above questions, then follow me, but before we proceed, I want you to make a promise that you will never let him know you sneaked out with me to attend a lesson on this topic, oops! You know why? Because he may get me jailed for life for letting you know these secrets, and then, how will I continue my hobby of helping ladies become happy in their relationships?

I am also aware that some good girls are out there seeking desperately to find a man that will truly love them. If you are one of such amazing ladies, don't lose faith yet, you can still find love, how?

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Back to how to know if a man truly loves you

Now, I want to let this heaven loose by the way…firstly, I tell you, if a guy truly loves you, definitely, his feelings must be clearly reflected in his behaviors, expressions, passion and actions alike. But if he doesn't reflect his love for you through these mediums, ha-ha… he might be one of those playboys. Anyway, don't judge him yet, to avoid jumping into a hasty decision which might turn out to be a generalization fallacy. Be patient.

One obvious sign to look out for when a guy truly loves you is: his dressing style. When a guy truly loves you, his dressing style will change from his usual awkward dressing style to your favorite. Now examine this little change; before you met him, how does he usually dress? Is he that kind of guy that cares less about the way he dress? Or the type that just put on whatever he lays his hands upon in the name of wearing a clothe? If yes, then how much has this shabby dressing habit changed since you entered into a committed relationship with him? Is his dressing style now okay and impressive, both to you and your friends who used to complain of his mode of dressing in the past?

Secondly, how often does he glance at you secretly, especially when he knows that you're not aware, which you will must times catch him doing? If a guy likes you, he will always love to steal a glance at you to appreciate what he believes he has, especially when you are not aware, which you may often catch him doing, and if eventually you caught him, does he usually shift his eyes in an effort to avoid you noticing that he was looking at you, or does he just frown at you? This is another good sign of knowing that a guy truly loves you, or he's genuinely admiring you.

Thirdly, how readily is he to offer you help in times of trouble? For instance, whenever you get entrapped in a particular sort of problem- emotional, financial, physical, etc, does he sit back and just watch you suffer in pains or does he offer his hand for help; a good sign of true love.

Find out if your man truly loves you via psychic readings

What is psychic reading? It is a way of applying metaphysics to read into human psychology, which can also be applied in romance and love. Both love spell and psychic reading, operate on probability, chance and luck. Though there are effective love spells, but we cannot still ignore the fact that they are not 100% guaranteed, anyway, let us go back to our main topic: How to know if a man truly loves you as a lady.

Now, another way to know if a guy loves you is the level of communication. Observe his interest in communicating with you, how often he enjoys communicating with you is a good determinant of how much he truly connects with you. Guys love chatting with people they love, especially the opposite sex, as a fact, a guy that loves you, will always love to discuss one thing or the other with you. He will like to share with you, stories and events that took place while you weren't around. But if he always observe carefully, his words and language whenever he is with you, he is using vocabulary English, refined and carefully selected words, probably, he doesn't love you as much as you think.

Remember, if a guy truly loves you, he will definitely loves or enjoy to chat with you just the same way he chats with his best male friends, which includes the use of slangs, jargons and all the usual words he uses when chatting with his best friends, except, the rude ones. So if he selects words and probably speak phonetics just because you are around, be careful, he is up to something, may be he's trying to deceive you with the impression that he is a Mr. Right.

Again, how does he react to your moods? Is he happy when you are happy? Or does he try to flame up your anger whenever he notices that you are angry? If he does, that is a bad sign, may be he does not love you, it may be a like. Don't forget a guy that loves you, would do anything within his reach to make you happy.

Go out with some other of your friends- male and female, hang out, chat with them, pretend you are ignoring him, and see if he's jealous about this, if he is, it is a clear indication of love. Please don't be fooled by such statements, “I am not a jealous lover” because every person that is in love, is always jealous, but not possessive, it is natural, not artificial, and it cannot be held back. But if you insist that you are not a jealous lover, and you are sure you love your partner, tell your partner to start going out with your friend or a neighbor, watch them kiss or exchange warm embrace, and then evaluate your feelings.

Another clear indication that a guy truly loves you is to evaluate how much he loves going out with you on a walk, with his friends, colleagues or even to religious worships. Definitely, if a guy doesn't love you, he won't be proud going out with you, he only enjoys spending time with you in the secret places like, bedrooms, hide outs, midnight or at corners. This may be for a reason, either that he is avoiding being spotted by someone else he is strongly in love with or admiring. Or he doesn't want other ladies to know that he is hooked up with someone, since he is just using you to while away his lonely times.

How readily does he tell his friends or relations about you? Does he hide your relationship with him from these people? If yes, he may not be in love with you, be careful.

Sometimes, guys act like dogs; they only focus on having sexual intercourse with the opposite sex, and then kicking them off like ball. So if a guy is curious about having sexual intercourse with you, don't be fooled, he doesn't love you at all.

Sex is not love and love is not sex. Rather, sex is a bond that bonds two partners in love, so no one can define exactly if sex is love or not, it all depends on the person's mind set which can be defined through his actions in the relationship. But a guy that loves you will always consider your emotions and feelings, he will never force you to have sex with him, and he will never request this at an onset of a relationship, rather he allows it to envelope gradually and naturally, it must, for sure, but that should be in marriage.

If a guy loves you, he likes to tell you about his past life, both the bad and the good ones, unless he has not yet developed trust in you. But if he has, he won't know when he will do this; guys are not much complicated like ladies.

Above all, we are all humans, which makes it impossible for us to read minds, yet, we can predict peoples’ minds through their actions. As a matter of fact, to know if a guy loves you or not, watch out for his actions and behaviors, and pay lesser attention to his words, psychic love spells employ this technique in reading peoples’ minds before casting a love spell. He might tell you ‘I love you’ a hundred times, and deep inside his mind, he is saying, ‘I don't think this girl is right for me.’

I want to also cease this opportunity to make it clear here that, a guy spending so much money and cash on you, doesn't necessarily depict that he truly loves you. So don't be fooled by material things, I believe you are bigger than that unless you are still out to catch fun with guys. Do you know that most rich guys believe on spend it, if you have it, so they spend it on any girl they wish to have at that moment, it has nothing to do with love. In order words, telling your friends, “he likes spending on me, I am madly in love with him and I know he is too” is a mere illusion and fallacy! Money has no reputable connection with true love and we cannot dispute financial assistance to partners in need from romantic relationships.

In conclusion, a guy that loves you, will always talk and brag about you, and even when he is with his friends, he will always try to raise topics about ladies, just to throw in some words to praise you. Therefore, do your best and get more acquainted with his best friends, to enable you learn more about him and how much he loves you, his friends are your best tool, get close to them but not intimate as most ladies end up doing, yet, I have no legal backing to stop you from searching for true love. But instead of indulging in same friends romance, why not find love elsewhere? If you really want a faster way of connecting with a man that will love you, try love spells, use the link I gave above to find out the best psychic.


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AEvans 7 years ago from SomeWhere Out There

You certainly have the facts straight, you only need to work on the grammar a little bit. Use your spell check boxes in your capsules. :)


Lilly 7 years ago

Oh shut up you silly cow! Stop putting him down, just except what he has to say. Condescending bitch, get over yourself.


Katie 7 years ago

Lily: Take your own advice and get over yourself!


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wittywriter 7 years ago from Concord New Hampshire

Good hub, I agree with AEvans. You'll get the hang of it in just a little time. Keep going, I would like to read more on this subject - you have a great handle on this one.


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K.D. Clement 7 years ago from USA

There is a spell check function in our capsule? Wow. So much to learn! :-)


annie_a 7 years ago

Words matter. Thank you for your wonderful advice. I have loved my man for so long and have been really patient with him. Realized, just now he's been equally patient with me. Realized that sometimes without saying a word you can speak so much. God Bless you.


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Borascal 7 years ago from http://www.HubPages.com/Profile/bmejias

For many years I sat back and observed idiosyncrasies and such as a man in perspective of a woman to conclude and confirm that she was not the right one for me. Relationship litmus tests are reliable when aggregated and given deep consideration. Certainly it is prudent for us to do so with our lovers, as it is valuable for people like you to share your wisdom on the topic.

Borascal.


nma 7 years ago

Thanks so much, My case is complicated but ur article has given idea in some areas. Sweethear watch your back, its pay back time


nma 7 years ago

Thanks so much, My case is complicated but ur article has given idea in some areas. Sweethear watch your back, its pay back time


nma 7 years ago

Thanks so much, My case is complicated but ur article has given idea in some areas. Sweethear watch your back, its pay back time


nma 7 years ago

Thanks so much, My case is complicated but ur article has given idea in some areas. Sweethear watch your back, its pay back time


nma 7 years ago

Thanks so much, My case is complicated but ur article has given idea in some areas. Sweethear watch your back, its pay back time


nma 7 years ago

Thanks so much, My case is complicated but ur article has given idea in some areas. Sweethear watch your back, its pay back time


Jack Reed-How to Approach a woman 7 years ago

Most men are tough. Not that expressive with their thoughts and feelings towards something and to women too. By this hub,our secrets are known.

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Haute Coco 7 years ago from Georgia, USA

this is a great hub. I wish I had only read this last year!

keep writing!


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accofranco 7 years ago from L Island Author

Thanks Coco for making out time to read my work, i wrote that hub from interviews of various people and from my own experience. Thanks once again,keep checking back on my new hubs coming up soon.


Accofranco 7 years ago

Thank you all for inventing your precious time to go through my work, Nma, Lilly, Aevans, Borascal, K.D, Witty, Katie and Coco, my warm regards goes to you all! Every constructive and destructive criticisms are all welcomed with gratitude,because they help in norturing me as a writer. Thank you all,i love you guys, keep reading!


accofranco 7 years ago

To you Annie, thanks for your wonderful contribution,keep reading and keep inspiring hubbers, God bless!


reeltaulk 7 years ago

I am gathering you are a player.........


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accofranco 7 years ago from L Island Author

Hello Reeltaulk, remember, don't judge a book by its cover? i only researched on this, and felt like sharing the experience to at least help ladies detect when men are trying to play with their heart...or don't you think its right or what? thanks for reading, keep reading.


nini 6 years ago

i totally agree with you and i would like you to keep going and please the next time you should talk about why men like to cheat on their partners


kaye 6 years ago

ohh... watta!!!! I' m hurt, really. This shows that my man doesn't love me at all. its sad... but im still confused.


didi 6 years ago

You have got it pat down. Great job.


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

ThankS Didi, but don't conclude yet on your partner ok, still research more and please give him more time, take care and thanks for reading.


marilyn 6 years ago

well my boyfriend's too busy at work, but we're working at the same office actually he's my boss.but even we are seat in the same office he didn't use to talk with me about our relationship except if there's no people around us in the office.his reason why?because office is a office work is a work.i have his support financially but for me it doesn't important, much important for me is the time that he can give or spend with me.eventhough at the very start he discus about that thing that he cannot be with me at all the time because of being busy, i still cofused if he really love me or not.haaay please advice,and one more thing we're not same nationality.we use to going for a date twice a week only.thank you so much!i like this topic.


Jennika 6 years ago

the videos are really clear and precise. They are ... good.


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

Hello Marilyn, i must start first by saying a big thank you for making out your time to read my work. to be precise, your case has a condition attached to it, that condition is that your boyfriend is working in the same office with you, so in that case, he might have been observing safety, just to save his career/job, because if he expose your relationship with him so much, it might cause him his job, so that is condition one.

on the contrary, he might be taking advantage of you as his co-staff, what i mean, if he is high-ranked in the office than you are, may be he is doing his job as a boss (playing around with his female staff, cos boss's always do), so be careful. as a result, he might be hiding your relationship with him, so that some other ladies (if any) that he is going out with, will not notice that he is also going out with you.

but please apply my advice with caution, he might be your true love, and may be he is being careful not to soil his image at the office, watch him well. Good luck! and please let me know the outcome.


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

Jennika, i am glad you enjoyed the video, i made out time to select the video, anyway thanks for reading and watching, please keep reading.


nenny 6 years ago

I thank u somuch for this lesson,my problems are solved.


nenny 6 years ago

I thank u somuch for this lesson,my problems are solved.


amy 6 years ago

thank you so much for this!


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

Nenny and Amy, thanks so much for appreciating my effort, i wish you all the best in your relationships. keep it up!


gabby 6 years ago

went out for a beer with an old friend...he was and still has been in a dysfunctional relationship for years. I fell in love. I moved. recently after two years he contacted me. I did not want to fall back into the bootie call senario, though I knew he had feelings for me. He came to my home and we talked for hours about everything. childhood dreams fears work and just chit chat...very comfortable. He brought dinner and wine, it was a nice visit. He hugged me when he left an said he would be back. he contacted me everyday with sweet nothings, then thanksgicing night I received a text very late that woke me" I love you"....I dove under the covers and slept on it. Now, when he first got back in touch I asked him you married? you gay? what's up? he said I am still in the same mess I have been in. Before I went out with him I knew he was in a rebound relationship post divorce from his wife cheating on him. He is very good friends with his "messes" father...btw..

anyway.....I tried to stay calm but I put it all out there..How I felt....oooppps I say at 53 years old...He said " I don't know what I want" We are very compatible and there is a deep passion other than sex. He made a point out of not kissing me though as soon as he left sent me kisses text day in an day out....Since then, he is barely available told me he is speechless...he loves me but does not know what he wants.........He is worth the investment, if only I knew what and how to invest. So for now I say hi keep it light and go on about my busy days.......It took him 7 years to say I love you and it had been 2 years since I seen him. There were no secondary gains here, except a good night hug............................hhhmmI say what is a girl to do at 50 ???


Haf 6 years ago

First time I get to this site and would like to thank you for these pieces of advice. Most of it is true! I did learn it the hard way! Thanks and Bon Courage!


tzn 6 years ago

great aritcle.


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

Hello gabby, age has nothing to do with love, even the more we advance in age, the more our love grows because we tend to possess more qualities of kids, which brings out the true love in us, so you can still give it a try, it is not too late, if you know he truly do...Good luck!! and thanks for reading. keep reading.


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

To you Haf, thanks for reading, and i am very sorry for your hard experience, life is like that anyway, at least i thank God you finally learned it.

To you tzn, i am glad you red my work and appreciated it, God bless you, and don't stop to read more of my works.keep it up!


diane 6 years ago

thanks you accofranco for your advise. my man tell me often that he loves me, he even cry sometimes by telling me how much he loves me BUT, HE OFTEN say; can your dad give me one of his houses. IF i look at him, HE said;" I am just kidding even your dad give me a house i won't take it" he rent an apartment in one of my dad house's. he even told the guy who collect the rental money that if he married me, he won't pay anymore. he like to talk to me, specially when he is lonely. he likes to spend time with his friends rather than staying with me sometimes. THE FUNNY thing is he keep telling me "i love you baby. i am really confuse. please advise me


lea 6 years ago

great advice!!! really well put!


angel 6 years ago

thanxx.it really helped me a lot


Specky 6 years ago

Great advice.I really appreciate it. With this pieces of advice i won't be fooled by any guy. Thanks, please keep it up.


charlotte 6 years ago

great advive ive been with my man for only a few month's and if what you say is true, he loves me. so thanks for that (i think)


charlotte 6 years ago

great advive ive been with my man for only a few month's and if what you say is true, he loves me. so thanks for that (i think)


jean 6 years ago

i like it!!

i've learned so much from those advices written above!


The Girl 6 years ago

I stumbled upon this site while investigating if my man really loves me. He fell in love in the first week! He said it over and over and over again, even wrote me a letter. A long love letter (I never got one of those....)Anyway, he has two little girls. One child is 5mos. old and the other is 4 years old by different women. One of his children got sick so he stopped talking to me for two days (one of those days he was supposed to come to my house). I texted him and asked,"what happened". He texted back, "hey". I couldn't tell if that was the same guy or not.

Love continues to amaze me. The more I live the more I keep experiencing things that I have never experienced before and I'm just amazed at the whole trip of it all....

Any comments? I think this guy is suspect. I think he just said I love you to get into my pants because after writing, "hey", he didn't write anything else and he never said what actually happened.......

Amazing....


sweetnothings 6 years ago

Thx for this post...it really does help...ur good...for a guy. I am divorced and now being wooed by a guy much younger to me., i tell him he is crazy...to come after a woman in her 30s...when he can have any young gal in their 20s...which is his age too...yet he says he loves me...yes he does his bets to be there for me..and he understood me better than my own husband ever did...but i am untrusting yet...once bitten forever shy...and the age gap ..is fraking me out...any help?


sweetnothings 6 years ago

Thx for this post...it really does help...ur good...for a guy. I am divorced and now being wooed by a guy much younger to me., i tell him he is crazy...to come after a woman in her 30s...when he can have any young gal in their 20s...which is his age too...yet he says he loves me...yes he does his bets to be there for me..and he understood me better than my own husband ever did...but i am untrusting yet...once bitten forever shy...and the age gap ..is fraking me out...any help?


diane 6 years ago

the girl, i am sorry for what happened but, be very careful with guy like HIM! ''I BELIEVE HE WAS LOOKING CON FORD AFTER HE WAS KICKED BY THE SICK CHILD MOTHER'S'' my ex had two children with an other woman, too. he used to tell me the same with tears. i knew something was going on but i could not figure it out. i was so confuse(you can read my history above) but not anymore after i realize he was mine only when he was reject by others. but when they accept him you lose. anyway you may see him again he need con ford. the girl i don't mean to hurt your feeling or if i did i apologize. i am woman, too, but be careful with a man with ''hey'' answer ok


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

@Sweetnothings: firstly,age doesn't really count in most true relationship or what i may call 'love', but this depends on the environment or culture where it is taking place, very important. for instance, in most African environment, men are expected to be older than their suitor or lover, though exceptions exist, so i don't know your current environment right now, consider it, what is the common and perceived culture, think about it wisely. secondly, study carefully why he is coming closer to you, is it for financial reasons, or just sexual,study this carefully, if it is, be careful, it isn't true love. does he want you as a trial version of how it is to date older ladies? to prove superity to his peers and friends? if yes, run! run! if it is true love, it should be based on no particular reason(s), love cost nothing but love alone. good luck. see you next time.

@the girl: there is a probability issue here, those other l..a..d..y might decide to come back, and remember, there is an already existing bond between the guy in question and his ex, so if you want to push forward with the relationship, be prepared to handle any eventuality that might come up, both emotionally and otherwise. be wise my dear friend! good luck! and thank you all for posting and for responding, God bless.


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

@Sweetnothings: firstly,age doesn't really count in most true relationship or what i may call 'love', but this depends on the environment or culture where it is taking place, very important. for instance, in most African environment, men are expected to be older than their suitor or lover, though exceptions exist, so i don't know your current environment right now, consider it, what is the common and perceived culture, think about it wisely. secondly, study carefully why he is coming closer to you, is it for financial reasons, or just sexual,study this carefully, if it is, be careful, it isn't true love. does he want you as a trial version of how it is to date older ladies? to prove superity to his peers and friends? if yes, run! run! if it is true love, it should be based on no particular reason(s), love cost nothing but love alone. good luck. see you next time.

@the girl: there is a probability issue here, those other l..a..d..y might decide to come back, and remember, there is an already existing bond between the guy in question and his ex, so if you want to push forward with the relationship, be prepared to handle any eventuality that might come up, both emotionally and otherwise. be wise my dear friend! good luck! and thank you all for posting and for responding, God bless.


FAYZUU 6 years ago

yes, i thank you for your advise for i was realy in confusion about this issue of knowing how true love operates


elegance and style personified 6 years ago

hey this is the besttt article i have ever read over this topic..that's gives such a broad insight into the main topic 'wheather a guy loves u or not'. And all the posts below it are equally useful.Hey i would suggest you to put some light over more topics such as 'when to know the guy wants a committed relationship'. My problemm here is i can make out my guy loves me a lotttttt but it seems he cant commit me for future..now m in a fix what to do..


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

@FAYZUU, thanks for reading and for making out your precious time to comment, i wish you the best in your relationship, always be wise!

@Elegance and style, i am glad you enjoyed the hub, right now i am very busy, i promise, at my spare time, i will write something on the topic you requested okay? for now, take care and best of luck.


Dani 6 years ago

Good article, although I would suggest the writer have someone else read over it and fix the grammar/spelling errors. That makes it difficult to read.


Hurtnunsure 6 years ago

Hello,

I'm seeing that you have some good advice here and ID like to hear what you think.

I met the guy I like 6 going on 7 months ago working as managers of 2 separate companies in the same place. I never really noticed him and my co-workers said ge was asking about me and who I was but I was always too busy. Then he caught my eye. I am a confident girl and that day he ran to his car to get me his card with his personal cell on me. We couldn't pull away from each for a few hours. A month after that, he began inviting me to his staff parties and assisting me.

He has been married and divorced with 3 kids and he had 2 dogs with her. I'm not sure y but he says she hates him. He seems to be happy without her as he tells me she was very self-righteous. And his ex after her, told him it was ok he can't have kids with her (got lucked in his groin), got pregnant by another man n threw him out in the cold. We've shared stories about our ex's. I can't have kids but he said he'd consider adoption n alternate birthing methods. I'm 24 & he's 41 when I said I didn't care he said ok. I can consider you being my girl. I visited him in the hospital, kept him company when he felt up to it and one day we lightly fooled around.

About 4 days later he cancelled being my date he had agreed to a few weeks b4. He said he wasn't feeling well. Since he was in a wheel chair from his accident, I believe him. I met with him once after that and we kissed and held hands but a couple of weeks later ge started being cold to me. I let him be. One day I got a MSG from him saying he realized how his depression was hurting those ge cared about n apologized. That was about 2 months later. Prior, hecwoukd acknowledge he had a deep attraction to me and even planned wine tours n talked tonme when I was I'll.

1 month later he said I tried too hard. That he felt like he couldn't breathe n that we should take it slow. I told him ok. I started lessening my concerns n messages n calls.

Now, he works as my GM for my company n tells me we can be friends n professionals because our age difference bothers him, he wants what's best for me, and isn't at that point in his life yet.

But he says he still likes me and that he cares for me.

And he's somebody who if I ask him to dog sit my puppy he will. When my mother tried committing suicide he held me and rubbed my back while I cried on him, he drives me if I ask him to. The last few weeks it feels like he cares n I wonder is there a chance? He returns, answers my non-business related calls, listens to my problems, gives wise advice and is there when I need him.

Do you think he just needs time and patience or should I just mice on from a man I feel I love? One day ge says on you can wait for me and the next he days move on. He is still in a depression n I'm not sure.


romeos_mommy 6 years ago

yeah love is not ever going to happen there is no real man out there they just get you pregnant and leave you so when u find a real man let me know please cause i don't have time for lil kid shit i had my heart broken to many times and my heart cant take no more pain.


yasmin 6 years ago

according to my experinse all is true,i have a boyfriend and i use to feel like he dose'n treat me right.but now am vry sure and looking forward to move on with my life.


delilah 6 years ago

really loved the article but it wasn't very helpful coz men are very good actors.. actually, my boyfriend told me he'se in love with me 4 months after our relationship began and i think that it's a very short time to fall in love.. what made me doubtful in the first place is the fact that he forgot my birthday & asked my friend the same day coz he wasn't so sure about it!! i was going to break up but he was begging me to forgive him.. second thing is that we work together, and it's a bad thing actually, he remembers taht a friend or nother asked him for a favor when he's with me & i do believe thtt it means that he's not really engaged with me.. sometimes, he seems like bored or something & says that he's very tired of working!! & i also think that he doesn't find me very pretty coz he said once that my look was not what first attracted him but my personnality! am very confused, this guy asked me to marry him & i don't know what to do, does he truly love me like he says or he just thinks he does?? can i get some advice....


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

Really, his forgotting your birthday date doesn't necessarily mean that he doesn't love you, just give him a second chance, but you must be very cautious and watchful, and calculative while giving him a second chance.


delilah 6 years ago

thank u so much for the advice, actually that's what i did, i gave him a second chance & stayed very cautious but that made me kind of suspicious & i can't trust him anymore!! but can't deny that i have a huge trust issue... & by the way, i really appreciate what ur doing, god bless u


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

Hello Delilah,thanks very much. And please do not ignore the power of prayer,put him in your daily prayers,ask God to help perfect him.Read Songs of Solomon in the Bible morning and night.I wish you the best in your life and relationship,may God help you out.Take care.


Hurtnunsure 6 years ago

Can I please get advice from my comment of 3 weeks ago? Thanks.


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

Hello Hurtnunsure,i am very very sorry for neglecting your question,i am writing a book,so its really bulky on me,i thought i answered your question. Here are my opinion: firstly,the age gap is something to consider thoughtfully,in this context,it might have a 70-80% influence on your marriage,should you guys get married,since he has already started considering it as a loophole.In the ideal situation,you should have been the one worried about the age thing,and not him anyway.Now,you must look into the future,if you marry this guy,how'll the marriage be in the next 30 years?He'll be 71 while you are 54,is that okay with you,can you still cope with him?If yes,then go ahead and convince him that age does not matter. Concerning his on and off behaviours,he's just considering the age gap,but i can infer that he LOVES you.Please don't push him too far to avoid a later regret,let everything happen naturally,MARRIAGE isn't DATING,it goes beyond that. Good luck Hurtnunsure. Thanks for reminding me. I would've recommended some of my books on marriage and relationship for both of you,but i don't think they've gotten to your country. Anyway,take care, i love you but Jesus loves you more. Put it in prayer,read songs of solomon.


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

@Dani,thanks to you,though i can equally do the spelling and grammar checks on my own,its just that i'm very busy. I will do that very soon.Thanks for that observation.

@Romeos_Mommy, you don't need to jump into a hasty generalization,just because of a twice experience. There are more than a million ladies enjoying true and wonderful relationship with their men out there,are those men not among the men you are talking about? Please don't give up,you can try again and again,but you must do things in a new way now,not the traditional way that you've been doing it.Good luck Dear.

Note to readers: one big mistake people make in chosing a life partner,is that they make their choices based on their own selfish desires like;financial status,physical looks,family name,economic reasons,tribe/race,religious denomination,etc. Please talk to God in prayer before jumping into conclusion or saying 'I do'.Even if you are a sinner,ask for forgiveness,God is too merciful not to forgive you. Good luck to you all!


Hurtnunsure 6 years ago

Dear Accofranco;

I really appreciate your response :) I would be very interested in reading your books. Are they available online? And just to clarify, how do I show him age does not matter? And how would I avoid pushing him too far? I really feel love for him and I hope he comes around. I will prey to God and may he bless you for helping us with this great resource. Thank you!


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

Thanks Hurtnunsure, currently, none of my books is online. to show him that age does not matter, you must prove this through your daily actions with him. again, make him understand that you have a doting passion to marry someone of his age, cite some sound and reputable happy reltionships of a young lady versus an old guy, may be celebs or so. give him a reason to beleive you are not making a hasty decision just because you are in love. but before you do all these, think twice, are you okay marrying him despite the age difference? look into the future, 20 to 30 years from now, will he still be that man of your dream and ofcourse your hero? make sure you foresee the future of this relationship in your mindset before jumping into conclusion.

To avoid pushing him too far, reduce the time and moments you stick around him and watch how he feels. tell him that someone is asking your hand in marriage and watch out his reactions, if he is happy and unconcerned, be careful, but if he shows anger and may be dissappointment, carry on, he is the one. don't ever ask him again: "when are we getting married? when will you take me to the altar? etc" if he truly do, he will do all these naturally on his own without you pushing him, 95% of men most times love not to be chased, they prefer to do the chasing and all of it, so slow down. some times hide your love and affection away from him, and make it latent so that he can work a bit hard to extract it out, but don't be too hard to get please. reduce your sexual involvements with him, if you guys have ever did, please cut it off, starve him, and see what happens. don't fall into him too quickly, exercise your ladily acts for once. Good luck for now. get back, if things didn't work out, i will work out more formulas for you. Read Songs of Solomon always for him, especially at odd moments (midnights, etc all alone)


wellrespected 6 years ago

I need your advice badly. I've been dating this guy for two years now, and he constantly cheats on me. The last incident that was expose to me is when a girl rung my doorbell after seeing his car in my driveway. He tried to deny her but she showed me the text messages and they confirmed he was involved with this female. After she did that he started calling her all types of b.....s and demeaning her. He told her that I was his girl and the only thing between them was sexual. I ask the girl did she follow him over to my house and she said no I'm your neighbor and I live three doors down. He admitted to me that they had been messing around for three years off and on. Prior to that I caught another female at his house, and also hair from another female. He tells me that those other women doesn't mean anything I'm the one that he takes to church, meet his family, and can come over to his house anytime I get ready. Franco I don't know if he truly loves me but after the lady rung my doorbell he was at my house everynight for two months straight and all of a sudden it stop, and now he stays probably two nights a week. I have an eight-year daughter and he's says if he wasn't serious and in love with me he would have never asked to meet my daughter. Whenever I need something done he does it, but gets angry on topics he don't want to discuss. Franco can someone cheat on you consistently and still love you. I don't know if it's because he's African and from Lagos, Nigeria that he has to have lots of women. I have been reading on his tribe Yoruba, and that's what brought me to the conclusion why he needs more than one woman. I really need help on this one. I lay in my bed late at night thinking if someone else is at his house when he's not at mine. Please reply


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

Hello Wellrespected! I feel for you,may the Almighty God see you through. Anyway,before i can advice you,let me know; where are you from? And where did you meet him? Then where are you guys residing currently? Finally,reading about his tribe won't make you understand his faithfulness or love for you.All you may be reading might be a fallacy of hasty generalization. Though,some men do cheat while they love someone,even in marriage. Men by nature/flesh are promiscous,it takes God's grace and self discipline to stop the urge,they can also stop when they are truly and joyfully in love with a lady of their dream. Let me hear from you first,before i can give you a specific advice. Goodluck! Don't ignore to pray for him.


wellrespected 6 years ago

I'm from Alabama. I have been in Albany, NY for 11 years, and that's where I met him. He has lived in Albany for 15 years. Franco I just feel that if a man truly loves you he wouldn't keep stepping on your heart over and over again. I just feel he has no respect for me at all. He has a temper and like to be in control. He's a well-mannered person but my friend said to me that's how he was brought up in Africa so just because he goes to church doesn't mean that he follow the word. Some people are trained to go to church. When you reply please answer me why he started staying at my house every night for over two months after the girl rung the doorbell, and now he's back to staying one-two nights a week just like he has been for the duration of our relationship. I also asked him to let's exchange keys and he said no, and that's the end of that don't ask me again. Please tell me also is this healthy for my daughter.


wellrespected 6 years ago

I haven't received a response from you. I hope all is well with family, work, health, and the final pages of your book. Hope to hear from you soon Mr. Franco.


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

Hello wellrespected,

thanks anyway for your warm concern over my well being, i really appreciate you, and i am equally concerned about your feelings and current relationship challenge.

first, it is not good and normal for a guy to cheat on his partner repeatedly, truly it shows lack of respect and may be lack of true love too. because when you truly love someone, you must respect the person's feelings and views, so he's not right cheating on you repeadly, yet, some men might be in love with a lady and still cheat, may be they have made it a habit, so they don't even know or feel what the lady is feeling, whether she's hurt, they don't care because they don't believe in it, but they love her, he might be in that category, don't rush into conclusion yet, observe him critically.

In African scenario, men are taught to believe that they are supposed to be the head and in control, so we (Africans) always exhibit that trait at most times, it only takes maturity and discipline to let go of that belief. so don't judge him yet on that point of trying to be in control always, it doesn't truly portray that he hates you.

He started sleeping in your house after that incident, to gain your trust back, and to let you know that he cares about you more than the other women. as for your daughter, we Africans are not violent to children and to people in general, just call him to order, all he needs is to accept Jesus Christ as his personal lord and saviour, you are right, going to church doesn't necessarily entails that one is morally or religiously upright. and please cut off sexual activities with him (if you have been doing that) and watch his reactions to that. return back and let me know the outcome. wishing you the best of luck in your life endeavours, still your guardian, Nwiro Ngozika ACCOUNT.


Rose 6 years ago

You got it all. Thank you, I have learnt a lesson.


Hurtnunsure 6 years ago

Dear Accofranco,

It has been 2 weeks since my last message on here. I've been reading the songs of Solomon and preying for him to reach me but it seems that the trail is now cold. I've tried not texting him and he does not make contact. He recently expressed to me that his phone was disconnected and he's going through family issues (his ex-wife kicked out his son and is now staying with him) but we don't chat anymore like we used to. I have also been reflecting on the fact that we broke up in January and he told me to move in and be friends in March. I feel foolish for not letting go and I'm now accepting that he and I will never be together again :(

I thought he loved me but it seems it was just that, my thoughts. It hurts to give up but accofranco I don't think he will ever return to me. I don't know if I should stay in this what seems unrealistic hope that he will be mine or to renounce him and accept a life without him.


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

@Rose, welcome and many more thanks for reading and making out time to comment.

@Hurtnunsure, if no change seems to occur, he is not for you, wait and pray, God will send your own man your way. Good luck!


CHRISTIE INNO 6 years ago

LIKED DIS ARTICLE.A GUY SINCERELY LOVES ME..HAS CONFESSED TOO..AND HE IS EVEN OK IF I JUST B FRNZ WD HIM..........BT BECOZ OFMY TROUBLES IN GETTING OVER MY EX WHO DUMPED ME AFTER A FEW NIGHTS....I NVR REALISED HOW MUCH DIS GUY TRULY LOVES ME..THANK YOU SOMUCH...M SEEEING IT NOW.


CHRISTIE INNO 6 years ago

LIKED DIS ARTICLE.A GUY SINCERELY LOVES ME..HAS CONFESSED TOO..AND HE IS EVEN OK IF I JUST B FRNZ WD HIM..........BT BECOZ OFMY TROUBLES IN GETTING OVER MY EX WHO DUMPED ME AFTER A FEW NIGHTS....I NVR REALISED HOW MUCH DIS GUY TRULY LOVES ME..THANK YOU SOMUCH...M SEEEING IT NOW.


Monique 6 years ago

Thanks for the advice keep writing....


hisangel 6 years ago

Sorry that this is so much but i wanted a guys point of view on things.

we've been talking 4 months now, and he has only mentioned his 2 ex's that he has children by , the one he is divorcing he has mentioned maybe 5 or 6 times and the girl before her that he was with for 13 years he has mention 2 or 3 times.

He pretty much told me that they used him for drugs and money and he wanted a real woman who loves him for him and not for what he can give them, his wife that he filed for divorce from, he went to jail bc he got caught selling drugs and while being in jail she wrote him for a few months and then he heard nothing, she started sleeping with his friends and anyone she could for drugs and money, he said he was done with her.The only reason he mentioned her the last 2 times was to tell me he filed for divorce and bc i asked him if he was still friends with his ex's...

he calls me his angel from above and tells me that it's amazing for me to like him for who he is and not what he can give me he always complement's me, writes me poetry, told me it was ok to give him my heart bc he wouldn't break it or hurt me, talks about us having a future together.

But when he filed for divorce his wife (soon to be ex) decides she wants to contact him..

should I worry or is he over her, he pretty much said that he was high and lonely when he met and married her and that it was a mistake.. am i worrying for nothing or should i be scared he is going to break my heart?

My gut tells me that he loves me, but my past hurt makes me afraid.. he treats me like no man has ever before and he confides in me, he tells me when he is down . he said that i'm the only person he talks to when he is down ,he is one of those guys who keeps things to himself and only talks to me about things, no one else, not even his family.

It makes me feel that he truly loves me but isn't ready to say it yet said he isn't ready to hand his heart over yet, because he has been hurt to much before. bc he has been hurt before..before he started talking to me he was talking with another young lady who he started to fall for and she broke his heart.

he did admit he cheated on the first girl his was with for 13 years and that he made a mistake and pretty much his current wife was his rebound and they was only together a year to year and half when he went to jail and she stopped contacting him.

He also told me that she would think that when he was home that she could come running back, but he didn't want her and he asked me how he should tell her that he was done with her, that he doesn't love her anymore.

he also said she would be mad when she got the divorce papers, but oh well she can't have her cake and eat it to that she hasn't wrote him or anything for a year.

It just bothers me that she is trying to get back in his life now that he filed for a divorce... should i worry? should i let go? or just wait it out and see what's up? we enjoy each other a lot and we both open up to each other about everything.. he even made me promise that i would never go back to my ex husband , whom did me wrong.....am i just overreacting?

He told me that he wants a strong independent woman like me in his life to keep him straight, one who would keep him on the right path and love him for who he truly is.He said he has made many mistakes in his life and that he is ready to grow up, he said he has lived a wild life and was done with it.... I want to stick with him and I really believe i don't have anything to worry about .. but i'm afraid to take a chance again... please any good advice.. thank you .

I should also mention that was started off just friends and thats all we was suppose to be but ended up haivng more feelings for one another,

I'm just afraid bc of how many times i have been played in the past...


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

@Christie Inno and Monique, thanks for those wonderful comments and commendations. i wish you two the best of luck in your relationships, may the Almighty God continue to keep it going smoothly for you guys. Have a blessed day.

NOTE: To all my esteemed fans and readers, please keep checking on my hubs and blogs on relationship for my first ever online book that answers all relationship questions titled: "How to connect with and keep a good man", "Signs he's a PLAYBOY", "Top Secrets About Men". Thanks.


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

@Hisangel, the first step you need to take for you to enjoy a sweet, lasting relationship, is to let go of your past, flush them out, buckle yourself up once again, make up your mind to love genuinely and freely once again. secondly, be open and friendly, always talk out things with him, don't keep any as a grudge, pour them out whenever you are frightened.

but from your words, the guy is ready for a new live, give him a chance, and please don't ever use a generalization error on him, hear him out always, ignore the ex, concentrate on your man for now. what must be must be, but i think he's for you at the moment, based on your explanations.

please don't fail to get a copy of my online book, coming out soon, where all these things are better explained, including your current questions and fears. watch out and always check on my relationship hubs for link to the books.

i wish you the best, be not afraid, the lord will see you through. take care.


Dana 6 years ago

PLEASE explain why guys cheat! Is it because I am not enough for him or he is not happy with me. but when I asked him all that he said no he was stupid and it was not me it was him. I hate that excuss cause it cannot be try.

I know he loves me but sometimes love is not enough!!!


innocent gal 6 years ago

hey..really great stuff!! I really liked your's writing..

My prblm is that my bf told me that he loves me since he saw me first time.even our mutual frnds also told me that so..

I wana knw does he tellin lie to me or he is true guy.n He realy cares for me a lot,loves me a lot.,but stil m confused.I realy love him a lot.i jst want that he never play with my feelings ever:(


Britt:) 6 years ago

Thank you. This was wonderful. My boyfriend tells me he is in love with me but I didn't know if he truly meant it or not. Now I know and he does all of those. He brags about me to his friends, he wants me to meet his family and when we get out of high school he wants to get married and have kids.


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

@Dana, most guys cheat because they are not good enough, or because they are feeling insecure and unsure of the lady they are dating. some times again, they cheat because they really want to cheat (its in their blood, nature).

this is why you must be careful with the kind of men you attract into your love life, it matters, when you attract the wrong person, it may ruin your life. i will be publishing something on this topic soonest, keep checking out, and also for my book that answers all these questions and more. have a nice day, and good luck.

@Innocent gal, please be careful, loving someone doesn't just involve saying it a thousand times, it goes beyond that. the person must portray this true love in his daily action and relation with you.

@Brit, i am happy for you that you found the true love, i wish you more joy and happiness in your relationship, and please don't fail to grab a copy of my book coming out, it will help you more to grow in love and relationship. always check it out here for links to purchase it. good luck Brit!


confused? 6 years ago

me and my boyfriend have been dating for 8 months. things have been great except for thee past month. im just so confused. he has been busy a lot and rarely talks to me. i don't know if he loves me anymore.. im sad if we are together or not.. help. please.


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

it all depends, just try and talks things out with him first, before jumping into hasty conclusion. no ideal relationship exist without little misunderstandings, what matters most is the ability of the two partners involved to resolve their differences in times of dispute. its possible he still loves you, try harder, talk it out with him, and please do pray over it. Good luck.


zara 6 years ago

Having read all this i feel i should finish with my boyfriend, 1 year and ive never met his family, hes met mine, he is cagey about everything, he doesn't take me where he goes with his friends.. ive had alarm bells ringing for sometime now!! we hang out and don't see each other that much, he says he wants to take things slow, but im not too sure that its an excuse, he has lots of female friends that facebook him xxx bla bla bla, came around hun, he says he likes to keep his private life private..... if thats the case then why are they allowed to write on his wall and im not!!!!! ring ring alarm bell, time to call it a day i think!!!


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

@Zara, i understand how you feel dear, but all the same, you can still give him some more time to see if things would turn for good. meanwhile, let him know how you feel first before any further actions. i wish you the best, Good luck! and thanks for reading.


teddie 6 years ago

i just need your advice!!!!!! I was talking to this guy from another country for about four months and we finally met for the first time a couple of week ago. Things went well in the beginning but things changed. He didn't want to drop me off at the airport, he didn't find the point in it. He just gave me a hug and a kiss and sent me packing in a cab. Should I just let him go?


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

@Teddie, i would advice you let him go, why? here are few of my reasons:

1. he might not be so much attracted to you, because if he is, he should have been head over heels of you for at least the first meeting, he should have been glad you took the risk of taking a flight from your country down to his country, just to see him. from what you said, he didn't appreciate your effort and sacrifice. be careful, he might not be the one for you. always be cautious of internet relationship, some of them are merely to ripe you off. which country is he from, and which country are you from? let me know, so that i can give you some more advice. but i must make it clear here, he didn't try at all, by allowing you to take a cab, when he has a car of his own (if i am not mistaking). anyway, buckle up, don't give up, i wish you the best of luck. be happy always!!!


nylady 6 years ago

i have been with this guy for about a year, at first he was attentive, talked on the phone all the time. bought me flowers, gifts showed som much affection. I think he was not working when I met him, I confronted and he denied it. Then his father had open heart surgery, and things changed from there on indefinately.he seems to be very family oriented always busy with his family now. He tells me he loves me and I know he is still attracted to me because sex is amazing between us. I know I became selfish when he was going through with his fathers situation, but I wanted him to dedicate more time to me. He always says that he does not like when I say lets do this or that and that I don't give him the chance to do something for me when he wants to and that the more I ask the more he wont do it. Like for example call me when he wakes up to say good morning. I really love this guy at least I think I do or is it that his lack of attention recently makes me want him more by my side. Next month we make a year together and I created a movie slidshow of all our pictures throughout the year and he said he it made him cry. we have broken up so many times and mostly me because I think he does not love me. He wont bring me around his parents house after he took me the second week we were dating. I find out early in the relationship he does not have a job and he lives with his parents we are both 37 years old, im a single mom with two kids he has none, he has given me all these excuses why he wont bring me around anymore to his parents. Like his mother is rather difficult or he wont until we straighten out our relationship. I don't know what to think anymore. We almost broke up last week he got mad because i told him that there is someone else asking to marry me (very true) so he decided to ignore my calls, i decided to show up in his house and I find out he had relatives from Puerto rico, i felt he was hiding that from me so that I wont be like take me to meet them....Help!


nylady 6 years ago

btw, I made the mistake of asking for us to move in together because I spoke to another male friend who told me to ask to see what his reaction will be....he said he was not ready for that and that we are not on the same page. Maybe i am doing all the wrong things but I think I really do it to see his reaction. I have to constantly be telling him to be more attentive its like pulling teeth with him. I try to leave him but he has never wanted us to break up. Lately when i try to leave him he will say we need to chill, so i say that I will start dating again and he says why will you do that if I wont be doing that. One day I looked at his computer the history and I saw that he was searching for ladies on myspace, he says we had broken up, but sometimes I feel like because he is not working, has no friends it will be hard to get involved with another woman because dating can be expensive, si he is just stringing me along until he finds someone else or when he finally gets a job. We have had many issues because of him not working, his lack of attention and always with his parents, not taking me to his parents house after he took me once, he says that his family complains about us always talking on the phone (because I call him)..he is starting to complain also saying its not normal to talk so much throughout the day, but he did it in the beginning so why is it so wrong now? because i want to?


nylady 6 years ago

we are happy when we do get together, we get along just fine but when he is not around i get so insecure so unhappy, but he seems to be fine when he is not around me and that bothers me.


teddie 6 years ago

thank u for your advice. He lives in china due to work but came to the U.S to visit because i live here. He didn't have a car but I don't feel thats a good excuse.If he wasn't attracted to me why did he want to sleep with me? We were together the whole time for 2nights and 2days.I asked him if he had fun and he said yes. I don't know, but I did realize that I deserve to be treated better than that. He will be back in China next week, if he calls what should I say? He also didn't have any money till the second night, so I practically spent most of the money and he didn't even bother to reimburse me when he picked up his money. Should I ask for that money back or just let it go?


Jaz 6 years ago

I am dating this guy through facebook from the same nationality and community.He's random person.it's been 4 months now. we both love communicating and discuss same issues.He kills his night sleep for me. He discusses future with me. he said he loves me and wants to meet my parents for marriage concern. Do you think this can be possible on online dating. we only talk and once used web cam.No shit talks. he's religious. but on the same side i am confused how love can happen online

we talk like 4-5 hours everyday. we both never gets tried.Thanks a lot for your time.. and i like your article.looking forward to read more.


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

@nylady, thanks for reading and sharing your challenges in relationship, but please from what you wrote here, that guy is not yet ready for a serious commitment, so be careful. he might be using you to while away his idle time since he is still unemployed, and it is likely that he moves on with his life after he gets a good job. he shouldn't be afraid or scared of introducing you to his family members if he is proud of you, even though he has no job at present, at least you love him.

and on your own side, you are pushing things too far from what you said, please take it easy, whatever will be will be, don't impose love on men, it will make you unhappy. when the right man comes, it will require zero effort from both of you, things will move on smoothly, so stop pushing him around, give him some rest and allow him get some breather to prevent heart break, good luck for now.

@teddie, be careful with that guy, it is possible that he is only looking for an internet fun, and thats all. why should you be the only spending your money on the first date? and even after he got his money like you said, if he truly cares and to show that he is very responsible and to create good impression for the first time, he should have given you back the money you spend, even though you might refuse to collect, he should have made the first move, just to make a good impression, but he didn't, please teddie, be careful, some men are very funny and tricky atimes. good luck.

@Jaz, love can be found anywhere, it doesn't matter but all you need to be is be very very cautious and wise. don't fall too cheaply for him, please i keep advising you guys, desist from first time meeting sex, it makes the men look down on you. show them that you have some good value. and when he tries talking dirty, caution him, and he will know that you are responsible. don't create an impression of a whore to him while familiarising on the internet, but its possible people marry from the internet, yes it does happen. but be careful. good luck and thanks for reading.


Jaz 6 years ago

Thanks a lot..one major problem i have in this long distance relationship. I call him through Vonage internet calling to his cell phone.As we both are students we can't afford to make calls. He gives me a miss call and then i call him. the main problem arises when i end up sitting in my room and he stays out. pls help me. when i complained he mentioned that he gave me his time and that can be an alternative of calling.How to make him realise that he should call me too. i have no clue and sometimes i get helpless. i do want to keep with him but he sounds like miser..lol

Thanks a lot once again.. hope for the best.. and lets see what god has stored in future.. tc.


nylady 6 years ago

Thank you accofranco, he took me a few times to his home in the beginning and after that he said he was not going to take me just yet again because he said his mom was a little difficult to have patience... Then it turned out that I was nagging to much about the situation and that not until we stopped arguing and saw that the relationship was better he would take me. I have two kids 16 and 8, I live on my own am my own woman he on the other hand lives with his mom and dad and he is always saying that he is taking care of them because they are old meanwhile they are in their late 50s, they both work! He didn't want to take me when his father was at the hospital he had just had openheart surgery, but after me nagging him about it he finally did. I think maybe his family does not like me, when his brothers wife had a baby it was a big deal for him and I was excluded from all that he actually got lost the whole day because of that. everytime something is going on in his family he gets lost and wont pick up the phone. He tells me he wants to be able to take me when he is ready, I have notices lately that he is spending less time with me and i spoke to him about it and he said he will change, so far this week he has been coming around more often, but usually he does this and then goes back to the same. He makes me feel like he wants to be with me, but he does these things and makes me wonder. His birthday is next week, should i buy him a gift, sometimes i feel he does not deserve it, but when we had three months together he went all out bought me a cake and gifts and took me out. I feel he has not been treating me right for the past 6 months ever. Its as if his family told him that I was not the one for him and he never took me back. Could it be he is getting pressure from his family maybe because of different backgrounds he is Puertorican and I am from Ecuador. All i know is that he makes me feel bad when he treats me less important with anything that has to do with that other life he has (his family and friends) and does not include me. Maybe I should look elsewhere. I don't want to waste my time anymore. I love him but I also know my worth, I know I am attractive good looking woman with morals and normal expectations...everytime I try to leave him he says he will change or tries to change subject and I end up not leaving him. Before I was crazy about him and lately I look at him and he I see a lot of physical imperfections he has. Could it be I am starting not to love him anymore. I am so sorry I can go on and on about this.


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

@Jaz,you don't need to convince a guy that loves you to call you, please don't push him too far, if he truly loves you, he would call you as often as he can. reason, he would love to hear your voice as often as possible, it might not be for a long hour talk anyway, but at least he should be calling you regularly if he cares, and considering the fact again that you guys are leaving far apart in two different countries, he should know that, that is the surest way to keep the relationship.


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

@nylady, give me some time to research more, i will get back to you.


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

@nylady, give me some time to research more, i will get back to you.


Jaz 6 years ago

I really appreciate your advice. I have to be really careful to this.. :) Thanks once again.


teddie 6 years ago

thank u!


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

@Jaz, you are highly welcome, and just like i said, take things easy, God will help you out, always pray.

@teddie, you are welcome, if you encounter any other challenge, just let me know, i am here to help you out and to pray for you guys, i wish you all the best in your relationships. Good luck and remain blessed.


Mar 6 years ago

Hello, Accofranco.

I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years and we love each other very much. Sometimes I feel that he does not consider my feelings. For example, he has two daughters with different women and one of his daughters is celebrating her 8th birthday party. He told me that he was going to be assisting the mom again for the past 4 years. It really bothers me that he is going again this year and help her with the Bar-be-que. He said that he wants to be there for his daughter and I understand that. I told him that he can be there for his daughter but not literally. I did tell him that there is no commitment from his part with out relationship. Should I be upset?


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

Hello Mar, you have a good reason to be upset, but all the same you don't expect him to abandon his daughter. all you need is understanding and patience for things to turn for good. but it is still possible that he wants his else back. sit him down on a very calm day when he is in good mood, and then ask him few questions to examine his mindset. implore him to be open to you, i believe he will. but all the same, i wish you the best of luck anyway. take it easy, please i keep nagging, NEVER FORCE A MAN INTO A RELATIONSHIP OR LOVE!! Good luck once again Mar.


teddie 6 years ago

i was dating this guy last year for a month and things got very serious very early. we broke up because he found out h was going to bee a dad and wanted to work things out with the baby mama. When things started to not work out he called me. I haven't spoken to him in a year and he just recently contacted me, but i haven't responded back. Should i go for it?... I'm a little scared to let him in because i don't want to get hurt again. Do you feel that he deserves another chance?


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

@teddie, from what wrote, we all make mistake once in our life time, so don't be hasty in conclusion, just hear him out, but not allowing him in, just ask him questions, to know if the relationship is over completely between him and his previous mistake, and if yes, then give him a trial, its possible he is considering you as his best option. but don't fall too cheaply, always stand against early sex please, guard your emotions cautiously. i wish you the best for now, come back with further questions for more clarifications.


wellrespected 6 years ago

Hello Mr. Franco I know it's been a while since my last post. After reading your advice I took sometime out to define myself. Even though you told me to call him to order and hold out any sexual encounters with him, I took your advice and call myself to order. Reading between your words of wisdom that god has blessed you with abundantly, in your heart and soul it meant to let go and let god. For a long time I have been in a bubble especially when it comes to men. The bubble that I had when I was in high school is no longer equipped for my adulthood. So starting today the low self-esteem, self-worth, and uncertainty of myself evaporates. I was made in the image of God, and I know Franco that he did not die on the cross for a man to treat me like this. In my heart I believe that gentlemen still exist. At the right time God will implement him into my life. My plans has to align with God word. For the longest my soul was lost in men who didn't see me. A couple months ago I heard a poem title I see you. One of the members from my church discovered those three words that originated from an African. It touch my heart dearly, and so did your poems. Especially the one that says "she looks like she never been touch". This Nigerian guy said a while ago "A pearl is not a pearl until it's out of it's shell". For the longest I didn't understand but now I do. Franco I thank you for your kind words, love, support, wisdom, compassion, concern, and having a way with words. I have ask God to send me a husband with similar goals, qualities, integrity, that will compliment me well in his name. I don't know if you are still living in Nigeria, if so enjoy your fourth of july.


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

Hello wellrespected, thanks once again for that warm word from you, i really appreciate. once again i am very glad you accepted Christ as your only personal lord and savior, don't worry he will see you through, even to your greatest surprise. cast all your trust in him and he will never let you down. can you ever believe it, a sixty year old woman gave birth in India last month? yes, that is to let you know that God is still at work, those stories we read in the bible about Sarah, Abraham's wife and the rest, they are all true, what matters is our faith. Do you have faith that you will surely find your own perfect man? if yes and you are sure you have the faith, then discuss your fears with God in prayer(at midnights;12:30 AM), free yourself, get committed with the word of God, and please be committed with joy and faith. Enroll into one of the Church service arms in your local church (for example, ushers, cleaners, etc). but note, you must be pleasurably committed with the work of God, don't ever see it as a burden, no!

Read psalms and songs of solomon at your spare time. open up, become a good lady and start attracting responsible and good men, make friends but avoid going to odd places like: night clubs, sex meeting points, x-rated places, etc. finally, get a plain sheet of paper and start writing these words:

"God help me, i need a true husband that will love and respect me, God send one my way" write these words for at least 2000 times, and then write this one too: "Jehovah surprise me with a true husband." i wish you all the best wellrespected. yes i am still residing in Nigeria, and i hope to visit America one day, very soon. remain blessed, God will surprise you beyond your imagination, let go of your past and start a new life, wipe it all out, as if it never existed. best wishes, i am also praying for you. bye. see you again.


wellrespected 6 years ago

Franco thank you so much for your words as always. I'm taking your directives and starting a new life along with writing the positive affirmation 2000 times. While doing this exercise I found myself believing and receiving at the same time. The mind is a dangerous place to be alone thats why its well understood from you to committ, and follow the word of God everyday. I'm one of your biggest fans so please keep me posted on your upcoming ebook. There's definitely a purchase from me. Take care of yourself until our next chat.


KB 6 years ago

Thank you for writing that hub. I've been dating a guy for about 9 months and I'm still not sure how he really feels. I believe he likes me but he doesn't date me regularly. He told me that I don't give him time to date me. So, I stopped asking him to take me places and decided to go on a date with someone else. I posted the information on Facebook (this was in April 2010). During this time, I stop talking to him because I was tired. We started back talking in May and his parents came to visit in June. He invites me over a few times while his parents are here. During this time, he wants to display affection that he doesn't display on the regular. I'm not impressed because I feel as though he should put forth more effort in trying to get to know me. I don't know if he needed approval from his parents (particularly his mom) but lately we have been spending more time together. She asked me how was he treating me and I told her "okay." We went to watch fireworks on the 4th and he asked me, "how was the dinner and a movie?" I could not believe he actually brought it up almost 3 months later. I think about him all the time. I do have a couple of other male friends that I see from time to time but I'm only intimite with him. He told me he has not been in a relationship past 5 months so I don't know if he's ever been in love. I have not told him that I love him because I'm waiting for him to tell me first. I look forward to your feedback.


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

@wellrespected, thanks once more, i am very glad with your being happy and at peace, i will continue to pray for you. concerning the eBook, i don't know how to let you know when it is finished and ready for publish? thanks once again, i am very glad with you. i wish you all the best, and expect a miracle soonest.

@KB, nothing has happened yet. its possible he's being careful not to jump into a relationship with you that may not work out at last, so he might be observing you for some certain qualities he wants, may be. and it's also possible he's not so much attracted to you to the point of dating you as you wish, may be he doesn't want to be committed with you. so the best thing to do is to keep calm, stop pushing things around, relax a bit and watch him unfold things naturally. i believe if he truly wants and loves you, he must come to you, so relax, be yourself for now. i wish you all the best. enjoy your life with Christ and be a good girl always. peace.


wellrespected 6 years ago

What do you mean? I thought you made it clear that once its completed a link will show on hub. Since you don't have a future date, I'll save the chocolate for later until publish. Blessings to you and your family.


Phummie 6 years ago

Hi I lvd ur advice by da way. I think they r gr8. I jst have 1 problem though, i've been dating this guy 4 7months and i've recently found out that he and his baby-mama are still 2getha. The last tym he called me was 2 months ago and now he talks to me when he sees me. No smses no calls no nothing. Should I end things?


carly 6 years ago

yes i agree this is fantastic and so what about the spelling

this stuff is gold

i just yelled at a guy who i thought didn't love me at all but he does most of the nice things on the list

so maybe he does i just screamed my head off at him

so hes unimpressed


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ColinFuller 6 years ago from Toronto Canada

They say that most guys have a tendency to be LIARS about their strengths and position in life... While most women are endlessly SKEPTICAL of mens bragging. For this women are almost ALWAYS testing men, or looking for an outlet to observe men and see if they really have the goods. Something tells me this has been going on for a long long time.

Colin

http://hubpages.com/relationships/-Becoming-the-Wo...


laura 6 years ago

yeah your grammer and spelling need some work....sorry...


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

@Phummie, please don't call it quits yet, give him some more time. thanks for the commendation anyway.

@wellrespected, thanks, i will post it here on hubpages, when its ready.

@all of my esteem readers, i love your corrections and observations, i am too busy at the time, at my spare time, i will do some spell and grammar check, i know that there are some errors, bear with me, i will do that at my spare time, i am a very busy person. all the best. God bless you all. thanks for reading.


IvyNYC 6 years ago

Thank you so much for these incredible words of wisdom and love. I am madly, deeply in love with a man I never thought I'd ever encounter in my life. For a while, he insisted that we were just good friends. But I knew, in my heart, that I meant more to him than that. And after reading your article, I know for a fact that he loves me, too. He may not say it in words, but he says it in all his deeds and actions. And I am content with that.

Thank you, thank you, thank you. Heaven Bless.


IvyNYC 6 years ago

Being from Nigeria, I can only assume English is not your first language. You speak and write it beautifully, pay no attention the the haters. :)


Shams 6 years ago

when you can tell a man loves you.. but want to live alone.

and yet when you leave. he call you 5 or more times. and he always there to help you. but wont say. don't leave. .. and he always tell you stories. and laugh. Joke around.

what this mean?


Meaghan 6 years ago

wow great advise!

so here is my problem I started seeing this guy who is one of my co workers brothers he is religious i am not but he does not mind which is good i am open to it just have not found the right church...we get along when we are together almost scary ironic things happen when we are together like it is to perfect well about a week ago he was texting his friend and telling him about how we were sleeping together he said a lot of crued things about me (i was trying to text someone off his phone and fell upon the conversation complete accident) well i felt bad that i had seen it and it was on the way taking me home it got pretty awkward then i got dropped off at work and we were fine well it kept eating at me at work that he called me easy... so finally i said something and he appologised repeaditly for being a jerk and trying to be cool for his friends but since then we have not been the same he works on a farm and i know he is super busy a lot but he hardly ever texts me anymore there was one time a few days ago he randomly called me well it was the same day i asked him if he didn't want to talk to me anymore because i figured he was avoiding me and he told me he didn't want to loose what we have and that he wants to make it work i was so glad to hear that but my birthday was two days ago he got really sick and could not come but i still feel as if that was not really how it was am i just being pariniod i feel as if this is all to perfect except for the phone incident i really really like him and i know i just got hurt about two months ago by a guy who i cought in bed with another girl he knows about all that stuff but he says he will treat me right but i have heard that before! i am trying so hard not to get clingy or obsesive but when he does not text me when i text him it makes me feel bad and constantly wondering what he is thinking about us.... he lives about fifteen twenty min drive away and i don't drive! so i cant just go surprise him when i have the day off he drives but he is ALWAYS busy


Meaghan 6 years ago

OH! and he has introduced me to his family brags about me to his friends a LOT and he is so anxious to meet my family or he was.....


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

@ivyNYC, Thanks a million times, i am flattered by your praises, may the Almighty God bless you abundantly, and thanks again for making out time to comment, i am glad, thank you. concerning the spelling and grammar errors, i know about them, the problem i am having is time to sit down on the system and make some corrections and then republish it, definitely, i will do that soonest.

@Shams, he loves you from the little you explained here, the only problem there is that he is too sure that you love him, so he is convinced that even though you threaten or try to leave, that you will definitely not leave, and secondly, he might be suffering from spiritual or emotionally immaturity too. discuss it with him, let him know that you don't like it when he takes you for granted, no matter the situation, and you will see a difference, and please do not forget to commit your relationship to God in prayer, devil is always at work to destroy and bring troubles into our lives. i wish the best, thanks for commenting, do come back.

@Meaghan, its possible that he loves you, but he is still threatened by that text message you red, discuss things with him, and let him know that you have forgiven and forgotten the incidence, so that things can move on smoothly as it has been in the past between both of you. Note: telling a man about your previous unsuccessful date, will not make him treat you right if he is not the right person for you, rather, he may capitalize on that in maltreating you. all the same, there is nothing God cannot do, all you need to do is to commit your relationship to God in prayers, don't take it for granted, if you love your relationship, pray for its success every day, devil is at work to cause sufferings in our lives. best of luck dear, it is well.


boogilicious  6 years ago

Oh shut up you silly cow! lmaooo that was soo funny women are deadly


payal 6 years ago

hi...what ever u said my bf do and i knw he loves me...but he never support me,when i need him more.He always fire on me but never try to explain me with love...is this mean he knw dnt care for me or not love me...


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

@boogilicious and payal, please i do not understand your comments. anyway, thanks for reading. wish you the best. bye


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

@boogilicious and payal, please i do not understand your comments. anyway, thanks for reading. wish you the best. bye


allisongreen319 6 years ago

very interesting hub!

Learned a lot on how I can show my girlfriend I love her. :)Thanks!


lily 6 years ago

hi...what ever tip u given to test ur boyfriend,its really work,from that i know, my boyfreind love me a lot...but sometime he never support me,when i need him so much..instead of giving support and love to me, he all the time scolded me...and i feel very bad,he should understand me..is this mean he don't care or love me anymore?


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

@LILY, from what you said, he loves you, but he needs to understand your feelings for his unconcern attitudes towards your problem, talk things out with him and see what happens. good luck. and thanks for reading.


Jone 6 years ago

hi..I love my girlfreind very much we know each other from 3year,now i want to have sex with her,if i tell her this,will she hate me..I want to give new defination to our life and soon we will get married may be after 2year but befor this can i tell her my feeling?Will it affect my love relationship?


Brittney! 6 years ago

Hey,my boyfreind and I have been dating for 1 yr and 8 months now.I have so much feelings for him,and he tells me he has a lot of feelings to.We had broken up once due to a different girl that he was checking!But he claims that he was only talking to her because hr felt as if i were cheating,when i really wasn't.It is a long distance relationship,he came back to me crying that he truly loves me and wants to be with me getting all of his friends and my friends to hook us two back up..I finally made back up with him,and i feel that our relationship has gotten even better than before,I can feel the love between us.I also received a promise ring and he told the gurl that he was talking to that he was still in a relationship and they cannot talk any longer.

Do you think he loves me and has mad feelings about me??

Because he tells me that he wants to marry me,even though most men tell girls that just for sex..i feel as if he truly means it! I am a virgin,we discused that i will not lose it until marriage,or until i feel as if i'm ready to give him consent.Lol

But my question is do you think he is faithful enough and true that we will get married?

I really do "Love!" him and he claims he love me to and i beleive it,Should I?

=)


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

@Jone, please do keep up with the love, but don't ever make that mistake of telling her what you just said here please. please avoid sex before marriage, it is not just a religious preaching, but is for our own good, so avoid it. i know is hard, but with your will power and self control, you can do it. best of luck.


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

@Jone, concerning your question, demanding for sex from her, may hamper the relationship, so i will advice you desist from it. good luck once again, keep on with your chaste life, God will strengthen you.

@Brittney, no one can read minds, even the so called popular lie detector, can only guess through scientific analogue and manipulations, only God sees our heart. our mind is a bag, everyone carries its own. pray to God Almighty to reveal to you by either; fleece, dream, vision, or any means you prefer, to know if he truly loves you as he profess to you. again, its not everyone that we have a relationship with us, that is our destined future partners, don't make that mistake Dear. No man receives anything except it is giving to him or her from heaven (that is God Almighty), read John 3:27. if a man that loves you later disappoints you, it might not be his fault, but may be it has not been granted in heaven that both of you should be together, so in all you do, ask for God's intervention and guide, we only see the physical, but God alone sees the spirit and the mind. trust only in God and not in man, because man can fail you at the most needed time, but God will never fail you. talk to God if you really love this man, ask God to show you if he is the one for you, and also ask him to pray, but for your prayers to have answer, abstain from premarital sex, do you best, it is possible to achieve, don't listen to what your friends and peers might tell you, pray to God to give you the grace and strength. Good luck Brittney!! Its possible that he loves you, but trust no man or woman except God. i believe you red that novel called Julius Ceaser, remember the statement: "...even you Brutus..." Brutus betrayed his bosom friend who trusted him with all his life, and stabbed him to death when he ran to him for refuge. that is what man can do.


sunny 6 years ago

Hi While i surfing across net i came across this bolg. I got a hope in my life. Hope u'll help me. Its two month before i met one of my collegemate. It was the same college mate whom in collegedays i used to hate a lot as his name is getting taken with my name for being in love. becoz of this i used to hate a lot to him i oneday i got so rude to hin i ever been to any one. But he dint say me anything rather he says to my frnd who was wth me i am going to my home town , wish u a happy holi. this made me felt so guilty. after he went home i missed him a lot i fell in love wth him. but i nvr told him evr. sonn v passed out of college after 2 yr. i was chking his orkut though he was nt my frnd in my frndlist. thru common frnd i used to get his updates. bt he nvr knw i was in luv wth him. later i gt to knw he's in true luv wth som 1 else.i cud nt c it bt thnking of him i decided to b happy n decided to go out of all my college frnds n moved to chennai frm hyd. thr i gt new frnds n i nvr tried to find the details of him. bt i believed my lord a lot which says dat he'll com back. after few day my parents found a match for me. i was happy n i decided that i wud get married as per my parents choice. But unfortunately dat did not happen. and my marriage got broken at the end moment when my would be in laws found bit darker than their son complexion wise. this is the shock i ever could tolerate. i decide to die. but thinking of my parents i was alive but it was not same me. a machine who just lived without any feeling. i changed d place frm chennai to hyd n my fiancé also returned frm US to hyd.i always see my fiancée in office but same did he. but always ask God why with me. this continues for 2 years and day by day i was getting weak from heart. In last year october my college mate whom i loved a lot once sent me friend reuest

but i was not happy as i lost my fiancée. we just talk normal work realted talk and then stopped. as i was always thinking of my fiancée. then i thought if i stay in same company then i would think again n again of my fiancée. so i decided to quit company in jan

in jan i joined another company. in dec like other i had wished my collegemate on his b'day n he askd me whr r u these days n y r u nt in touch whr wer u staying in hyd. bt i dint say of my whr abts as i was still in same sad phase. in jan i decided i will live for me wth new co. In may one of my college gal gt married n my collegemate askd if i m attending n i said i cant as i ve wrk n he hd also wrk n he cud nt.

after dat evryday v talk on chat. v used to do in gtalk. den he create for me hotmail id. he suggested d user id lik myname followed bt his name as userid. which in indai possible after marriage. wen i askd wat will i ans to world den he said if afraid dat much say me alternate wen i said if u cant do live it den he created mine lik his id. den v talk on sms. it was nvr a day wen he dint reply back. wen i don't sms sometimes he asks y r u nt smsing.pls don't get angry v 'll meet 2day in net. its his love n care which made me to comeout of sad phase. i fellin love agn wth him.one time i dared n ask if u like me den he said likes me a lot. after dat my expectation increases. bt he was unable to giv me time. bt he does wat evr i says. oneday isad him i luv him . den he cant luv me as if he commits he as tomaary me hwich cud nt b possible. in past he hd luved some 1 his parents dint agree n it dint happen. n he loves his parent a lot. i said atleast u cn try . he said lets c. he hd previously made plan to com 2 hyd 2 meet me in name of som training though his training cn b possible in ne whr in india. on 10th of dis mnth whole day he was wth me on ph n v were making plan wat wud he do after he meets me. n he promised he will regularly giv 3 -5 pm on ph for me he is always busy in ofc.nxt day 3 pm he gt busy n said he wud call me bck

bt 3.30 i hd a meeting

wen he called bck i said i hd to go 2 ofc . don't knw he gt angry or wat he said k. i attended d meeting bt iwas thnkg of him . he sent me a joke msg. bt i sent sad smily. he said wat happened. i dint ans. on dat day he dint talk. for 2 day v dint talk. on wednesday i cried infrnt of him n said u don't luv me . he said coz he doesn't. he likes me a lot. he cares for me a lot. he want me wth him. i said take my promise n say u don't luv me. he dint take . he said he doesn't believe in all such. i said k for me u do. bt he dint take my promise. in india its believe if u take some once promise n lie dat person wud die. he dint take my promise dat he does nt luv me. i hd prevly made him promise dat he wont booze dat often. dat he obeys as i wud feel bad if it gt broken, bt on wednesday he cut call sayng pls change d topic. don't stick on d same thng. on friday imsgd him u r still angry on me he said he is in allhabad 4 his frnds marriage. nxt day i gt thru one of the branded IT company. but i always worried of location as i don't want to change hyderabad location. wen i intimate hi i gt thru a co he ask 1st qn wats d location. den gt 2 knw 4 d 1st time wats my package which is nw more than him. on dat day he lied he is going to mumbai though he was coming for hyderabad. i thought he would surprise me. but after reaching he talk 2me lik he talks to ne of his close frnd without respect which he never does. he said he is in mummbai. he is in hyderabad. nxt dayy he was giving me ample hint dat he is in hyderabad. when i asked are you here he said i am in mumbai. this thing continues till thursday. thursaday i couldnot control isad why you are llying when you are here. he said i intentionally do coz i want you to go out of my life. and blocked gmail. but on saturday his frnd who was online in his id in yahoo mailtold me he intentionally avoids me as ur college groupmate n his close frnd sachin suggests it.i asked a lot of time not to do but he said to his friend why you botheed much. his friend suggested to meet him once and sort out. i said wen he was not interested to meet me how can i meet him. i always thinks something is there which he hides me as he always say v cant b together bt nvr answers why its not possible. sat n sunday also he dint meet me.and without him i feel like dying. he tlks with me related to sex n asks me to com on web cam to do even if he's in hyd. but wen i deny n ask him to come physically n say me u luv me den only it 'll b possible he said he wud com. bt he nvr. he cares for me n wen i cries he felt bad. wen i want to run out of india want to some country he say k go best of luck. but he says how gud it wud be he wud get through company preseny in hyderabad but simultaneously says u go to australia u don't stay. which made me feel dat indirectly says me to stop. sometime i feel he loves me a lot. and sometimes he is so cold blooded. but its also true i cant live without him. now i cant take decission i sud get out of india or stay n wait for him. please help me so that he will also equally express the love like me. i want to be with him through out of hos life. please help me. u r only hope foe me nw. i left everything to GOd. please reply soon.

waiting for your reply. hope u wud bring some ray of hope so that he also will b agree to get married to me.


sunny 6 years ago

u knw wen he was at his home, thru web cam he shows his house. his room. but now its him who says if we meet phsyically then between us attachment wud increase which made him to feel weak. i don't wat thing wud say to him. i feel like crying. Why God always do with me like this . Am i so cursed that i cant get love. please help me to get his love which he used to previously. please made him to agree to get maaried to me. pls.


ki 6 years ago

BULLSH*T......get real dude. ur no REAL man


Taylor 18 6 years ago

Ask yourself.

Do you really believe in all this "Love" stuff?


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

@Sunny, don't cry, whatever you are experiencing right now, its peculiar to so many people in the world; women and men. there is something you should know, "though sorrow and pain may endure for the rest of the night, rejoice for your joy and happiness will come in the morning".

you are experiencing your night now, be patient and wait unto the Lord, your joy will soon come. again, most troubles that we face in our life, are meant to prepare us for our biggest happy experience in life. also, God sometimes allows the satan to tempt us with troubles and tribulations, so as to test our faith in him, therefore Sunny, don't allow your faith to fail at this time, this is just a trial.

Sunny, do you know that not every man or woman that we meet in life is meant to be our future partner? so don't ask God too many questions, don't be in a haste, God is preparing for the best for you, only if you will have the faith.

Remember, faith is a thing of the future, make out time and build your faith in Christ Jesus. let me ask you; "DO YOU BELIEVE IN CHRIST JESUS?" "HAVE YOU ACCEPTED HIM INTO YOUR LIFE?" If you have, then what is a man? all men are created by God through Christ, he has the power to give you the true man that you desire and deserve, get down on your kneels and ask God in prayer.

from what you wrote here, your first relationship was an arrangement marriage, which is wrong because you do not know him too well. the second one, which is the present one now, is facing a problem of trivial misunderstanding between you two. again, i don't see any problem between you and your present boyfriend (fiance'), all you guys need is understanding of what true relationship is, and also to build your moral, emotional and spiritual strength first.

now do this: get a copy of the holy Bible, read verses from Songs of Solomon, day and at midnight, also read Psalm 70 and 62. pray sincerely to God, cry unto him, pour out your fears and worries to him in prayer, ask him to review to you if this guy is your true mate for life in dream or through any other means. get back in three weeks and let me know the outcome. Good luck Sunny, cry no more for God has heard your cry and he has come to your rescue, start rejoicing from today.


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

@Sunny, don't cry, whatever you are experiencing right now, its peculiar to so many people in the world; women and men. there is something you should know, "though sorrow and pain may endure for the rest of the night, rejoice for your joy and happiness will come in the morning".

you are experiencing your night now, be patient and wait unto the Lord, your joy will soon come. again, most troubles that we face in our life, are meant to prepare us for our biggest happy experience in life. also, God sometimes allows the satan to tempt us with troubles and tribulations, so as to test our faith in him, therefore Sunny, don't allow your faith to fail at this time, this is just a trial.

Sunny, do you know that not every man or woman that we meet in life is meant to be our future partner? so don't ask God too many questions, don't be in a haste, God is preparing for the best for you, only if you will have the faith.

Remember, faith is a thing of the future, make out time and build your faith in Christ Jesus. let me ask you; "DO YOU BELIEVE IN CHRIST JESUS?" "HAVE YOU ACCEPTED HIM INTO YOUR LIFE?" If you have, then what is a man? all men are created by God through Christ, he has the power to give you the true man that you desire and deserve, get down on your kneels and ask God in prayer.

from what you wrote here, your first relationship was an arrangement marriage, which is wrong because you do not know him too well. the second one, which is the present one now, is facing a problem of trivial misunderstanding between you two. again, i don't see any problem between you and your present boyfriend (fiance'), all you guys need is understanding of what true relationship is, and also to build your moral, emotional and spiritual strength first.

now do this: get a copy of the holy Bible, read verses from Songs of Solomon, day and at midnight, also read Psalm 70 and 62. pray sincerely to God, cry unto him, pour out your fears and worries to him in prayer, ask him to review to you if this guy is your true mate for life in dream or through any other means. get back in three weeks and let me know the outcome. Good luck Sunny, cry no more for God has heard your cry and he has come to your rescue, start rejoicing from today.


Sapna 6 years ago

Hi,

I read your article and feel that you have observed a lot. Could you please suggest me a solution for my problem?

I am 25 years old. I was in love with a guy for 17 years. i.e from Std 5. I am not sure if it was love then. But, i liked him and was crazy about him, from school days. He was the topper in our class and had many admirers like me. But, he never even bothered to find out. I too was good at studies and to attract his attention, I acted as if I am too keen in defeating him. I argued with him, fought with him... all this time, i wanted him to like me. At last he did. By 9th std, i told him that i love him. He accepted me then. had noticed that he had started responding to me, even before disclosing my love to him.

But, by 10th std, our teachers and family interrupted and he started avoiding me. After that, we studied in different colleges. I always kept myself updated about him. After many years, when we both were employed, and when my family started searching for suitable alliances, I contacted him again. He didn't turn away from me this time. He was surprised to see that I loved him all these years. He responded warmly. He is a guy who never disobeys his parents or lies, for any cause.

When he talked with his parents again, they said they are not interested. He is worried. He asked me to drop this. I said that i can't. He says, if you will live happily with someone else, I am ready to drop it. If you feel that you can't, we'll continue. I am confused. Does he really love me? Is it just bcoz i was waiting for him? We talk 3 to 4 hours a day and he urges me to study more and helps me out with my studies. He does everything for me, including checking my mails to booking my tickets. He is even keen about the dresses I wear. But, he never complains about my friends - whether boy or girl or never even asks me about them. He listens with interest to whatever I say. But, never complains about my habits. I am confused. Does he love me? Why is he not possessive then? He says he trusts me and that's the reason for that. Is that possible? Can guys be not possessive? Does he love me? Then why can't he be strong about it and say that 'come what may, I'll marry you'.. Please help...


Sapna 6 years ago

Hi,

I know that he never had any other girl in his life because he is not very much of a romantic. I loved him for almost all my life and I can't live without him. When he talks with his family, they force him to quit. His mother told me that she was surprised to find that he would do this to them.

He feels bad about hurting me and hurting his parents as well. He always gets confused after talking with them. He stays silent and moody for a couple of days then and comes back to me, on repeated requests. I am not sure if he loves me truly or if it's just bcoz i cant live without him.

Our religions also differ. He is not bothered about that. But, wants me to convert so that his parents would be happy. He always fights with me, if I don't take proper diet. He keeps awake even if he is very sleepy, just to talk with me. But, I am always scared that one day or the other his family would succeed in talking him out of this, if his love is based on just my dedication for him. I asked him if there is something in me that he likes. He says 'you are a good girl' and that's the reason. When i bug him more, he says that there need not be a reason for everything. I don't know if I'll get him. I can't imagine the negative case.

We both work at different places. Quite far. We get to see each other only once in two or three months. Still, he keeps me updated about everything from his meals to when he starts from home and reaches office and the return. Is that all gestures of true love? I am madly in love with him. He says he is practical and that he doesn't know how to express his love.

I can't sleep bcoz of the fear of losing him. Will he leave me one day? Does he love me enough, not to do that?


kayla 6 years ago

I have been wth my bf for almost 3 yrs now. At times i feel so lucky to have him as he is the first one in a serious relationship. But lately, I am getting so mixed up and cry and argue wth him a lot. He works long hours everyday so we barely have time for each other during the week, from 2 to 3 hrs. During his past he had a lot of one night stands and was only in love once with a foreigner. Then he saw me and he started getting interested into me as he wasn;t sure that his gf then was going abroad or not and he was not willing to marry her. On the other hand, he tells me that he never felt this way wth anyone before meeting me,and he tells me that he loves me a million times and that he would never leave me, unless i cheat on him. On the otherhand, i am head over heels for him and i would die to save him , but sometimes he is bad tempered and stubborn and he really pisses me off. I also fear that he would cheat on me because of his past and because i don't find myself very attractive due to amputations in both feet and hands. He knows that i do not really trust him and he gets angry when i tell him so as he says that he loves me how i am. But deep dwn i still fear that he can be unfaithful. We also argue a lot on money because he has got drag racing hobby and he has been spending too much money on this racing car when he cant really afford it. We both have poor salary and we needs loads of money to take a loan on a house, but still he doesn't wanna quit his hobby. When we argue about it he gets angry and tell me i am never gonna quit my hobby as i doing nothing wrong. And i am in a dilemma as I really love him, but I cant make him see how much pain he is putting me thru. Pls i need some advice as sometimes i think suicidal :(


Tammy 6 years ago

Hello, Accofranco.

I have been suggested to consult u regarding my problem by one of my gud friend. Dnt know from where to start….

I know him from more than 2yrs. We met in a coaching center, though we worked in the same company, but have not known each other. He took notice of me there and sent me a friend request in office communicator. I ignored his first few attempts as I dint know him that gud. Finally, I accepted his request. We started talking and meeting each other in office. I got to know, that he had a past. He was mad at a girl for 5 yrs in college. But she rejected him. It took him long to come back to life.

But, he used to flirt with me, which I liked. Soon we started meeting outside office on weeknds and sometimes in late nites after hectic office hours even if it was for few minutes. I started feeling for him, as I believe he is my dream man…the person, whom I was waiting for long…I never felt this for anyone in my life…He used to hold ma hands while we roam around the city. First I found it odd, but later allowed him, as I ws seeing him as my lifepartner. It was around 4months, then one day, while we both were sitting in a garden…he kissed me…we dint know…it happened…I cud only ask him,,,,”Do you love me?” He said…”I dnt know…it just happened…” that whole night, he kept his cell phone off. We both cudnt sleep that nite. In the morning, I again called him…and asked the same thing….he said he does nt know anythg….next day I wrote him a mail…expressing all my feelings towards him and all my dreams. To which he replied, its not possible. He does nt believe in commitments, after wht happened to him in colg...he said he too likes me but has never thought about this relation so intensely as mine. He also said that his parent wud never agree to this as, someone in his family who had a love marriage is still not accepted by his family. He said he does nt want me to suffer the pain which he had already gone through...We decided not to meet, but it cudnt happen…we kept on meeting without any commitments and got physical too…In the meantime, I got another job offer in a diff city (in dec’09), I choose to move on as I ws not seeing any future to our relationship. Last day, when he came to escort me to airport, I was crying….he said…”Love you” before leaving. … I kept on staring at him from my cab window, and his bike made a turn to a new life. He called me on the way..and said I made him cry today. He sent a text msg saying “You have made my life beautiful”

We were still in touch on phones and online chatting. Soon he moved to a diff country. On the day, when he had a flight to US, I again asked him..he said “I dnt know…and its not possible”…I asked him to take my swear and say that you never loved me…not even once…he disconnected the call….later he text messaged me saying “till the time you were in my last thoughts…but u make it complex with your questions…Stay there and life will be beautiful!”. I thought it’s the end now…and everythg now depends on him whether to keep contact with me or to move on…He called me soon after reaching there. He used to call me on weeknds..But from last 3-4weeks, he has not made any call.. His parents are looking for a match for him… one day I pinged him and asked if he hs got someone. He said “No”, and he is busy with wrk…and has not called to any of his friends frm last so many days…I jst requested him to kindly let me know, if smthg is going on. I again asked him the same thing. I told him that I dnt hav any future expectations from him…but still this question bothers me…I said him..that if you dnt love me , gently let me go…He asked what I want from him….He also said he is afraid of my questions…(he has always avoided this topic) bcz he never had an answer to what's there between us and wud never have in future as well….I jst asked him to confess your feelings…He said ..”I liked you….but I never loved you”.

I cudnt take it and cursed him..saying u dnt deserve love and that girl has done fair with u by rejecting u… v dint talk after that..

His statement is making rounds day n nite in my mind…I dnt want to believe this….but I dnt know what to do…as his behaviour used to say smthg else frm what he said that day…

My only concern is to know… has he ever loved me? If he never loved me…y he took so long to confess it…he had nothing to lose anyways…bcz he knew v cant hav a future together...his calls were the only reason, I am alive…everyday i wake up with his thoughts and sleep with all my questions unanswered...Please help me….i need to know this before my death…its important to me than my life… One more thing, I dnt believe in God...and I dnt expect him to come back to me…or to have a future with him anymore…I just want the answer to my question…plz help!


Rachel  6 years ago

Ok, I've been in a relationship for 2 years now with my boyfriend and thing's have been starting to spiral out of control this summer and he decided to dump me. But now, he want's to be my "friend, with benefits." I want to have benefits with him, but, all i see with that, is him only wanting to have sex with me. He's been telling me what he think's and I don't think that's helping me out very much, just depressing me even more with the situation. Question is, should I keep him as a friend with benefits, or just completely drop him? Were both at different transitions with our lives, and have talked about marriage in the future, any advice?


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

To all of my esteemed readers and contributors, i apologize for late replies to your questions and comments, i have been on bed rest, my Doctor said i am suffering from serious Typhoid fever and malaria attack, and that has really kept me back, please bear with me. though i am not totally alright now, but i feel fine, please help me with your sincere prayers, thank you.

@Sapna, one thing i always want you ladies to understand is that; 'love can never be imposed on a man' you can hardly make a man change his like, it takes the grace of God. now to all of you, listen:

i know the grudges you ladies are cropping in your minds, it is not only you that is facing this same problem or situation, what am i talking about? majority of ladies complain that most times, it is the girls who were formerly 'bad girls' that get the good guys. if you ask them to define what they mean by bad girls, it means ladies who have had several encounters with guys in their past and also did som crazy stuff. but as soon as the become true Christians or changed person, they connect with the best men available and they get married successfully. but some other ladies who have lived very good lives, whatever that means to them, find it difficult to connect with a good man. for ladies, this is unfair for a lady who has spent most of her adult life in 'sin' to be the one that men will want. now ask yourself, why does this happen?

the truth is that some of these ladies or girls you call 'bad girls' have cultivated the skill to build friendships with as many people as possible. this social skill is invaluable for you. because these ladies have mastered how to connect with men, they have several men coming after them. it really has nothing to do with their former lifestyle; all they have done is develop their social skills, which you too need to emulate.

another caution you must take is to learn not to prematurely reveal your past to a man you are just building a relationship with. don't be too fast, take it easy, stufy him first and then tell him your past graduallyy so that he won't be overwhelmed or scared and possibly run. you can only reveal your whole past when you must have built trust in him. remember, no company wants to hire an employee who was fired from another company on questionable offense or behavior. this is applicable to men. likewise, the way you as a lady is conscious and cautious of falling in the hands of the bad guy, the same way, a good man is even more cautious of falling into a bad lady.

WARNING!! Do not allow the man to discover your past from an outside source, it is better and safer you let him know yourself, and this must not be done prematurely like i earlier said. again, a man that sees it difficult to handle your past, is not for you, let go fo him. you need someone who loves you just the way you are now.

THINGS YOU MUST AVOID:

1.) For you to connect with a good man, you must let go of men who are not good enough for you.

2.) It is a pure life for you to believe that sex will make you more intimate with that guy you are dating or that sex will fix the things that are not going right between you two. this is only partially true for legally married couple.

3.)Do not hold on to an unsuccessful relationship just because you are tired of the dating cycle (today Mr. A, Tomorrow Mr. B), it doesn't matter, get it right, most ladies do this mistake.

4.) Stop dating immature guys who are still out to have some fun.

5.) Never you make the mistake of building your relationship with a man around sex. think about the future of the relationship when your body is no longer sexually attractive to him? which can happen at any moment after he sleeps with you.

6.) Who is a playboy? He is Mr. Liar, Mr. Excuses, Mr. Very Busy when you have an appointment with him, Mr. Always give me a call before you come over, Mr. too spiritual, Mr. Sex Sex.

Finally, don't force a relationship, you can't convince a man against his will to change his lifestyle, its rare and difficult.

@Rachel, please avoid that guy, disconnect totally with him, he is in for something, and the moment he gets it, he is off again and that will be the end and you are left asylum. don't give him any chance please please!! Good luck! you will find a better suitable man soon, open up yourself, try and grab a copy of my upcoming ebook soon, where i expalined how to connect and find the good men.

@Tammy, he has made his intentions clear, so what elese do you want to hear from him? he has been keeping it to get to the root of what he wants, and finally he has gotten it, so he is gone for real, so buckle up and let the past be the past and get up, there is a good, handsome and honorable man waiting for you out there, go get him, be honest and please be good this time. good luck.

@Kayla, your boyfriend has no problem, all he needs to do is to get over his addiction, which is car racing. you can help him, draw him closer to Christ Jesus, and a new life will come into him, make a step first through prayers and constant bible study. he will change. connect me with him and let me advice him. good luck.

i will write to you guys later, let me have some rest now. i wish you all the best. come back and let me have your testimonies. thanks. Ngozika Nwiro


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

To all of my esteemed readers and contributors, i apologize for late replies to your questions and comments, i have been on bed rest, my Doctor said i am suffering from serious Typhoid fever and malaria attack, and that has really kept me back, please bear with me. though i am not totally alright now, but i feel fine, please help me with your sincere prayers, thank you.

@Sapna, one thing i always want you ladies to understand is that; 'love can never be imposed on a man' you can hardly make a man change his like, it takes the grace of God. now to all of you, listen:

i know the grudges you ladies are cropping in your minds, it is not only you that is facing this same problem or situation, what am i talking about? majority of ladies complain that most times, it is the girls who were formerly 'bad girls' that get the good guys. if you ask them to define what they mean by bad girls, it means ladies who have had several encounters with guys in their past and also did some crazy stuff. but as soon as the become true Christians or changed person, they connect with the best men available and they get married successfully. but some other ladies who have lived very good lives, whatever that means to them, find it difficult to connect with a good man. for ladies, this is unfair for a lady who has spent most of her adult life in 'sin' to be the one that men will want. now ask yourself, why does this happen?

the truth is that some of these ladies or girls you call 'bad girls' have cultivated the skill to build friendships with as many people as possible. this social skill is invaluable for you. because these ladies have mastered how to connect with men, they have several men coming after them. it really has nothing to do with their former lifestyle; all they have done is develop their social skills, which you too need to emulate.

another caution you must take is to learn not to prematurely reveal your past to a man you are just building a relationship with. don't be too fast, take it easy, stufy him first and then tell him your past graduallyy so that he won't be overwhelmed or scared and possibly run. you can only reveal your whole past when you must have built trust in him. remember, no company wants to hire an employee who was fired from another company on questionable offense or behavior. this is applicable to men. likewise, the way you as a lady is conscious and cautious of falling in the hands of the bad guy, the same way, a good man is even more cautious of falling into a bad lady.

WARNING!! Do not allow the man to discover your past from an outside source, it is better and safer you let him know yourself, and this must not be done prematurely like i earlier said. again, a man that sees it difficult to handle your past, is not for you, let go fo him. you need someone who loves you just the way you are now.

THINGS YOU MUST AVOID:

1.) For you to connect with a good man, you must let go of men who are not good enough for you.

2.) It is a pure life for you to believe that sex will make you more intimate with that guy you are dating or that sex will fix the things that are not going right between you two. this is only partially true for legally married couple.

3.)Do not hold on to an unsuccessful relationship just because you are tired of the dating cycle (today Mr. A, Tomorrow Mr. B), it doesn't matter, get it right, most ladies do this mistake.

4.) Stop dating immature guys who are still out to have some fun.

5.) Never you make the mistake of building your relationship with a man around sex. think about the future of the relationship when your body is no longer sexually attractive to him? which can happen at any moment after he sleeps with you.

6.) Who is a playboy? He is Mr. Liar, Mr. Excuses, Mr. Very Busy when you have an appointment with him, Mr. Always give me a call before you come over, Mr. too spiritual, Mr. Sex Sex.

Finally, don't force a relationship, you can't convince a man against his will to change his lifestyle, its rare and difficult.

@Rachel, please avoid that guy, disconnect totally with him, he is in for something, and the moment he gets it, he is off again and that will be the end and you are left asylum. don't give him any chance please please!! Good luck! you will find a better suitable man soon, open up yourself, try and grab a copy of my upcoming ebook soon, where i expalined how to connect and find the good men.

@Tammy, he has made his intentions clear, so what elese do you want to hear from him? he has been keeping it to get to the root of what he wants, and finally he has gotten it, so he is gone for real, so buckle up and let the past be the past and get up, there is a good, handsome and honorable man waiting for you out there, go get him, be honest and please be good this time. good luck.

@Kayla, your boyfriend has no problem, all he needs to do is to get over his addiction, which is car racing. you can help him, draw him closer to Christ Jesus, and a new life will come into him, make a step first through prayers and constant bible study. he will change. connect me with him and let me advice him. good luck.

i will write to you guys later, let me have some rest now. i wish you all the best. come back and let me have your testimonies. thanks. Ngozika Nwiro


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

@Sunny, please try and read my last comment, i also researched it for you. and how is your boyfriend's behavior now?


Sunny 6 years ago

Hi Accofranco,

I am really sorry to get to know that you are not well. May that almighty God take all the pain from you and give you a healthy life and make you well soon. Because I found you a person who concerns about others and help others n God will never make people like you suffer as they are God's messenger who comes to this world to rescue others from trouble and take them near to God.


Sunny 6 years ago

Hi Accofranco,

Thanks for concerning about me and helping me out. You May believe or not..........the day when i posted my concern to you on that day i was feeling more restless as it was happening second time to me and God had brought the person back into my life after 8 year whom i used to love a lot from college days.........but i suffered breaking of heart by bringing a person into life for arrange marriage and taken away. for this i had suffered 2 year as i mentioned at that time only God had brought back the person whom i used to love frm collegedays. I felt so happy wen he said he likes me and does evrything what i likes.He cared for me.......he said he likes me but he didn't love me.In hyd he dint meet me though he had given every details of him like wen he's coming by which train wen he's leaving by which flight .this also hurt me a lot . I wrote you. Previous to that day at night i cried a lot infront of God as i was feeling so lonely as none of my frnd r thr wth me in d same city and i was facing job tension coz which i might lose the job if i don't switch to other Job and in personal life these all are happening. While crying wen i slept i dint know. On dat night in dream i saw Lord is putting his hand on my head and saying don't worry my child ......everything will be alright" and i was crying infront of God's feet. Den i woke up and i found its morning.

My mental condition was like that in office also i wasnot talking any one coz of professional and personal life tension. You wont believe the person till dat used to get contract job interview call staying in permanent position got call from a consultancy sat is you have interview for a branded co in hyd for permanent position.I felt its just like miracle. More the miracle i saw is in job interview i was not asked a single question only basic question like wats ur package wat ur expecting n wen u cn join no much technical qn. I felt like God had arrange the interview for me. I told to my boyfriend also and his 1st qn was wat was the location as he knew i was worried of changing location.On dat day wen read wen ur comment that cry infront of God ,i was thinking of God's miracle as i hd seen by that time. I wen to God's place and asked him the question if my boyfriend is the proper person for me ,is he the person with whom i am going to get married.....and i closed my eyes saying all my pains to him........after some time as if i am dreaming i found my self and my boyfriend together taking blessing of Lord and almighty Lord putting his hands on our hand and blessing us. Next time also i went i saw the same wen i asked this qn agn.

But coming reality after July 25th distance b/w me and keeps on increasing.....i feel like he's avoiding me........and one day in orkut i found that some other gal saying her I love you .........and althose intimate world which is my right on him.And i even i found that replying her missing u a lot.........which hurt me a lot......i could not control my self and deleted him from orkut and he deleted me from gtalk and blocked me msn messenger which he had created for me so dat we can talk always. In my Mind always this qn was coming to me why God y wth me ...its 2nd time u r doing......m i such a cursed gal dat one cant get someone's love if he were nt proper u wud nt show me taking blessing wth him from u .....I dont knw still also i love him a lot bt cant accept him flirting wth some one else.........I finally decided dat i wud take decision for leaving australia which whlie writing to u initially was in dielemma. And I cleared the Australia interview.....its already two weeks we had stopped talking when we used to do talking everyday and one day if idont send sms he used to say why u dint send sms today n missing me a lot nw we are not talking..I mailed him this news thinking that he would stop me.......he replied me i am so happy for you what ever u wished u gt it ..b happy n keep smiling...".

Wat mistake have i done that i am suffering like this ......in my life i always tried to help other how much possible by me.......but why God is giving me such pain.........I hd nvr asked God to bring back my boyfriend whom i used to love from college days as i was suffering from the shochk of my arrange marrige dint gt happend. Its God who brought my boy friend back..............now you only giving me pain.Is it my mistake i still believe u a lot and thnking that u wud make some miracle........thru Accofranco u said the same words which i believe.......Plzzz God help me out till today u ve solved all small prob ..............plz do some miracle made him to marry me...making him loving me truly from heart. Plzzzzzzz God

U knw Accofranco....i hd nvr evr read bible I read those Pslam which u refered and it also says same thing dat i need ur immediate help God and pls made him realize of the thngs wat he did to me and bring him back to me.

Accofranco plzzzz tell me wats my mistake of me........is loving some one from bottom of heart is my mistake or keeping faith in God is my mistake as i accepted him forgetting all my pain coz believing d fact dat God brought him back....was that my mistake.....if he is bot made for me why God shown me dat God is blessing us together which usually happens for husband and wife.pls help me out. I dont knw what sud i do his love.Pls help me Accofranco......you are only hope for me after God..........plssssss


Sunny 6 years ago

U knw sth Accofranco wen 1st time suffer d pain i had hope that God would make evrythng right and kept this line "Morning will come soon". and u knw u said d same line hw i used to thnk. This made me to thnk God has sent you to help me out........pls help me out ........pls do sth so dat he realize my love and come back to me and marry me.I dont feel like living now.....its only faith which kept me alive that oneday evrythng wil be alright.....1st time it dint come true and second time if get broken there is no motivation in my life to live..........pls help me out soon.


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

@Sunny, you have never done anything wrong to love someone, but the issue is loving the wrong person most times is a big problem we face in life as humans, we can only see the outsite we cannot see the heart.

Dear wonderful and heartbroken Sunny, i know and i can feel your deep pain and sorrows right now, but i keep telling you, your morning will soon come, believe it with deep faith and wait and see what Jesus Christ will do in your life.

That young man will only come back to your life if he is truly the one God wants for you, there is no two ways about it. but if he is not, i tell you you will soon connect with the right and deserving man of your dreams, who would love, treat and respect your feelings and emotions, and all these will be for the glory of our lord Jesus Christ. he will do it for you to draw you closer to him.

remember, no situation that you are facing in life is greater or bigger than you, they are mere preparations for your biggest happiest encounter in life. what you are passing through is just to draw you more closer to God and to prepare you for a better, happier and stronger relationship with a good man.

but you must not allow your situation now to ruin your joy and career; do things that makes you happy, go on vacation, explore your dreams, get a life, a man will never give you a life, you alone can define your life, a man will only help to glorify your life and happiness.

don't be fade up with yourself or life or with men, there are as many good and honorable out there as there are sands of the earth, but the problem is you have not prepared yourself to connect with the right one or there is something wrong within. don't expose yourself too fast to a man, do not fall so easily to a man, guard your feelings and your body jealously. and please please, don't force a relationship, that is a big mistake.

keep growing your faith in Christ by reading the bible daily and praying always. always tell your fear and worries only to God Almighty, he has the solution.

as regards my health, i am getting better , i thank you for your warm concern. i will get back to you sooner, and keep me updated with anything that is bordering you, i will keep praying for you, and i will soon give you a couple of my soon to be completed book on how to connect and keep a good man, and how to make him say i do. don't worry Sunny, God is with you, he hears your cries.

as regards the dreams you told me, some times, dreams are just a replay of our daily life events or heart desires, which most times manifest in the form of dream and we do assume them as God's revelation, but God do also rveal things to us through our dreams, but dont feel upset or tired with God, because to you your situation has lasted for long, but to God, it is just a blink of an eye. relax, God is with you. remain at peace and be blessed, concentrate on your job and career, free yourself and see what happens. good luck

take care Sunny.


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

@Sunny, you have never done anything wrong to love someone, but the issue is loving the wrong person most times is a big problem we face in life as humans, we can only see the outsite we cannot see the heart.

Dear wonderful and heartbroken Sunny, i know and i can feel your deep pain and sorrows right now, but i keep telling you, your morning will soon come, believe it with deep faith and wait and see what Jesus Christ will do in your life.

That young man will only come back to your life if he is truly the one God wants for you, there is no two ways about it. but if he is not, i tell you you will soon connect with the right and deserving man of your dreams, who would love, treat and respect your feelings and emotions, and all these will be for the glory of our lord Jesus Christ. he will do it for you to draw you closer to him.

remember, no situation that you are facing in life is greater or bigger than you, they are mere preparations for your biggest happiest encounter in life. what you are passing through is just to draw you more closer to God and to prepare you for a better, happier and stronger relationship with a good man.

but you must not allow your situation now to ruin your joy and career; do things that makes you happy, go on vacation, explore your dreams, get a life, a man will never give you a life, you alone can define your life, a man will only help to glorify your life and happiness.

don't be fade up with yourself or life or with men, there are as many good and honorable out there as there are sands of the earth, but the problem is you have not prepared yourself to connect with the right one or there is something wrong within. don't expose yourself too fast to a man, do not fall so easily to a man, guard your feelings and your body jealously. and please please, don't force a relationship, that is a big mistake.

keep growing your faith in Christ by reading the bible daily and praying always. always tell your fear and worries only to God Almighty, he has the solution.

as regards my health, i am getting better , i thank you for your warm concern. i will get back to you sooner, and keep me updated with anything that is bordering you, i will keep praying for you, and i will soon give you a couple of my soon to be completed book on how to connect and keep a good man, and how to make him say i do. don't worry Sunny, God is with you, he hears your cries.

as regards the dreams you told me, some times, dreams are just a replay of our daily life events or heart desires, which most times manifest in the form of dream and we do assume them as God's revelation, but God do also rveal things to us through our dreams, but dont feel upset or tired with God, because to you your situation has lasted for long, but to God, it is just a blink of an eye. relax, God is with you. remain at peace and be blessed, concentrate on your job and career, free yourself and see what happens. good luck

take care Sunny.


sunny 6 years ago

Thanks Accofranco.It is always said Time is the best medicine for everything.It was my fear in my mind which always made me think that this time also it might had happen like 1st time coz which though i am feeling the God's presence i was still questioning him. yes you are right,if some one is truly yours and God wants the person in your life that person will definilty come back.thats the reason why 1st time when arrange marriage did not happen and prayed a lot to God still it did not come back. at that i had stop bothering about my boyfriend whom i used to love from my college days. But it was destiny that God brought my boyfriend back into my life after 8 year.If God had brought him back after 8 year he would bring him back once again in my life.It was not my dearm accofraco,it really what i felt when i went to God's place in last one month when ever i asked the question about my boyfriend i saw him blessing me and him together.it was not the only case as i mentioned when my job life is in stake at that time its God who said everything will be all right and next day i got other co call and weekend i gt thru dat company. I dont dont know wat all these thing ....but i believe its God's blessing to me.I could now realize what mistake is as think more on it. I belive God but was not able to give 100% as i was afraiding would this time also happen like 1st time. And reality was making me more weak.But Thanks for your help coz now i know its that Almighty who will make everything alright who is continously making correct.Its the testing phase which i have to go through as after this bright morning is there for me.and he is right person for me coz God had given me ample hint. If he had brought him back once in my life he would bring him forever to me. but i have to wait till that time . As in God' place delay is there but darkness is not there.

Thanks for all your suggestion :).Not only to me but to help many peple like me coz i can understand what they feel how they get relaxed after they read your comment .

May God bless you.


Tammy 6 years ago

Thanks Accofranco.“You know, you’re probably right. He should do what his heart tells him. If I’m not the girl for him then I should leave him with his life. I’m sure we’ll both move on and be happy with other people eventually.”

and you know what, I think I have found someone...if i am correctly getting the God's intentions...i will give it time before i take any further decision...

Thanks for all you suggestions...


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

@Tammy and Sunny, thank you all, may Almighty God grant you all your heart desires, and may all your tears at the moment turn into laughter and history. always trust in God through his son, Jesus Christ, and all things will work well for you. pray always with Psalm 62 and read these other verses two: Isaiah 66:12 and Isaiah 53:5. Good luck my dear, i love you all but JESUS loves you more.


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

@Tammy and Sunny, thank you all, may Almighty God grant you all your heart desires, and may all your tears at the moment turn into laughter and history. always trust in God through his son, Jesus Christ, and all things will work well for you. pray always with Psalm 62 and read these other verses two: Isaiah 66:12 and Isaiah 53:5. Good luck my dear, i love you all but JESUS loves you more.


Aneeta 6 years ago

Hi,

I had a relationship for the past 6 years. It started when we were in college. It went well, till we completed our college. After that, we went to work. He is hyper possessive and does things that no one can imagine. He has taken a habit of checking my mobile, taking all the contact lists on my mobile and in case my mobile is engaged, calling them up and disturbing them as well. I was not allowed to talk well to guy friends or colleagues. He has girls as friends with whom he talks and messages and i found out that a couple of them are even on the lines 'I miss you a lot and such kind of intimate stuff'. I found this out, when I checked his mobile one day, to show how it feels when some one watches over you every now and then. But, when I found this out, he told that he won't contact them again. But, he did.

Later, we started fighting over everything and he started abusing my caste & parents. I felt I could not stand it anymore, when he came to my workplace and started making scenes. He sent vulgar messages from his mobile and from other numbers to torture me and harass me. We had been quite intimate and he retains those photos. He threatens to send them over, to my workp place group mail ids and show them off to everyone who knows me. He says he wants me and I can't imagine living with such a dirty guy. He started sending pornographic mails to my official mail id and tampered with my official login id, through extra net. He keeps on threatening me and there is no way anyone can handle him. I thought of committing suicide. I can't take it up with the police since he is threatening me with those photos that he have. Kindly advice.


wellrespected 6 years ago

I was checking the site to see if there was any updates for your upcoming books. While checking I found out you were sick. I'm so sorry to hear that, may god bless you with a speedy recovery. Please take care of yourself and get lots of rest so you can regain strength. From what I heard the doctors in Nigeria are phenomenal, but no one is better than Dr. Jesus even though he created them. Be careful and try to stay germ free. If you take care of your body it will take care of you. I know you are a busy person but sometimes your body will go into shock if its not properly nourish on a daily basis. Eat plenty of fruits and vegetable from its's natural state and drink lots of water. My life is good, God is good, staying positive one day at a time with the intent to reject all negativity out of my life.


cynthia 6 years ago

I have that man the one that has all those wonderful qualities! If I had read this maybe Jan. of last year i would have laughed my butt off cause i truly believed that sort of man did not exist in my town. But this Sat. marks one year of being with the most wonderful Jamaican man i have ever met!!! He treats me like a Queen I truly wish every woman could feel what I live every day of my life...Thank you thank thank you LORD!!!


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

@Aneeta, please forgive me for apportioning blames at this point, you made the mistake of engaging in a sexual intimacy with a guy you have not yet developed full trust with, and you also made a big mistake of allowing him to snap you in bad moods (because i know this picture he is threatening to expose must be sex related or a nude image of you, if i am guessing right?)

once again ladies out there, be careful not to expose yourself too soon to a guy, preserve your dignity for once, don't be fool by that word "i am in love" love has nothing to do with your private part for the start. sex is holy and it is meant for bonding and trust not for every guy you come across, zip up!

please Aneeta, you don't need to worry so much, considering suicide is not the best option for you, it will only make the guy feel like a hero which he is not, i want you to stand out and defeat him. gather your courage, women are no longer the weaker vessels, stop being afraid of what may happen if he exposes the picture of you, let your colleagues and authority at work know your past mistake with him, convince them to understand that it was a mistake which everyone is prone to in life. but now we thank God you have come back to your senses, so don't give up. be courageous, report the matter to a trusted and competent Police Office Department, explain everything in details, and tell him to go ahead and expose the picture, nothing will happen. no man or woman is above mistake in life, it is our ability to come back and realize our mistakes that matters most, which you have done.

lastly, don't trust or commit your whole heart to a guy next time without first testing him. Try and grab a copy of my eBook coming out next week at lulu.com for more knowledge and exposure of the male world and how to connect with the right man that will beg you for marriage. quit every wrong relationship no matter the condition or threat. you have done well, please finish the job, don't give up, don't consider suicide again, and most importantly, commit your pains to God Almighty in prayer. Read Psalm 70 in the Bible every night and pray with it, mentioning this guy's name, God will avenge for you within two weeks. pray with faith, just the way your heart is troubled. you must conquer him. Good luck, cry no more and please go forth and sin no more, Christ is Lord!

@ MY WONDERFUL AND HONORABLE "WELLRESPECTED" i truly respect your words each time i read your comment, it inspires me to keep going. thanks for your concern over my health, glory be to God Almighty, he has really restored my health once again, and i am up and doing, i thank all of you who joined me in prayers, God will continue to see you through in life.

You are right about Nigerian Docs, they are awesome though some are horrible too, they are everywhere lol! concerning my eBook, i will be releasing it next week at lulu.com, so keep checking out for the link. remain blessed.

@cynthia, i am very happy with your testimony, i pray that your happiness be a permanent one indeed!! please always pray for your relationship, good luck dear and thanks for sharing your testimony here. keep reading and please do make sure you grab a copy of my eBook specially meant for ladies. you will be glad after reading through it. bye for now.


Confuzed 6 years ago

Accofranco, I read your entire Hub page and wow! All these people write you their problems and you gracefully write them all back and give them peace and renewed faith. I admire that. I am sorry to hear you are ill and I did prey for God to keep you alive and well. I hope he does so. I am hoping you could help me because I have spent days, nights, and hours in my confusion and help would be greatly appreciated. It’s long but please read it and let me know your honest thoughts. I am so hurt and I cry so much over it…

I met a man who approached me & initiated conversation with me a few months ago. When we first met I was not attracted to him, in fact I saw all of his flaws and paid no mind to him. He was insulted when I didn't know who he was because his father owns the building I have a commercial space in. I only called him to take him up on his offer to provide props for my company photo shoots. We began having meetings that lasted for hours on end and he ended up offering me to be an investor in my company. I still had not fallen for him yet. Once we figured out our terms of business and all was signed and official he proposed a celebration dinner because we were now “involved” as he called it.

This was the first time he asked me out and he insisted that I pick the place. I decided on Chili's and our dinner became a 3 hour talk fest! We began going out regularly together and then his ex-girlfriend came around. From what he says he has a love/hate thing with her. She was his first girlfriend in junior high then she got “model” hot and he has been a fool over her ever since. He resents her because every time she comes around she asks him for money (which I told him isn’t fair because I know first hand how hard he works for it), and has sex with him claiming to love him and then goes back to her abusive boyfriends herself. He admitted that the reason he can’t be with her is because she had an abortion with his child to be with her abusive ex and that kills him. She has another child and he feels sorry for the kid but she leaves him every time. He told me too that if he goes back to her, I would never see him again because she is too jealous and his businesses and partners would all be gone. I was afraid of losing him but I just stayed his friend and guided him through his last date with her. She had the nerve to put him down and tell him he let himself go from when they were last together! I told him to have the biggest smile and stay happy. He was ignoring her so much and texting me she began asking questions and rubbing herself on him but he left her Accofranco and he came to pick me up that night and took me to my cousin’s birthday party when I was on the bus. I asked him if he was coming in and he said, I don’t know am I? And I said yes, he stayed with me and while we were driving to my home, he admitted that I was more important to him than she could ever be. We hugged again that night and things seemed fine. He still kept regularly coming into my office for no reason at all just to see how I was doing, etc. When my phone rang he would lean over and see who was calling me and ask "who's that"? I see past his flaws and see him as my potential husband. I don't usually picture the guys I like as my husband and say so but with "Vince" I saw it and I believed it...I have met Vince's father, his brother, and his childhood best friends. He's taken me to dinners with them and was attentive to me the entire time. We would go for drinks together and when he offered to walk me upstairs to my apartment, I would respectfully say no and hug him so tightly. He’s even been to my home and shown me where he lives, it was awkward standing outside of his bedroom and not going in. One day he offered to drive me to my other job across town and one of his friends was like you’re not going that way, your going the opposite way I heard you on the phone but he still drove me ? He made me happy and for once in my very hurt love life, I felt like a man I was falling for was falling for me too. Two weeks ago (marking now 2 months since we’ve been doing the dinners and dates), we were talking. He had gone to his cousins wedding and it left him in a sad state. He admitted to wanting that too and that seeing where he was alone and drowned in his businesses he wanted to have time for himself. He explained that it was nothing personal but that his participation in my company was going to be lessened but that he would still have weekly & monthly meetings with me. I told him I understood. Somehow we ended up talking about the types of people that were attracted to, he said he likes 5 ft. 8 girls (he is 6 ft 4) that are 120-130 lbs. I am 5 ft. 4 at 170 lbs. While that hurt, I admitted that I was attracted to him and that I wanted to be with him. He stood there starting into nothing for a minute and I said what are you doing? He said I’m thinking. He admitted that he knew I liked him and thought it was because we were spending so much time together and he thought I would get over it. He said “I don’t see you that way”. He apologized for hurting my feelings and I said he hadn’t but we both knew he had. I told him I understood and he said “don’t think I haven’t thought about us and I have fantasized about you” but I don’t want to have something that’s going to end and hurt me. I told him I wasn’t like other women that if he took a chance he would see it. We went into a private area and he told me that all he could offer me was sex. I said, I am not having sex with anyone right now and I am lonely so I am okay with that. He then said I would have to be ok with him making love to other women and I said fine your not my boyfriend but you have to accept me making love to other men too then (I know you frown on this but please read and don’t judge Accofranco) he said if that’s what you want then I’ll learn to accept it. I told him, I like you Vince and I don’t care how I have you as long as I have you, if this is what you want. He grabbed me and began kissing me. Things got heavy and we ended up having intercourse. I allowed him to because I felt love for him. Right after (like 1 min later) he was sitting in a corner ashamed for not having lasted long for me and leaving me wanting more. He started acting really weird. He began saying how he shouldn’t have done it, and how he’s just not ready for anything, even sex and he doesn’t know what he wants. He doesn’t like that he gets attached with sex and he doesn’t want to be hurt. He kept apologizing to me and telling me it wasn’t going to happen again. He stopped kissing me and holding me and I tried not to cry too much to his face so I let him go. I told him I had a meeting to go to and I ran off. He came into my office after my meeting and apologized again, I didn’t know how to feel or react to how he had brushed me off, so I coldly browsed my computer not looking at him and said “I already forgot what happened Vince” and he said, ok I’m distancing myself and left.

I didn’t see or hear from him for a week when I finally told him I was considering leaving our partnership and moving out of the building. We had that meeting last week and ended up talking things out and he wants to keep helping me with my dreams and agreed to stay and confirmed if we were okay and I said yes. He says (I am not sure if he means it though) that he will do dinners again but in time and has asked for me to no longer text or call him for personal reasons. He even told me he can’t forget our encounter and that because of that he put me in a cold place in his mind. He won’t hug me because it’s too close for him and maybe in time we can be friends again. I did try to call him for little things but he was so cold and dismissive that I decided to just stop trying and let him go. I stopped everything and now he’s been slowly coming back around. I was in a bad car accident last Saturday and nearly lost my life. I was sad that I may have died and never known love ? and I told him because I couldn’t come into the office. He did let everybody in and opened and closed the office for me even though my workers said he was hung over. He has been coming to more of


Confuzed 6 years ago

...He has been coming to more of my photo shoots and I did get to tell him about my accident where he said he was sorry it happened and was glad I am okay. The thing here is he was commenting on how pretty my model was and how great her legs were. She is 5 ft. 8 and 120 lbs and I told him that with a smirk remembering what he once said to me and he left shortly after and wished me good health. He has since started coming into my office finding little excuses to pop by and emails me more often. I know he thinks about me but does he care about me that way I want him to? Or am I ready way too much into this and there are no hopes of love between us? Is he worth the wait and if I should fight for him? This is what I am confused with. His father and him don’t have a close relationship, his brother wants nothing to do with him, and his mother is mentally ill. But Accofranco, I love this man with all my heart and soul. I long for him and I need guidance because I hurt for him now…thank you.


yes! 6 years ago

Oh, I know I am a jealous lover :) But I try to tuck it in and keep for myself as much as I can. Thank you for the article! I don't agree on every word, but sure agree with most things you have said. I'm a woman, and I can say what you write is true about my man. We all are different, but these patterns can be recognized, thank you!

PS When I met him, he already dressed to my taste, so I am not sure about that one ;)


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

Thanks once again Confuzed, I am glad that you are coping well. Thank you so much for your concern over my health, by God’s divine grace, I am better now. Dear Confuzed, I understand how you feel at the moment, it pains me a lot when I see or hear about men maltreating or disappointing their lovers, it is so unjust and uncalled for. Every man must stand against it. From what you wrote, the guy likes you, but it is also possible that this likeness did not extend into true love. Remember, he once defined to you the qualities his dream woman must possess, which you never had: “0 ft tall, 0 pound wt and that that size”. Indirectly, he is telling you that you are not his dream woman, please don’t ignore such statements because some men may be scared to tell you openly that you are not the type of woman they want as wife, so they let you know their heart through riddles and such statements.

I know it hurts, but you must accept the reality. Don’t forget that when one man is sending you packing like a trash, another man, if not many men are out there waiting to welcome you and treat you like the Queen of England. You also wrote something about his family; condition of his parents and all the rest of it, please be watchful of this. Don’t forget that we all inherited some traits from our parents by genetics, it is not just a scientific thing, it is real. If his parents are suffering from separation, mental illness and the rest of it, it is also possible that this young man inherits some bit of these traits. Think twice, why did he become angry and disappointed with himself after making love to you as you wrote? There is a secret behind that action that is not yet known to you, be careful my Dear.

I keep lamenting this often and often, don’t jump into a hasty conclusion or decision of saying yes to a guy because of your present condition. No matter the situation, don’t let your wise and good sense of judgment elude you. Listen more attentively to your inner voice, it always communicates with you whenever you want to make a particular decision in life, but the problem is that we most times ignore this voice.

Sit this young man down and ask him why he came back for you. Ask him intelligent open-ended and closed-ended questions on a very good day when both of you are relaxed and happy, then hear him talk, while you carry out your assessment and final judgment. Remember, I don’t know him, I have not seen him for the first time, but you know him too well, so only you can predict his next line of action in situations like this. How I wished I know him, I would have placed surveillance on him, and within the shortest period of time, your problems will be over.

Moreover, it doesn’t matter because your troubles must be over soonest and you will gain your happiness again. Read Hebrews 12:7 and pray with Psalm 70 always. Don’t be afraid of what will happen or the future of the relationship, if it is not destined by God, forget it, pray like I told you, you will soon connect with the right man of your dreams. Don’t forget this verse in the bible that says: “No one can receive anything unless it is given to him from heaven” John 3:27. At this point, I want to encourage you to get a copy of my E-book titled: “Secret Exposure for Single Ladies” at http://www.lulu.com. Don’t forget to encourage your friends, relatives and colleagues to get a copy of this E-book where I took time in explaining all the steps you need to take to connect with that good man of your dreams and still live happily with him. This E-book is my first E-book, and I hope to get good response from all of you guys who enjoy my write up, truly it is heavens for ladies. I look forward to reading your testimonies and comments about the E-book, and please do come back for more questions on your present relationship challenges. I love you guys, but most importantly, Jesus Christ loves you most. Thank you.

@Yes, i am glad to hear the good news about your boyfriend, i wish you many more happiness. and please try and get a copy of me newly published E-book titled: "Secret Exposure for Single Ladies" at lulu.com. thank you.


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

Thanks once again Confuzed, I am glad that you are coping well. Thank you so much for your concern over my health, by God’s divine grace, I am better now. Dear Confuzed, I understand how you feel at the moment, it pains me a lot when I see or hear about men maltreating or disappointing their lovers, it is so unjust and uncalled for. Every man must stand against it. From what you wrote, the guy likes you, but it is also possible that this likeness did not extend into true love. Remember, he once defined to you the qualities his dream woman must possess, which you never had: “0 ft tall, 0 pound wt and that that size”. Indirectly, he is telling you that you are not his dream woman, please don’t ignore such statements because some men may be scared to tell you openly that you are not the type of woman they want as wife, so they let you know their heart through riddles and such statements.

I know it hurts, but you must accept the reality. Don’t forget that when one man is sending you packing like a trash, another man, if not many men are out there waiting to welcome you and treat you like the Queen of England. You also wrote something about his family; condition of his parents and all the rest of it, please be watchful of this. Don’t forget that we all inherited some traits from our parents by genetics, it is not just a scientific thing, it is real. If his parents are suffering from separation, mental illness and the rest of it, it is also possible that this young man inherits some bit of these traits. Think twice, why did he become angry and disappointed with himself after making love to you as you wrote? There is a secret behind that action that is not yet known to you, be careful my Dear.

I keep lamenting this often and often, don’t jump into a hasty conclusion or decision of saying yes to a guy because of your present condition. No matter the situation, don’t let your wise and good sense of judgment elude you. Listen more attentively to your inner voice, it always communicates with you whenever you want to make a particular decision in life, but the problem is that we most times ignore this voice.

Sit this young man down and ask him why he came back for you. Ask him intelligent open-ended and closed-ended questions on a very good day when both of you are relaxed and happy, then hear him talk, while you carry out your assessment and final judgment. Remember, I don’t know him, I have not seen him for the first time, but you know him too well, so only you can predict his next line of action in situations like this. How I wished I know him, I would have placed surveillance on him, and within the shortest period of time, your problems will be over.

Moreover, it doesn’t matter because your troubles must be over soonest and you will gain your happiness again. Read Hebrews 12:7 and pray with Psalm 70 always. Don’t be afraid of what will happen or the future of the relationship, if it is not destined by God, forget it, pray like I told you, you will soon connect with the right man of your dreams. Don’t forget this verse in the bible that says: “No one can receive anything unless it is given to him from heaven” John 3:27. At this point, I want to encourage you to get a copy of my E-book titled: “Secret Exposure for Single Ladies” at http://www.lulu.com. Don’t forget to encourage your friends, relatives and colleagues to get a copy of this E-book where I took time in explaining all the steps you need to take to connect with that good man of your dreams and still live happily with him. This E-book is my first E-book, and I hope to get good response from all of you guys who enjoy my write up, truly it is heavens for ladies. I look forward to reading your testimonies and comments about the E-book, and please do come back for more questions on your present relationship challenges. I love you guys, but most importantly, Jesus Christ loves you most. Thank you.

@Yes, i am glad to hear the good news about your boyfriend, i wish you many more happiness. and please try and get a copy of me newly published E-book titled: "Secret Exposure for Single Ladies" at lulu.com. thank you.


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

Thanks once again Confuzed, I am glad that you are coping well. Thank you so much for your concern over my health, by God’s divine grace, I am better now. Dear Confuzed, I understand how you feel at the moment, it pains me a lot when I see or hear about men maltreating or disappointing their lovers, it is so unjust and uncalled for. Every man must stand against it. From what you wrote, the guy likes you, but it is also possible that this likeness did not extend into true love. Remember, he once defined to you the qualities his dream woman must possess, which you never had: “0 ft tall, 0 pound wt and that that size”. Indirectly, he is telling you that you are not his dream woman, please don’t ignore such statements because some men may be scared to tell you openly that you are not the type of woman they want as wife, so they let you know their heart through riddles and such statements.

I know it hurts, but you must accept the reality. Don’t forget that when one man is sending you packing like a trash, another man, if not many men are out there waiting to welcome you and treat you like the Queen of England. You also wrote something about his family; condition of his parents and all the rest of it, please be watchful of this. Don’t forget that we all inherited some traits from our parents by genetics, it is not just a scientific thing, it is real. If his parents are suffering from separation, mental illness and the rest of it, it is also possible that this young man inherits some bit of these traits. Think twice, why did he become angry and disappointed with himself after making love to you as you wrote? There is a secret behind that action that is not yet known to you, be careful my Dear.

I keep lamenting this often and often, don’t jump into a hasty conclusion or decision of saying yes to a guy because of your present condition. No matter the situation, don’t let your wise and good sense of judgment elude you. Listen more attentively to your inner voice, it always communicates with you whenever you want to make a particular decision in life, but the problem is that we most times ignore this voice.

Sit this young man down and ask him why he came back for you. Ask him intelligent open-ended and closed-ended questions on a very good day when both of you are relaxed and happy, then hear him talk, while you carry out your assessment and final judgment. Remember, I don’t know him, I have not seen him for the first time, but you know him too well, so only you can predict his next line of action in situations like this. How I wished I know him, I would have placed surveillance on him, and within the shortest period of time, your problems will be over.

Moreover, it doesn’t matter because your troubles must be over soonest and you will gain your happiness again. Read Hebrews 12:7 and pray with Psalm 70 always. Don’t be afraid of what will happen or the future of the relationship, if it is not destined by God, forget it, pray like I told you, you will soon connect with the right man of your dreams. Don’t forget this verse in the bible that says: “No one can receive anything unless it is given to him from heaven” John 3:27. At this point, I want to encourage you to get a copy of my E-book titled: “Secret Exposure for Single Ladies” at http://www.lulu.com. Don’t forget to encourage your friends, relatives and colleagues to get a copy of this E-book where I took time in explaining all the steps you need to take to connect with that good man of your dreams and still live happily with him. This E-book is my first E-book, and I hope to get good response from all of you guys who enjoy my write up, truly it is heavens for ladies. I look forward to reading your testimonies and comments about the E-book, and please do come back for more questions on your present relationship challenges. I love you guys, but most importantly, Jesus Christ loves you most. Thank you.

@Yes, i am glad to hear the good news about your boyfriend, i wish you many more happiness. and please try and get a copy of me newly published E-book titled: "Secret Exposure for Single Ladies" at lulu.com. thank you.


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

Thanks once again Confuzed, I am glad that you are coping well. Thank you so much for your concern over my health, by God’s divine grace, I am better now. Dear Confuzed, I understand how you feel at the moment, it pains me a lot when I see or hear about men maltreating or disappointing their lovers, it is so unjust and uncalled for. Every man must stand against it. From what you wrote, the guy likes you, but it is also possible that this likeness did not extend into true love. Remember, he once defined to you the qualities his dream woman must possess, which you never had: “0 ft tall, 0 pound wt and that that size”. Indirectly, he is telling you that you are not his dream woman, please don’t ignore such statements because some men may be scared to tell you openly that you are not the type of woman they want as wife, so they let you know their heart through riddles and such statements.

I know it hurts, but you must accept the reality. Don’t forget that when one man is sending you packing like a trash, another man, if not many men are out there waiting to welcome you and treat you like the Queen of England. You also wrote something about his family; condition of his parents and all the rest of it, please be watchful of this. Don’t forget that we all inherited some traits from our parents by genetics, it is not just a scientific thing, it is real. If his parents are suffering from separation, mental illness and the rest of it, it is also possible that this young man inherits some bit of these traits. Think twice, why did he become angry and disappointed with himself after making love to you as you wrote? There is a secret behind that action that is not yet known to you, be careful my Dear.

I keep lamenting this often and often, don’t jump into a hasty conclusion or decision of saying yes to a guy because of your present condition. No matter the situation, don’t let your wise and good sense of judgment elude you. Listen more attentively to your inner voice, it always communicates with you whenever you want to make a particular decision in life, but the problem is that we most times ignore this voice.

Sit this young man down and ask him why he came back for you. Ask him intelligent open-ended and closed-ended questions on a very good day when both of you are relaxed and happy, then hear him talk, while you carry out your assessment and final judgment. Remember, I don’t know him, I have not seen him for the first time, but you know him too well, so only you can predict his next line of action in situations like this. How I wished I know him, I would have placed surveillance on him, and within the shortest period of time, your problems will be over.

Moreover, it doesn’t matter because your troubles must be over soonest and you will gain your happiness again. Read Hebrews 12:7 and pray with Psalm 70 always. Don’t be afraid of what will happen or the future of the relationship, if it is not destined by God, forget it, pray like I told you, you will soon connect with the right man of your dreams. Don’t forget this verse in the bible that says: “No one can receive anything unless it is given to him from heaven” John 3:27. At this point, I want to encourage you to get a copy of my E-book titled: “Secret Exposure for Single Ladies” at http://www.lulu.com. Don’t forget to encourage your friends, relatives and colleagues to get a copy of this E-book where I took time in explaining all the steps you need to take to connect with that good man of your dreams and still live happily with him. This E-book is my first E-book, and I hope to get good response from all of you guys who enjoy my write up, truly it is heavens for ladies. I look forward to reading your testimonies and comments about the E-book, and please do come back for more questions on your present relationship challenges. I love you guys, but most importantly, Jesus Christ loves you most. Thank you.

@Yes, i am glad to hear the good news about your boyfriend, i wish you many more happiness. and please try and get a copy of me newly published E-book titled: "Secret Exposure for Single Ladies" at lulu.com. thank you.


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

Thanks once again Confuzed, I am glad that you are coping well. Thank you so much for your concern over my health, by God’s divine grace, I am better now. Dear Confuzed, I understand how you feel at the moment, it pains me a lot when I see or hear about men maltreating or disappointing their lovers, it is so unjust and uncalled for. Every man must stand against it. From what you wrote, the guy likes you, but it is also possible that this likeness did not extend into true love. Remember, he once defined to you the qualities his dream woman must possess, which you never had: “0 ft tall, 0 pound wt and that that size”. Indirectly, he is telling you that you are not his dream woman, please don’t ignore such statements because some men may be scared to tell you openly that you are not the type of woman they want as wife, so they let you know their heart through riddles and such statements.

I know it hurts, but you must accept the reality. Don’t forget that when one man is sending you packing like a trash, another man, if not many men are out there waiting to welcome you and treat you like the Queen of England. You also wrote something about his family; condition of his parents and all the rest of it, please be watchful of this. Don’t forget that we all inherited some traits from our parents by genetics, it is not just a scientific thing, it is real. If his parents are suffering from separation, mental illness and the rest of it, it is also possible that this young man inherits some bit of these traits. Think twice, why did he become angry and disappointed with himself after making love to you as you wrote? There is a secret behind that action that is not yet known to you, be careful my Dear.

I keep lamenting this often and often, don’t jump into a hasty conclusion or decision of saying yes to a guy because of your present condition. No matter the situation, don’t let your wise and good sense of judgment elude you. Listen more attentively to your inner voice, it always communicates with you whenever you want to make a particular decision in life, but the problem is that we most times ignore this voice.

Sit this young man down and ask him why he came back for you. Ask him intelligent open-ended and closed-ended questions on a very good day when both of you are relaxed and happy, then hear him talk, while you carry out your assessment and final judgment. Remember, I don’t know him, I have not seen him for the first time, but you know him too well, so only you can predict his next line of action in situations like this. How I wished I know him, I would have placed surveillance on him, and within the shortest period of time, your problems will be over.

Moreover, it doesn’t matter because your troubles must be over soonest and you will gain your happiness again. Read Hebrews 12:7 and pray with Psalm 70 always. Don’t be afraid of what will happen or the future of the relationship, if it is not destined by God, forget it, pray like I told you, you will soon connect with the right man of your dreams. Don’t forget this verse in the bible that says: “No one can receive anything unless it is given to him from heaven” John 3:27. At this point, I want to encourage you to get a copy of my E-book titled: “Secret Exposure for Single Ladies” at http://www.lulu.com. Don’t forget to encourage your friends, relatives and colleagues to get a copy of this E-book where I took time in explaining all the steps you need to take to connect with that good man of your dreams and still live happily with him. This E-book is my first E-book, and I hope to get good response from all of you guys who enjoy my write up, truly it is heavens for ladies. I look forward to reading your testimonies and comments about the E-book, and please do come back for more questions on your present relationship challenges. I love you guys, but most importantly, Jesus Christ loves you most. Thank you.

@Yes, i am glad to hear the good news about your boyfriend, i wish you many more happiness. and please try and get a copy of me newly published E-book titled: "Secret Exposure for Single Ladies" at lulu.com. thank you.


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

Thanks once again Confuzed, I am glad that you are coping well. Thank you so much for your concern over my health, by God’s divine grace, I am better now. Dear Confuzed, I understand how you feel at the moment, it pains me a lot when I see or hear about men maltreating or disappointing their lovers, it is so unjust and uncalled for. Every man must stand against it. From what you wrote, the guy likes you, but it is also possible that this likeness did not extend into true love. Remember, he once defined to you the qualities his dream woman must possess, which you never had: “0 ft tall, 0 pound wt and that that size”. Indirectly, he is telling you that you are not his dream woman, please don’t ignore such statements because some men may be scared to tell you openly that you are not the type of woman they want as wife, so they let you know their heart through riddles and such statements.

I know it hurts, but you must accept the reality. Don’t forget that when one man is sending you packing like a trash, another man, if not many men are out there waiting to welcome you and treat you like the Queen of England. You also wrote something about his family; condition of his parents and all the rest of it, please be watchful of this. Don’t forget that we all inherited some traits from our parents by genetics, it is not just a scientific thing, it is real. If his parents are suffering from separation, mental illness and the rest of it, it is also possible that this young man inherits some bit of these traits. Think twice, why did he become angry and disappointed with himself after making love to you as you wrote? There is a secret behind that action that is not yet known to you, be careful my Dear.

I keep lamenting this often and often, don’t jump into a hasty conclusion or decision of saying yes to a guy because of your present condition. No matter the situation, don’t let your wise and good sense of judgment elude you. Listen more attentively to your inner voice, it always communicates with you whenever you want to make a particular decision in life, but the problem is that we most times ignore this voice.

Sit this young man down and ask him why he came back for you. Ask him intelligent open-ended and closed-ended questions on a very good day when both of you are relaxed and happy, then hear him talk, while you carry out your assessment and final judgment. Remember, I don’t know him, I have not seen him for the first time, but you know him too well, so only you can predict his next line of action in situations like this. How I wished I know him, I would have placed surveillance on him, and within the shortest period of time, your problems will be over.

Moreover, it doesn’t matter because your troubles must be over soonest and you will gain your happiness again. Read Hebrews 12:7 and pray with Psalm 70 always. Don’t be afraid of what will happen or the future of the relationship, if it is not destined by God, forget it, pray like I told you, you will soon connect with the right man of your dreams. Don’t forget this verse in the bible that says: “No one can receive anything unless it is given to him from heaven” John 3:27. At this point, I want to encourage you to get a copy of my E-book titled: “Secret Exposure for Single Ladies” at http://www.lulu.com. Don’t forget to encourage your friends, relatives and colleagues to get a copy of this E-book where I took time in explaining all the steps you need to take to connect with that good man of your dreams and still live happily with him. This E-book is my first E-book, and I hope to get good response from all of you guys who enjoy my write up, truly it is heavens for ladies. I look forward to reading your testimonies and comments about the E-book, and please do come back for more questions on your present relationship challenges. I love you guys, but most importantly, Jesus Christ loves you most. Thank you.

@Yes, i am glad to hear the good news about your boyfriend, i wish you many more happiness. and please try and get a copy of me newly published E-book titled: "Secret Exposure for Single Ladies" at lulu.com. thank you.


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

Thanks once again Confuzed, I am glad that you are coping well. Thank you so much for your concern over my health, by God’s divine grace, I am better now. Dear Confuzed, I understand how you feel at the moment, it pains me a lot when I see or hear about men maltreating or disappointing their lovers, it is so unjust and uncalled for. Every man must stand against it. From what you wrote, the guy likes you, but it is also possible that this likeness did not extend into true love. Remember, he once defined to you the qualities his dream woman must possess, which you never had: “0 ft tall, 0 pound wt and that that size”. Indirectly, he is telling you that you are not his dream woman, please don’t ignore such statements because some men may be scared to tell you openly that you are not the type of woman they want as wife, so they let you know their heart through riddles and such statements.

I know it hurts, but you must accept the reality. Don’t forget that when one man is sending you packing like a trash, another man, if not many men are out there waiting to welcome you and treat you like the Queen of England. You also wrote something about his family; condition of his parents and all the rest of it, please be watchful of this. Don’t forget that we all inherited some traits from our parents by genetics, it is not just a scientific thing, it is real. If his parents are suffering from separation, mental illness and the rest of it, it is also possible that this young man inherits some bit of these traits. Think twice, why did he become angry and disappointed with himself after making love to you as you wrote? There is a secret behind that action that is not yet known to you, be careful my Dear.

I keep lamenting this often and often, don’t jump into a hasty conclusion or decision of saying yes to a guy because of your present condition. No matter the situation, don’t let your wise and good sense of judgment elude you. Listen more attentively to your inner voice, it always communicates with you whenever you want to make a particular decision in life, but the problem is that we most times ignore this voice.

Sit this young man down and ask him why he came back for you. Ask him intelligent open-ended and closed-ended questions on a very good day when both of you are relaxed and happy, then hear him talk, while you carry out your assessment and final judgment. Remember, I don’t know him, I have not seen him for the first time, but you know him too well, so only you can predict his next line of action in situations like this. How I wished I know him, I would have placed surveillance on him, and within the shortest period of time, your problems will be over.

Moreover, it doesn’t matter because your troubles must be over soonest and you will gain your happiness again. Read Hebrews 12:7 and pray with Psalm 70 always. Don’t be afraid of what will happen or the future of the relationship, if it is not destined by God, forget it, pray like I told you, you will soon connect with the right man of your dreams. Don’t forget this verse in the bible that says: “No one can receive anything unless it is given to him from heaven” John 3:27. At this point, I want to encourage you to get a copy of my E-book titled: “Secret Exposure for Single Ladies” at http://www.lulu.com. Don’t forget to encourage your friends, relatives and colleagues to get a copy of this E-book where I took time in explaining all the steps you need to take to connect with that good man of your dreams and still live happily with him. This E-book is my first E-book, and I hope to get good response from all of you guys who enjoy my write up, truly it is heavens for ladies. I look forward to reading your testimonies and comments about the E-book, and please do come back for more questions on your present relationship challenges. I love you guys, but most importantly, Jesus Christ loves you most. Thank you.

@Yes, i am glad to hear the good news about your boyfriend, i wish you many more happiness. and please try and get a copy of me newly published E-book titled: "Secret Exposure for Single Ladies" at lulu.com. thank you.


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

Thanks once again Confuzed, I am glad that you are coping well. Thank you so much for your concern over my health, by God’s divine grace, I am better now. Dear Confuzed, I understand how you feel at the moment, it pains me a lot when I see or hear about men maltreating or disappointing their lovers, it is so unjust and uncalled for. Every man must stand against it. From what you wrote, the guy likes you, but it is also possible that this likeness did not extend into true love. Remember, he once defined to you the qualities his dream woman must possess, which you never had: “0 ft tall, 0 pound wt and that that size”. Indirectly, he is telling you that you are not his dream woman, please don’t ignore such statements because some men may be scared to tell you openly that you are not the type of woman they want as wife, so they let you know their heart through riddles and such statements.

I know it hurts, but you must accept the reality. Don’t forget that when one man is sending you packing like a trash, another man, if not many men are out there waiting to welcome you and treat you like the Queen of England. You also wrote something about his family; condition of his parents and all the rest of it, please be watchful of this. Don’t forget that we all inherited some traits from our parents by genetics, it is not just a scientific thing, it is real. If his parents are suffering from separation, mental illness and the rest of it, it is also possible that this young man inherits some bit of these traits. Think twice, why did he become angry and disappointed with himself after making love to you as you wrote? There is a secret behind that action that is not yet known to you, be careful my Dear.

I keep lamenting this often and often, don’t jump into a hasty conclusion or decision of saying yes to a guy because of your present condition. No matter the situation, don’t let your wise and good sense of judgment elude you. Listen more attentively to your inner voice, it always communicates with you whenever you want to make a particular decision in life, but the problem is that we most times ignore this voice.

Sit this young man down and ask him why he came back for you. Ask him intelligent open-ended and closed-ended questions on a very good day when both of you are relaxed and happy, then hear him talk, while you carry out your assessment and final judgment. Remember, I don’t know him, I have not seen him for the first time, but you know him too well, so only you can predict his next line of action in situations like this. How I wished I know him, I would have placed surveillance on him, and within the shortest period of time, your problems will be over.

Moreover, it doesn’t matter because your troubles must be over soonest and you will gain your happiness again. Read Hebrews 12:7 and pray with Psalm 70 always. Don’t be afraid of what will happen or the future of the relationship, if it is not destined by God, forget it, pray like I told you, you will soon connect with the right man of your dreams. Don’t forget this verse in the bible that says: “No one can receive anything unless it is given to him from heaven” John 3:27. At this point, I want to encourage you to get a copy of my E-book titled: “Secret Exposure for Single Ladies” at http://www.lulu.com. Don’t forget to encourage your friends, relatives and colleagues to get a copy of this E-book where I took time in explaining all the steps you need to take to connect with that good man of your dreams and still live happily with him. This E-book is my first E-book, and I hope to get good response from all of you guys who enjoy my write up, truly it is heavens for ladies. I look forward to reading your testimonies and comments about the E-book, and please do come back for more questions on your present relationship challenges. I love you guys, but most importantly, Jesus Christ loves you most. Thank you.

@Yes, i am glad to hear the good news about your boyfriend, i wish you many more happiness. and please try and get a copy of me newly published E-book titled: "Secret Exposure for Single Ladies" at lulu.com. thank you.


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

Thanks once again Confuzed, I am glad that you are coping well. Thank you so much for your concern over my health, by God’s divine grace, I am better now. Dear Confuzed, I understand how you feel at the moment, it pains me a lot when I see or hear about men maltreating or disappointing their lovers, it is so unjust and uncalled for. Every man must stand against it. From what you wrote, the guy likes you, but it is also possible that this likeness did not extend into true love. Remember, he once defined to you the qualities his dream woman must possess, which you never had: “0 ft tall, 0 pound wt and that that size”. Indirectly, he is telling you that you are not his dream woman, please don’t ignore such statements because some men may be scared to tell you openly that you are not the type of woman they want as wife, so they let you know their heart through riddles and such statements.

I know it hurts, but you must accept the reality. Don’t forget that when one man is sending you packing like a trash, another man, if not many men are out there waiting to welcome you and treat you like the Queen of England. You also wrote something about his family; condition of his parents and all the rest of it, please be watchful of this. Don’t forget that we all inherited some traits from our parents by genetics, it is not just a scientific thing, it is real. If his parents are suffering from separation, mental illness and the rest of it, it is also possible that this young man inherits some bit of these traits. Think twice, why did he become angry and disappointed with himself after making love to you as you wrote? There is a secret behind that action that is not yet known to you, be careful my Dear.

I keep lamenting this often and often, don’t jump into a hasty conclusion or decision of saying yes to a guy because of your present condition. No matter the situation, don’t let your wise and good sense of judgment elude you. Listen more attentively to your inner voice, it always communicates with you whenever you want to make a particular decision in life, but the problem is that we most times ignore this voice.

Sit this young man down and ask him why he came back for you. Ask him intelligent open-ended and closed-ended questions on a very good day when both of you are relaxed and happy, then hear him talk, while you carry out your assessment and final judgment. Remember, I don’t know him, I have not seen him for the first time, but you know him too well, so only you can predict his next line of action in situations like this. How I wished I know him, I would have placed surveillance on him, and within the shortest period of time, your problems will be over.

Moreover, it doesn’t matter because your troubles must be over soonest and you will gain your happiness again. Read Hebrews 12:7 and pray with Psalm 70 always. Don’t be afraid of what will happen or the future of the relationship, if it is not destined by God, forget it, pray like I told you, you will soon connect with the right man of your dreams. Don’t forget this verse in the bible that says: “No one can receive anything unless it is given to him from heaven” John 3:27. At this point, I want to encourage you to get a copy of my E-book titled: “Secret Exposure for Single Ladies” at http://www.lulu.com. Don’t forget to encourage your friends, relatives and colleagues to get a copy of this E-book where I took time in explaining all the steps you need to take to connect with that good man of your dreams and still live happily with him. This E-book is my first E-book, and I hope to get good response from all of you guys who enjoy my write up, truly it is heavens for ladies. I look forward to reading your testimonies and comments about the E-book, and please do come back for more questions on your present relationship challenges. I love you guys, but most importantly, Jesus Christ loves you most. Thank you.

@Yes, i am glad to hear the good news about your boyfriend, i wish you many more happiness. and please try and get a copy of me newly published E-book titled: "Secret Exposure for Single Ladies" at lulu.com. thank you.


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

Thanks once again Confuzed, I am glad that you are coping well. Thank you so much for your concern over my health, by God’s divine grace, I am better now. Dear Confuzed, I understand how you feel at the moment, it pains me a lot when I see or hear about men maltreating or disappointing their lovers, it is so unjust and uncalled for. Every man must stand against it. From what you wrote, the guy likes you, but it is also possible that this likeness did not extend into true love. Remember, he once defined to you the qualities his dream woman must possess, which you never had: “0 ft tall, 0 pound wt and that that size”. Indirectly, he is telling you that you are not his dream woman, please don’t ignore such statements because some men may be scared to tell you openly that you are not the type of woman they want as wife, so they let you know their heart through riddles and such statements.

I know it hurts, but you must accept the reality. Don’t forget that when one man is sending you packing like a trash, another man, if not many men are out there waiting to welcome you and treat you like the Queen of England. You also wrote something about his family; condition of his parents and all the rest of it, please be watchful of this. Don’t forget that we all inherited some traits from our parents by genetics, it is not just a scientific thing, it is real. If his parents are suffering from separation, mental illness and the rest of it, it is also possible that this young man inherits some bit of these traits. Think twice, why did he become angry and disappointed with himself after making love to you as you wrote? There is a secret behind that action that is not yet known to you, be careful my Dear.

I keep lamenting this often and often, don’t jump into a hasty conclusion or decision of saying yes to a guy because of your present condition. No matter the situation, don’t let your wise and good sense of judgment elude you. Listen more attentively to your inner voice, it always communicates with you whenever you want to make a particular decision in life, but the problem is that we most times ignore this voice.

Sit this young man down and ask him why he came back for you. Ask him intelligent open-ended and closed-ended questions on a very good day when both of you are relaxed and happy, then hear him talk, while you carry out your assessment and final judgment. Remember, I don’t know him, I have not seen him for the first time, but you know him too well, so only you can predict his next line of action in situations like this. How I wished I know him, I would have placed surveillance on him, and within the shortest period of time, your problems will be over.

Moreover, it doesn’t matter because your troubles must be over soonest and you will gain your happiness again. Read Hebrews 12:7 and pray with Psalm 70 always. Don’t be afraid of what will happen or the future of the relationship, if it is not destined by God, forget it, pray like I told you, you will soon connect with the right man of your dreams. Don’t forget this verse in the bible that says: “No one can receive anything unless it is given to him from heaven” John 3:27. At this point, I want to encourage you to get a copy of my E-book titled: “Secret Exposure for Single Ladies” at http://www.lulu.com. Don’t forget to encourage your friends, relatives and colleagues to get a copy of this E-book where I took time in explaining all the steps you need to take to connect with that good man of your dreams and still live happily with him. This E-book is my first E-book, and I hope to get good response from all of you guys who enjoy my write up, truly it is heavens for ladies. I look forward to reading your testimonies and comments about the E-book, and please do come back for more questions on your present relationship challenges. I love you guys, but most importantly, Jesus Christ loves you most. Thank you.

@Yes, i am glad to hear the good news about your boyfriend, i wish you many more happiness. and please try and get a copy of me newly published E-book titled: "Secret Exposure for Single Ladies" at lulu.com. thank you.


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

Thanks once again Confuzed, I am glad that you are coping well. Thank you so much for your concern over my health, by God’s divine grace, I am better now. Dear Confuzed, I understand how you feel at the moment, it pains me a lot when I see or hear about men maltreating or disappointing their lovers, it is so unjust and uncalled for. Every man must stand against it. From what you wrote, the guy likes you, but it is also possible that this likeness did not extend into true love. Remember, he once defined to you the qualities his dream woman must possess, which you never had: “0 ft tall, 0 pound wt and that that size”. Indirectly, he is telling you that you are not his dream woman, please don’t ignore such statements because some men may be scared to tell you openly that you are not the type of woman they want as wife, so they let you know their heart through riddles and such statements.

I know it hurts, but you must accept the reality. Don’t forget that when one man is sending you packing like a trash, another man, if not many men are out there waiting to welcome you and treat you like the Queen of England. You also wrote something about his family; condition of his parents and all the rest of it, please be watchful of this. Don’t forget that we all inherited some traits from our parents by genetics, it is not just a scientific thing, it is real. If his parents are suffering from separation, mental illness and the rest of it, it is also possible that this young man inherits some bit of these traits. Think twice, why did he become angry and disappointed with himself after making love to you as you wrote? There is a secret behind that action that is not yet known to you, be careful my Dear.

I keep lamenting this often and often, don’t jump into a hasty conclusion or decision of saying yes to a guy because of your present condition. No matter the situation, don’t let your wise and good sense of judgment elude you. Listen more attentively to your inner voice, it always communicates with you whenever you want to make a particular decision in life, but the problem is that we most times ignore this voice.

Sit this young man down and ask him why he came back for you. Ask him intelligent open-ended and closed-ended questions on a very good day when both of you are relaxed and happy, then hear him talk, while you carry out your assessment and final judgment. Remember, I don’t know him, I have not seen him for the first time, but you know him too well, so only you can predict his next line of action in situations like this. How I wished I know him, I would have placed surveillance on him, and within the shortest period of time, your problems will be over.

Moreover, it doesn’t matter because your troubles must be over soonest and you will gain your happiness again. Read Hebrews 12:7 and pray with Psalm 70 always. Don’t be afraid of what will happen or the future of the relationship, if it is not destined by God, forget it, pray like I told you, you will soon connect with the right man of your dreams. Don’t forget this verse in the bible that says: “No one can receive anything unless it is given to him from heaven” John 3:27. At this point, I want to encourage you to get a copy of my E-book titled: “Secret Exposure for Single Ladies” at http://www.lulu.com. Don’t forget to encourage your friends, relatives and colleagues to get a copy of this E-book where I took time in explaining all the steps you need to take to connect with that good man of your dreams and still live happily with him. This E-book is my first E-book, and I hope to get good response from all of you guys who enjoy my write up, truly it is heavens for ladies. I look forward to reading your testimonies and comments about the E-book, and please do come back for more questions on your present relationship challenges. I love you guys, but most importantly, Jesus Christ loves you most. Thank you.

@Yes, i am glad to hear the good news about your boyfriend, i wish you many more happiness. and please try and get a copy of me newly published E-book titled: "Secret Exposure for Single Ladies" at lulu.com. thank you.


Confused Lady 6 years ago

I've been dating a guy for 2 years. He was in a relationship with his son's mother about 4-5 years ago, but she hurt him so much and it's like he is afraid of going into another. He says he loves me and I do believe him cos he's always there for me, when he got his flat, I chose the decor/furniture etc, he does all the DIY in my house even if I can do it, he has to be the one to do it. I look after his son sometimes and he makes it know to me that his son loves me (his son is 8 years old). The only thing is he says he doesn't want any children yet, which is what I want and he isn't ready for a committed relationship. I love him alot and when we have conversations about our relationship, he says alot of contradictory stuff. He will start off by making me feel we have no chance but the minute I say to him I will leave, he says something that would make me stay. We have tried to just be 'friends' but we couldn't get past a weekend without seeing/speaking with each other. We go out together, he talks about me to his friends/family, he's introduced me to his friends and family. He cares so much about my feelings that it frightens me cos I feel that someday he may want to leave but not tell me cos he doesn't want to hurt my feelings. What should I do? By the way I'm in the middle of divorce proceedings with my ex husband and I don't really want to rush into another, but I love this guy.


In love 6 years ago

Hey Accofranco,

thanks for the wonderful message, am so much in love with this guy, when we started he used to call me and we talk hours on phone and he wanted to spend most of his time with me. we have been together a year and half now, but these days when he is around or has traveled when i call him we can talk less than a minute, its not like i don't have anything to tell him but he cuts me short.

when we are sited somewhere he has to call his friends to join us, am not a talkative person sometimes i feel like am a boring person. Things have changed so much but he tells me that he loves me very much but how can i prove that he really loves me?


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

@Confuzed lady, be careful with the divorce case, don't rush it as you said. you can still fix things right with ur current husband. remember, i have always said it that not every date leads to marriage, a guy may love you and still not want a serious commitment with you, he just want a date and nothing more, so be careful.

@so in love,

go over again and read this hub again, or better still, go and search my other newly published hubs, i tackled your question there. the topics are: how to connect with and keep a good man as a lady. and the other one. good luck. come back with more questions.


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

@Confuzed lady, be careful with the divorce case, don't rush it as you said. you can still fix things right with ur current husband. remember, i have always said it that not every date leads to marriage, a guy may love you and still not want a serious commitment with you, he just want a date and nothing more, so be careful.

@so in love,

go over again and read this hub again, or better still, go and search my other newly published hubs, i tackled your question there. the topics are: how to connect with and keep a good man as a lady. and the other one. good luck. come back with more questions.


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

@Confuzed lady, be careful with the divorce case, don't rush it as you said. you can still fix things right with ur current husband. remember, i have always said it that not every date leads to marriage, a guy may love you and still not want a serious commitment with you, he just want a date and nothing more, so be careful.

@so in love,

go over again and read this hub again, or better still, go and search my other newly published hubs, i tackled your question there. the topics are: how to connect with and keep a good man as a lady. and the other one. good luck. come back with more questions.


wellrespected 6 years ago

When did you say your book was coming out. I searched on lulu.com under ebooks for Secret Exposure for Single Ladies and it was nothing relating to that title.


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

Hello Dear, it is quiet unfortunate that lulu.com contacted me, notifying me that my eBook was not published, that i should come back and correct the problem as soon as possible before they could publish it. and i am very very busy this week, i hope to rectify the problem by next week, so i will also announce it here, so watch out. are you aware of my new hub? it is also wonderful.


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

Check out my newly published hubs, it will also help you in understanding men and relationship more: http://hubpages.com/relationships/How-Does-a-Lady-... and http://hubpages.com/relationships/How-to-Connect-W...


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

@Wellrespected, finally they have published the E-book. you can get to it through this link: http://www.lulu.com/content/e-book/secret-exposure...

you can also search for the title now: secret exposure for single ladies under 'sex and relationships' category. let me get your feedback. thanks and remain blessed.


wellrespected 6 years ago

Purchase a copy of your book. Just from the pages I have read so far it's already a guide for me to become a better person that will attract descent mature men. You touched on a lot of things that I've made mistakes with in the past. For the longest I couldn't figure how why would the only two men that I've ever slept with the first one being my daughter father left me even though they knew I was a good woman. After reading your book I realized I allowed those men into my life because I was young and inexperience with life. At the same time it doesn't make them bad, there just not the one for me. I often wonder why both of them left me for another woman. Several reasons came to mind; not being a good enough lover because I was inexperience, not liking the club scene, don't drink, spoke, attend church or curse. Both of them cheated on me and treated me like crap. One of the points that you touch on regarding don't expose yourself too fast is still confusing for my first relationship. I was a virgin at 20 years old and made him wait over six months, and carried myself in a very respectable manner;wardrobe, conversation, and etc. He still didn't appreciate the fact I was a virtuous woman, but I thought you said every man wanted a virtuous woman. Where did I go wrong? The past is the past only thing I want now is to focus on my career, daughter, and goals. My faith is not as strong as it should be, but franco the third guy that I sleep with I pray to God he is the only man that I ever have to sleep with again. I have no problem abstaining from sex because I can't bring myself to just give myself to different men I want to belong to one man a one man only. It would have been so nice to lose my virginity to one man as I always planned when I was in high school despite what all my other friends was doing. Starting today I'm going to make myself visible but guard my body, and heart like a temple.


naag 6 years ago

hello

I need your help!

Last month, I met with a boy who lives in egypt,but ? dont have the same nationality. When we met felt strange feelings to each other.He is always on msn and he is informing me about his life, work, where he goes I know However as I know just a little bit things about him, I am always suspicious as I really can not believe his love. But there is a real that he never leaves me alone, when he goes out he always inform me and send his pic to prove. These days I feel more doubtful about him, as he wanted to see my body on cam, but I rejected his idea. Why I need your sugeestion is about his behavior, I am really confused. while we are talking he said 'lets sleep' then he went, me too, but he knows I went, I was there just seems offline.. then I saw that he stayed on msn nearly one hour, I felt very angry, I wrote him. Then he answered also he explained in a good way why he stayed till that time.. How can I behave him? and more what can you tell me about his being loyal?


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

Hello my dear Wellrespected, i am glad you finally have a copy of that my E-book, and i am glad also that you are begining to learn a lot of things you hardly knew in the past. concerning your question of why the man didn't love you when you were a virtuous woman. remember, i made mention of the fact that every wrong relationship starts from the foundation stage, which can be traced back to the choice you made...attracting or accepting the wrong man into your life is the beginning of the problem. definitely he's not good for you, so whatever you do irritates him or simply he's blind to see them because he's not good enough for you. if he was, he would have known that you were a treasure found in an island. i also mentioned that some men are not marriageable, they have no family values, so investing your love in such men, is a big risk. but now that you know most of the secrets, i urge you to do your best and adopt most of those guidelines, your life will be transformed beyond your imaginations soon. thanks for the purchase and for coming back to let me know, i am deeply impressed, and i will continue to pray for you, your sorrows and worries will soon be over, start giving the testimony with 'FAITH'. and please i want to encourage you to also encourage your friends and colleagues to also get a copy of this E-book, God will continue to bless you more abundantly as you do so.

@ naag, you need to read my newly published E-book for better and clearer understanding of men and relationship. altogether, do your best to avoid long-distant romantic relationships, it hardly works. most men who engage in this, do it as a fun and not for seriousness, they play with your heart. to them, it is fun; they don't know the harm they are causing, they think you are also enjoying the fun fair. therefore, if you are out for a serious romantic relationship which will lead to marriage, there are a lot of ways to go about it, not through distant relationships. be careful, most guys do have more than five different lovers (girlfriends) on the internet from may be different countries, they hardly know how those ladies feel, they are just having fun. don't invest your time and emotion on such men. never you make the mistake of reviewing your body to a man you met on the internet, some do record it, be careful dear, there are a lot of dishonesty going on on the internet today, guard yourself jealously. on a more serious note, i would recommend you get a copy of my newly published E-book at lulu.com , search for the title: "Secret Exposure for Single Ladies" it will help you a lot, it has helped a lot of ladies, i hope to hear your testimony very soon. Good luck


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

Hello my dear Wellrespected, i am glad you finally have a copy of that my E-book, and i am glad also that you are becoming to learn a lot of things you hardly knew in the past. concerning your question of why the man didn't love you when you were a virtuous woman. remember, a made mention of the fact that every wrong relationship starts from the choice...attracting or accepting the wrong man into your life is the beginning of the problem. definitely he's not good for you, so whatever you do irritates him or simply he's blind to see them because he's not good enough for you. if he was, he would definitely know that you are a treasure found in an island. i also mentioned that some men are not marriageable, they have no family values, so investing your love in such men, is a big risk. but now that you know most of the secrets, i urge you to do your best and adopt most of those guidelines, your life will be transformed beyond your imaginations soon. thanks for the purchase and for coming back to let me know, i am deeply impressed, and i will continue to pray for you, your sorrows and worries will soon be over, start giving the testimony with 'FAITH'. and please i want to encourage you to also encourage your friends and colleagues to also get a copy of this E-book, God will continue to bless you as you do so.

@ naag, you need to read my newly published E-book for better and cleaere understanding of men and relationship. altogether, do your best to avoid long-distant romantic relationships, it hardly works. most men who engage in this, do it as a fun and not for seriousness, they play with your heart, to them, it is fun, they don't know the harm they are causing, they think you are also enjoying the fun fair. therefore, if you are out for a serious romantic relationship, there are a lot of ways to go about it, not through distant relationships. be careful, most guys do have more than five different lovers (girlfriends) on the internet from may be different countries, they hardly know how those ladies feel, they are just having fun. don't invest your time and emotion on such men. never you make the mistake of reviewing your body to a man you met on the internet, some do record it, be careful dear, there are a lot of dishonesty going on on the internet today, guard yourself jealously. on a more serious note, i would recommend you get a copy of my newly published E-book at lulu.com , search for the title: "Secret Exposure for Single Ladies", i hope to hear your testimony very soon. Good luck


wellrespected 6 years ago

@ naag, please do yourself a huge favor and purchase a copy of franco new release book listed above. It describes everything in detail of the do's and don't of avoiding hearting and loving yourself to the fullest. The mistake you made is ok, as long as you learn from it. His book really touch on exposing our bodies to fast and losing our self-respect to things that are unknown to us before we made the decision and thought is was ok. From the moment your eyes are set on the words and insight from his book, your self esteem, self-confidence, and self respect will reach another level that you never thought was possible.


Confused Lady 6 years ago

Hi Accofranco

Thanks for the advice. My ex marriage is a no go so there's no doubt about that. To cut a long story short, it's one of those marriages where I met him abroad, liked him, got married and he came here for me to know he was a completely different person from when I knew him. I used to come and go for 2 years since we met, but the minute he came here, it was abuse after abuse and the guy was so disrespectful that he even extended it to my family members including my mum. Even after he left the home, he continued to say some terrible things about me, my mum and my family. I'm a person that once a partner loses respect for the other, it's time to leave, particularly, if they refuse to change so my divorce in that respect is going ahead. We've had pastors and neutral people involved to make the marriage work, but some people's character is impossible to change. Anyway, enough of that. I've sorted things out with my present guy and I feel he is considering marrying me in due course. We've had discussions and little disagreements, and from what he has said to me i.e he wants me to always be in his life, he would like to marry me when the time is right etc. We had a talk yesterday after I was upset with him for something that really wasn't his fault, he felt I didn't trust him and he was hurt by this saying he's been so good etc. Anyway I reassured him I did trust him alot b'cos of the respect he gives me. Anyway from that conversation, I realised he does consider us to be in a relationship and he says he wants to spend his life with me. I feel much better now and have decided to enjoy the moment and take things one step at a time.


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

@Wellrespected, thanks so much, i do appreciate you a lot, don't worry, i don't have anything to say now. God bless you abundantly.

@Confuzed Lady, i am very glad of your good news, you know i am assured now of your peace of mind because i do pray for all of my readers and those who consult for my advice, because i know the advises i give to people doesn't come from me, but from the inspiration that God Almighty do give me to solve peoples' problems. i bless his holy name.

My dear, i would also recommend that you get a copy of my newly published E-book at lulu.com, i am not just saying this to advertise my product, but to hear more and more ladies having a more happier and successful relationships with their partners. get a copy of it, it will help you to discover things you never knew about men, and it will also help you to amend your life and to transform it into a more glorious one that your man will be so proud of. if you wish to get a copy, visit this link; http://www.lulu.com/product/ebook/secret-exposure-...


michelletampes 6 years ago

I believe a man who really loves his girl will always bring out the best in her, and inspire her to do better all the time. He should not control his girl, giving her time to do things on her own. A relationship should always be worked out by two people, creates an "US" without destroyig a "ME."


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

@michelletampes, you are very correct, i love that contribution from you, keep it up, campaign for it. and please do try and get a copy of my E-book for your loved ones, it will really help them to know their worth and also understand men and relationship more better. hope to hear good news about the E-book from you soon. anyway, thanks for making out time to comment. remain blessed


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

@michelletampes, you are very correct, i love that contribution from you, keep it up, campaign for it. and please do try and get a copy of my E-book for your loved ones, it will really help them to know their worth and also understand men and relationship more better. hope to hear good news about the E-book from you soon. anyway, thanks for making out time to comment. remain blessed


Vicky 6 years ago

Love is hard and painfull, i wish i hadnt fallen in love because it is doing so much damage. I am in love with my partner so much he is my world, i fear with out him i would be lost. He told me he was not in love with me anymore but he loves and cares for me. That broke my heart its destroying me i can not make him love me, but also i can not let go. How can i let go? i need to but i carnt, i have tryd killing myself twice. He laughd at me the first time, am still sleeping with him shud i stop? and its only when it suits him. What makes it harder is we have a son together and i want him to have both me and his dad. Am so angry with him


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

@Vicky, its a pity. i feel so bad about your current situation. definitely, you need to disengage every sexual relationship with him immediately;sleeping with him will never change the situation at hand, instead he will use it as an advantage to exploit you and to hurt you the more because,the more you have such intimacy with him,the more you feel emotionally for him,when he is not ready to reciprocate this emotional love from you. i would suggest that you disengage from sexual activities with him as soon as possible dear. the earlier the better.

i also understand how you care for your son, but at this point,your emotion and happiness is the most important thing now. don't hang on in that relationship before you die emotionally,which might also lead to physical death.

there are a lot of things you need to learn and practice, i have taken much time in narrating these issues in my newly published E-book at lulu.com. the title is: "Secret Exposure for Single Ladies", it is not only for single ladies,most married and engaged ladies who have already purchased the e-book, have been writing back to thank me. so i suggest you get a copy as soon as possible, and i promise you that you will come back giving wonderful positive testimonies. give it a try, it doesn't cost much, don't let money be a barrier to your source of knowledge and empowerment.

but more importantly, try what i told you earlier. good luck,and please never try again to take your own life. don't ever think of it,it is unwise for a wonderfully made lady like you. take care. you can ask more questions if you have any. bye! Read Psalm 70 in the Holy Bible.


Brittany 6 years ago

I have a question...If my man is picturing me sleeping with other women, and tells me about these fantasies, does this mean that he does not love me because he is willing to share me? Does this mean that our relationship is only about the sex to him? This has been bothering me tremendously and I would appreciate your opinions and advice!


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accofranco 6 years ago from L Island Author

@Britany, please that shows no love. it is all about LUST! Run, Run! and please desist from such acts, it will only destroy your life in future. thanks for reading. if you have more questions, do ask, and i must apologize for my late reply.


wellrespected 6 years ago

Hello franco hope all is well with your health and well being. The book is 5 stars plus. Your book has given me wisdom, faith, strength that beyond my imagination. The thought of having no fear to trust God to send the man of my dreams is wonderful, but the most exciting part is knowing the exposure to men all over the world. I need your advice on something. I met this Nigerian guy he's one of those to Mr.to Nice guy. Everyday he's telling me how beautiful I am, and always wanting to see me. A couple days goes by and he says to me Jenita I really really really like you, but I want to be honest with you because I would love to build something with you seriously. I came from Nigeria when I was 25, everything was so hard for me not being a citizen, therefore I married an American girl for my green card and I have a son for her. We are no longer involve and my son is with me 80% of the time. She also has two daughters that calls me their father and I don't want to abandon them. I know this is alot to think about but will you please think about this I don't want to cause you any emotional distress but I don't want you to walk out of my life. I can't stop thinking about you the first day I saw you in the store I couldn't stop staring until you said hi and after that I felt so embarass because you caught me off guard. I just don't know franco I don't want to bring that into my life, three kids, and even though the marriage is for the green card he's still married. He received the green card about 3 mos ago. Please help me with this.


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accofranco 5 years ago from L Island Author

@wellrespected, hello my dearest, i am very very glad to hear that you are coping very well. as for me, i am pretty cool, just figuring out how to promote my e-book more, haven got much buyers, but the few that did purchased it like you, are really thanking me. one said that 'Franco, you saved my life with this wonderful e-book, i am forever grateful'. anyway, concerning the Nigerian guy you just met, i think you know better now how to handle men, run the test i recommended on him. don't trust him yet until you test him first. test him in a way he won't expect, and then check out what becomes of him.

honestly, he told you the truth, concerning the green card thing, most Nigerians abroad who traveled illegitimately always face that problem abroad, so they always do what he said to become a legal migrant. meanwhile, he's being open to you concerning this may not mean that he is honest about his whole life. a man may be honest about part A of his life, and be dishonest about part B and C of his life, be watchful and cautious, you are a wise woman now than before.

aside that, ask yourself the question of; am i really prepared to marry this guy despite his past existing marriages? if you are very sure you can cope with this challenges, then go ahead and verify all the things and stories he told you, to ascertain if they are true or false. after carrying out this careful investigation, and your findings satisfy you, you can now go ahead cautiously in relationship with him. but my beloved sister and friend, you must do this with carefulness together with Bible principles.

remember, choosing the right spouse in life cannot just be based on our own human judgment, but we must involve God through constant and dedicated faithful prayers. wellrespected, please go down on your knees and put this guy in your prayers. i wish you all the best, and please do keep me updated with the latest. finally, try and refer your friends online to my e-book link. and i will love to add you to my facebook friends, how do you see it? take care dear. good luck and God bless you


teddie 5 years ago

hi!! its been awhile! ive been talking to a new guy and hes on his way to see me neext weekend! we talked for about a month and aa half now.... what do i do??


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accofranco 5 years ago from L Island Author

@teddie, its good news! but you must follow him with caution, remeber, don't fall into him too cheaply... please i would also suggest that you read my other article titled: how to connect with and keep a good man. just click on this link : http://hubpages.com/relationships/How-to-Connect-W... and finally, if you can be able to afford it, i would also recommend that you grab a copy of my E-book titled 'secret exposure for single ladies'($12 only) at:http://www.lulu.com/content/e-book/secret-exposure...


wellrespected 5 years ago

Thank you my luv. Advice from you is always so soothing. I just don't know accofranco if I can deal with his dedication with the two kids that's not his flesh and blood. He has these kids at least 5-6 days out of the week. It's definitely a new experience from the other other Nigerian men I have dealt with. I don't understand him, its only been a month ane he's telling me that he wants me to come to Nigeria with him in December, please let him know so he can get my ticket. Just not understanding, he ask me to stop living in the past and please don't punish him for how other Nigerian men has mistreated me. Franco I'm jus so scared its seems to good to be true that he's so into me and majority of the avaliable for me when I need him. Regarding your book I found a way to promote it if you don't mind. I am a consultant for passion parties, my idea is to incorporate your book into my show regarding great passion with the right man and how to have it, get it, and keep it. Let me know:)


Alice_babeyy 5 years ago

Ok well first off, I've been talking to this one guy for like a month now maybe 2. I honestly beleive that I am in love with him, but we are not dating so that's bad that I have such strong feelings for him. Here's the problem: he always sends me these mixed signals, hes told me he loves me before, and has said he THINKS he wants to be with me, BUT he won't date me for some reason, now, he didn't say that he didn't want to date me, he just hasn't asked me out... I probably should mention that he has been hurt by girls many times. I think he might not want to date me because he's scared to get hurt again, but then why give me all these signals like he's interested in the first place? Also, he told me that he completely let me in and says he trusts me. I dont understand, I KNOW he has feelings for me I can just tell and we have such agreat connection, I felt it the minute I started talking and he said he felt it too. So idk plzz help me I have no idea what to do :(

to him and he said he felt it too.


LDR lover 5 years ago

I could really use some reassuring words.. My boyfriend (of 7 months) and I have been in a long distance relationship for 4 of those months (due to military reasons). We talk every day and usually don't have any problems at all. Every once in awhile we'll get upset because of the distance and think it's not possible to stay together (for the next 3 years until he gets out of the military). My main concern is that we have only spent about three or four months physically together... Is that long enough to keep us going strong for the next three years until we can live together? He does all of the things you've mentioned a loving man will do. I have a good relationship with his parents and we communicate well... It just seems like an unfulfilling relationship bc we can't spend it together but we both know it's real love... Is it worth the wait?


keva 5 years ago

Idk everything seems blah to me bout men I've been with my husband for 11 yrs and no matter what I read or anyone says still doesn't make me feel any different but god bless and thankyou for giving advice I really just don't think people can change their relationships without changing themselves.


Ashlayyy_gurl 5 years ago

Ok so first off, I am an 18 year old girl. A month (maybe 2) ago, one of my good friends told me she was talking to a guy and told me to call him because he's closer to my age than hers, and she thought she might play matchmaker and try to get us together. So that night I did call him just on a whim to see what he was like, and we talked for HOURS! I almost instantly felt a connection to this guy. I trusted him within the first 10 mins of talking, I have no idea why, I just did there was just something about him... But anyway, so now I almost talk to him on the phone every day, and we recently just met in real life. Nothing changed when we met, he was still the same person. before we met, he told me he was a very hurt guy, but I didn't truly see the pain until me met and I looked into his eyes. There was alot of pain there. But anyway, so now I'm in love with the guy, I feel like I want to protect him from ever getting hurt again. Here's the problem: we aren't dating... So I basically fell in love with a guy who seems like he is broken beyond repair. I want to help him and fix him so bad but he doesn't want to date because he doesn't want to screw me over and hurt me if he doesn't fall in love with me. So he's basically not going out with me to protect me from getting hurt again, because he knows I've been hurt alot too. But I really want   to be with him, is there anything I can do to prove to him that I wont hurt him? To help heal his broken heart?


Ashlayyy_gurl 5 years ago

Ok so first off, I am an 18 year old girl. A month (maybe 2) ago, one of my good friends told me she was talking to a guy and told me to call him because he's closer to my age than hers, and she thought she might play matchmaker and try to get us together. So that night I did call him just on a whim to see what he was like, and we talked for HOURS! I almost instantly felt a connection to this guy. I trusted him within the first 10 mins of talking, I have no idea why, I just did there was just something about him... But anyway, so now I almost talk to him on the phone every day, and we recently just met in real life. Nothing changed when we met, he was still the same person. before we met, he told me he was a very hurt guy, but I didn't truly see the pain until me met and I looked into his eyes. There was alot of pain there. But anyway, so now I'm in love with the guy, I feel like I want to protect him from ever getting hurt again. Here's the problem: we aren't dating... So I basically fell in love with a guy who seems like he is broken beyond repair. I want to help him and fix him so bad but he doesn't want to date because he doesn't want to screw me over and hurt me if he doesn't fall in love with me. So he's basically not going out with me to protect me from getting hurt again, because he knows I've been hurt alot too. But I really want   to be with him, is there anything I can do to prove to him that I wont hurt him? To help heal his broken heart?


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accofranco 5 years ago from L Island Author

To all my esteemed readers, i love and care for you all, and i apologize for late replies, i have been too busy, also my laptop developed a fault recently, so i am working towards fixing it. i promise before weekend, i am going to fix it right and i am going to reply all your comments and questions, stay calm and be patient, all your problems will soon be over, God is concerned about you and your happiness. God bless you all.

@my love "Wellrespected", i respect you a lot, and i wish to see you one on one some day. please i would be very glad if you will grant me such opportunity, i am very much ready and willing to cooperate with you to make sure my book sells. many people who read my book always commend it, but i have not had the opportunity of a wider promotion to boost the sale and marketing. please do get back to me, and let me know what information you need from me. Thanks.


newest jordan shoes 5 years ago

Thanks for the introduction! I am always reading your blog and only today I have

spotted the post with introduction! I am one hundred percent sure that Jodi is cool as

other members are. Good luck in your future work


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accofranco 5 years ago from L Island Author

@Wellrespected, my dearest one, please ask him to tell you his real native Nigerian names, Nigerian state/local government of origin and the time he came to the United States to reside. then i want you to tell me clearly what you want from marriage and what you want in marriage? until i get answers from you, then i can give you my final word on this very issue. meanwhile, stay cool for now and please do take care of yourself. bye.

@LDR, can you wait for that long, it all depends on you. do you have the strong faith that he will come back desiring you like he do right now? if you can bear it, and you have the faith, then why not? but mind you, i am not an advocate of a long distant relationship that barely lasted (because trust has not yet been developed between you two),but if you want to give it a try, then go ahead and tell him to commit with you officially if he wants you to wait, so you can know what you are waiting for. Good luck LDR, plz docome back for updates and questions.

@Alice and Ashlayyy, please click on this link:(http://hubpages.com/hub/How-to-Connect-With-Keep-a... and read this hub carefully, all the answers you need are there, i have taken time to put them down for ladies like you, so feel free and enjoy the exposure, you will be glad you did. and please do leave a comment there so i can know if it did helped you solve your challenges right now. and for further clarifications, do come back here and ask me, i am at your service, your joy and happiness is also mine. i wish you guys all the best.

@Keva and Newest jordan, thanks a lot for making out time to read and commend my work, may the good lord in heavens reward you guys abundantly in all your life endeavors. Thank you all.

PLEASE YOU GUYS CAN ALWAYS FOLLOW ME UP ON "FACEBOOK", just follow the link: http://facebook.com/accofranco

ON TWITTER: Search for: "accofranco" or: NWIRO NGOZIKA. I have to go now, but not from your presence. Good luck!


Ashlayy_gurl 5 years ago

Thank you accofranco for recommending that link. It did help alot, it made me realize that I'm getting hurt alot because of the way I dress, and my attitude, im attracting the wrong kind of guys. But the guy I asked you about erlier, he's so different than any guy I really even talk to, and now he is interested in the friend that introduced us to each other, but when she told him that she wasn't interested in him because she's interested in someone else, he was like "good, you passed my test, now go get the man you want." and the friend that introduced us asked him why he wouldn't be with me, he said that I was moving too fast for him, but told her not to tell me but she did anyway. I don't understand why he would say that though, because he was the one telling me he thinks he wants to be with me and that he loves me, he was pushing me to fall in love with him but now he's saying I was moving too fast? I don't understand at all... I truly beleive in my heart he's not a player and is just playing me, but what other reason could he be doing these things then??


:-) 5 years ago

it ws really nice reading ur work accofranco thank u....... it helped....bt i still feel insecured.


Taborn 5 years ago

hey..you heplped me a hell of a lot..i was so blind but i am actually going to try and get over this dude..if you know what you're talking about then i am definitely getting played honey..THANX a Lot


Jessica 5 years ago

All of this is pissing me off. I am15 an I know better than you. Me an my boyfriend of 3 years are very happy together and I am fine with him bein with his friends as long as he doesn't give me up for them all the time. I trust him and we are best friends. We just started the whole kissing and making out and touchy feely stuff and yeah it was awkward at first but now it's great(: jealousy can be stopped by trust and sex can mean love or lust but the difference between the two is that if you were inlove you would give up the world to just see them an if it is just lust you feel great when you are with them but after the moment is over you realize anyone else could do the same to you. If you love Someone you can't forget them but once they are gone you try your hardest to do so but deep down inside something is holding back. My guy isn't like otherguys at all. He would do anything to help me and he would die of o died. He cries I I cry and he means the world to me. We have been best friends for ever and I know we will be for the rest of our lifes.


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accofranco 5 years ago from L Island Author

@Ashlayyyy, i understand how you feel dear, it hurts. what you are feeling right now is what we call: "lovelorn" check it from your dictionary. it is a hurtful feeling and condition. but you can help yourself out. remember, men are not always attracted to every lady or girl they come in contact with. this might be your case. he might not be so much attracted to you to the extent of desiring to date you as you wish, may be he just likes you and thats all, nothing attached to it, it happens more often.

and an attempt to persuade him or lure him into a romantic relationship with you, may lead to a later heart break, especially when you must have falling deeply in love with him. a man does not need to be told that he needs this girl or lady around him. a man does not need to be pushed to acknowledge that he loves a girl, once does truly, he goes for it (if no inferiority complex is attached), which i believe he is not feeling inferior to you right now, it is a case of making a choice. i am sorry to tell you that the guy admired your friend more than he admires you (forgive me for disclosing this to you). had it been your girlfriend agreed to go on date with him, he would have moved on happily with her, without your knowledge or with your later knowledge.

all said and done, don't feel insecure my dear, it happens to all of us once in a lifetime (lovelorn), but that is not the end of the world anyway. like i always tell ladies, there are one million and one honest and good guys out there to welcome you like the queen of England,they are there waiting to celebrate you as their queen, princess and in fact god. buckle yourself up, don't persuade he to love you because love cause nothing but love in return, so relax and be yourself. sooner than later, the right guy will come your way, or if he is for you, what must be must be. he will surely come back begging for his past ignorance and mistakes, then the pride shall be yours. but you must be careful to avoid a break of heart.

i have a lot and a lot to educate you guys, but i can't just do that here alone, and that was why i put together this brainstorming e-book for all of you ladies, as an eye opener and a life transformer. all the ladies that purchased a copy of it, are writing back everyday, thanking me for the wonderful explore. if you and your friends would like to get one to guide you guys in your relationship/marriage life, write me back, so i can give you the link to it on lulu.com (an American publishing agent.) have a nice day for now Ashlayyyy, and please please, don't feel insecure again, you are bigger than that girl, wake up, this is 21st century and not 80s. anyway, good luck. do write back for further questions.

@SUNNY, how are you coping right now, is your boyfriend back to you? if not, write me personally to my box: click on my username: "accofranco", check for the icon: "contact accofranco", clck on it, then feel out the forms with your message attached to it. i will tell you what to do. have a nice time guys.

@Taborn, thanks for writing back, really appreciate. my joy is to see a lot of ladies globally, getting happier and happier in their relationship and marriage. it is inhumane to maltreat innocent ladies for nothing sake. good luck and do stay cool.

@Jessica, thanks for pouring out your feelings, but you must be very cautious and careful, love hurts at times, love they said is also wicked, but i pray that will not be your portion. but from your comment, i guess you are still under teenage pressure and love, do wake up and please always pray hard, so he won't change. you can still apply some of the principles mentioned here to at least enhance your relationship and love life the more. anyway, thanks for reading and do have a great day dear.


Ashlayy_girl 5 years ago

Thank you accofraco you are very wise. Your completely right, I haven't talked to the guy in a week now and in completely okay with it, of course I miss talking to him but I think it's for the best because if I do talk to him all the feelings will come flooding back and I don't want them to. The strange thing is that he wants my friend but he's never met her in real life only texting and calling on the phone, and he has met me in person. What's even weirder is that he isn't talking to my friend either right now so I don't know lol. It was hard,but I've already accepted the fact that he just didn't want to be with me and I told him that and he's like thats not true I just need to figure things out and I was like then why would you want her and not me? And he's like "think of it this way, what if you knew someone who had alot of problems and being with them was the only way you knew how to help them? Would you help them?" and I was like ya I would help them, and he's like ok then so I don't know, everytime I hint to him that I'm giving up on wanting to be with him he tries to do something to get it where I don't want to give up anymore... But I made the deision not to contact him anymore because it's literally driving me insane I cant take it, so if he ever wants to talk to me again he will have to contact me, and meanwhile I'm just gonna look around and met new guys :)


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accofranco 5 years ago from L Island Author

@Ashlayyyyy, just like i told you in my last comment, be happy, compose yourself and feel happy for all hope is not lost. when he realizes his mistakes, he will definitely come back to his senses and he will then come back creeping on the floor. i am a man, and i know men, some times, they are fooled by their immature desires and fantasies, which they always realize latter (if not late). read good books on how to package yourself as a lady, transform your inner self and you will see yourself become irresistible by men who deserve your love. i wish you all the best in all your life and romantic endeavors. if you encounter any difficulty or challenge any time, call on me, i am at your service, any time, any day. stay blessed beloved.


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accofranco 5 years ago from L Island Author

@Ashlayyyyy, just like i told you in my last comment, be happy, compose yourself and feel happy for all hope is not lost. when he realizes his mistakes, he will definitely come back to his senses and he will then come back creeping on the floor. i am a man, and i know men, some times, they are fooled by their immature desires and fantasies, which they always realize latter (if not late). read good books on how to package yourself as a lady, transform your inner self and you will see yourself become irresistible by men who deserve your love. i wish you all the best in all your life and romantic endeavors. if you encounter any difficulty or challenge any time, call on me, i am at your service, any time, any day. stay blessed beloved.


Ashlayy_gurl 5 years ago

Thank you so much accofranco you are a life saver, and I will definately come back if I have any more difficulties. :)


Moons 5 years ago

Sweet. Thanks for sharing


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accofranco 5 years ago from L Island Author

@Ashlayyy,thank you. You guys are my inspiration,please lets keep the fire burning. I wish you all the best dear ashlayyy.

@moons,thanks for reading.


ash 5 years ago

thank yu accofranco.i fell in love with this guy in 2007 he told me he had a wife and kids bt he wanted mo i agreed to that.2008 he paid my brideprice 2009 i had a son for him everything was ok bt nw if i ask him why he came home late or why he is talking to his ex-galfriend he starts telling me staff like yu dont tell me wat to do yu are trying to take a position thats not yours yu know i have a wife.i dont need another wife lets just be friends yu just be the mother of my children.he says words that hurts me sometimes i even wonder is he the man i fell inlove with a man who used to wisper nice and sweet words in my ear.im just not sure if he loves me.he bought me a car he give me money ower sex life is very much alive.yu ask him why he did that he tells yu whats yo problem yu have a car yu have money what else do yu need.what do you want frm me...i just dont know him anymore


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accofranco 5 years ago from L Island Author

@ash, please my dear, i need you to answer this question before i can give you my word: when you met this man, was he still legally married to the first woman you referred to as his wife? or were they divorced legally? don't cry yet, all is well, all hope is not yet lost. be strong.


ria  5 years ago

HE IS COMING IN D SAME VAN WITH ME. I REALLY REALLY REALLY LUV HIM SOOOOO MUCH. HE IS SO CARING AND AFFECTIONATE TO HIS BROTHER AND HE IS FRIENDLY WITH EVERYONE. IAM ALSO A FRIEND OF HIM IN FACEBOOK. A WEEK AGO, A GAL FRM HIS PREVIOUS SCHOOL COMMENTED LINKING BOTH OF US.....I REALLY FELT DOWN BCOZ OF DAT COMMENT BUT AFTER SOMETIME HE RESPONDED TO DAT COMMENT SAYING IAM LIKE HIS SISTER. THATS ALL MY HEART BROKE...NOW I DONT FEEL LIKE TALKING 2 ANY1.IMAGINE HOW IT WOULD BE WHEN D PERSON WHOM U LUV DESCRIBES U AS HIS SISTER....NOW I STILL LIKE HIM...BUT DONT KNOW WHAT 2 DO. PLZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ PLZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ PLLLLLLLLZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ HELP ME


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accofranco 5 years ago from L Island Author

@ria, my dear, please can you write back and explain in detail, i didn't understand you well. but let me know at the same time, are you guys dating in real life already? has he ever told you that he loves you? how intimate is your relationship with him, or are you just admiring him (don't feel offended with my questions), just trying to figure out the best solution for you. write back and let me know. thanks for reading, and do not lose hope, the world is not over yet, believe me, nothing bad has happened until i hear from you dear. be strong, all is well, relax okay?


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accofranco 5 years ago from L Island Author

i need you guys to get a copy of my e-book, at least as a reward for my effort in making sure your relationships work for good. i have just set a discount today. just visit the page: http://www.lulu.com/content/e-book/secret-exposure...


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accofranco 5 years ago from L Island Author

@ria, i also need you to tell me where you are currently, where the guy is and where the other girl that commented on the link is too. also, i would suggest that you get a copy of my e-book, just go through the link i gave above, it cost just a peny.


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accofranco 5 years ago from L Island Author

@ ALL MY ESTEEM READERS:

I need you guys to get a copy of my e-book and see how your life will be transformed in a blink. DO NOT BE SCARED OF ENTERING YOUR CREDIT CARD INFO, I KNOW ABOUT THE VARIOUS ONLINE CREDIT CARD SCAMS GOING ON, BUT I ASSURE YOU, "LULU.COM" is a trusted and reputable site as far as online purchasing using credit card is concerned. already, a quiet appreciable number of ladies have purchased it and i bet you, they have been writing back thanking me for opening their eyes through this E-book. i want you to join among these testifiers and see if i am telling you the truth or not.

Give it a try and see. i hope to hear from you guys soonest. Thanks for your wonderful support and inspirations. Remain blessed.


ria 5 years ago

@ accofranco. UR REALLY A NICE PERSON.IAM REALLY HAPPY DAT U R WILLING 2 HELP ME...BUT NO ONE CAN HELP ME BCOZ OF THE CULTURE AND SOCIETY WE HAVE IN TAMILNADU(A STATE IN INDIA) AND IAM FROM A ORTHODOX FAMILY.....SO EVEN IF U JUST TALK 2 A GUY....PPL WILL FEEL BAD ABT US. I DIDNT EVEN GET A CHANCE 2 TALK 2 HIM CASUALLY....U ANT EVEN IMAGINE DATING...ONLY IF GOD THINKS DAT WE MUST B UNITED WE WILL UNITE. OTHERWISE NO HOPE


ria 5 years ago

I HAVE FAITH IN GOD AND HE CAN DO MIRACLES. SO EVERYONE.....CAN U PLZZZZZ PRAY 4 ME. I WILL BE HAPPY


ria 5 years ago

@ ACCOFRACO. I THINK HE ADMIRES A GAL FRM D SAME SCHOOL IN WHICH WE BOTH R STUDYING.HIS FACE TURNS PALE IF HE COULDNT SEE DAT GAL EVEN 4 A DAY. OMG!!! ITS OKAY 4 ME IF HE IGNORES ME BUT I HOPE HE DOESNT LUV HER...AS SHE IS WORST BEING I HAVE EVER MET. SHE IS A KIND OF PERSON WHO LIKES 2 SHOW OFF AND SHE IS RUDE 2 EVERY1 ANDD SHE CANT EVEN JIBE WITH HER OWN SISTER. CAN SAY DAT SHE IS VICE VERSA OF HIM


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accofranco 5 years ago from L Island Author

@ria, okay i can understand the point and place you are coming from. anyway, i love your strong faith, please keep it up because faith can move mountains. so be strong and keep it up. i will surely join you in prayers just like i do pray for all my fans. i wish you the best of luck and please from time to to time do come back here and read some other comments to help yourself and to educate yourself the more. stay cool. bye for now dear ria.


ria 5 years ago

@ accofranco THANXXXXX A LOT. YA I WILL COME BACK AND READ COMMENTS


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accofranco 5 years ago from L Island Author

@ria, thanks a million fold and do keep the reading on and on...


jessie 5 years ago

wow !!! this is really a good hub but @accofranco, i have a huge doubt whether a guy in my volley ball team loves me or not. he is totally a nice person and i admire him a lot but i dunno whether he does it. but he often stares at me and look at me whenever iam playing with my friends,laughing and having fun. he pretends as if he looks my friend but i finally found dat he looks at me but whenever i look at him he changes the direction. many of my folks told dat he loves me but i musnt overthink or imagine unwantedly and bcom shattered after he tells dat he doesnt love me. so i want your answer


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accofranco 5 years ago from L Island Author

@jessie, from your explanations, he is probably admiring you, but this may not have materialized to love, so don't misinterpret him yet. it is also possible that he loves you, but he doesn't want it to get into your head, in that case, i would love to know your country of residence, your age and the guy's age too, to proffer more answer...meanwhile, thanks for reading.


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accofranco 5 years ago from L Island Author

@jessie, i would love to also refer you to this hub: (http://hubpages.com/hub/Frequently-Asked-Question-... make out time and read it carefully, it will also help you a lot to answer your question and in the future. share it among your friends, and do not hesitate to come back with any question or questions that borders you. Take care dear.


jessie 5 years ago

iam from kansas and 16 yrs and he is 2 yrs older than me... and AN IMPORTANT NEWS my closest buddy told me that he asked 4 my NUMBER AND IT SEEMS HE ALSO SAID 2 TAKE CARE OF MYSELF WHEN I WAS HAVING FLU A MONTH BACK


jessie 5 years ago

but i didnt get any call from him yet


jessie 5 years ago

@ACCOFRACO, I GET 2 READ ALL THE COMMENTS ONLY NOW AND U KNOW IAM REALLY SURPRISED OF THE ATTITUDE U HAVE AND YOU ARE REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY NICE 2 CONCERN ABT YOUR READERS ISSUES. YOU RESPONDED 2 EVERY COMMENT EVEN WHEN U WAS HAVING TYPHOID. IAM REALLY PROUD 2 MEET YOU AND YOU WOULD B 1 OF D SWEETEST PERSON I HAVE EVER MET.


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accofranco 5 years ago from L Island Author

@Jessie, just be patient, he will surely come to you if he is truly in love, every man does..unless he is feeling inferior (inferiority complex), in that case, he is not for you; forget him, because any man who loves a woman or girl should be bold enough to walk up to her and tell her his mind, instead of dieing in silence. don't make the move yet, just be patient for some time, but help him and give him more edge to reach you...don't make it too difficult for him to reach you...but please, when the relationship finally materializes, play say: abstinence from sex remains the best solution for you at your present age, to avoid later life regrets which many ladies did.

show him love, but zip up your skirt...lol! it pays not to indulge in early or premarital sex, wait for the right time will soon come and you will enjoy it okay?

i love you Jessie, but most importantly, Jesus Christ loves you the more, are you born again Jessie?

Thanks once again for commending my efforts to respond to every comment from my readers, anyway, i have no other choice because that was why i wrote the article at the first time; to help ladies and girls like you solve their relationship problems and worries. i enjoy doing it, and i want to do it in a wider scope, accross borders, boundaries and shores, do you think i can achieve this? you can encourage me the more by passing sharing this article among your friends, neighbors and schoolmates, share it on your facebook status (if you have one), refer your friends to read it and encourage them to always drop comment so i can know how they feel.

thank you Jessie, i am also very proud to read your wonderful and inspiring comments, i would have been glad to know you, your friends and to be your guide to avoid making mistakes with men, most are wicked and dangerous, they enjoy destroying women's joy. thanks and please do keep reading other of my articles.

bye...miss you....


jessie 5 years ago

REALLY THANKZZZZZZ 4 YOUR ADVICE AND EVEN MY FRIENDS TOLD ME 2 DO THE SAME THING I WILL WAIT.ya 4 sure i will tell about your articles to all my friends. I think it will solve all their problems and i will share this article with everyone. I WILL SURELY PRAY TO THAT ALMIGHTY FOR U TO SUCCEED IN EVERY STEP U TAKE


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accofranco 5 years ago from L Island Author

@Jessie, you really made me happy with your wonderful and inspiring comments...i am more than thankful...thanks a million times. Remain blessed now and ever.


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accofranco 5 years ago from L Island Author

@Jessie, you really made me happy with your wonderful and inspiring comments...i am more than thankful...thanks a million times. Remain blessed now and ever.


jessie 5 years ago

I CANT REALLY UNDERSTAND WHAT GUYS ARE UP2..WHY THEY LOVE CHEATING ON GIRLS. just after a day i passed my last comment....i got his call and he told me 2 come 2 volley practice 4 sure and then last eve invited me 2 his sis b'day nd again he called me and reminded me about the party. THAT MEANS HE LOVES ME ? EVERY TIME HE CALLS ME....I HAVE THAT AWKWARD FEELING AND I BADLY WANTED HIM 2 TELL THAT 3 WORDS. WHENEVER I SPEAK WITH HIM I FEEL LIKE I NEED 2 HEAR HIS PLEASANT VOICE 4EVER. AM I FALLING 4 HIM ? I WAS JUZZ ADMIRING HIM BUT NOW I FEEL LIKE I CANT IMAGINE A WORLD WITHOUT HIM. SO, I WORE THE CUTEST DRESS IN HIS FAVORITE GREEN FOR THE PARTY AND I DIDNT EVEN IMAGINE THAT HE WILL TELL LIKE THIS: "HEY I NEVER THOUGHT THAT U R SO CUTE...U R HOT" I WAS OUT OF THE WORLD. I WAS SOOOOOOOOO HAPPY THAT I NEVER SLEPT THAT NIGHT...... BUT ALL MY DREAMS WERE TOTALLY SHATTERED WHEN I SAW HIM WITH A GIRL DURING LUNCH. DEVON,I THINK HER NAME MUST BE CHANGED 2 DEMON..THAT DIRTY GAL ALWAYS HAS THE HABIT 2 CRUSH ON OTHER'S BF'S AND NOW MINE. I JUZZ WANT 2 BEAT MYSELF WITH SOME TORN SANDALS SAYING "WHY DID I LOVE HIM SOOO MUCH" AND ANOTHER DAY WHEN HE COULDNT SEE HER "U HAVE ANY IDEA, WHERE 2 FIND DEVON" I JUZZ TOLD I DONNO AND HE AGAIN ASKED ME HOW SHE DID HER FRENCH PAPER. IT WAS IN MY TIP OF TONGUE 2 ASK "HOW DO I KNOW, U ONLY KNOW ABOUT YOUR gf" BUT I JUST ANSWERED I DONNO 4 EVERY QUESTIONS HE ASKED..AND HE FINALLY WENT OFF. IT WAS MY FAULT. I THOUGHT HE LOVED ME BUT SAYING SOME1 THAT THEY R HOT DOESNT REALLY MEAN THAT THEY R IN LOVE


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accofranco 5 years ago from L Island Author

@jessie, you need to understand that men by nature are polygamous, it is only the love of something like, Jesus Christ that can make them faithful...though you mis read him...try and learn more.


rashmi 5 years ago

really a good article...


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accofranco 5 years ago from L Island Author

@Jessie, happy valentines in arrears...i am sure you finally found joy? i also forgot to tell you that reasonable men do not always cheat on their lovers even though they have the nature of cheating running in their veins, they exercise what is called SELF-CONTROL to guard themselves from selfish desires and orgy, and age, maturity and upbringing also plays a role in how a man behaves towards girls.

@rashmi, thank you for the encouraging comment, i really appreciate...


christy 5 years ago

your all dumb, to be in love you need a guy thats not a scumbag. plain and simple.


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accofranco 5 years ago from L Island Author

@christy, still trying to figure out your point sweet heart...please can you make it more clearer for all of us and many other readers?...anyway, thanks for stopping by to read and add a word....thank you.


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100ktrainer 5 years ago from Michigan

Thanks for sharing your point of view. It's always nice to get different opinions and advice on trying to find out if a guy loves you! Sometimes, trying to read the signs can be tough if you don't know what to look for.

Well if you get a chance check out my hubs. I also have a blog I like to share on this topic.

http://www.howdoIknowifhelovesme.com


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accofranco 5 years ago from L Island Author

@1000Ktriner, thank you for stopping by, and i am glad the article has helped alot of ladies globally who always wrote back to thank me.

definitely, i will check on your blog later today when i am more chanced. thank you.


chaitra 5 years ago

I desperately need ur help sir.. i am in a relationship from 2 months and i have been feeling insecure that he is not in love with me truely.. Its true tat i cant live without him n i cant lose him... i quarrel with him often and end up feeling guilty of doubting on him... Its a long-distance relationship and i dont know whether he loves me truely or just passing time with me.... He tells tat he is serious about me but he is fed up with my doubting nature it seems... so please help me out sir... i want u to tell me whether he is loving me truely or not...


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accofranco 5 years ago from L Island Author

@chaitra, tell me your age, location as in country, the guy's age and location and how did you met him? until i hear from you, then can i advice you...take care dear...and be calm all will be alright. thanks for stopping by and sharing your relationship challenges.


chaitra 5 years ago

Sir thank u soo much for replying... and I am 22 years old.. He is 25.. I stay in India... He is working in Dubai(UAE).. And we met throug a Social Networking site... I have heard from many saying that don't beleive people from such sites.. But what I feel is even i am using that site and I am sincere and true.. I trusted that He is true and sincere... So i stepped into the relationship... Kindly advice me sir whether I am right or wrong..


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accofranco 5 years ago from L Island Author

@chaitra, internet relationship do work, but out of 100%, 15% or less do work out healthy as planned. this is as a result of so many reasons, and most people do have hidden intentions when engaging in internet relationship, some lie about their profile to impress the other partner...so make sure he is really real and sincere before getting committed to the relationship.

have you seen him live through a webcam? have you spoken to him? if he is truly in for you, ask him to make out time to pay you a visit...don't be the one to visit first, let him visit you. and if i may ask again, is he from india but working in dubai or he is from dubai? then ask him what does he want from the relationship, tell him to give you his manifesto about the relationship.

if he agrees to visit, let me know when he wants to come...and when he gives you his manifesto, give me a reply to let me know. all these are what i need to know his mindset, and has he introduced you to any of his friends on phone, his family members...etc.

till i hear from you,take care chaitra.


chaitra 5 years ago

Thank u Sir... I am glad to get so much assistance from you... Coming to his details He is from India but working In dubai.. and He said me that as he has busy work schedule right now and he will be getting Vacations only after 3 months that is June and July.. that time he has told me that he will meet me for sure...And I have spoken to him over phone many times.. And he has introduced me to one of his friends.. and He had told me that he has fallen in Love with me and he never forced me too agree for his proposal... As i had also fallen in Love with him by that time, I agreed... I think I have given you all u asked... And thank u so much Sir.. I am feeling very Happy that You are Helping Me out...


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accofranco 5 years ago from L Island Author

@Chaitra, yes i have good information to advice you now. i have been advising many ladies on relationship issues, so make sure you don't rush into a hasty love. check him in and out, play a hush, with hold your emotions a bit until you meet him in person. but i am sure you are not falling in love with him because of financial reasons, i hope you understand me well? if you are sure, i suggest you try and become his best friend, get to know him, if possible try and meet his family members and wait till he returns back for vacation. never you try and send him a nude picture of yourself, to avoid him blackmailing you or rating you as immoral, just keep him alive friendly...and wait, i believe it will work out fine, yes people do fall in love on the internet, i did one time. so i wish you the best. and be careful dear. all the best. you can contact me for assistance any time you need it. bye.


chaitra 5 years ago

Thank u so much sir for spending ur precious time n replying me.. As u said i have not fallen in love for financial reasons n i am happy tat u guessed me correct.. And coming to him, till nw neither him nor myself have not crossed the limits in talking n i assure we wont.. But according to ur suggestion I will follow ur suggestions n I will get to knw him well.. Thank u a lot Sir for helping me out.. I will surely keep in touch with u regularly for guidance.. Bye.. U too take care Sir..:)


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accofranco 5 years ago from L Island Author

@Chaitra, you are welcomed...i look forward to hearing good testimonies from you, and do keep me updated when your wedding with him will be taking place...lol...goodluck dear Chaitra.


chaitra 5 years ago

Hello Sir.. I am back again with another question.. I hope I am not bugging u.. lol.. Actually i heard that if a man loves a girl truely He will go out of his way to spend time with her.. but my man is too busy with his work and He will sleep for more than 10 hours after returning back from work.. He hasn't done anything for spending time with me by changing his routine.. Its only me who does many things by goin out of my way to chat with him when he is available.. does he really love me?? plz guide me sir.


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accofranco 5 years ago from L Island Author

@chaitra, lol..of course you aren't bugging me my dear. i wrote this to assist ladies, and i have been assisting them, and i love doing it, and i will keep doing it even at stringent situation. concerning your question, yes it is true, but your own case is a bit different for now, just relax, feel at ease with him, try and understand that he emigrated from India to Dubai for a purpose and a target, may be to make life more comfortable for him and his siblings, so give him some time to stabilize, until you two meets, and ceal your agreement in love, then you can count whether he is making out time for you or not. be at ease for now okay? i hope this answered your question? if you still need more clarification, let me know, i am never upset with helping ladies and young girls....i enjoy seeing them prosper in their relationship. Take care chaitra.


chaitra 5 years ago

Thank You Sir.. I will follow your words.. And this website has really been helping me as well as others in relationship issues.. People can easily share their problems with you and get the right solution.. Great work Sir.. :)


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accofranco 5 years ago from L Island Author

@chaitra, you are welcome...i am glad to be of help and to be a part of ladies' successes in relationship. feel free to get to me whenever you need my advice...i am glad, thank you.


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FOREX NINJA 5 years ago

Great article with wonderful information that really went straight to the points.I love and enjoyed reading this article.


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accofranco 5 years ago from L Island Author

@FOREX NINJA, thanks for reading....glad you found the information helpful.....


chaitra 5 years ago

Hello sir, how r you?? and actually i am sorry that while telling my problem i have hid one fact from you... actually my guy had told clearly before getting into a relationship that he cannot marry me because of religious issues as we are from different religions.(In india its very much treated like a crime if we get married to a person from different religion). But i was seriously in love with him and i thought that i will change his decision and will convince him to marry me and so i got engaged with him. But now things are not going easy sir. He is strongly stuck to his decision. I have stopped talking about that matter with him. But what is the point in being in a relationship when we r not going to get married?? I stil thought what he told was practically right and so i only changed my decision..And he is very busy with his work. Not even on weekend holiday he spends some time with me. I am really frustrated with all these. If i say that I will break-up, then also he will convince me somehow that he loves me a lot and makes me change my decision of break-up.Always i keep on expecting him to give attention to me and spend time with me atleast weekly once but when it does not happen i get upset. So i am really tensed always worrying about it. So i thought I will seek your help. I wanted to know Is he really in love with me or he is just playing with my feelings?? and also I wanted to know whether This problem is from my side or from his side. What should I do now sir?? I feel bad on myself for always quarelling with him.. Am i wrong in expecting from him?? Please help me sir.. I am not able to judge him or anything.. I hope you will guide me to the right path..

Thank You.


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accofranco 5 years ago from L Island Author

@Chaitra, how i wished you could get a copy of my Ebook: Secret Exposure for single ladies at: www.lulu.com, i explained more than what you are requesting in that ebook, i made out time to spell out everything and steps ladies need to take to keep their relationship alive.

okay, for the sake of your question, some men do use some ladies to while away loneliness and uncertainty, what do i mean? may be he has not truly found the girl he truly loves, so he just hang on with you to while away time while waiting to find his dream girl. again, he might be expecting great things to come when he finally meets you, so he just hang on to see what would happen,if you are as beautiful and attractive as he is fantasizing now...

but remember, for a relationship to work out fine, the two partners must share a common religious value, that is very important, religion matters unless one partner is absolutely ready and willing to make a change from the heart, not just to be with the person, because things might not work smoothly as you wish.

concerning time, some men value their financial welfare more than any other thing, while some value fun, women more than finance or career, may be he is that type that values his job, finance and career.

men are highly influenced by physical presence, they are not like women who can hang on and get immediate satisfaction through emotional cares shown through: phone calls, sms and email messages. may be he is getting fade up with the long distant relationship, may be he is in dire need of a physical contact: touch, hold hands, hugs, etc....may be, so find out.

the problem is neither from you nor from him, it is a problem of circumstances and condition of you guys meeting each other...but if you guys can't settle all the worries, quarrels, please it is better you guys call it quits now that it is earlier than when it is too late.

regarding if he loves you, i can't just tell now, you are far, he is far, no physical attraction yet, nothing much to show, but he may be in love with you out of fantasies and imaginations and great expectation, but i can just say for now...

i hope i answered your questions? and please bear with me for late replies, i have been a bit busy. take care Chaitra.


chaitra 5 years ago

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Its okay sir.. Reply me whenever you are free only.. No problem..

And I feel I still need some advice from You sir.. Please excuse me if I am giving you much troubles..

Regarding the time issues that was worrying me, I am somehow convinced now.. But Now I am worried that Maybe he is playing around with me for whiling away his loneliness... I have this doubt 75% but i am not sure.. What should and can i do to find it out?? Shall I stop replying him for few days and see what he does or how he reacts?? Or shall I directly talk to him and clarify it?? Which would be the better way??

And shall i conclude that he is not truely loving me because he is not ready to give up his decision on marriage??

And one more problem is that even if I decide for the Breakup, he wont agree for it.. He will beg, apologise and gives explanation on all the things and convinces me to change my decision.. so i am in a dilemma whether to continue or quit...

What would u say maybe the probabilities.. And please guide me...

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Thank you..


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accofranco 5 years ago from L Island Author

@Chaitra, i am sorry for the late replies, i have been too busy my dear, bear with me. talk to him about it, let him know how you feel, but my dear, i can't just tell you how best to know if he is using you to while away his loneliness; he is far and you are too...so just be patient till you guys meet first.

concerning marriage, it might be too difficult to convince him to change his decision on that...men hardly do, and if they do, they always bounce back on same old decision during the long run.....just play wise for now. goodluck!


chaitra 5 years ago

Ok sir. Thank you for making out time and replying even with your busy schedules.That is really great of you. And I will give attention to your advice. Thank you once again. Take care Sir.


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accofranco 5 years ago from L Island Author

@chaitra,you are always welcomed...and any time you wish to meet me in person,i would be glad to...do take care for now...and i hope things are okay with you?


chaitra 5 years ago

Hello Sir,

Even I would be Very Happy to meet u in person If I get a chance But I am helpless.Coming to My relationship matter, Today I ended the relationship Sir. I don't know how u will feel after hearing this. I am having a doubting nature from my Childhood. I don't trust anyone so easily but after few days I will trust but i will be feeling Insecure always. The same thing happened with my love. I had a doubt that he might be cheating on me so I created a Fake profile and started chatting with him. He used to flirt a bit and told that he don't have any lover. This was really shocking to me. I was very furious and in that mindstate I scolded him off telling that don't cheat the girls and God will be seeing You and u will be paid for it. But He told that he knew it was me only and so he did like that. He said He lost all respect he had on me and said me to be happy and said he don't want any love from me. I started feeling guilty and i apologized him but still he didn't listen and said that I will never trust me so he said Byee.:(.

And like this the relationship ended. I don't know wat to do sir. I am mentally very much attached to him.I feel It happened good only and I should forget him. I should not forget your help sir.You guided me throughout and I am very thankful to you.Maybe i wont contact you again for my problems as i have decided not to have any love relationship in my future life. But I will never forget your guidance sir. Lastly give me some advice or comments on what i did was right or wrong.

Okay sir take care.. Bye...:)


Queen of the Universe 5 years ago

I am a giving loving person with a big heart but i would always meet mean that wanted something from me,now i know a relationship is give and take, not take, take, and take but that was the way it was with the men I was used too, I was married for 13 years to a man that couldn't keep a job if his life depended on it, and in would always make excuses that there wasn't any jobs out there, but the truth is that he didn't want to work, I would be up at night paying bills on line and his ass would be sleep, I would be out either at work or if i didn't work that take taking care of some other business because I stay busy, and he would be at home on the internet, from the moment he wakes up until he would go to sleep at night, and believe it or not I loved him so much, his family and friends tried to warn me about him, but he would say they had something against him that's why they say that but he doesn't know what it is,as time passed I grew and my feeling changed, he started looking pathetic to me, the sight of him made me frown, he would tell me I will find a job but after 13 years with him I knew his ass was lying, I would just say umhm.I prayed to god if this man is not for me then please give me the strength to walk away, and God did, a year ago I was going through it and I met this man we talked for months as friends, but he wanted to be in a relationship with me,and he was everything I wanted in a man,but you know that saying if it seems to good to be true then it probably is,well anyway this man I have known now for 1 year and 7 months to be exact. he tries so hard to convince me that he is different he comes from a traditional family his family is great they treat me like part of the family I have met all his friends,he wants to marry me but the thought of getting married scares the hell out of me, he bought me a ring,he is working long ours to pay for the wedding, I have tried so much in the pass to push him away but he never gives up, I love him truly with all my heart, but I keep thinking back,and the hell I went through, I just can't go through that kind of pain again,I don't know how to forget the past, so I can have a loving healthy life with my new man, because I know that if I keep looking back at the past, when i turn around he will be gonna because everyone has their limits, someone help if you can.


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accofranco 5 years ago from L Island Author

@chaitra, what you did cannot be totally condemned, if he was truly real, he should have stood your test...anyway, you guys can still be close friends, and watch what it would lead to...meanwhile, it may not be necessary to quit the relationship entirely if and only if you are not mentally balanced to do that.....i am very sorry for my late reply...its because of loads of work...bear with me dearie.

@queen of the universe, i understand what you have went through in the past, but you cannot move forward if you don't let your past go.

we all have pasts, we all have things that tend to hound us, especially our pasts experiences like yours, but would you rather allow your past to mar your chances of connecting with the right person or let it go and move forward???

you guys need to read my book for a more comprehensive explanations about love and lust and how to manage disappointments and failures in relationships.

Thanks for reading and commenting, i value all your comments, questions and contributions in all measure, and please do bear with me for my late reply....i hope this answers your question?


Cidem Aksoy 5 years ago

Heyy. im only 15 but dont tell me im to young for a real relation ship ! this guy is my ex boyfriends mate, but they dont talk to each other much...We started to hang out with the person i love but i never had in mind that i was going to fall inlove with him..and so we new each other and then our parents met each other.. his mum and my mum became really close friends and so we saw each other nearly everyday :) we said that in future we might get married like in few years 1 or 2... he tells me that he loves me i tell him i love him aswell and so we go movies..we hook up this that but theres one thing im worried about..does he really love me??? he loves getting me pissed -.- he acts cocky sometimes but then he tells me he loves me...and we are pretty close, its like where engaged already.. so my question is, is it normal when my boyfriend acts cocky to me???


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accofranco 5 years ago from L Island Author

@Cidem, you first tackled my first advice: age..lol, you must be funny. anyway, dear i must tell you the truth, your love at the time still have a long way to go as to prove its ability to sustain with maturity- i mean as you guys grow, things might unfold differently, and it maybe that you guys are only passing through a teenage fantasies of admiration and maybe, lust. ensure you guys stay off sexual matters and remain best of friends, and family ties like you pointed out. then wait, keep the friendship and wait for the right time, to avoid later life regrets. please i didn't meant to hurt you, but that is the best of my advice for now dearie. remain best friend to him, not relationship or romance affair. thanks for reading and stopping by to ask your question, which i believe would help solve other readers' dilemma. keep checking back and take good care.


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@Cidem, you first tackled my first advice: age..lol, you must be funny. anyway, dear i must tell you the truth, your love at the time still have a long way to go as to prove its ability to sustain with maturity- i mean as you guys grow, things might unfold differently, and it maybe that you guys are only passing through a teenage fantasies of admiration and maybe, lust. ensure you guys stay off sexual matters and remain best of friends, and family ties like you pointed out. then wait, keep the friendship and wait for the right time, to avoid later life regrets. please i didn't meant to hurt you, but that is the best of my advice for now dearie. remain best friend to him, not relationship or romance affair. thanks for reading and stopping by to ask your question, which i believe would help solve other readers' dilemma. keep checking back and take good care.


ann 5 years ago

good day sir! i just wanna know if my bf is really inlove with me. i have a foreigner boyfriend right now. i only met him online. he is sweet but he has very spare time communicating with me because of his work. he came last week here in our country for a business trip. We met then and he also want me to bring him to my parents to meet them personally. and so we did. the next day, we met in a hotel and we did sex of course. he was out in the province for almost a week because of his trip. he seldom text me. i think i only receive one message a day. the time that he returned here in the city, we met again and as usual we went to the hotel. he is still sweet, holding my hands everywhere but he never steal a glance on me.i asked him if he has other gfs then he said none and that he loves me too. do you think he is serious with me? I am really confused sir. i really want the truth.


Chaitra 5 years ago

Hello Sir.. How are you?

And I actually needed ur advice Sir..:) Now actually wat happened is recently i only messaged him for some reason and we had some discussion and he said that he will be coming to India very soon and he said like lets talk face to face and decide what step to take regarding our relationship.. till then lets not conclude.. even i felt that is the right thing so I agreed for that..What is ur opinion sir regarding this? and wat all the Do's and Dont's to be done when i meet him sir??


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accofranco 5 years ago from L Island Author

@ann, i doubt if this love is real...be careful, he might be using to while away time during his business trips, and don't be shocked when you find out that it may not be only you that he is into...anyway, i am not trying to conclude hastily...but i believe that you were too fast and pushy, and that was why you allowed your feelings to be carried away to the extent of indulging in a sex on the first date, and still repeated it because you felt that with sex, you can tie him down and make him committed to you, but that was a wrong approach. men hardly get tied down with just sex! please start now to make amendments and put him on surveillance, you can as well read my other article on: how to catch a cheating boyfriend. find it on my account and other hubs.

for now, good luck, and thanks for asking a vital question that would help many other readers and followers to learn a great lesson too.

@chaitra, i have answered your question on the mail..please find time and go through it. bye and good luck dear.


RMC 5 years ago

Dear Acco Franco,

I am giving this a shot because the reality is I have no clue what else is left here. I am considered a socialite in the city where I live in, I'm constantly in newspapers and I come from a family whose actions are always in the press. It is no secret who I am and I just want to mention that to describe how I got here because it has a lot to do with the guy I met & like.

I am socially active and I host seasonal charity events where I live. Well, during one of my events; I ended up meeting a nightclub owner who had previously solicited my company for assistance with one of his events. I had declined his request as it was too short notice. A few weeks later, I ended up calling up the nightclub to solicit hosting one of my events there.

At the time, I had another charity event I was working on. The person at the nightclub referred me to this guy, we can pretend his name is Luke. I called Luke and I reminded him who I was and then told him I was contacting him to host my event. Well, he was very interested said yes and we exchanged contact info. (I had never met this individual before) and I did not expect him to be heading to town on the day of another one of my show's. I met him that day because he came to see me and get a peak at the show. Luke had no particular effect on me then. Shortly after, we started to have meetings together. My event at his club was a month and a half long. The month prior to it entailed Luke and I meeting a few times and talking or texting for the most part. He would always suggest things about our event that would require me to meet with him at his club and that he would have to show me how to use. Inevitably, I started to like him. I am trying to recall in my mind when exactly I started liking Luke but I have no recollection, it just happened.

So, I started texting him little by little until soon enough we were having full on conversations via text. I seriously never knew he wasn't a texter until one day he wrote me: "FYI, I am not a texter lol..." so, after that when we would see each other I would laugh at him and poke fun at him for pretending not to be a texter when "he knew he liked it". He would just sit there with a grin on his face and say "oh sure". It was fun. I started to bring my entourage into his club. When I was there, Luke would always be really nice to me and he would constantly walk by my table and greet my guests. He was a really good host. Sometimes, he would walk up to me and start bugging me and fake pushing me around. A week prior to the show, I was supposed to take a trip to Amsterdam (for Fashion week) and ended up having to cancel it last minute because the event at Luke's club was not going well. I remember when I told him I had an airline credit he suggest I go to Belize with him in November. When I said, why Belize? He said "it's beautiful there. There's sexy Spanish women (I am a Spanish woman), good food, and I hate this place". Then, I said well, I'm not a lesbian but it sounds great! We've never really brought this trip up again. I must mention here that he has told me he is obsessed with Pakistani women so I don't know what to make of that.

But as the week progressed, Luke had warned me that he wouldn't be at my event for the first 2 weeks because he had business to take care of elsewhere. So, I worked that entire week and ensured we had a great turn out for our first night. I remember telling him how worried I was that he wouldn't be there because nobody in his club would knew what we agreed to. Luke reassured me that everything would be okay and that he would leave his staff with instructions. Whenever Luke reassures me, I always tell him that I trust him and let the issue go then and there. There were no complaints that first weekend but it was hard to work with his partners. Whenever I needed something, they would say call Luke. I would (even though he was out of town) and he was so attentive, he'd answer on the first ring or text me right back. Luke and I always laugh at the fact that we have "minions" to do our bidding for us. One night I had another big show at a competitor club and I told him via text, "I want you" paused for half a sec and then wrote "to be there" and he said okay I will be there for sure. By this time I had fallen for him.

I had the guts enough to ask him for a dinner date and at first he tried to be all like "oh I'm saving up to buy a house and I'm on a strict diet. Saturday is my only cheat day". And I just wrote him, "well, this Saturday then; I am taking you to blank, and buying you the least fattening thing on the menu". He just "oh my, okay if you insist". A few days later, I had to cancel and ask him if we could reschedule our lunch because that day I had to prep for my show! He laughed at me and said okay. We've never really brought this up again. Well, he did come to that show. He brought his minion with him and bought me drinks. This was the first time we hugged too. We actually began getting to know each other. I know about his family, he knows about mine. I realized how alike we are in talking with him when he gives me a lift to his club or when we chat via text. I know he wants to move to the same city I was hoping to attend law school in. He's offered to help me with my business when he's there.Luke also knows about my decision to be celibate and save myself for the right man. He tells me he is glad to hear that because he doesn't like easy women. He says it must be hard for me to find a good man in this city and I agreed with him. Luke says he wants to have a family, get married, and settle down by the age of 30. He's only 28 now.

Everything was fine between us until his partners started complaining about things in the show. When he came back from his trip on the second week, I had texted him late one night and he asked me when we could talk. I told him I would call him and he said ok. He was with his partner (and his roommate) and he began to tell me about the nature of the complaints. I got mad and said well since were talking in the open here, and I told him what my complaints were. He got a little upset and told me to take responsibility. The things he said made me a little upset and I cried (I hoped it wasn't obvious to him). I let Luke go and sobbed for a while to myself.

The next week, I made sure I looked great and that the event went well. I was walking to my area when he stopped me and tried talking to me. I tried to walk past him pretending I didn't notice him (I was still hurt from what he said to me) and he grabbed my arm. I told him I was not happy and that I had to go. He sounded worried and asked what is it? Let's go and talk to Matt (his partner and roommate). I just cut him off by saying "Luke, I'm not happy and I'm going home". He said okay and I left. My assistant (aka minion), stayed that night and he called to tell me the next day that Luke had pulled him aside to talk to him. Apparently, he was really upset with how I had treated him the night before. My minion tried to smooth things over and the next day I called Luke. He immediately asked, "so what was wrong last night?" and I explained it to him. He seemed to side with me and told me not to worry about it and reassured me that he would take care of me.

I started using that statement against him, I'd joke and say "that's the least I could do for the man that takes care of me". So, on another weekend his partners complained again. It seems like he would take out the frustrations of his partners out on me because he would be so up front with the issues and when I would try to explain he'd write me off. Then when I'd be upset about that he would yell at me and I took it with a grain of salt the first few times. Our friendship finally took a toll for the worst when we were text fighting one day. I had told him how the other nightclub treats me and how the things I wanted weren't something I invented in my head. Then he blew up at me. He started making his point across by putting his words into caps locks and tell me how annoying I was with my texting. How distracting I was and how he was really losing his patience with me. He asked me if


Confuzed, 12 months ago 5 years ago

Hello Acco,

I just wanted to let you know that you were right of the man I wrote you about 12 months ago. I did have to be careful. It turns out he had a terrible secret.

He hired the man who crashed into my friend in the car accident that nearly costed me my life. He was trying to kill me to take over my business. He admitted this to me one day when I sat him down and asked him why he came back for me (like you suggested). After I left my office in his father's building, he tried to get me kidnapped and failed. I switched shifts with my co-worker and she got kidnapped instead. To this day, I have no clue where this man is and I fear his plan in the back of my mind

I would like to know how could I have fallen for a man who wanted to harm me and cost me my life?


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accofranco 5 years ago from L Island Author

@RMG, you didn't finished your explanation...please find time and finish it up so i can get you better and probably know what help you need. Meanwhile, relax, nothing has yet spoiled...calm down and let me hear the full gist or you can still contact me personally if you don't want your ID and explanations disclosed. Thanks for stopping by...be strong, you have someone by your side, your not alone! Good luck as i look forward to hearing from you soonest.

@Conduzed, i don't know just how to explain all the details here...how i wished you have a copy of my book (for ladies), i bet you will be amazed at the secrets you will discover...your mouth will be left agape till the end of the book. unfortunately, this book is yet to be published in a paper back so that it can be available for most of my fans who are eager to read it...hmmmm...it hurts me though cos, i wrote it not for money but to assist ladies overcome men and their cunning attitudes towards them...i am hoping desperately to see it come into print so i can send copies to you guys.

Anyway, you allowed your feminine instincts to control your inner conscience of witness, which is the highest form of defense...Dear confuzed, since i can't go on detailing the reasons just here...please i am very sorry about that, i don't mind sending you a personal copy of some excerpts of the book if you wish...and then, how secured is your life at the moment now? that is the greatest concern for now!

I wish you the best dearie...


RMC 5 years ago

He started making his point across by putting his words into caps locks and tell me how annoying I was with my texting. How distracting I was and how he was really losing his patience with me. He asked me if I wanted to burn the bridge with him. I was crying reading the things he was writing me. Finally, I said to him, "there you go insulting people again. I'm done talking now. Bye". And then he went off on how I take everything so personally and that I needed to get business manners and that he was on the brink of canceling the show. When he said "is that what you want" I just replied, "no sorry. I didn't mean to invade your space. I thought we were friends. I will learn manners and I won't text you again". Well, I think he felt bad because right after he said, "I don't mind you calling me up, even if it's 6 times a day for some weird reason". He wrote me to tell me we were friends and that he just hadn't experienced anything like that before and even made a light joke about it. I told him I could appreciate that but that I felt he crossed the line with all the things he said to me. I told Luke that I would only contact him when necessary and only through email. We haven't been the same since then...

I did get a chance to go to his place with my minion for a late night meeting and the shows did really well! His partners were all really happy in the end. Matt (his roommate) even came up to me a few times and told me how Luke always talks about me. How he's always saying such good things about me. I made sure to be nicer to his partners but Luke and I still don't text. I've tried sending him a text here and there with no reply. He usually just calls me right after I send him a text now. I've never let him hear me cry or anything like that! I did admit to him one night (very loosely) that I thought his type of guy was attractive and he said he was flattered. But, we always fight about the littlest things.

I've started talking back to him and yelling back at him. Sometimes, it seems like I enjoy fighting with him but I really don't. The week before my show ended he got drunk and cornered me at his club. Luke put his arms around my waist and I felt a passion in his touch. He kept his hands on my waist and asked me why I'm always so mad at him. I just smiled at him and told him because he makes me mad. Then he grabbed my hand and started play fighting with me. I play smacked his stomach a couple of times and we hugged. Now that the show is over and I had to call him one last time to fight with him. It resulted in my canceling another show that I had proposed to him. He told me I was making a big deal out of nothing. We yelled at each other then finally I calmed down and told him I had to go and that I would see him later, he said ok and we wished each other a good day. I felt really bad because he is going back to his hometown for the fall (I have known this for a while now and he keeps reassuring me that he's coming back once a month and reminding me that we will still see each other and be in touch, especially when I go to law school. ). He even invited my personal face book profile to his going away party. During the last night of my show at his club, Luke asked me if I was going to his party. I told him maybe I would go and he said, "what the f*** is that? I went to all your events". I told him I've been really busy and I wasn't sure and he said ok. Before he went back inside he said, come to my going away party. I didn't end up going...

I ended up texting him afterwards & he called me. He sounded really standoffish at first. This was the first time I had called him to make small talk. At first he was really abrupt, using one worded answers. Then when I asked him what was wrong his voice completely changed. He said he was just working and asked what was up. I told him I was calling him to see if he wanted to join me for a drink. He thanked me and said he was swamped with work and had to deal with somebody there. I just told him it was okay & that I didn't want to leave things the way we did. That I respected him and that I really wanted to be on better terms with him. He said he really appreciated that call and thanked me and said he would let me know if he was able to come see me. We left it at that. He didn’t end up contacting me before he left and its been a few weeks since. I didn’t hear from him, so one day I added him as a friend on face book and just wrote on the message line “sorry”. He didn't except it but that night, he texted me and said “I appreciate u reaching out, let’s give everything time to cool off. Thx. Take care”. I didn’t reply to him for a few days and when I did I thanked him for the update and not much else. He did write me the other day when I touched base on getting some images from him, and he told me he’s been really busy. He’s been to LA and Vegas and is coming to my city in a few weeks from now. I really like him still and I think about him everyday.

So, my question is could there be something there with him even though he's acting distant right now? And why do we fight the way we do? Is there any sense in continuing to like this guy? And if there is, how should I play this? Thank you and sorry for the novel!


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accofranco 5 years ago from L Island Author

@RMC: Firstly, you are in love with Luke, you must admit the fact and face it and then stop acting cowardly towards your own emotion else, stop abruptly if you aren't prepared to venture. Secondly, Luke was an inch away from falling in love with you, but you probably ruined his emotional build up through your fluctuating actions; almost all men dislike a nagging lady, and displaying it when you guys are still eyeing each other tells him there is great danger ahead, should you guys startup something more intimate, which scares him.

Turning down his invitation for a personal party when actually he honors yours, may be telling him that you don't take him to heart, and maybe that you feel too big to be in his party, maybe for whatever social class you may belong to...which only you can tell; minds are private bags.

Luke seem to be liking you, which is geering towards love, but make sure his feelings are not super-imposed due to what he thinks you are socially, politically, financially, etc, so figure out his own social class; does it measure up to yours?...It's normal for majority of men to form a real faked emotion for a lady of higher social class, just to get something they alone know they want from her. You can run a test on him...

Meanwhile, you can start all over again, haven certified that his emotions are not based on material observations or attractions.

I don't just know how to divulge most secrets that would assist you in knowing truly what this Luke guy is up to...anyway, if you care, i wouldn't mind sending you an excerpt copy of my unpublished book, to help you, cos i believe that alone can open your eyes more. if you care to have it for free, just contact me and let me know how you wish to receive it. Take care for now. You need clearer explanations (that is beyond what i can tell just here) to guard and to guide you in your romantic endeavors...meanwhile, i can't put my book contents here...you should know why....Thank you.


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accofranco 4 years ago from L Island Author

@Melinda...before i can approve that, give me the real address of the person in Africa: the country, state, city and street, with phone numbers.

TO ALL MY FANS AND FOLLOWERS, BE WISE, DON'T GO FOLLOWING ANY LINK...UNTIL IT HAS BEEN CONFIRMED AND VERIFIED. THANK YOU. STAY SAFE, DON'T TRY!


lucie 4 years ago

hey this is very useful to girls like me,who have been into a relation for so long a time but still dont know if they are with the right person or not.and even i'm confused if my man really loves me...(but no clear signs indicating that he dont)coz,i cant watch him close as we stay so far to each other because of his work.and coming to my doubts on this,he dont spend a lot of time talking to me.in fact,he can just stay for weeks together not talking to me.if asked for reason,he simply says that he was busy.(but can someone be so busy that they had to pass such a long time without talking to the people close to them?)secondly,he always tries to hide things from me.(like,he says that he cant talk to me coz he's with some work n doesn't tell me what he was doing unlesss i really force him to tell or i think that may be a lie!!)i dont know how i should consider all these things.i've many complaints wid him.(like,he never wished me on my b'day since our relation has started three yrs back.he just says that he forgot,he never atleast tries to know if i had any problem when i sound dull while talking to him n many things like this.all these things seems to be silly but these things means a lot to a girl who really loves someone right?)i love him truly...does he?


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accofranco 4 years ago from L Island Author

@lucie, it wouldn't be too harsh if i tell you plainly that that guy doesn't have you at heart from the things you said about how he behave or act towards you...therefore, in a more simplified manner, he doesn't love you as you presume...sit him down and ask him open-ended and close-ended questions why he's acting the way he does.

Meanwhile, thanks for stopping by....good luck!


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accofranco 4 years ago from L Island Author

@lucie, it wouldn't be too harsh if i tell you plainly that that guy doesn't have you at heart from the things you said about how he behave or act towards you...therefore, in a more simplified manner, he doesn't love you as you presume...sit him down and ask him open-ended and close-ended questions why he's acting the way he does.

Meanwhile, thanks for stopping by....good luck!


lucie 4 years ago

hmmm...i'm really down now...but i think u are right.i'll surely clear it out with him.thank u...


Jeanette 4 years ago

Cast.. A... SPELL?! O.o wtf..


lucie 4 years ago

thank you...but he somehow convinces me everytime by telling some reason or the other.i'm really not able to make things out properly.i dont know why i believe him so much.sometimes i get really irritated towards myself for trying not to break the relation in some hope that he would change himself.anyway...once again, thanks for the suggestion...!!!


pricilla 4 years ago

pls.send me advice about me im dating w/pilot man we usually meet and eat outside he usually kiss me hold my hands and kiss me n my hair even my hands,lips and my head...he always looking at me means eye to eye contact after he say something he kiss me n lips..what do u think he realy loves me? he realy serious to me? pls give me advice pls...


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accofranco 4 years ago from L Island Author

@Lucie, welcome thanks dearie...but i perceive some insecurity guised in the clothing of 'fear of being lonely without him'...but hanging on in an abusive relationship that is not working is as dangerous as inhaling poison and hoping it won't hurt someday with time...the earlier you get out, the easier you can gain back your happiness and possibly connect with the right man that will treat you right...LOVE or ROMANCE shouldn't be a do or die matter! Thanks though...

@Jeanette, I didn't get you too well...pls if you wouldn't mind, come clear the fog...thanks though for stopping by.

@Pricilla, Nothing much has happened to ascertain love...maybe because you only told your story in a glimpse....wished to get a more clearer view...but you said he is a w/pilot....what do you mean exactly by "w/pilot"? thanks as i look forward to hearing from you...cheers!


Maureen 4 years ago

It's quite complex if it's a long distance relationship though. I've been trying a lot of things to make him open up to me but it's getting harder everyday because I am also longing for that feeling of being loved. I really wish I could know his true feelings for me before we finally we get to meet up.


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accofranco 4 years ago from L Island Author

@Maureen; actually, i didn't get your question or what you exactly want to know cos, you didn't explain anything to give me an insight into what challenge you are facing with your relationship...so try and get back in touch with a clear elaboration to make me understand you better and know where to come in...meanwhile, thanks for stopping by and stay cool..as i look forward to hearing from you. Cheers!


paris 4 years ago

i loved it.it was very useful for me.and also love the way you write and express it.your style of writing is very friendly and fun.thanks a billion


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accofranco 4 years ago from L Island Author

@Paris, thanks so much...you just lifted my heart Paris....i am so so excited that this article is really helping a lot of ladies...it makes me feel fulfilled....thank you...i appreciate your comment in no small measure...and please do pass it along to your friends and colleagues and family...cos i want ladies to be happy in their relationships...goodluck and thank you once again.


crazy love 4 years ago

i really thought maybe you can tell me if this is love. in fact, i'm attached and currently in a long distance relationship. recently i got to know this guy and he actually kisses me and all despite knowing that i have a boyfriend. i know i should not allow it to happen but i kind of have good feelings for him. but the thing is, he says he still think of his ex-girlfriend and have recently patched things up with her(they are also on a long distance relationship). what is this? i am so confused with what is happening. if the guy i know really love his gf, why would he want to do that with me? he obviously doesnt like or love me am i right? what should i do...


Uchechi 4 years ago

I like ur reasoning and caring for women,i've a noble fear,i dont want to enter into any relationship cos of my ex attitude,i dont feel i can love or trust anyone,i even fear marriage.I need to get over this,pls


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accofranco 4 years ago from L Island Author

@Crazy love, please forgive my late reply, actually i am working tirelessly to wrap up a novel i am putting together, and its really knocking me down with researches and blah, blah, blah...please accept my apology for late response.

Meanwhile, from the little story you told, the guy is cheating his beloved gf...thats a large truth, and i am also made to understand from your story that you feel lust for him and that is the same he feel for you, LUST, and not LOVE! If you told your story correctly, thats my counsel. He is using you to while away time as part of his masculine adventuring in life, RUN! Make sure you read my other article titled:Why Do Men Cheat In A Relationship? Dont fail to read it all. And for your fast note, some men do cheat on their lover or wife even when they love them. Why? Read the article and find out why. Meanwhile, i wish you the best and please do not cry and feel bad, because you ought to be happy that you did not finally end up loving a guy that cheats someone who loves him and he also loves. Remember, BETTER is not good enough because your BEST is yet to come! Good luck dearie. Love!

@Uchechi, i would suggest you write me personally through my contact me page. you can find it around where you saw my profile picture, somewhere below....just click on contact this writer or whatsoever and indicate that you are UCHECHI from my hub. Till then, please stay calm...all is well.

To Uchechi, Crazy love and other readers that didnt felt obliged to drop a comment, thank you for visiting and please do pass the article on to your friends and loved ones and lets make this world a sweeter world for all of us to live happily. you can as well, like the page so that your friends and followers can equally benefit from this esteem free knowledge and you might be saving a dying soul by doing just that. Thank you.


jasmine 4 years ago

hello sir,

i met a guy 4 months ago. he proposed me for marriage i agreed but i need sometime for this relationship so i said we will marry 3 months later, but he constantly put pressure on me for marriage. he said he loves me so much that he can do anything for me. i met his parents also they are also ready for marriage but there are something which make me suspicious about him is that he sometimes hurts me by saying some abusive language just to make me cry, and then see how i react if i beg for the relationship then he is ok with that and everything is over if i dont beg then he use more abusive language and mentally harassed me. next day usually he say sorry always and say he will never repeat it again. it happens twice. second thing which make me suspicious is he always force me to do unprotected sex, third thing is he always want me to meet him in his house whenever i ask for going out he says that he dont like to roam or going out. inspite of all these things he is very caring, shares everything with me whether related to his past or present. please advise me something i am very confused about this relationship.


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accofranco 4 years ago from L Island Author

@Jasmine, you have already done some mistakes, which include sleeping with him even without any marital commitment besides mere promises. Meanwhile, experience has proved that any relationship that starts with physical abuse, will always end in a physical abuse that most times leads to: death of either partners, deformity, breakup, etc etc...so my own advice would be that you desist from every abusive relationship, no matter the temptation to stay.

I am sorry to tell you that no reasonable and sensible man would raise his hand against a woman he claims he loves. Be cautious and make use of your own intuition, there are more than a million men ready to treat you right, and even wed you like a queen you are! Good luck!


jasmine 4 years ago

thank u so much for reply i m really in need for this.. accofranco i havent slept with that guy ever. i met him and make love in limits he insisted to do sex many times but i always use to deny it. he used to fought over this matter by saying that u dont love thats why you are not coming near mei m ready to marry you then why you always say no to me. he fought with me by saying abusive language whenever he had suspicion on me that i have a relation with other guy also. 1 week ago i decided to get out of this relation because on that day he again fought with me by saying abusive language over phone. after that he apologise with me and promised not to use this kind of language again and trust me. affranco should i give him a chance or not.. he use to cry and beg for this relation. what should i do..please reply


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accofranco 4 years ago from L Island Author

@jasmine, sure...you can give him more chance, but then you must put more arm to ensure you resist his moves else, it may end up disastrous...good luck!


ddd 4 years ago

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fatima hussain 4 years ago

Happy New year sir...here is my story.....i broke up with my boyfreind in june...n since then v r not in contact...as he wanted to...!! HIs words were "Freindship can change into love but love cannot be changed into friendship...!" Though his freinds tried to contact me last month just to know my wherebouts....and even he tried to mail me...using a fake id of a girl....But i just showed myself as a girl to whom now it does not matters much and this guy does not even exist for her in her life..!! But the fact is i really love him , and yeah i forgot to tell u that during the course of break up i made all d mistakes which one should ...can u please suggest me some ways as to how build up a contact..?? i mean should i initialise or wait for him to make a move...??? and does these contacts made by his friends depict something..?? Please help me..!! I want him back...! please...!! mail me at nabilasultan19@gmail.com


fatima hussain 4 years ago

***one should not make i mean...


Nelly 4 years ago

hi

i have lived wit a guy for 6yrs,known n loved by all his family members,1st year was nice n beautiful,second year,he cheated on me with four different girl.And frm the second year to now its still the same old story.i have tried so much to break up him wit but he keeps telling me he loves me n that he would change,but still the same.His mum doesn't want as to break up and keeps ad vicing that all would be well.we have brought a land together,i told him am pregnant and his mum is happy but for him,he pretends to like it and most times tells me i have shorten his happiness.he is so much into fun with his friends rather than spending time with me. Am 24yrs and he is 27yrs.my problem is if he truly loves me as says,why than does he cheat on me and keep doing the things that hurts me. i love him very much but sometimes i fell like walking away even though his mum wouldn't like it. please help me because am helpless.


Nelly 4 years ago

He tells me he loves me but isn't ready now for marriage.because he takes care of his business and that his father might think he is going to spend his(fathers)money on me,so i should wait for a while until his is enough settled.


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accofranco 4 years ago from L Island Author

@All, i am so so sorry for late replies, i lost a bosom brother this january, and it is really weighing me down as he is yet to be buried.

@ddd....hmmmm, anyway, thanks for stopping by.

@fatimo hussein, if a guy truly loves you, and you guys for one reason or the other loses contact, he will always want a way to get back to you, and when he finally finds a way, he doesn't hesitate or wait, so be careful...he may not be so much interested in the relationship again as you are, so don't be the one to push things further, just give him the room and wait for him to do the work. it is also possible that he is feeling somewhat inferior or whatever, and so, he ended up making use of his friends to get back to you, you must find out if this is the case, if it is, then help him out to finish the work. thanks for stopping by and good luck in your relationship.

@Nelly, men naturally are polygamous in nature, i keep telling ladies this, and sometimes, it doesn't depict that they do not love their main girlfriend, sometimes too, it's just a weakness most men can't overgrow, don't conclude yet. again, his age matters too, because guys of his age are still out to have fun in most scenarios, you can give him more time for now, since you have a bond with him already, there's no need walking away for now.

what am i trying to say in essence? it is possible for a guy to love a particular girl and still cheat. it is also possible for him to love a girl and not cheat, it all depends on his personality, up-bringing, orientation, belief, social and financial status and of course his circle of friends- who are they? what are their lifestyle? but please and please, do not interfere in his relation with his male friends, it may be disastrous, but you can suggest to him using scenarios and examples of some good guys he knows (though not all guys fancy this, but some do take it as a challenge and change).

for now, focus on building a stronger relationship with him by re-inventing that initial friendship you guys shared during wooing periods, and make sure you pray...pray...pray for him, it really works, forget what some atheist may tell you, prayer changes things in this life.

contrary to all i have said, that guy is playing pranks with you my dear...what you just told me in the last paragraph of your comment, confirmed that he is not ready to settle down and you went ahead and thought you could tie him down through pregnancy entrapment, it doesn't work for all men. please don't ever do such again if you do finally survive this. but since you have his mum's backing, you are on a safer side though, keep talking to him but don't persuade or threaten him, instead, make him to understand how much you care and love him. make him to understand that you are for real and not for his material wealth or whatever he has.

that's all i have to say for now, if you have more questions, please do come back and ask.


Seekingtruelove1 4 years ago

Been exclusively dating a man who is attentive, caring, helpful,great in every way except isn't physically affectionate. He doesnt reject my physical affection shown toward him but he doesn't initiate towards me. I have asked him but he doesn't k ow why. What could this be? I'm confused.


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accofranco 4 years ago from L Island Author

@seekingtruelove, the first thing that matters in any romantic relationship between a man and a woman, is physical attraction. If a man is not physically attracted to his wife or girlfriend, then the relationship is faulty and won't probably work. A man you should date, must be physically attracted to you to start with, and if this is lacking, i am afraid what he's up to.

Remember, it may be possible that this very man isn't truly in love with you, and maybe he is trying, forcing himself to like you out of pity or emotional sympathy, which is very very dangerous for both of you.

A must you ought to date should be a man that's physically, emotionally and mentally attracted to you to start with. but physical attraction must be the first drive that should compel him towards initiating a move to have you as his. If this is missing, it is a casual friendship and never a date or love affair. Think properly, think wise and be very careful so you don't end up in a deadlock marriage in future. Finally, have you made out time to discover for yourself if he is a eunuch? 'eunuch' meaning men who don't have sexual feelings for women. there are artificial, spiritual or natural eunuchs. Good luck and i hope this answered your question?


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accofranco 4 years ago from L Island Author

@seekingtruelove, the first thing that matters in any romantic relationship between a man and a woman, is physical attraction. If a man is not physically attracted to his wife or girlfriend, then the relationship is faulty and won't probably work. A man you should date, must be physically attracted to you to start with, and if this is lacking, i am afraid what he's up to.

Remember, it may be possible that this very man isn't truly in love with you, and maybe he is trying, forcing himself to like you out of pity or emotional sympathy, which is very very dangerous for both of you.

A must you ought to date should be a man that's physically, emotionally and mentally attracted to you to start with. but physical attraction must be the first drive that should compel him towards initiating a move to have you as his. If this is missing, it is a casual friendship and never a date or love affair. Think properly, think wise and be very careful so you don't end up in a deadlock marriage in future. Finally, have you made out time to discover for yourself if he is a eunuch? 'eunuch' meaning men who don't have sexual feelings for women. there are artificial, spiritual or natural eunuchs. Good luck and i hope this answered your question?


Mark 4 years ago

To me this video shows the selfishess of man towards women. They are treating women just to get satisfaction, by the way if u truly loves the woman, you need to show your true love and love avoid them.


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accofranco 4 years ago from L Island Author

@Mark, thanks for voicing out on this. Honestly, we men do take women for granted at certain points in life, and we must refrain from such actions...please stand up against women abuse in relationship, share this article on your facebook wall status to enlighten more young women globally. Thank you.


sdi 4 years ago

When you love some one truly you should be honest with her always and make her life partenr for always.


Victoria Smith 4 years ago

i think these women yu talk about who men need to STAY AWAY from , these women who as you put it have been used and abused over and over again DO NOT deserve to be stayed away from ifff anything a real man would work HARDER to attract this kind of woman and show her that there are actualy great men out there who treat women wonderfully and restore her faith . simply brushing her off because she is has an emotional blockage with men because she is a VICTIM has got ot be the worste thing i have EVER heard to be brutaly honest . thankyou Miss Victoria Christine x x


Victoria Smith 4 years ago

and ps im not talking about any articles . im talking about you video at the top of tthe spread Thanks Miss V C X X


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accofranco 4 years ago from L Island Author

@sdi and Victoria Smith, thanks for the great words, glad you guys stopped by...share the article with your friends. Thank you.


kavas 4 years ago

what about a man disappointing your after 10 years in relationship and after a few years he comes back to beg for a re-relationship? Are such men normal???????


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deep-think 4 years ago

It's when I see hubs like yours that I feel I should be doing more with mine. I don't really use hubpages that much but I think I'll get serious with it now.

I like the tips you have here- I have never seen them before. Love is a complex four letter word and so must be handled with caution. I guess all these facts also apply to ladies too. Thanks for your comment on my blog accofranco and thanks for publishing this useful hub.


neha 4 years ago

hey i need some suggestion ............

6 years ago i got committed with a guy in my school then i started loving him he introduces myself with his family n always says that i wanna marry u wanna always be with u then after 2 years we got physical after 3-4 months his interest in meeting me n talking to me start decreasing ..... i always forces him to go out with me but he make excuses n says that u dont understand me.... these fights continue for 2 years after that he went out of the station for his studies...... he came to meet me in 2 to 3 months just for 1 day i always forces him to stay for 1 more day but he says my mom will not allow me even he says my mom gets angry when i talk to u on phone at home that's y i cannot talk 2 u when i m at home n u dont understand my family don't wanna compromise..... his family is a bit orthodox n he says if u loves me then u hv 2 do compromise u hv 2 live like my family like my mom i was living with this depression n tension since 2 years i rarely go out with friends ........

1 month ago a guy in my college became my good friend he says that i love u i told him everything that i m committed still this guy always makes me feel happy go out with me always text me call me n always forces me 2 go out with him n he never leaves me alone ...... i love d way he do sacrifices for me understand me........ when he says i love u i used to tell him that ur love will start decreasing after some years but he says that i wanna marry u n i ll not get physical with u before marriage ......i discussed with him all these problems he says do whatever makes u happy...

i told my boyfriend that i started liking this guy in my college i love 2 go out with him he cares about me n all that my boyfriend says that stop talking to him be with me i love u so much i asked him that u always says that u hv 2 do compromise with my family even u dont like 2 go out with me dont like to talk 2 me he says that i m unsecured that after marriage u will not not respect my family u ll not be able 2 do compromise........

please help me give me some suggestions what should i do.... i tell me if i m wrong in my relationship.....


Awele mordi 4 years ago

Wow,i have learnt so much today & I'm happy i need to develop myself.God bless you....


giselle 4 years ago

Nobody wants to be with a needy person. Pleading and being needy is unattractive and is only going to push your ex further away from you. It will only make them think that they made the right decision by breaking up with you. I have been a victim of such circumstance until i was referred to priestandrew91@yahoo.com who did a spell for me and make my ex chasing and begging me to come back. He changed the table around to my favor and i am happy i used his spell to get what i desire the most without having to beg. Giselle


Prachi 4 years ago

I agree with you that you said is very true. to find true love is a very difficult task.


sonia 4 years ago

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indianajonesminaj 4 years ago

hey how you doing hope all is good with you sir.please write an article on how to keep a guy committed and signs to see if is making the effort to be committed. Anyway, i have this ex who's a party type currently. we ended up breaking up because i found out he had another girl who lived near him and which I dont. they went to the same school so maybe they saw each other when they wanted.obviously he does not like her. i think so because the first time we met at a party, that night we didn't know each other actually we knew each other on facebook. In other words it was the first time we have seen each other face to face. Anyway, that night we found a dark spot and kissed the whole night because it felt like love at first sight. when we came back in the crowd. a girl approached him but i didn't pay them any mind because i thought it was just a friend. I start listening to them and to me the guy was actually leaving her. she looked at me and walked away. it was his girlfriend, i was feeling it deep for her because it could have been me even though i'm a cutie and she's not. so i got upset and angry about it and asking him, “why you did that! it could have been me !” and i didn't want to talk to him. he said okay you want me to talk back to her. i said yes! We spent the rest of the night, when I was leaving he was watching mre leaving . everytime I turned to look at him he was looking.s ome few months before his exams we didnt communicate much and i felt like he had another interest. he told me he was busy because he had to be studying for his exams. so i gave him his time. and after his exams. we still didn't communicate much. so later that day i went on his page on facebook and i saw him comment on the same girl photo saying "my beautiful wife" i was hurt that i left him same time and same day. i was crushed. i was hurt! it took me months to forgive him. the next year we started texting again and i told him lets be friends and not enemies. i still liked him alot. so we met on some occasions and we kissed and nothing else. he always look sad and hurt when im leaving. months later we met at a similar party like the first and we were standing with his friend and the same girl approached him and called him one side. he called me by my name and said soon come. i said okay. the girl friends were looking at me and laughing. i didnt give them any attention, then the same girl came up to me and asked if the guy and i are together. i told her the truth by saying no. which was the we was just friends. i walked away to avoid the drama. the guy walked me down leaving the girl. and he apologized. i get it she loved him but he didnt feel the same. she was just jEALOUS. i FORGAVE HIM. and we spent the night by kissing and carressing. when i was leaving he looked weak and sad. he called me and hugged me again. we texted but not alot and i admit he is becoming a better guy.he said he does not like to text he prefer to see me face to face. whenever he's going to bed or when he wakes up or sometimes he'd text me. the last time we met which was feb 26 2012 was at his mom's house where he lives. He insisted we watched 'breaking dawn' so we did. he was already watching and can you believe he started it and we watch it from the onset to the end. he said he wanted to let me know he not thinking about sex. Because I always accusing him that’s they only thing he wants. During the movie, I turned around quickly to see if he was looking at me.to tell u the truth it didn’t seem he was just looking at me it looked like he was admiring me. After the movie, he started asking where would i want to spend my honeymoon and so on. he told me about his life growing up. he will be going to a tertiary school in different area and he wants me to go to a tertiary school there too after i finish school this year june so he can see me regularly. he loves to kiss and cuddle me and touch my face. after we kiss he told me he loves me. when i was leaving he kissed me to the door. and he was hugged me while walking me to the bus stand . Does it seems like he loves me? he never use to text me if i dont text him. now he does but as he said he doesnt like to text so he doesnt text me continually throughout the day. he even sent me credit to text him. does he love me? are he's playing? Oh yeah we never had sex and he never pressure me for it.


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accofranco 4 years ago from L Island Author

@All, I am very sorry for my late response, it's because I lost a beloved brother early this year in a car accident, and ever since his sudden death, I have been so busy combining his business with mine, just to put things in order...please do bear with me.

@kavas,it is possible that he has realized his mistake and have now come to know your true value...men are always fond of that. So don't ignore him if you are completely single, and while giving him a second chance, you have to exercise wisdom at its height. Good luck and learn to always forgive, it helps a lot.

@deep-think, thanks a million folds, I glad you stopped by, thank you.

@neha, you're not in any way wrong if you told your story correctly, and please, don't ignore that new guy, he may be the right guy...check him out carefully, but don't be quick at going intimate. Good luck.

@awele mordi, thanks dearie, I feel so good reading comments like yours, makes me want to do even more. thank you and good luck in your love endeavors.

@gissele and sonia, if its real, people will definitely get to find out...anyway, thanks for stopping by.

@prachi, its hard but very possible, so don't give up. thanks for dropping a word.

@indianajonesminaj,hmmmmmm.....what a story! hmmm. okay, okay, let's get down at something. firstly, the guy seems to be a kind of player, at least you saw a good evidence; having a take on two different ladies (you and his girlfriend) at the same time, don't ignore that obvious truth, so you don't regret at last.

he may have adopted a new strategy of pretending he is not after sex just to convince you that he loves you, when maybe he doesn't, so I would suggest you subject him to the test of time- give him more and more time, 6 months, 8 months, etc, and see if he will be able to stand being passionate and loving to you without sex.

but going out with a guy that keeps mistreating his present girlfriend before your eyes, should be a DANGER SIGNAL that he is a PLAYBOY! You better reconsider your emotional investments in him before it becomes too late. Like I said, if you are too in love or obsessed with him, subject him to test of time and see. Don't just jump into loving him so easily so you don't jump out crying of heart break! Good luck dear, and thanks for stopping by.

for the article you asked, read this: (http://accofranco.hubpages.com/hub/How-To-Make-A-M... and also try and navigate through my profile and check some other of my articles on relationship, they will really help you in your relationship with men.


alizay 4 years ago

hey, my name is aliay and i have read ur outstanding article.... and have came up with the conclusion of asking for ur advice Mr. Author.

So i dont remember how i got into this... the previous year i had been disappointed by my crush who didnt like me in the start and did in the end, but then left me so i gave in after like half a year he had left. yes i can see its confusing but it straightens up.

im 14 years and the country i live in , many people consider the one having a boyfriend/girlfriend is "morally corrupt". that is why most of teens here remain single.

So here is what i cant figure : this year,march (last month) there was an event, i participated in a team of about 11 people (3 girls including me and 8 boys) we all our classmates and there is this one i fell for.

i didnt like him in the start but later he convinced me to change my mind by his behaivour towards me and his charming personality...

so to outset with we all gathered up in school to prepare for the event. And day after day he should more interest in me. I know from the start he was surprised that we had so many mutual interests. He started to talk to me more often but in such a way that it was not so obvious for other people to take out anything from such behaivour except me. the second day od the preperation we were sitting and making charts, i didnt like him at that time. He talked to me a lot and always would help me with stuff. Just come in and would do the task for him. then he also offered to bring me a CD (XBOX game ) i was madly in love with , even when i didnt ask him, he just said to me : look i'll just bring it for you, although i was sure that CD only existed in NTSC and not pal ( i wanted pal), he said that he will bring it for me. then he never sat with his back facing me and would always look at me and never look away , he would keep on staring and i would just keep staring in his eyes, also he would not look anywhere else but in my eyes when we talked , no matter what happened and always listened to me even when his friends interepted him. and also he would never blink.

he really took care of my stuff, like my laptop although he had his own ipad, he would always plug it on charging and carry it for me and return it to me undammaged and in pristine form, he would also offer me to use his wifi and ipad whenever i wanted to. he also sent me a friend request on facebook and talked to me everyday for like 3 hrs. he would always cary stuff for me, whether i asked him or not. he would Carry heavy stuff for me, he would be where i was. he cared so much for me when i cracked my neck , he would always tell me how to do stuff that would make me feel better. 90 percent of times he would start the conversation and the rest i would. he would kinada look jeleous if i talked to any guy. like when i got an award he never congratulated me cuz ( in my opinon i shaked hands with my male friend, that he didnt know of. the day later he posted pic of me getting the award on my wall , and was so friendly to me, he even gave me hgis no. if i wanted help or talk. there was this once he really was upset when a wrong no. was calling me, he tried he best it wouldnt happen ever, he really insulted that guy, and gave me sincere advice that i should never ever pick up the phone if that guy ever called again , he would also tell me about the expensive stuff he bought , and would take my opinion on what he should buy. he would really tell me that i could trust him and that he could keep any secret ( in a good way).

but there are some stuff that i cant figure out like there was this once that he said he couldnt talk to me cuz he was playing a vid. game and there was this once he told me he was sleepy and that he couldnt talk to me, so i got really upset and i said to he tht if he didnt wanted to talk he could just say it, but then he reasured me by saying : hey ur getting it wrong way i swear i fell asleep". then i said :" its okay i believe you dont worry it doesnt matter" this happened last week, on wednesday and ever since we havent talked, now i dont if he likes me, or what he is thinking , tell me what i should do now ? i really like him he is a gemini and im a libra. what should i do ???? please guid me

thanx for ur time :)


alizay 4 years ago

hey, my name is aliay and i have read ur outstanding article.... and have came up with the conclusion of asking for ur advice Mr. Author.

So i dont remember how i got into this... the previous year i had been disappointed by my crush who didnt like me in the start and did in the end, but then left me so i gave in after like half a year he had left. yes i can see its confusing but it straightens up.

im 14 years and the country i live in , many people consider the one having a boyfriend/girlfriend is "morally corrupt". that is why most of teens here remain single.

So here is what i cant figure : this year,march (last month) there was an event, i participated in a team of about 11 people (3 girls including me and 8 boys) we all our classmates and there is this one i fell for.

i didnt like him in the start but later he convinced me to change my mind by his behaivour towards me and his charming personality...

so to outset with we all gathered up in school to prepare for the event. And day after day he should more interest in me. I know from the start he was surprised that we had so many mutual interests. He started to talk to me more often but in such a way that it was not so obvious for other people to take out anything from such behaivour except me. the second day od the preperation we were sitting and making charts, i didnt like him at that time. He talked to me a lot and always would help me with stuff. Just come in and would do the task for him. then he also offered to bring me a CD (XBOX game ) i was madly in love with , even when i didnt ask him, he just said to me : look i'll just bring it for you, although i was sure that CD only existed in NTSC and not pal ( i wanted pal), he said that he will bring it for me. then he never sat with his back facing me and would always look at me and never look away , he would keep on staring and i would just keep staring in his eyes, also he would not look anywhere else but in my eyes when we talked , no matter what happened and always listened to me even when his friends interepted him. and also he would never blink.

he really took care of my stuff, like my laptop although he had his own ipad, he would always plug it on charging and carry it for me and return it to me undammaged and in pristine form, he would also offer me to use his wifi and ipad whenever i wanted to. he also sent me a friend request on facebook and talked to me everyday for like 3 hrs. he would always cary stuff for me, whether i asked him or not. he would Carry heavy stuff for me, he would be where i was. he cared so much for me when i cracked my neck , he would always tell me how to do stuff that would make me feel better. 90 percent of times he would start the conversation and the rest i would. he would kinada look jeleous if i talked to any guy. like when i got an award he never congratulated me cuz ( in my opinon i shaked hands with my male friend, that he didnt know of. the day later he posted pic of me getting the award on my wall , and was so friendly to me, he even gave me hgis no. if i wanted help or talk. there was this once he really was upset when a wrong no. was calling me, he tried he best it wouldnt happen ever, he really insulted that guy, and gave me sincere advice that i should never ever pick up the phone if that guy ever called again , he would also tell me about the expensive stuff he bought , and would take my opinion on what he should buy. he would really tell me that i could trust him and that he could keep any secret ( in a good way).

but there are some stuff that i cant figure out like there was this once that he said he couldnt talk to me cuz he was playing a vid. game and there was this once he told me he was sleepy and that he couldnt talk to me, so i got really upset and i said to he tht if he didnt wanted to talk he could just say it, but then he reasured me by saying : hey ur getting it wrong way i swear i fell asleep". then i said :" its okay i believe you dont worry it doesnt matter" this happened last week, on wednesday and ever since we havent talked, now i dont if he likes me, or what he is thinking , tell me what i should do now ? i really like him he is a gemini and im a libra. what should i do ???? please guid me

thanx for ur time :)


alizay 4 years ago

I posted a really big comment here, unfortunately why cant i see it here ? :/


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accofranco 4 years ago from L Island Author

@alizay, pls I must first apologize to you and other commentors for my late response, it's cos of my new job role, pls do bear with me.

Firsty alizay, you guys are too young to engage in a romantic relationship. that said, you must bear in mind that the boy is still a teen, and teens do undergo certain periods in their lives that they like to be alone, away from everybody, and such moments occur more frequently in teenage boys of his age; I guess his age falls within 14 - 16? and for this reason and more, it is not advisable for teenagers to engage in romantic relationships because heart break and misunderstandings are more likely and frequent. Remember, it is not his fault but a natural process which he must undergo. Loving a girl committedly is never his priority at this age; his priority at his age is to own the best and lates games, hang out with the most popular teenage groups of his sex, listen and maybe involve in rap or hip hop songs or rock. So it is less likely that he would maintain a happy long lasting romantic relationship with someone of the opposite sex at this age, and in order to avoid heart break and getting hurt, I would suggest you be just his friend and no further feelings attached. I hope this little piece answered your questions? If you are not satisfied, pls feel free to get back to me. take care and pls do use more of your time to focus on building a promising future for yourself, you can engage in craft development, sing, write poems, short stories, fashion development, etc, than being so engrossed in love, you are still too tender for such...sorry if I sound too harsh, just want you to be the best you can in life, good luck dearie!


alizay 4 years ago

i do agree with u but like i said u'r not getting it i dont want to noe if i can have a realtionship with him i just simply wanna noe if he likes me thts it, actually , nothing more and i would also like to put this under ur knowledge that he is content, whtev he does, he was liking a girl before me for the previous 2 years i guess and he even knew she didnt like him actually hated him but it didnt affect the way he felt, if u get me.... wht im trying to say is that simply does the way he behaves show that he likes me or not ? thats all i want to noe and im not looking forward to a relationship just so u noe :)


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accofranco 4 years ago from L Island Author

@alizay dearie, pls don't feel upset or hurt with my counsel...I want the best for you okay? but to answer your question, it is difficult to know when a teenage boy truly loves a girl....because at his age, there moods and emotion are always fluctuating...which makes it hard to figure out...all the best dear, and pls don't feel upset okay? I am sorry if my advice did hurt you, pls forgive and forget. take care.


lunamar 4 years ago

Hello! I am lookin for some advice regarding this long distance relationship I have been in during these past two years. I'll start by saying that he has never asked me to come visit him. Every time we see each other is at my place. I don't even know his address when I did ask for it I was told I didn't need it. A few months back I told him I knew his address and that I might just surprise him one day, his reply was "I suggest you don't do that, n if u do show up you'll be dead to me, literally." Those were his exact words. I did ask as to why I can't come see him after these 2 years n he said he is a very private person and doesn't bring females home, he said if he was to bring anyone home he would feel as if his world is coming to an end. I still feel that there is something else going on. He barely calls, he says there is no need to communicate so much that not communicating would only make our time together much better because we will have much more to talk about. I can truly say this situation is eating me up inside as I am in love with this man, I have invested my time, trust, and have given him the best of me. What are ur thoughts?


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accofranco 4 years ago from L Island Author

@lunamar , to be honest with you, that guy isn't for real, just be careful because he is in for a fun and not for a commitment. That's all I can say for now. Sorry for my late reply, I had been too busy. Thanks for stopping by.


HeyriyaH 4 years ago

A reallly good site to weather v got a ryt person wit whom v can decide our fut....i was in a relationship fa two whole yrs I was a gal who believed he s everything fr me but my fate he was wit me fa nthing else oda than cash but after this I met a guy in my coll who became a good friend of mine very decent , caring nd trust worthy after knowing my past he was ready to accept me as wat I am no matter wat others (friends) said I broke up wit the oda guy he then asked me weather I can marry him I accepted his proposal Nw we r in a relationship frm 3mnths he always want me to smile he cant bear tears fallng frm my eyes as u mentioned above he changed his dressing style fa me, he admires me every now nd then, gets jealous of my friends ,vERY VERY POSSESIVE , inspite of all this some tyms he gets very rude does nt even speak a word as u said he use this local words as he speak wit his frenz as I said he gets mood of he listens to everything I tel at tyms he doesnt listen a word so am getting scared weathr he s true or no as my past relation cheated me m nt able to trust him pls pls pls reply fa this I really need confdence abt my relationship


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accofranco 4 years ago from L Island Author

@HeyriyaH , I understand how you feel dear, but then you must learn to let your past be a past and focus more on the future...and remember, we all are born with varied share of imperfection, which makes us imperfect beings working towards perfection. What then am I trying to say? Give him some time, and don't expect him to always be nice, cool, awesome, amazing cos he is a human and if he starts being nice all the time, then he is hiding his true self from you for a purpose best known to him alone. So expect some mood fluctuations from him, likewise he should expect from you and then you two grow and understand yourselves better and gradually overcome your challenges. I wish you all the best dear...and do take care of yourself and feel relaxed okay? Bye for now, you can get back to me anytime for further assistance.


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accofranco 3 years ago from L Island Author

Please if you decide to try any of the people claiming to have a reliable love spell, you are doing that at your own risk, please do not blame any failure on this article.

Stay safe, don't try unreliable things. Thanks


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DDE 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

If a man truly loves you he will be by your side no matter what


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accofranco 3 years ago from L Island Author

@DDE, thanks for that contribution, and may I also add that he would be your best friend and not just your lover....thanks for stopping by DDE


WebWatcher 3 years ago

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Stellar Phoenix 3 years ago

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Stellar Phoenix 3 years ago

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accofranco 3 years ago from L Island Author

@webwatcher, I have an ebook on relationship already. And it will be okay, I wouldn't mind guest-writing for a website, there is joy in exploring life.

Thanks @Stellar Phoenix


Harsh Sandhu 3 years ago

hey what to do if ur man proposes some other gal and then comes back to you nd says that he did that by mistake ..... he wont repeat that again, nd the gal whum he proposed also caled me to tell me that my man just loves me nd nt her then what to do ???

still my man says that she s my best friend nd whwn i told him , u wont talk to her then he said i ll luk into it


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accofranco 3 years ago from L Island Author

Hello Harsh Sndhu, I am sorry to tell you that he doesn't truly love and believe in you. He is unsure of what he feels for you because if he is certain that he loves you, he wouldn't dare proposing marriage to another girl, to even talk of a girl you know...he isn't the one for you, watch it.

Thanks for sharing your story, I hope my comment did answered your question? If not, let me know, wouldn't mind providing a clearer answer. Take care for now.


nour nour 3 years ago

i am frome alexandria egypt. i am12 years and i love my cousin he is 14

i think that he loves me my mother and my bff told my this i feel maybe because they are many reasons that makes me feel maybe 80% he loves me he triet me wonderfully and everytime wants to talk with me and wants to see me at my computer camer and said that i 'm cute and pretty and i'm the kindest girl ever he have been met.


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accofranco 3 years ago from L Island Author

@nour nour, it is good that you cherish your cousin and he cherishes you too, but don't you think it is wrong for you to be having a romantic attraction for your own cousin? To me, it is not a good practice, and besides, you two are still very tender, why not wait till you turn 18 and above? Just my own suggestion, and please avoid physical contact with him and any other male because you are still very tender, and any mistake you make now could lead you to an unwanted teenage pregnancy which would definitely mar your education.

Please tread carefully, we all at Hubpages love you.


sweta 3 years ago

i am from nepal.and i seriously love my boyfreind but i a, not sure wether he loves me or not..he alwz use slang words to me..he had relationship with chinese girl for almost 4 yrs so upto my knowledge he has become little bit psycho after breaking up with her and some how he impose me his frustion each and every day..and some time wen he is drunk he cries and say that i love you and please dont go away from me..n i cant live without you..now please help me my suggesting..what should i do??


sweta 3 years ago

why are you not replying sir i posted a comment before about my problem please help me out soon..i just want to move on with the life which is good for me.


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accofranco 3 years ago from L Island Author

Hello @sweta, I am sorry for the delay in responding to your comment, I have been so busy.

But listen to me carefully, he doesn't love you! There is no two ways about it, he is probably using you to kill time. He loves the Chinese girl that abandoned him but he doesnt want to feel empty right now, so he just want you to stick around to keep him emotionally going for the moment until he finds love.

Though, he may fall genuinely in love with you in the process when he discovers he has no other option but you, but are you ready to wait and gamble with your feelings? Thats a question you have to answer.

Finally, he may like you but he hasn't figured out his emotional direction in life, be careful of such guys because they are not trustworthy.

Goodluck, and I hope this helped? You can always come back for more counsel. Take care dear.


sweta 3 years ago

First of all i am really grateful to you sir..yeah you are 100 and 20% true..whatever you suggested me its good..and i wondered how you knew the exact matter of the problem in my relationship..i must say you are great sir,no one can know the fact and suggest the entire thing just by reading 7 lines in a paragraph but you got me and my comment correctly and suugessted and told some genuine thing..thank you a lot sir..once again..actually sir i thought to break up with him before 3weeks and i did..after i broke up with him..he was calling me frequently because he cannot meet me as we are in long distance relationship,actually i am in bangalore,india now...i study here..; and i didnt responded his calls and finally he started to drink like hell and do drunkard stuffs like accident and all..he cried and yelled with me for 1 long week..and i suddenly remembered ur words that " though ,he may fall genuinely in love with you in the process when he discovers he has no other option but you" and now i am cock sure that he genuinely fell for me..i can make it out when he cried in phone and i too remembered his past deeds..after being in relationship with me he had cheated me several times, so m sure that he was tring to find a proper gal for him himself and till that he was killing his time as u said..and finally he felt that he couldnt get better than me,like no better option than me so he stayed with me in relationship and now he loves me genuinely..... And after mentioning these entire things infront of you..sir its my humble request to reply and suggest me one more time..i want to ask you sir...is it good to move on my life with this guy ?? is it good for me to have future with this guy??


sweta 3 years ago

and one more thing sir...i feel like he always want to feel superior n it seems that he feels inferior than me if i break up with him by myself...he always wants to feel up;higher than me...,so if i break up with him he cries and beg to be with me and after i get consoled by him,some sudden day he just seek reason to break up with me,if i explain about it that its just misunderstanding than he reacts as he dont want to listen me and my words,he even doesnot respond to my calls..and i think that he has ego problem not a love thing inside him..if it was love than he would listen to me..and i strongley feel that he doesnt beg to stay with me doe to his love,its just because he fell inferior that a girl dumped him so after some days he finds a nonsense reason to quarrel with me n he dumps me..now after knowing all these sir,please can you just mention what you feel about this guy..if i ask to my freinds than they speaks in the fqvour of me and if i speak to the member of his circle than they tell me to understand him..so i am in puzzle...i dont want my life to be ruined like this..please suggest me what you feel that it correct for me and my life...i have lot of things to do in life so i dont want to get stucked with a guy who even dont have the sense of humanity for me..i tolerated a lot,i tolerated his playboy kind of deeds for almost 2 long years..and now i dont have that strong heart even to tolerate his single scream..so please help me out sir..i am suffocating...i just cant understand him,please sir can you just figure out what is better for me because i am going to decide a decission about our brittle relationship..


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accofranco 3 years ago from L Island Author

@sweta, first, I must apologize for my late response, please do forgive me. Back to your story dear...please don't commit to that guy...he has multiple personality disorder...and you have said it all.....you truly understand him, so be careful.


tse 3 years ago

Hi,

I have been with this guy for almost a year. He is very superstitious. Is know how I feel about him but he is always telling me to nock on wood. Then if I ask him why he told me to do it, he tells me not to ask. I even live with him we have been living together for 7 months. It just feels like he avoids talking about his feeling that he has or does not have for me. He has told me about his past and the girls that he has been with. some time I feel like he thing I'm going to do him wrong that they did to him. he tell me want happens at his work and the people he talks to and than the people he tries to avoid. I have told him the thing in my past and have not left any thing out. if he asks me I tell him what is the truth. How do I finger out how he feels? Please help me have some closure.


tresa honijisa 3 years ago

Hi,

I have been with this guy for almost a year. He is very superstitious. Is know how I feel about him but he is always telling me to nock on wood. Then if I ask him why he told me to do it, he tells me not to ask. I even live with him we have been living together for 7 months. It just feels like he avoids talking about his feeling that he has or does not have for me. He has told me about his past and the girls that he has been with. some time I feel like he thing I'm going to do him wrong that they did to him. he tell me want happens at his work and the people he talks to and than the people he tries to avoid. I have told him the thing in my past and have not left any thing out. if he asks me I tell him what is the truth. How do I finger out how he feels? Please help me have some closure.


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accofranco 3 years ago from L Island Author

Hello @tresa honijisa, I do not understand what you meant by the statement "he always tell me to rock on wood", can you elaborate more on what you meant?

Meanwhile, it is wrong for you to move in with a guy you aren't legally married to. Though I don't know the common practice in your country, but it is wrong, and we guys don't always find it funny when a lady just falls so fast and dang, moves in...it gives the man a sense of desperateness, which will make him to judge you wrongly, so weigh it again and see if you could move out.

Meanwhile, some guys are born introvert, and most times, it affects their relationship with the opposite sex...anyway, come back and explain more...let me understand you better. Try and construct your message well so I can understand you better please.

Thanks for stopping by.


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accofranco 2 years ago from L Island Author

A SPECIAL MESSAGE TO ALL MY FANS AND READERS

I am planning to create a personal website where I can interact more easily with my fans and readers, and I need you guy's support to continue helping you guys....

By the special grace of God, I have been assisting so many ladies and men to fix their relationships through free counselling, consulting and even sending them free e-books, and counselling articles. I have taken so many risks for my readers and fans even though I haven't seen any...yet, posing danger to my personal welfare and life...I think it is time for me to ask you guys a little favor, that's if you guys don't see it as a bad thing anyway.

Till then....I wish you all a happy, lasting love life.


loyal_women 19 months ago

Hi I have been dating this guy for 3 yrs things where rosey in the begining .and ever since I resigned to study full time its been hectic on the relationship. My boyfriend does not give me time , I dont know if he loves me. He spends most of his time wih friends.. going on weekends away and drinking. Too my suprise he has many girls as friends but this one specific one looks like his been cheating on me with her. Coz I mean if his not see8ng me in 2 months why would he wanna go an see a women that lives 2 blocks away from me.. he blames his financial probs not to have a relationship but chats to this slut tht slpt around all the tym.. his friend ha a fling with this girls sister and that how my bf befriended her ever since.. knowibgly he has a gf y wid she insist he come to c her drunk?? Plz help.


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accofranco 19 months ago from L Island Author

@Loyal_women, its quite unfortunate. I am not going to tell you stories, I am only going to tell you the truth- your boyfriend is mostly cheating on you and maybe looking forward to a break up with you.

What to do? Develop a positive attitude with strong emotion focused on pursuing your life's goals- career, academic success....and make sure you have a hobby that keeps you happily busy when bored.

As a single lady, the number one mistake you will ever make is building your life and happiness around a man. You can be happy with or without a man. Don't let your happiness and goals in life revolve around any man.

Only you can make yourself happy.

Get busy with your life, focus on becoming the best lady you can be in all you do and watch men of integrity run to you for love and care.

For now, take care


mamthembu 16 months ago

thanx

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