How To Make A Man Committed And Propose For Marriage

How To Make A Man Propose For Marriage

Do you want to make that guy you have been dating for months or years now to rush after you for marriage and commitment? Do you want to make your boyfriend get committed to you and ask you to marry him? Then look no further because this very write-up will open your eyes on the little actions you need to take to naturally lure him into asking your hand in marriage. Remember, it is no longer as easy as in the past for a man to walk up to you one day and say, be the mother of my kids or ask you, will you marry me? This is not because men have changed, but because the environment the world is operating today is no longer as friendly as before, to the extent that it has affected men’s mentality towards marriage and relationship- they now see it as a huge commitment, in fact most see it as another financial burden to the ones they are already carrying, no matter his financial status (wealthy, rich, middle class or poor). It is no longer a new thing to anybody in the world today that the economy of the world is becoming more and more unfriendly for survival, making it very difficult for people to survive and live their dream life, hence, men are now becoming more and more afraid of getting committed to a woman, even when they are truly in love with her. But then, there are little things you as a lady can do to convince him that you are not just another liability that’s coming his way, but an asset and a relief that he may not be able to come by again if he fails to take a good stand. You don’t need to put this in words, but your actions alone will send this message across to him, and believe me, I am a man, he will come kneeling down to ask for your hand in marriage.

Before we move on, I would like to cease this opportunity to reveal to you the things that every man seeks in a lady:

1. Emotional satisfaction

2. Mental satisfaction

3. Financial protection

4. Companionship

5. Fruit

If you must win a man’s heart out rightly, then you must strive to satisfy at least 4 of the needs above for the man you are dating. Only when you are able to satisfy those his needs, he will desire sincerely to commit himself to you, and possibly ask for your hand in marriage. But unfortunately, 70 – 80% of ladies in the world today, hardly meets these needs of a man, and yet, they want a man to be committed to them. And some even go as far as complaining that the man doesn’t want to propose for marriage after months or years of dating or courtship.

How To Lure A Man Into Marital Commitment


Now, what do I mean by emotional needs of a man?

Emotional needs of a man includes- Sometimes, it’s not even about the sex, it’s about knowing she is in your arms whenever you need her, and sometimes, throughout the night. A guy needs comfort from a girl, therefore, as his girlfriend; you should let him know you are there for him always! That’s very important. And I must be honest to say here that 90 – 95% of ladies do always meet this need of a man, some even surpass it, but is that all that the man requires to be committed to you? No!

It is quite unfortunate that majority of ladies today thinks that the only thing they can offer a man they are dating is sex, and in return, the man should offer them- financial assistances, buy them wears, take care of their daily upkeep, etc. But that’s completely WRONG! And ladies that think this way always end up in an unfaithful relationship, you know why? Sex is nothing nowadays, any man that can afford his daily meals can equally afford to have sex whenever he desires it, so offering him just sex means you are just equal to a love peddler out there, and what do we do with love peddlers? Pay for their service, enjoy their service, and off we go. Probably, when next we need their service, we can decide to patronize them again or look for a new customer. This is exactly what guys do with girlfriends that offer them just sex and nothing more. Remember, sex (if you must involve it) is vital in a romantic relationship, but don’t let sex be the only valuable thing you have to offer to a guy you are dating if you truly want him to have you at heart and possibly take you to his mama.

Mental satisfaction- in this regard, I am talking about the following needs:
1. Help make his meals: Even if you don’t know how to cook good food, you should ensure he always has food to eat. You can achieve this in two ways- either by making him to cook by himself and store or by getting a cook for him, if it is impossible for you to cook for him. Either way, his feeding should be your responsibility (depending on your national culture). And remember again that you mustn’t fund the cooking, but if you can afford it, do, but then make it your priority so he doesn’t become irresponsible.

2. Help keep his house clean: Of course I know that this is hard for most ladies to accomplish, but you need to understand that men operate better in a clean environment. What am I trying to say here? Even though he’s a bachelor, his apartment should always reflect the presence of a woman in his life. If you can’t clean, get a cleaner to do it for you, and don’t ask him to foot the bill if you want him to appreciate it!!

3. Help with his Laundry: Obviously this is a no-go area for most ladies, but the truth is that guys expect it from their girlfriends. Remember, it’s not right to sit back and watch your Boyfriend wash his clothes by himself. As a lady, you should ensure that your guy is at his best appearance always! If you can’t wash, take them to the launderer and pick them up!

4. Help with his personal hygiene: Well, well…well, as we all know, some guys can be pigs for real, so it’s a girl’s responsibility to ensure that her guy gets a timely haircut, manicure/pedicure, shave and other things that come with looking good.

5. Host his friends: Guys like to host their friends once in a while and as his girlfriend, you should try your best to be there for him on such occasions. Don’t just write it off as a guy’s thing. Try to be there to help him serve the drinks, the snacks/meals, make the small talks, and then, you must know when to leave if they want to get down to the guys talk. Remember, just being there makes him happy that you can blend into his life, and it also gives you an edge to getting to know his friends in a more friendly way, which may be the key to your relationship success with him.

Financial protection- like I said earlier, global economy is no longer friendly to support extravagant lifestyle. And we all know that men love to be in good shape when it comes financially. Therefore, as a lady that wants her boyfriend to get committed to her, you must show evidence of financial wisdom to convince him that you are not going to be a liability to him but an asset and a sort of relief to his financial burdens. Remember, this applies whether he is rich, wealthy, average or poor. Financial reasons are the most frequent causes of breakup or divorce between celebrity couples or dates. Have you asked yourself why?


Greed- unfortunately today, most ladies are still single because of greed and high expectation. You want a rich guy who owns a beautifully furnished apartment, drives a nice car and has a sure job. And with the present global economy and widespread unemployment and underemployment, you don’t think such guys are either married, engaged, or have someone they are committed to and will marry sooner or later?

Honestly, this is where most single ladies of today do get it wrong. You want a perfect made man, an already-made man to guarantee you a good future and to ensure he can take good care of you, why then are you working? Why then did you went to school? Why can’t you build your own dream man that other single ladies would envy?

Hey lady, its time to face reality and stop daydreaming.

There is no enough guys of marriageable single men of marriageable age who also has all those wishy-wishy qualities out there to go round for the numerous number of single ladies, so grab one with your wisdom and stop waiting for something that’s not available.

Bad friends- you want to get married but you keep female friends who don’t believe in marriage, who only want to be single mothers, and yet you are desiring to marry, how? Come on girl, its time to let go of those irrelevant friends who aren’t on the same lane with you.

Remember, you have a goal and a mission, to find a suitable man to marry? So why then are you still hanging around with ladies who don’t desire to marry? Why are you still moving around in company of male-haters? Detach yourself from bitches, detach yourself from all those forever single ladies and go for your desire.

Make Yourself Available- you are a single lady searching for a spouse yet, you are always frowning and looking too serious. You always wear a scary serious face, come on girl, smile! Being uptight always will often times scare potential good suitors away, so try and be friendly, nice and subtle to make it easy for single guys on a good mission to approach you.

Be friendly but don’t be loose! Be subtle but don’t be a free-giver! Attract then, make them desire but don’t lose your self-control.

Open yourself to guys, flirt casually when necessary and avoid going overboard.

Don’t be in a hurry to visit his apartment…delay it while keeping him interested and expectant.


In a summary, try and protect him financially, not necessarily by giving him money, NO! but by helping to organize and cut down on his spending on things. Don’t let him know or sense that you have come to spend his money or to join him in squandering his savings and incomes, but show him that you are different from the usual nowadays ladies out there, by being financially conscious, and by helping him to spend less for improved values. I promise you, if you do things I outlined in this article, that guy you have been dating for long now, who has never shown any sign of commitment, will come running after you with an engagement ring, good luck ladies! See you guys on the next edition of this article, please do keep in touch on my latest write-ups or follow me on twitter by clicking here.

Greed

Unfortunately today, most ladies are still single because of greed and high expectation. You want a rich guy who owns a beautifully furnished apartment, drives a nice car and has a sure job. And with the present global economy and widespread unemployment and underemployment, you don’t think such guys are either married, engaged, or have someone they are committed to and will marry sooner or later?

Honestly, this is where most single ladies of today do get it wrong. You want a perfect made man, an already-made man to guarantee you a good future and to ensure he can take good care of you, why then are you working? Why then did you went to school? Why can’t you build your own dream man that other single ladies would envy?

Hey lady, its time to face reality and stop daydreaming.

There is no enough guys of marriageable single men of marriageable age who also has all those wishy-wishy qualities out there to go round for the numerous number of single ladies, so grab one with your wisdom and stop waiting for something that’s not available.


Bad friends

You want to get married but you keep female friends who don’t believe in marriage, who only want to be single mothers, and yet you are desiring to marry, how? Come on girl, its time to let go of those irrelevant friends who aren’t on the same lane with you.

Remember, you have a goal and a mission, to find a suitable man to marry? So why then are you still hanging around with ladies who don’t desire to marry? Why are you still moving around in company of male-haters? Detach yourself from bitches, detach yourself from all those forever single ladies and go for your desire.


Make Yourself Available

You are a single lady searching for a spouse and you keep frowning all the time, you keep looking too serious all the time, come on girl! Being uptight always will often times scare potential good suitors away, so try and be friendly, nice and subtle to make it easy for single guys on a good mission to approach you.

Be friendly but don’t be loose! Be subtle but don’t be a free-giver! Attract then, make them desire but don’t lose your self-control.

Open yourself to guys, flirt casually when necessary and avoid going overboard.

Don’t be in a hurry to visit his apartment…delay it while keeping him interested and expectant.


In a summary, try and protect him financially, not necessarily by giving him money, NO! but by helping to organize and cut down on his spending on things. Don’t let him know or sense that you have come to spend his money or to join him in squandering his savings and incomes, but show him that you are different from the usual nowadays ladies out there, by being financially conscious, and by helping him to spend less for improved values. I promise you, if you do things I outlined in this article, that guy you have been dating for long now, who has never shown any sign of commitment, will come running after you with an engagement ring, good luck ladies! See you guys on the next edition of this article, please do keep in touch on my latest write-ups or follow me on twitter by clicking here.

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foxywriter 4 years ago from NORTH CYPRUS

this is really nice and very correct too, though sometimes it takes more than these points listed above for a guy to propose to a girl, most especially when the guy is not yet ready to settle down or worst still have an indecisive nature.


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dashingscorpio 4 years ago

As a man living the U.S.A I'm fairly certain I could not be tricked or manipulated into marrying someone. A lot of women make the mistake of not believing a man when he says he does not want to get married. Actor George Clooney is one famous example. He goes from one relationship to the next with each of these women thinking they are going to be the one to change his mind.

Another issue women often overlook is (Timing). A lot of them want to get married before age 30. However most men in America don't want to get married until after they are in their 30s. This means a woman in her 20s looking to get married should consider dating a man in his 30s.

I have never understood the mindset of a woman who would want to marry a man who does not want to marry her! In order for him to be "the one" he would also have to see her as being "the one". All marriages will have their challenges but at the very least a marriage should start off with (both) people wanting to get married. I think women would probably be better off by simply being themselves. If that is not good enough than the man she is with is not the "right man".


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accofranco 4 years ago from L Island Author

@foxywriter, thanks a lot for the great contribution...nice one...lol@especially when the guy is not yet ready to settle down or worst still have an indecisive nature.

@dashingscorpio, I love your contribution, quite interesting, I hope it helps other readers to make positive decisions....


Dinah 4 years ago

Very useful


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accofranco 4 years ago from L Island Author

@Dinah, glad you found it useful...thanks for stopping by.


Nina 3 years ago

I would say that you get what you give, and surely why should a batchelor be looked after as if he was not a bachelor? A male's testosterone level is about 18-20 times higher than a female's, so surely they need more sex.

I know the barriers to that have been truly broken down, which is mainly to do with the invention of mainstream contraception which is available to basically anyone.

However men still have to work a bit to have access to sex, because they have a higher sex drive, and also because men and women have different objectives.

I understand there is job insecurity, but that affects women as well, so I am not sure why the soultion is then to make women work more for less?

Do the housework etc for him? What is he doing in return? Surely, if a man can get your needs met and do not have to provide anything in return, he will take it but that is exactly why he will not marry. Why commit when you get the benefit and the upside without having to commit?

It is very much like saying, single women should be looked after in the hope they will commit, surely it takes two to tango. If it does not, it's the kind of marriage I would not want to be in in the first place.

So what I would say is, keep the balance girls, and if he does not commit nor should you keep investing in the relationship.


Tobe 3 years ago

I must say that in all the writers av read so far, I really appreciate ur full details in relationship. coz u outlined it one step at a time. and I must say that av learnt a lot that I never knew before and it is workin 4 me already coz my mental view on relationship has been tranformed 4 good and it has affected my physical lifestyle as well. am very grateful for ur write up and I would luv 2 learn more from u. Thanks from Tobe


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accofranco 3 years ago from L Island Author

Thanks @Tobe...glad you found the write-up informative, and thanks for stopping by. Do have a lovely moment.


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accofranco 3 years ago from L Island Author

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By the special grace of God, I have been assisting so many ladies and men to fix their relationships through free counselling, consulting and even sending them free e-books, and counselling articles. I have taken so many risks for my readers and fans even though I haven't seen any...yet, posing danger to my personal welfare and life...I think it is time for me to ask you guys a little favor, that's if you guys don't see it as a bad thing anyway.

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caligirl 20 months ago

So...did you ever create that personal website?


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accofranco 20 months ago from L Island Author

@caligirl, yes I have a personal blog dedicated to relationship and romance counseling.....but stopped for some personal reason....I still have a gossip blog though.

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