How To Repel Men
Types of Women That Turn Men Off
Women are always looking for a way to find the one guy that they will be with for the rest of their life or at least for a long time. They buy tons of self help books to find out how to attract men, how to keep a man happy, how to be sexy for their man, how to get men interested in them, you get the picture. Women buy clothes, perfume, enroll in courses, learn to cook, learn to dance sexy and so forth, all in the hopes of attracting men, dating men, all to find the one man in the haystack to make them happy. This is exhausting, I thought there's gotta be a better way to find that ideal hook-up, so I'm going to approach it from the opposite end.
Looking at the male species, I think that most men go about it simply. Men will look, when have they not? They simply can't help it, you're a woman, the opposite sex, of course they'll look. Give them any signal to approach and they're there. It's after you start talking that they make up their minds. So, I did some research and found out that there are five types of women that they'll leave in a New York second. Don't be one of these women, and you've won half the battle.
You know her. She's the one who she thinks has all the answers. I'd probably kick her except she's right sometimes. Most women think that men don't like smart women. That's not true. Men appreciate smart women, what they don't appreciate are women who make them feel small because their opinion is different or are made to feel stupid because she doesn't think they've considered all sides. Men base their opinion on what's important to them. So they watch for those telltale signs: that curl in the lip, that crinkle in the nose, the laughter and triumphant shout of "You fool, you haven't considered (fill in the point)." The next thing she knows, she's laughing at air. And he's not coming back. And he's told other men about her too.
I have to hand it to women who can size up a man and figure out how to have him pay for everything. To me that just seems so useful. However, I feel guilty ordering the most expensive entrée on the menu whereas if Barbie sees him flinching, she won't order champagne. Men don't like women who only see them as an open wallet. They know that they have to wine and dine you in order to impress, but at some point, they know when they're being taken advantage. It could be when Barbie says "I'll have the champagne cocktail." instead of saying, "Hi!"
She is the sister to Ms. Know-it-All. Now we women, know that we are always right. However, let us admit that we are wrong sometimes -- just sometimes. And when we are wrong, most of us do acknowledge it gracefully. Ms. I'm-Always-Right does something interesting, she will insist she is right even though she is wrong and she'll tell him that if this little thing didn't happen, you would see that she's right. I've seen this happen in real life several times; one man tore his hair out, another man made crazy noises all throughout the party, and another man drank a whole bottle of whisky in less than 20 minutes and was out like a light.
Now, there are times when I've really liked a guy and liked him so much that I wanted to call him all the time. But I don't because if I give in to that urge, he'll know that he's my obsession and that's not cool. So instead I call all my friends and torture them by talking about everything that's happened so far, picking it apart and talking about what does it all mean? Miss Needy seems to lack the ability to play it cool because of her insecurities. So she checks up on him and calls her man all the time - like every ten minutes. At work, when he buys his lunch at the deli, during his meeting, when he goes to the gym, when he's at the bathroom in the gym, you understand. And this was only after the first date. He gets the feeling that he can't escape her and pretty soon he will do everything he can to disappear. He'll change his phone number, his last name, his occupation, his sex -- well maybe that's going too far, but you can understand why he won't call her back.
Girl on the Rebound
We've all been there and it hurts, and the only thing that you can do is to lose yourself in the arms of any nice man so that you can feel better about yourself. It just makes you feel good to go out with the guy whose sweet but you're not really attracted to him. Guys sense this when your mutual friends are so determined to set you both up. On the second date, he'll start asking some subtle questions, like whether you had a date at this restaurant before. When you can't hold back your primal scream and the tears gush like the Niagara, he'll know you're on the rebound and lickity-split, he's paid the check, bundled you up in a cab, and has walked away thanking his lucky stars.
So now that you're armed with this information, it should be a lot easier for you to negotiate the whole dating scene. Be the confident, wonderful woman that you are, who treats herself and men with respect and consideration, and men will find that attractive.
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