How To Tell Your Wife You Wear Panties
I've written several articles about breaking the news that you're a man who likes to wear lingerie. This is a more specific targeted guide designed especially for guys who are married and would like to share their secret lingerie wearing with their wives.
It's Not The End Of The World
Introduce it in a light fashion. For you this is a huge deal. This is something you've fantasized about and agonized over for a very long time, years certainly, perhaps even decades. To you, this is the largest, most pinkest elephant in the lingerie drawer that there ever was.
However, understand that you don't need to make a big deal of it when you introduce it to your wife. In fact, the less of a big deal you make about it, the more likely she is to accept it. If it helps, think of it like introducing a child to a new experience, like flying on a plane or going to the dentist. You don't get all serious and tense if you want them to be relaxed, instead you talk about how fun it is. Adults are all overgrown kids at heart, and kid tricks work on us more than we would like them to.
So have fun with it! Don't get all serious and sad and sit her down to break the horrific news to her. For the love of all that is good and right in the world don't say / text / email “there's something you have to tell her” and then leave her to stew about it for hours or days. She will assume the worst. She will think that you're cheating, or that you're ill, or that you lost your job and you're going to loose the house.
Set The Mood
Approach her when she is in a good mood. If she is tired or upset about something else, don't bring up your lingerie wearing at that moment. Take the trash out, give her a foot massage and wait for her mood to improve. Women are all about mood.
Wait until she's having a 'bedroom' moment. You know what I mean. Don't make me get explicit. Wait until she is receptive and in the mood for such things.
If you don't think that will work with her, try humor. Slip a bra on under your shirt, or a pair of panties under your trousers. Flash her a little lingerie. Make her smile and laugh.
Show and Tell
Answer her questions, if she has any. Talk to her about it a little at a time. Don't throw your whole lingerie history at her if she hasn't asked about it yet.
Do A Trade
If all else fails, use the barter system. I guarantee there is something she wants. Maybe its for you to do more handy work around the house, maybe it's a different kind of handy work in the bedroom. Offer her something that makes her happy. Sweetening the deal never hurt anybody, and if you make her happy and satisfied enough, trust me, she won't care if you're wearing Victoria's Secret or a Hawaiian grass skirt.
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